Excellent book
This tenderly written novel
poignantly expresses with compassion and understanding the lives wives of earlier generations were often forced to lead in order to care for themselves and their children, while skillfully comparing the stresses of marriage and raising families, and the accompanying guilt many present-day couple face in balancing both a career and a family.
This book ,also, with clarity describes the many secrets that had to be hidden at times for a woman’s entire life, in order to be considered women of propriety and integrity.
These secrets, and often accompanying shame and self-guilt that occurred when lives, especially those of women were required by propriety,in radically different faces of a marriage occurring within the privacy of the home as opposed to what was commonly thought within the town or community.
Often these private lives were very separate and the truths inside the marriage never known to the community.These secrets,much like a tsunami, precipitated actions that created individual grief and fear in generations, both present and in the future.
The truth, oftentimes learned only decades after those involved are dead, may vindicate the actions women were forced to take. Their private lives and their love was often kept both secret and silent for years. Behind this facade hides the sad, yet heroic love often demonstrated by those living in these restrictive, judgmental and difficult times required the sacrifice of personal happiness of many wives and mothers to prevent their personal condemnation and that of their children to survive to in the restrictive communities of which they were a part.
Women were not often not viewed as equal equals in marriage, but as merely a chatelaine to manage their households and satisfy the public expectations of a wives in a society which viewed males inherently in control of decisions to be made, with martial love and intimacy often being sacrificed to meet society’s structure and be accepted during the generation in which they lived and died.