Julene Bair grew up on a farm in Kansas during the mid 20th century, the only girl in a family with two brothers. Her memoir focuses on the unspoken but nonnegotiable roles of women and men in that time and place. The book mostly consists of anecdotes from her childhood and adulthood that caused her to reject this path for herself, while coming to terms with the ways it worked for her parents. The pace is languid, and the memories are mostly nonlinear, which for me negatively impacted the flow. The analysis at the end brought it all together pretty well. 3.5 stars.