Raising a Thinking Preteen: The "I Can Problem Solve" Program for 8- to 12- Year-Olds

by Myrna B. Shure, Roberta Israeloff

By the author of the national bestseller Raising a Thinking Child, an indispensable guide or parents of preteens.

Raising a Thinking Preteen introduces a unique series of exercises, games, and discussions that parents can share with their eight-to twelve-year-olds and in so doing will help their children recognize and express their feelings, as well as help identify why others behave the way they do. This book can be used by those who are familiar with the "I Can Problem Solve" program from the best-selling Raising a Thinking Child, where it was applied to younger children ages four through seven, or they can easily learn its benefits here for the first time. Using the same pathbreaking technique she described in her first book, Myrna Shure shows parents how her ICPS program can teach the skills all preteens need to learn in order to face challenges confidently and be more successful in nearly every aspect of life now and as adolescents and adults. It also makes a parent's life much easier, as it helps Learn to wait for what they want Cope with frustration Get along better with peers Control their impulses and aggressions Resist feelings of depressionThe preteen years are often the last opportunity for parents to teach their children how to think for themselves. This book is the only source with a proven plan to help them do just that.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Education

256 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2000

Reviews

[Davis · Rating 4 out of 5]

It is a wonderful book. I have tried asking how my child feels during a particular stuggle or conflict and the dialogue that it creates has been very rewarding. It is a wonderful learning experience for myself and my children.

[Alicia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have been experimenting with the I Can Problem Solve method with good results! It helped me appreciate how many skills play a part in our ability to evaluate and solve problems, including our ability to understand our and others' feelings and motives, think of multiple possibilities, identify likely consequences or outcomes of our actions, and engage in sequenced planning including how to react to obstacles. While it seems a bit gimmicky, there is a lot to use and adapt. I am convinced that empowering preteens to solve their own problems instead of doing the thinking for them will help with the conflicts and emotional regulation of this developmental stage. It also sets them up with skills for the future. I plan to adapt some of these ideas for the classroom as well.

[Rolf · Rating 3 out of 5]

The model presented here is obviously well thought out, but it is a bit overly confusing for how accessible it presents itself as being, and the writing is rather stiff.

[Jamie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Appreciate the progression of teaching preteens emotional literacy and problem-solving, but not a fan of the case study format of the book.

[Ruth Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

What I liked most about this book was that it showed me that if I change my parenting behavior, then my child will change too. Instead of using power, suggestions, or explaining, work to engage your child. (Dialogue not monologues!) Help him/her learn to identify feelings, develop empathy, consider different points of view, find alternative solutions, consider consequences, and make a plan. By switching to a problem-solving approach, your children will be empowered to develop their own skills necessary to cope with life's inevitable problems. Note: After reading this book I was able to pass the ICPS quiz (on paper . . . the real test will be application!)

[Fayren · Rating 3 out of 5]

Delphine is entering Middle School -can't hurt to read up on the next phase!

[Beth · Rating 4 out of 5]

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[Darcy Williams · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some good info, but also a lot that I consider common sense.