Bully-Proof Kids: Practical tools to help your child to grow up confident, assertive and strong

by Stella O'Malley

Based on many years' experience counselling bullies and targets, Stella O'Malley offers concrete strategies to empower children and teenagers to deal confidently with bullying and dominant characters.
She identifies effective ways for families to cope when bullying occurs, including approaching the school authorities, communicating with the bully's parents and tips to tackle cyberbullying.
Stella's common-sense approach will help your child, tween or teen to develop their emotional intelligence and provide relief for families navigating the rapidly changing social environment, both online and in school.
'Bully-Proof Kids is the handbook for Irish parents to deal with bullying and exclusion.' DR MARY O'KANE, EARLY YEARS

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Self Help

321 pages, Kindle Edition

Published July 28, 2017

Reviews

[Apostol Cristina · Rating 5 out of 5]

Cartea „Copii mai puternici decât bullyingul. Cum să crești un copil încrezător, echilibrat și puternic” este acel tip de lectură care nu doar te face să înțelegi în ce ape se scaldă noua generație ci și te face să privești în retrospectivă cum ai fost cândva, cum au trecut anii adolescenții, și să privești ca un adult deja format conexiunea cu alți copii, felul de a crea legături dar și micile incidente care au dus la agresiuni. Cum ele s-au depozitat în memorie și ce impact au avut pe parcurs. Dacă ele au modelat adultul de acum sau au trecut pe alături. Astfel, aceste remărci pot crea o punte către copilul nostru, de a-l ajuta să depășească micile/mari incidente care sunt supărătoare pentru el. Rolul nostru este să îi ajutăm pe copii să înțeleagă că bullyingul este un fenomen răspândit și că nu este normal să fie făcuți să se simtă inferiori sau lipsiți de calități, și nici ei la rândul lor nu au dreptul de a îi face pe alți copii să se simtă astfel. Iar această carte vine ca un ghid ajutător pentru a ne organiza ca părinți pentru a fi acolo lângă copii noștri, modelând cot la cot comportamente, înclinații și dorințele de a fi în fruntea grupului în pofida unor persoane, sau mergând peste normele bunul simț prin jigniri și alte forme de răutăți. Copii trebuie să înțeleagă efectele bullyingul–ului fie că e victimă sau agresor, să i se înșiruiască cauzele și efectele, și nu în ultimul rând consecințele din ambele părți. Oricând se pot inversa rolurile.

Recomand cu drag această carte, poate fi pe alocuri dură, dar foarte utilă. Orice părinte ar trebui să ia la cunoștință informațiile din ea!
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[Rubyryan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Highly recommend this book. It is a fantastic insight into bullying and some practical measures to deal with a complex and controversial issue. Some things you may not agree with but lots of great advice!

[Frrobins · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is the best book on bullying that I have read. It tackles the complex culture that surrounds bullying and acknowledges the fact that different people have different motivations for bullying that require different solutions. I also liked the focus on the third group in the bullying dynamic, which are the bystanders.

The book provides solutions that go beyond document, such as how to ask and train bystanders to be upstanders, changing a bullying culture in a school to one that emphasizes kindness, helping the person who is bullied to look at the dynamics of the bullying situation to find ways to change it, and a lot of relevant information for parents on how to approach the school if your child is being bullied.

I feel Ms. O'Malley made a lot of relevant points, especially about how we obsessively focus on our children's happiness and achievement when perhaps we should be focusing more on how they are connecting with their peers and whether or not they are kind. One question in particular I plan to get into a habit of asking my children: Did you see anyone who needed help today?

Definitely recommend for parents, educators, counselors, and anyone else who works with kids.

[JuliA · Rating 5 out of 5]

Stella O'Malley teaches how to recognise bullying, how to address it early and how to help your child and yourself through it.

She prepares you for those difficult, but necessary, conversations with schools, carers, other parents and what to expect: from ineffective sweet-talking to denial, resistance and counter-allegations.
She teaches you how to achieve change.

Reading this book makes you revisit your own childhood and in this way helps you heal, as much as help your child to heal.

This book is incredibly useful for anyone to read who ever was a child and witnessed bullying or experienced it themselves. Therefore everyone.

[Emma Church · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought the book was excellent. Some of the advice was a little sad; saying sometimes you need to hunker down and try to blend in, to help yourself overcome problems. I’m sure it’s true but as it seemed disappointing, it took some of the shine off the book. However, the vast majority of the book is incredibly helpful, and I would definitely recommend to anyone whose child is struggling with bullying.

[Niki Searson]

Definitely some great tips here. Not that you want to have to use them. On the occasion you do need to there is vital info on crucial responses and timing that can have big impact on outcomes. Also great discussions around preventative incentives and projects and mindful tips around communicating with schools and focus required. Certainly valuable tools and having important chats with your little people.

[Neil · Rating 4 out of 5]

On the one hand, this book has lots of practical advice for helping your children if they’re being bullied. However, it was only after reading this book that I found out that the author has also contributed to a book which essentially advocates conversion therapy for young trans people.

[Mike Houghton · Rating 5 out of 5]

excellent book delves into why bullies bully. equipping parents and grandparents the knowledge to bully proof kids. Acknowledges that bullied kids are all unique and need varied approaches to bully proofing that meets there individual needs and circumstances.

[trijnewijn · Rating 3 out of 5]

Weinig echt nieuws, maar doordat we de Ierse schoolcontext waar onze kinderen in zitten minder goed kennen dan de Vlaamse waarin we zelf opgroeiden was het toch de moeite waard.

[Jus · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book. I wanted to read this book as at the time my niece was being bullied at school and wanted to see if by reading this book it can give me some insight on how to help her.