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I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations

4.72  ·  Rating details ·  138 ratings  ·  89 reviews
“Sarah and Beth are an absolute gift to our culture right now. Not only do they offer balanced perspectives from each political ideology, but they teach us how to dialogue well, without sacrificing our humanity.”

—Jen Hatmaker, New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and founder of Legacy Collective


“Sarah from the left and Beth from the right serve as our guides throug
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published February 5th 2019 by Thomas Nelson
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Jenn Gunderman
Dec 30, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book should be required reading for every elected official, and every person registering to vote.

But, much like their podcast, this book only really uses politics as the basis for discussion on how to human. So even if your aren’t a policy wonk or political junkie, this book has something for you to help you relate better to others on the hardest, most important things in life.
Dec 28, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I was lucky enough to read an advanced copy of this book and I cannot wait until it enters the world. Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have reminded us that talking politics shouldn't be taboo because it is all about living in community with one another. Please go pre-order this book for yourself and all the people in your life that you've avoided talking politics with because in the words of Beth and Sarah, we've all "changed 'you shouldn't talk politics' to 'you should only talk to peopl ...more
Feb 09, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
In this well-written guide, Sarah and Beth broach ways we can communicate respectfully while discussing critical issues. Instead of being instantly combative, we can listen and empathize. Try to understand rather than insult. We are not enemies, we are citizens. We are capable of having respectful conversations, even if we disagree, and still be civil. The reminder that our differences are not more important than our similarities had a profound effect on me. And while the faith pieces do not app ...more
Melinda Wedding
Jan 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This book so far gives serious food-for-thought for engaging in those awkward conversations with people you know can be combative. I've used ideas presented by the authors successfully in a couple of discussions.

We all don't have to agree on everything. There are absolutely places where I will not budge my convictions, but seeing both sides can help break our ideological logjams and find some middle ground. That's a solid place to start to getting this country back on track.
Kaytee Cobb
This book has all the right stuff. Sarah and Beth already captured my attention with their fantastic podcast. I have learned so much through listening to these two brilliant and nuanced women chat twice a week. But this book? This book takes it to the next level. I got to pre-read it as an ARC, but true story: I went and ordered a paper copy as soon as i finished it, because I know I'll want one to re-read and mark up and highlight and answer questions in, especially over the coming year as the ...more
Jan 21, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I THINK THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT WE NEED. I've been vaguely interested in politics without feeling like I could talk about it in most situations and without feeling like I could escape the bubble of people who agree with me. Sarah & Beth are leading a whole movement of people who aren't afraid to talk about the controversial topics and aren't sacrificing their relationships to do it.

It's a joy to read and makes me feel hopeful that we can move past this stalemate of hyper-partisanship.
Jan 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I'm so grateful for this book. Yes, it's a guide for how to have more productive political conversations, but it's more than that. It guides you through examining yourself and your motives. It challenges you to rethink assumptions, embrace curiosity, and "get comfortable with being uncomfortable." It's given me a new way to think about myself and others, and a new way to think about and approach politics and political engagement. I especially appreciate the way Sarah and Beth demonstrate the pri ...more
Jill Kleis
Jan 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019
My first book of 2019 was a true revelation. Coming off a fraught midterm election season, and perhaps a holiday where you cringed at the thought of talking politics with your family, I’m here to tell you there is a better way. I genuinely think this is a must-read for everyone who has felt overwhelmed by how divided our country seems. It is a guide map for progress instead of gridlock.

I was given an advanced copy, but you can get your copy on its release day, February 5 or preorder it now. And
Anna Smith
Dec 27, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2018
I was lucky enough to receive an advance copy of this book. The authors are the hosts of the podcast Pantsuit Politics. “Sarah from the left” and “Beth from the right” give us very timely reminders in this book. Reminders like:

- It IS ok to discuss politics
- It IS ok to voice your opinion on polarizing issues.
- It IS ok to disagree with someone politically and still respect them as a human being.

Beth and Sarah also remind us that politics is not the team sport we tend to see it as. It is not id
Lisa notes
Jan 29, 2019 rated it it was amazing
This is how books on politics should be written. Yes, talk about the issues. But also yes, talk about HOW to talk about the issues. With dignity. With openness. With suggestions on how to listen to the other side.

If we could follow the advice given in this book about how to talk about politics, we would have much better conversations. And actions. And relationships. These are things that matter to all of us, regardless of which political jersey we wear.

My thanks to the publisher for the review
Kelly Stulce
Jan 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If ever there was a time we needed healing in political culture, across our communities and even within our families, that time is now. In I Think You’re Wrong, But I’m Listening, Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers present a prescription certain to build bridges across the political divide. Known to fans of their Pantsuit Politics podcast for their gift of seeing the gray in issues often presented in stark black and white, their voices challenge the reader from the page to forsake his or her ...more
Jessie Heckenmueller
I received an advanced reader copy of this book. I believe the books content and encouragement toward nuance in political conversations is important and necessary. They had good pointers along the way of how to practice what they are talking about and questions to get you thinking. I enjoyed the specific examples of how they approached political topics and what they learned throughout the process. The chapter on getting out of your echo chamber seemed especially helpful. I think many people will ...more
Amanda Taddey
Jan 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing
If this book doesn’t give you all sorts of hope for our future, maybe try reading it again. I adore Sarah and Beth and this book is groundbreaking in the way they talk politics. If we could get this into the hands of our nation’s political leaders, I really believe this could change the dynamics of our conversations.

Beth & Sarah share their thoughts and viewpoints on a variety of issues in this book, but the best thing they do is give practical tips for us, as readers. Taking the questions
Melissa Calo-Oy
Jan 02, 2019 rated it it was amazing
“Talking politics is a gift to yourself and to the world. Ultimately, politics is really about people. People are never boring, and people belong together. We are meant to hash out how we want to live in community with one another. We’re meant to sort out our different beliefs about what government should and shouldn’t do, what laws and programs we do and don’t need, and how we should and shouldn’t spend taxpayer dollars.”

That’s right from the introduction of this book, and I couldn’t agree mor
Rachel Miller
Jan 06, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Every time I get frustrated with politics I always think a lot of problems could be solved if people stopped talking for a minute, listened to someone else, and thought before they responded. This book is a better, deeper guide to that discussion. And I love it!
Nov 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
I’ve only read the introduction and the first chapter, but I am hooked. I’ve been one who has avoided political conversations my entire life. I don’t like the conflict especially in the last several years. I do now see validity in having these discussions with people who will talk, listen, and learn from each others instead of the yelling and name calling that comes on social media.
Jan 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: empty-shelf-19
I wish I could make everyone I know read this book. The authors believe that one reason why most people have a hard time engaging in civilized political discussions is because we've never been taught how to discuss hard issues with grace and respect--we've been taught to avoid them instead. The book is filled with practical and wise advice about how to have engaging, nuanced conversations. Their suggestions are not always easy, but they are necessary in this political climate. In addition to thi ...more
Tammy Leininger
Jan 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Sarah and Beth have worked to fine-tune their ability to talk about their widely-different political views in a way that honors the other and prefers their friendship. They've taken the lessons they've learned on their podcast, and shared them in this book.

This book urges readers to find ways to approach political conversations with grace. Not ignoring our own deeply held values, but to also value the person with whom we're talking. To look past the sound bites, labels and talking points and to
Scottie Hennigan
Jan 24, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I've been listening to Beth and Sarah for a couple of years now and have truly become a better person for it - I am a more thoughtful listener and a more patient citizen. So, of course when I found out they were writing a book, I knew I needed to read it - and it didn't disappoint!

This is basically all of the things you would learn from them if you spent hours of listening to them (with their signature grace and humor) discuss and debate politics over the course of a couple of years, but condens
Jan 23, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I love the Pantsuit Politics podcast and I was so happy when I heard they were writing a book. I love the nuance they bring to all subjects, politics and personal. This book is a wonderful guide to help you navigate the tricky waters of political debate. We need to talk about politics and we need to do it with our minds and hearts open. We need to remember that every one is coming from their own place and we can't just yell to get our point across. Thank you for this guide to help all of us talk ...more
Jan 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is ready (or curious) to challenge their way of thinking and communicating about politics. In a time where the political climate seems more divisive than ever, this book provides tangible steps on how to move away from the "them vs us" mentality and into a more grace filled, productive way of discussing and thinking about politics. As someone who tends to shy away from the conflict of political conversations, I really enjoyed a new way of thin ...more
Jan 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
"They didn’t give up because it was hard, and neither should we. It is nothing short of our patriotic duty to engage with one another as Americans—and not only with those Americans who look like us and act like us and agree with us. We face difficult challenges as a country. We face problems that won’t be solved in our lifetimes. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. Throwing our hands up in frustration is a natural reaction to a problem as big as America’s current political climate, but that’s on
Dec 28, 2018 rated it really liked it
Thank you to Thomas Nelson Publisher for sending me this book to review.

It is a needed read by all Americans. It is a conversation, exploration, and at times a disagreement that can help open our minds. We need to open our minds in the American political arena.

This book is written by a Democrat-Sarah and a Republican-Beth. These witty, super smart women have taken their Pantsuit Politics podcast and put it to paper. They want to make change by opening discussion on tough subjects. They want to
Dec 27, 2018 marked it as to-read
I had the unique opportunity to read the manuscript for this book and I think everyone in America would benefit from reading the book and taking a moment to consider how we talk to each other (or DON'T talk to each other) about politics and what's happening in the world. Nothing improves so long as we continue to don our team jerseys and listen in a manner only designed to pick out the ways we differ and the reasons the other side is wrong. Nothing improves when we choose to check out of all con ...more
Dec 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018, nonfiction
The hosts of the bi-partisan podcast Pantsuit Politics have made a practice of having substantive political conversations with respectful disagreement, and in this, their first book, they offer an actionable guide for readers who would like to talk politics without shouting or hurt feelings.

Their unique perspective is that the conventional wisdom that it is impolite to talk politics is dead wrong and is harming our country because the problem isn't THAT we talk politics but HOW we talk politics
Briayna Cuffie
Dec 17, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Disclaimer: I received an advance copy from the publisher/authors.

It reads just like the podcast sounds. Some parts I read in Beth's voice, some in Sarah's. I'm not big on Christianity, but the way it is incorporated is true to their personalities, and didn't make me feel like it was being impressed upon me. Those who don't already listen to the podcast will likely still feel a similar connection as they read.

I foresee the guiding questions at the end being helpful to many; They give good starti
Christina Krost
Feb 05, 2019 rated it it was amazing
As a mom, a person of faith, a pastor’s spouse, and an outreach director for a faith-based environmental non-profit, I’d say having hard conversations is an integral part of my personal and professional life.

I've worked very hard in the past few years to embrace both/and thinking, especially with challenging topics like health care, abortion, immigration, gun control, human sexuality, and climate justice. It's possible to hold complicated feelings about these issues that challenge our faith and
Kendra Decker
Feb 05, 2019 rated it really liked it
If what's going on in the world is important to you but talking about it seems like a bad idea, Sarah and Beth, from the podcast Pantsuit Politics, want to show you how it can go well.
They walk you through how they have navigated typically thorny topics and how they came to a consensus on what they could agree on while respecting their whys on those they didn't.
While their perspectives are definitely informed by being women, this book is for men too. They also often refer to their Christian fai
Sarah Styf
Feb 11, 2019 rated it it was amazing
The only good thing about being sent home from work with a fever was that I got to finish this book, between naps, of course.

I pray that the lessons that were learned and reinforced in my reading will make me a better wife, mother, and teacher.

When I took our daughter to the doctor to get her flu diagnosis last week, the receptionist asked what I was reading, wrote down the name, and said "I need a book like this." Recently she had a patient come in who had been ranting about everything from h
Shanda Scherdin
Feb 01, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2019
The hosts of one of my favorite podcasts, Pantsuit Politics, have written a valuable and so needed book! If you care about the state of the world and want to lovingly and respectfully engage with people who see things differently than you, you are going to want to get your hands on this. It is so very full of wisdom, empathy, and courage and it spurred these things on in me as I read the book. I will be referring back to this often for reminders and refreshers about the value of discomfort, the ...more
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