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184 pages, Paperback
First published March 1, 2007
Which are all big yikes because:
1) A lapse in self-control isn't sexy; attempting to force yourself on someone isn't hot nor is it evidence of how intensely you feel about them. All it proves is that you're prioritizing your lust and disrespecting them and their autonomy. Self control is a sign of decency and respect and is a fully expected quality in another human being.
2) Overwhelming lust is not a legitimate reason for doing anything to someone without consent. There is no "must" about it, you will be just fine if you don't. Literally no one in the history of humankind has ever died of sexual frustration. You'll be fine. Go make nice with your hand and chill out.
3) It's incredibly gross and narrow minded to assume that if you take a woman's virginity (by force or otherwise) that she's tethered to you in a way that can never be severed, ensuring she'll never leave you. Also, the very concept of virginity is problematic and gross.
4) It's also gross to want to take someone's virginity purely to stop her from having sexual or romantic attachments to any other people; i.e. treating it like "marking your territory" because now that she's "used" or "tainted" no one else will ever want her.
5) It's super fucked up to think or say that you should have opted to rape someone just because they chose to be with and/or have sex with someone else and you now feel robbed of something you felt entitled to. It was the correct thing to respect their boundaries and want their consent, but it was bad to do so only on the belief that eventually they would willingly fuck you and give you their virginity, which you felt entitled to have. No one is ever owed sex! For any reason!