The Simple Guide to Understanding Shame in Children: What It Is, What Helps and How to Prevent Further Stress or Trauma

by Betsy De Thierry

· What is shame?
· How does it affect children?
· How can adults help? The perfect starting point for any adult or carer working with children who have experienced shame, this guide provides straightforward answers and explanations to both common and complex questions. At a time when children are more likely than ever to experience shame, the accessible advice in this book helps adults to boost children's self-esteem. Betsy de Thierry navigates the need to understand its impact and the reasons behind it, as well as how to reduce its hold on self-confidence. Reassuring advice will also help revitalize adults' abilities to face the challenges of supporting children affected by shame. It will teach them how to restore self-esteem.

Genres: Nonfiction, Adoption, Psychology

112 pages, Paperback

Published October 18, 2018

About the author

Betsy de Thierry is a trained psychotherapist and a qualified primary school teacher who has founded several charities that work directly with troubled families.

Reviews

[Helena Bartlett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Possibly the most helpful book for my work in teaching.

[Tracey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Such an accessible book for all in understanding shame, all of Betsy's books are inspirational and vital to anyone supporting anyone recovering from trauma.

[TinaGav · Rating 4 out of 5]

This straightforward guide on shame and its effects is excellent, whether you have kids or not.

[Nathan Sell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Simple enough that anyone can understand but not simplistic. The author clearly has an excellent command on the subject matter and provides sufficient references to allow the reader to dig deeper without requiring them to have a background in the topic.

Very informative and practically applicable not just to working with children but also with understanding adults and myself.

[Aylssa Cowell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really liked this. Easy to read & understand. Good for professionals & parents.

[Kian.ting · Rating 5 out of 5]

I finished reading this book in one seating cause I find that I have done so many things wrongly and often let impatient get the better of me. I learned to dissociate the problematic behaviour away from the identity of the child, the behaviour is problematic but the child is still good and it’s my child. With that in mind I will get the head space to address the behaviour and not associate it as the child’s identity therefore not shaming the child but coaching him or her through the misbehaviour a short and concise book about the effects of shaming, the remedy for it and also how we can further prevent it.

[Abby Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can't recommend Betsy's Simple Guide series enough! As a social worker I recommend them to foster carers all the time. They break down abstract concepts and theories into every day language with practical takeaways.

[Lucy Metcalfe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Brilliant, easy to read guide.