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What to Do Until Love Finds You: The Bestselling Guide to Preparing Yourself for Your Perfect Mate
The book that started it all—Michelle McKinney Hammond's popular first book re-releases with a dynamic new cover and all the attitude and wisdom that made it a fabulous start to Michelle's growing list of inspiring books. In What to Do Until Love Finds You , Michelle offers women practical, godly advice on how The biblical truths, honest personal insights, and refreshing take on love and the single lifestyle are as relevant and remarkable today as when this book first appeared in bookstores—and on the nightstands and coffee tables of countless single women.
224 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1997
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Michelle McKinney Hammond
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As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
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September 11, 2017
There's no need to hurry in finding the one who God prepared for you. Yes, it takes great patience in waiting. But God assures us that it will be the one of the sweetest things He will do for you in His perfect time. So while waiting, make every day and every moment of your life worthwhile, fulfilling and purposeful for your man and most importantly, for God.
June 2, 2013
To tell the truth, I wouldn't want to be caught dead reading this book.
"What To Do Until Love Finds You: Getting Ready for Mr Right". Oh, the many things seemingly wrong with that title. Besides, I'm not even religious, and this book is high on the God's purpose thing, and marketed in religious bookshops.
I've been raised in a time of fairytales, where movies have happily ever afters, but I've also been raised in a time when women were encouraged to Go Get What They Deserve. And that Finding True Love Does Not Equal Happiness, aka, You Don't Need A Man To Feel Happy! Which I get, I totally get.
But , idk, I was 18 and hadn't had a romantic experience, and this book had me utterly convinced. The author used true-to-life experiences to show waiting was worth it.
The truth: Waiting sucks. Look at me. I'm an embittered 23-year old who can't stand watching romantic movies.
But I still have really good memories with this book. If I was able to believe this when I was 18, then maybe that 18-year old part of me is still in me, and I don't have to worry that I still haven't met The One yet.
"What To Do Until Love Finds You: Getting Ready for Mr Right". Oh, the many things seemingly wrong with that title. Besides, I'm not even religious, and this book is high on the God's purpose thing, and marketed in religious bookshops.
I've been raised in a time of fairytales, where movies have happily ever afters, but I've also been raised in a time when women were encouraged to Go Get What They Deserve. And that Finding True Love Does Not Equal Happiness, aka, You Don't Need A Man To Feel Happy! Which I get, I totally get.
But , idk, I was 18 and hadn't had a romantic experience, and this book had me utterly convinced. The author used true-to-life experiences to show waiting was worth it.
The truth: Waiting sucks. Look at me. I'm an embittered 23-year old who can't stand watching romantic movies.
But I still have really good memories with this book. If I was able to believe this when I was 18, then maybe that 18-year old part of me is still in me, and I don't have to worry that I still haven't met The One yet.
August 13, 2012
For those who needs revival in their relationship not just with the opposite sex but with God as well, I recommend you read this book. For single women out there, this book will help you realize that while you are waiting for God's perfect timing to give you a lifetime partner not a boyfriend nor hook ups, you need to focus to Him and prepare yourself spiritually, emotionally and physically. I enjoyed reading this book and my view in relationship made a 180 degrees turn.
March 26, 2012
This book is a must read for women who want to live the single life with a good understanding on living that life in a Christian way...which can seem challenging at times. She leaves no stone unturned and approaches the different subjects in the book in such a way where you aren't left feeling like a failure. A must read!
August 28, 2015
I randomly found this book in my room. Apparently someone wanted me to read it and so I have. This is one of those self-help books that really promotes neither. There is a list of problems that I have found with this book which I will talk about.
This book, from any perspective, is terrible. It is terrible in the sense that it places the position of people in a passive state. People are to wait for the right person, and in the meantime “soul build”, as it is commonly referred to, with Jesus Christ. This position is one that no one should be in. Men, along with women, should not solely be waiting and preparing for the right person in life. We should take action in getting to know more people, forming new relationships. Passivity is not necessarily bad but action should compliment it sometimes. In almost every other applicable thing to life, we are active; we are constantly changing and meeting new people. We are endeavouring creatures, and sadly the author of this book would have one think that their role in finding a mate is one concerned with passive means.
The next problem is that it presupposes that God exists, as well as the power of Jesus Christ. It would not really matter if this insistence played a somewhat minor role in the book, but as you can guess, the whole book is centred on this concept. I will admit that it is a common way to progress and to reflect—something related to religion—but it is not the only way. I am not particularly religious so 90% of this book did not apply to me. The other 10% probably due to the fact that I am male. That is also another problem of this book: it specifically targets females and places them into a group of their own. A real self-guide would take into consideration both genders and seemingly universal tips so as to maximize the potential for finding someone. The fact that the author focuses on women shows that her aren’t all too great, and fit only to a category of women—passive and religious individuals.
There are also phrases that just frustrate me. One of her assumptions is that men will just spew a bible verse which works to purport their image as a devoted Christian, while they secretly are not. It assumes that men will try and trick women into believing that they are religious just to have sex with them. Totally wrong on so many levels and can also be applied to women—ANYONE.
The poetic excerpts—if they can at all be called such—are terrible. They are not terrible in their message (actually they might be as they assume all women feel like this or have the same thought pattern), but in its form. Clichés upon clichés, unnecessary and bloated abstract language, and the poor abuse of ellipses all plague these parts of the book.
Anything the author doesn’t like is attributed to Satan tempting you. She uses the Bible to justify pre-marital sex. This book should be renamed “What to Do, according to the Bible, until Love Finds You”. In the beginning the book she said that God was love. Is that not enough then? She speaks of gifted people who dedicate themselves to others and God without having a mate. There are no such people. Everyone has sexual urges, someone people simply repress or ignore them and focus on other issues in their life and some do the opposite. The very definition of love is now at a crumbling fault because there is a contradiction. The author says “rape isn’t the same as consensual sex” (32) and she’s absolutely right about that. Therefore, her biblical references do not apply: Those stories were about rape, not consensual sex. Two totally different things.
This book, from any perspective, is terrible. It is terrible in the sense that it places the position of people in a passive state. People are to wait for the right person, and in the meantime “soul build”, as it is commonly referred to, with Jesus Christ. This position is one that no one should be in. Men, along with women, should not solely be waiting and preparing for the right person in life. We should take action in getting to know more people, forming new relationships. Passivity is not necessarily bad but action should compliment it sometimes. In almost every other applicable thing to life, we are active; we are constantly changing and meeting new people. We are endeavouring creatures, and sadly the author of this book would have one think that their role in finding a mate is one concerned with passive means.
The next problem is that it presupposes that God exists, as well as the power of Jesus Christ. It would not really matter if this insistence played a somewhat minor role in the book, but as you can guess, the whole book is centred on this concept. I will admit that it is a common way to progress and to reflect—something related to religion—but it is not the only way. I am not particularly religious so 90% of this book did not apply to me. The other 10% probably due to the fact that I am male. That is also another problem of this book: it specifically targets females and places them into a group of their own. A real self-guide would take into consideration both genders and seemingly universal tips so as to maximize the potential for finding someone. The fact that the author focuses on women shows that her aren’t all too great, and fit only to a category of women—passive and religious individuals.
There are also phrases that just frustrate me. One of her assumptions is that men will just spew a bible verse which works to purport their image as a devoted Christian, while they secretly are not. It assumes that men will try and trick women into believing that they are religious just to have sex with them. Totally wrong on so many levels and can also be applied to women—ANYONE.
The poetic excerpts—if they can at all be called such—are terrible. They are not terrible in their message (actually they might be as they assume all women feel like this or have the same thought pattern), but in its form. Clichés upon clichés, unnecessary and bloated abstract language, and the poor abuse of ellipses all plague these parts of the book.
Anything the author doesn’t like is attributed to Satan tempting you. She uses the Bible to justify pre-marital sex. This book should be renamed “What to Do, according to the Bible, until Love Finds You”. In the beginning the book she said that God was love. Is that not enough then? She speaks of gifted people who dedicate themselves to others and God without having a mate. There are no such people. Everyone has sexual urges, someone people simply repress or ignore them and focus on other issues in their life and some do the opposite. The very definition of love is now at a crumbling fault because there is a contradiction. The author says “rape isn’t the same as consensual sex” (32) and she’s absolutely right about that. Therefore, her biblical references do not apply: Those stories were about rape, not consensual sex. Two totally different things.
September 5, 2013
When I first saw this book at MLC Bookstor in Zamboanga City Philippines, I became interested, since I was still single at that year 2007 I was 21 years old that time and never had a relationship yet. I started to read this book and it helped me so much. I was the girl who's afraid to commit into a relationship because I was negatively thinking that I would be hurt as what I've seen to my friends past relationship how they got hurt. but in the back of my mind i believe that when you are ready to love prepare to be hurt. since i was a kid I have my own standard and praying that if God allows I want that "My first boyfriend will already be my husband". this book become meaningful because when i am reading page 183 entitled "THE FIRST REVELATION" one guy whom I met 4 moths ago revealed his feelings for me and he said he was praying for me for the past three years. I was so shock when I receive his message through text. As I continue reading the book its says there yes this is love demanding nourishing and difficult yet it poseses the ability to make us wiser stronger than we ever dreamed. and it srickes to me the quote; "Even though love would ask is that of what you are afraid to give- GIVE IT ANYWAY. That guy is already my husband and we are getting stronger each day we are already 1year and four months of being married. I'm blessed with this book. It so meaningful in our love story.
March 16, 2012
From kiss dating good bye jump up to Finding your one true love i guess this book really helps me to find the ultimate romantic relationship that I longed for, and that is to have an intimate relationship with my creator. It's liberating and you will find yourself agreeing to every detail of the book because you experience it on your own. I'll find myself singing love songs dedicating it to the one who finds me, to the one who really knows my heart and to the who is pursuing me upto now, My ever sweet and beautiful JESUS!
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September 24, 2012The first time i saw this book, my eyes caught with it's title and cover.
After reading it over and over again, I was ashamed with my own self, i realized that there's a lot of things I need to change, i need to pursue as a Woman should be in the eyes of God. I NEED TO BE BEAUTIFUL not just LOOK BEAUTIFUL.
The Author uses Bible Scriptures with Woman in the Bible and relate it to our present situation.
After reading it over and over again, I was ashamed with my own self, i realized that there's a lot of things I need to change, i need to pursue as a Woman should be in the eyes of God. I NEED TO BE BEAUTIFUL not just LOOK BEAUTIFUL.
The Author uses Bible Scriptures with Woman in the Bible and relate it to our present situation.
March 28, 2013
Like what i said before, I was not into books like this but I was wrong again. It's worth-reading because of the new insights and understanding you will get about living the single life. Your new learnings will surely make you understand that waiting and choosing are good things when it comes to love. Moreover, trusting in God can do wonders to your self-esteem and viewpoint about love.
September 21, 2012
i hated this book and I wish I could get it off my nook. It is way too corny. I do not like the way she writes. The random poetry was just cheezy and unnecessary. I had to start this book over twice and still did not finish it. It was not worth the money.
January 27, 2014
“So be willing to wait. Only embrace a man who has a heart for God's purposes for his life and God's heart for you. Keep hope alive!”
Since I am a fan of Self-Help Relationship books this book caught my attention. As I read it, It made me realize a lot of things such as being single is not merely a bad thing.I learned that God's timing is the best because he's just preparing you physically,mentally and most specifically spiritually that you should make every moment in your life purposeful and fulfilling.
Hammond will never fail to inspire you.She successfully encourage me to be a Woman of God at all times that it's not my role to search for love because He knows my address,schedules,goings,comings and no reason to bother at all.
So I want to recommend it for every woman out there,it's quite challenging to understand and apply it into our daily lives because this not popular in our generation today but I guarantee you that you will not regret doing this.
Since I am a fan of Self-Help Relationship books this book caught my attention. As I read it, It made me realize a lot of things such as being single is not merely a bad thing.I learned that God's timing is the best because he's just preparing you physically,mentally and most specifically spiritually that you should make every moment in your life purposeful and fulfilling.
Hammond will never fail to inspire you.She successfully encourage me to be a Woman of God at all times that it's not my role to search for love because He knows my address,schedules,goings,comings and no reason to bother at all.
So I want to recommend it for every woman out there,it's quite challenging to understand and apply it into our daily lives because this not popular in our generation today but I guarantee you that you will not regret doing this.
October 4, 2013
I've been single for a couple months and it was kind of hard to adjust with the single life. I basically didn't know what to do with my free time. I started googling things and bam, I found an interview of Michelle talking about this book and of course I became interested right away. I wanted to buy on amazon for the cheaper price but I was so eager to read it, I had to run the next morning to my local Barns and Noble to cop it. Man, just like I expected, I loved it and I even got my good friend Merveille to buy it.
The book is so good and informative that we quote it a lot when we hang out and when we see attractive guys lol.
It took me about four days to finish it ( I have a life ok? :D ) but yeah I highly recommend it ladies.
The book is so good and informative that we quote it a lot when we hang out and when we see attractive guys lol.
It took me about four days to finish it ( I have a life ok? :D ) but yeah I highly recommend it ladies.
June 29, 2015
It is definitely an older book so some of the references are funny, "wallpaper," and "Janet Jackson" for example. But there are some good lessons in it worth taking note of. So, even if some of it doesn't reflect your personal beliefs or way of life, some of it may be timely to you. I really felt more attacked in the first half but at peace and agreeable with the second half. As with any advice/self help book, take from it what you want to use immediately and put the rest of it away in your metal toolbox for future use should you need it.
February 3, 2011
I thought it was good. I didn't come to any life changing conclusion about my life as a single person. But my outlook is more optimistic as a result. I am taking care of me more. I figure out, after reading this book that my value is greater than I thought and it's important for me to believe that if my future husband is going to believe it in me. I recommend this book to Christian singles who are having a hard time being single.
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September 6, 2007haha! interesting book, nkakatawa minsan. pero hindi ko sya matapos-tapos kasi minsan d na ko nakakarelate, my lovelife has wandered out in space. sometimes i'm not sure whether there is a mister right for me, and sometimes i ask why should i wait for him, i don't really need him anyway. hahaha. bitter ba.
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September 12, 2012thinking is the energy giving life to born ..
thinking is such god particle which remains mystery
realy life geting complex....
want to have beautiful girls ...........
enter into diffrent world ....
search some reality of life near sea..
realy i waant to do some thing...........
manoranjan choudhary
block it assistent udwantnagar
bhojpur bihar india ..
thinking is such god particle which remains mystery
realy life geting complex....
want to have beautiful girls ...........
enter into diffrent world ....
search some reality of life near sea..
realy i waant to do some thing...........
manoranjan choudhary
block it assistent udwantnagar
bhojpur bihar india ..
February 26, 2013
A friend of mine gave me this book to read after my recent breakup of a relationship of seven years. I must admit I was skeptical at first, but after reading it I see some things in a new and different light and would recommend this to any woman who is going through a relationship transition and needs words or encouragement.
October 24, 2008
Skeptical? I was too! But a friend I trust lent it to me, so I gave it a whirl.
Some of this was the usual stuff you'll find on every Christian singles website, but there were definitely a few chapters that stuck out, like the one on submission. Worth reading.
Some of this was the usual stuff you'll find on every Christian singles website, but there were definitely a few chapters that stuck out, like the one on submission. Worth reading.
July 8, 2013
Every girl/woman should read this. I recommend you read this before deciding to enter into a relationship. You will learn and discover truths in this book, and these truths will re-align your perspective on Romance and Love in the way God describes it.
March 1, 2014
it's a quick read! I so love this book!! <3 though it's quite mature for me. Now, I have a better view of relationships and settling down. I am excitedly waiting for the bus to come. If you know what I mean. :)
March 7, 2014
I liked the book that it is from the author's life experiences. You kinda can relate to her. She gave honest to goodness tips and advice's. Very helpful indeed. Also inspiring, for she really admits and confesses the wrong things she'd done and the things she learned from it. :)
July 8, 2014
I love this book and have re-read it several times since it was first published. A group of us are reading and discussing it on Facebook. Please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/66114...
March 14, 2016
I enjoyed this book and was able to take away a few pieces of insight about marriage from it too. However, I thought that the lengthy poems in each chapter were a bit much. Overall, it's a solid read.
March 19, 2016
Great read
Currently in a relationship, and trying to pick my battles, learn to let a man be a man and lead and learn how to close my mouth. This book was brutal honesty but exactly what I needed
Currently in a relationship, and trying to pick my battles, learn to let a man be a man and lead and learn how to close my mouth. This book was brutal honesty but exactly what I needed
February 1, 2009
I am learning to wait on the wonders of God!! More to come
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February 3, 2009Even though the author has never been married, God has been preparing her in an awesome way for marriage!
February 22, 2009
When I am heartbroken, I find healing in this book. I've read it so many times and I will keep it forever.
November 15, 2009
Enjoyed it!
January 21, 2010
A lot of truth in what she says...
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July 26, 2016got this as an exchange gift for Christmas.
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