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I Am Nobody: Confronting the Sexually Abusive Coach Who Stole My Life
A Bay Street lawyer's devastating account of the sexual abuse he experienced from his coach when he was an up-and-coming young hockey player.
In this raw, unflinching look at how his dream of playing hockey was stolen from him by his coach, charismatic predator Graham James, Greg Gilhooly describes in anguishing detail the mental torment he suffered both during and long after the abuse as well as the terrible reality behind the sanitized term —sexual assault— James confessed to sexually assaulting Sheldon Kennedy and Theo Fleury and was convicted of both crimes. But he neither confessed to nor was convicted for his sexual assault of Gilhooly, depriving Gilhooly of the judicial closure he craved.
Gilhooly also provides a valuable legal perspective —as both a victim and a lawyer— missing from other such memoirs, and he delivers a powerful indictment of a legal system that, he argues, does not adequately deal with serial sexual child abuse or allocate enough resources to rehabilitation of either the abuser or the victim. Most important, Gilhooly offers hope, affirmation, and inspiration for those who have suffered abuse and for their loved ones.
In this raw, unflinching look at how his dream of playing hockey was stolen from him by his coach, charismatic predator Graham James, Greg Gilhooly describes in anguishing detail the mental torment he suffered both during and long after the abuse as well as the terrible reality behind the sanitized term —sexual assault— James confessed to sexually assaulting Sheldon Kennedy and Theo Fleury and was convicted of both crimes. But he neither confessed to nor was convicted for his sexual assault of Gilhooly, depriving Gilhooly of the judicial closure he craved.
Gilhooly also provides a valuable legal perspective —as both a victim and a lawyer— missing from other such memoirs, and he delivers a powerful indictment of a legal system that, he argues, does not adequately deal with serial sexual child abuse or allocate enough resources to rehabilitation of either the abuser or the victim. Most important, Gilhooly offers hope, affirmation, and inspiration for those who have suffered abuse and for their loved ones.
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Published March 6, 2018
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February 27, 2018
5 sad, infuriating, but redemptive stars
Greg Gilhooly had it all. He was brilliant, a gifted athlete, a star student, a young boy on the cusp of adolescence. He was lined up for a wonderful life, that is, until he was repeatedly sexually abused by his hockey coach Graham James. Greg's life fell apart as he tried to cope with the guilt and the shame that now entered his young life.
Graham James was and is a sexual predator. He knew exactly what buttons to push in a shy impressionable young boy. He infiltrated Greg's mind and stole his soul. He didn't stop just with Greg but continued abusing boys that he dealt with as a hockey coach. The boys didn't come forward. They, including Greg, were being convinced that this is what they deserved. Perhaps they were gay so this abuse had to be hidden, because of course being gay was not acceptable for those rough and tough hockey guys. James worked his way into the psyche of the young. He twisted things and made the boys believe that this was natural, that he cared, that he could do things for them, for their future, for the game they all loved to be part of. James was dirt, slime, and a predator and as Greg describes him, James was a shark.
In this story, Greg describes for us the living hell and torment his life became as he blamed himself and thought he deserved it. He was a nobody right? Somehow, with all this living within Greg, being as brilliant and talented as he was, he was accepted into Princeton. He would have aced everything but, Greg would find ways to sabotage himself and kill off what could have been glorious future. After all, Greg was a nobody and deserved nothing. After graduating, Greg attended law school becoming an attorney whose future looked extremely bright. However, Greg again felt the pressure of the abuse. He was always carrying that around like a second skin. He was a nobody and nobodies deserved to fail. From here Greg went onto be a highly successful corporate attorney/businessman, but again the weight he carried, that albatross that flew beside him, convinced him he needed to fail for he was a nobody.
Greg continued to battle daily and nightly when sleep would not come and the devil named Graham James reappeared and stole his life and his dreams. He gained weight, could not sleep, bounced around with the idea constantly of committing suicide, but something, an inner strength kept him going. He didn't even realize he had that strength, but thank god he did.
When things started to come out about James, Greg could not come forward. He was still too ashamed, too much the nobody, too much the one who deserved what he got. However, as time passed Greg with help from many including doctors, friends, psychologists, and a slew of others, were able to find a way for Greg to not only confront the man who did this to him, but also learn that he, Greg was indeed valuable. He was not a nobody. He was a somebody. As he says at the end of this most poignant, courageous story, "I was a nobody. Coming out of the abuse I became nobody at all. But now I have come to believe that I am somebody, somebody with a future who can have a happy ending. Now, I am somebody. I am Greg Gilhooly."
To Greg and all the victims of sexual abuse you are assuredly somebody and it was an honor to have read your book, Greg, and for a brief time witness your tragedies, your life, the wreckage that James left behind. But James didn't win. That shark, that predator did not win.
Thank you to Greg Gilholly, the publisher, and edelweiss for the pleasure of allowing me to read and ARC of this most moving novel. I am and will be always in awe of Greg.
If you get a chance all my book friends, read this book. For those of you who are on edelweiss, it is available as a download.
Greg Gilhooly had it all. He was brilliant, a gifted athlete, a star student, a young boy on the cusp of adolescence. He was lined up for a wonderful life, that is, until he was repeatedly sexually abused by his hockey coach Graham James. Greg's life fell apart as he tried to cope with the guilt and the shame that now entered his young life.
Graham James was and is a sexual predator. He knew exactly what buttons to push in a shy impressionable young boy. He infiltrated Greg's mind and stole his soul. He didn't stop just with Greg but continued abusing boys that he dealt with as a hockey coach. The boys didn't come forward. They, including Greg, were being convinced that this is what they deserved. Perhaps they were gay so this abuse had to be hidden, because of course being gay was not acceptable for those rough and tough hockey guys. James worked his way into the psyche of the young. He twisted things and made the boys believe that this was natural, that he cared, that he could do things for them, for their future, for the game they all loved to be part of. James was dirt, slime, and a predator and as Greg describes him, James was a shark.
In this story, Greg describes for us the living hell and torment his life became as he blamed himself and thought he deserved it. He was a nobody right? Somehow, with all this living within Greg, being as brilliant and talented as he was, he was accepted into Princeton. He would have aced everything but, Greg would find ways to sabotage himself and kill off what could have been glorious future. After all, Greg was a nobody and deserved nothing. After graduating, Greg attended law school becoming an attorney whose future looked extremely bright. However, Greg again felt the pressure of the abuse. He was always carrying that around like a second skin. He was a nobody and nobodies deserved to fail. From here Greg went onto be a highly successful corporate attorney/businessman, but again the weight he carried, that albatross that flew beside him, convinced him he needed to fail for he was a nobody.
Greg continued to battle daily and nightly when sleep would not come and the devil named Graham James reappeared and stole his life and his dreams. He gained weight, could not sleep, bounced around with the idea constantly of committing suicide, but something, an inner strength kept him going. He didn't even realize he had that strength, but thank god he did.
When things started to come out about James, Greg could not come forward. He was still too ashamed, too much the nobody, too much the one who deserved what he got. However, as time passed Greg with help from many including doctors, friends, psychologists, and a slew of others, were able to find a way for Greg to not only confront the man who did this to him, but also learn that he, Greg was indeed valuable. He was not a nobody. He was a somebody. As he says at the end of this most poignant, courageous story, "I was a nobody. Coming out of the abuse I became nobody at all. But now I have come to believe that I am somebody, somebody with a future who can have a happy ending. Now, I am somebody. I am Greg Gilhooly."
To Greg and all the victims of sexual abuse you are assuredly somebody and it was an honor to have read your book, Greg, and for a brief time witness your tragedies, your life, the wreckage that James left behind. But James didn't win. That shark, that predator did not win.
Thank you to Greg Gilholly, the publisher, and edelweiss for the pleasure of allowing me to read and ARC of this most moving novel. I am and will be always in awe of Greg.
If you get a chance all my book friends, read this book. For those of you who are on edelweiss, it is available as a download.
March 8, 2018
In July 1999, I started working at Fireworks Entertainment, a CanWest company, which produced films and TV programs in Canada (and sometimes abroad) during the golden age of production in the early 2000s. I was hired to be a Legal Assistant to 3 lawyers (in a division of less than 50), and one of those lawyers was Greg Gilhooly. I was (and still am) 4'11" and Gil (as he told us to call him) was almost 7' tall. But he was one of the best bosses I ever had. He was smart as a whip, but he was the "outsider" from Corporate head office, and Fireworks was a tight-knit family with that very strange type of cliquishness you can only find in Production who tried to shut him out. But there was something about Gil - he knew the game that they were playing and didn't play along, though you'd never know that when he interacted with the top execs at Fireworks. And he always valued my work, my work ethic, and gave me sage advice, work-wise and in dealing with office politics. He lived around the corner from me at that time, and for a while we commuted in together. During one of those trips, we talked about why I hadn't continued my education, and when I told him it was because of lack of funds, he said to me that the smartest people weren't always the ones who could afford the letters after their name, and that you could never tell how someone's path could deviate because of financial or other circumstances. He was a gentleman, too. When the gossips at work started rumours about us because we commuted in together, and before I was even aware of those rumours (I found out long after he had left the company), he started to decline giving me rides in, saying he had to work late or leave early, which, in retrospect, was extremely gracious of him. But there was always a shadow of pain around him, especially when it came to relationships. He was very uneasy about the women he was dating, even though he knew how to put on the show. I just figured that, like me, he had grown up a nerd and as such was just socially awkward.
When I found out about Greg being one of Graham James's victims, my heart broke for him. It was shortly after I had found out about another male friend of mine who was just then starting to confront his own inner demons about his own childhood abuse. Through watching my friend go through his process, I began to understand the horrors that men go through when confronting and dealing with the pain that these monsters inflicted on them when they were young. It pained me to think that my old boss, that really cool guy, wasn't just socially awkward - he was keeping himself together while being shredded from the inside, just as my friend had done through his whole life.
When Greg told me he had written this book, I was thrilled for him. As a writer, I firmly believe in the power of a creative outlet to vomit all of your inner crap out of your soul, once you're ready and willing to start letting go of it. This is an excellent if not a difficult and necessary read. Greg has the ability to throw you into the spiral of his pain while using that cold, legal rationale (the reason why most people hate lawyers) to explain why justice can never be adequately served in the Canadian legal system as it currently operates in respect of victims of sexual crimes.
I would like to thank Greg for his courage in going through the difficult journey of writing and rewriting and editing and re-editing this book, and the courage of his publisher, Greystone, for making sure this book is out there and available. We can only hope change is truly on the horizon of the Canadian judicial system.
When I found out about Greg being one of Graham James's victims, my heart broke for him. It was shortly after I had found out about another male friend of mine who was just then starting to confront his own inner demons about his own childhood abuse. Through watching my friend go through his process, I began to understand the horrors that men go through when confronting and dealing with the pain that these monsters inflicted on them when they were young. It pained me to think that my old boss, that really cool guy, wasn't just socially awkward - he was keeping himself together while being shredded from the inside, just as my friend had done through his whole life.
When Greg told me he had written this book, I was thrilled for him. As a writer, I firmly believe in the power of a creative outlet to vomit all of your inner crap out of your soul, once you're ready and willing to start letting go of it. This is an excellent if not a difficult and necessary read. Greg has the ability to throw you into the spiral of his pain while using that cold, legal rationale (the reason why most people hate lawyers) to explain why justice can never be adequately served in the Canadian legal system as it currently operates in respect of victims of sexual crimes.
I would like to thank Greg for his courage in going through the difficult journey of writing and rewriting and editing and re-editing this book, and the courage of his publisher, Greystone, for making sure this book is out there and available. We can only hope change is truly on the horizon of the Canadian judicial system.
July 13, 2022
This is a challenging read about "male on male" sexual abuse, and there is much to admire here, with this author and his courage. However, the material was not enough for a book. The pattern of self-destruction became familiar and the author acknowledges this by setting up a scene and stating "you know what happens now." Details of drug use were glossed over and vague. There is much pain in this book and that makes it a difficult read as well.
I wondered if girls had been the victims instead of boys if the justice system would have reacted more strongly and treated the abuser more harshly.
In terms of sheer bravery of the author, I'd give this book 7 out of 5 stars. I'm sure that alone will impress many readers, and maybe other readers would get more out of this book. Unfortunately, for me, despite the best intentions it just did not completely come together as a book and that really is what my rating is based on.
I wondered if girls had been the victims instead of boys if the justice system would have reacted more strongly and treated the abuser more harshly.
In terms of sheer bravery of the author, I'd give this book 7 out of 5 stars. I'm sure that alone will impress many readers, and maybe other readers would get more out of this book. Unfortunately, for me, despite the best intentions it just did not completely come together as a book and that really is what my rating is based on.
September 2, 2021
It’s always hard to know what to say about these types of books but the strength taken to write them is always admirable.
March 15, 2018
I Am Nobody: Confronting the Predatory Coach Who Stole My Life
Greg Gilhooly
Rating: 4/5
Note:Special thanks to Greystone Books for providing a copy for review.
Wow, I was blown away by Greg Gilhooly's memoir. It is so common to see women's stories of sexual assault and harassment that it's easy to forget that some men have stories of their own too; ones that they had to keep to themselves because of the stigma that society places on men. This very important memoir helps pave a way for more people to come forward.
Gilhooly highlights much of his childhood that it's almost easy to forget why this book was written in the first place. You fall into a false sense of hope that perhaps he would be okay and the despicable Graham James would keep his hands off of him. That is not how the story goes however. Gilhooly does a wonderful job capturing his childhood, his strained relationship with his dad, and highlighting his love for hockey throughout the early chapters. Despite already knowing his reason for writing this memoir, it is still extremely gut-wrenching when he recalls the moments leading up to his sexual assault. In contrast to his childhood years marveling at his talent and love for hockey, the memoir takes a dark turn when he bravely writes about his encounters with James. What seems like innocuous private coaching lessons for Gilhooly, really had an underlying dark and sick intentions from the adult hockey coach.
It's tough reading about the sly way abusers seek vulnerable children out, isolate them, and then reel them in with fake emotional connections. This subject is one that appalls many people, but it's even more shocking to read about how easily it can be done by a hideous individual. It is truly terrifying to know that there are people, especially children, who have suffered at the hands of an abuser. There is where the memoir excels. The way Gilhooly describes the secret meetings, the things that were said between the two, and the awful excuses for exercises and stretches were incredibly distressing to read. He adds so much detail into these scenes that it is difficult to just simply sit there and continue on to the next page while feeling a colossal amount of rage. That anger is then heightened when nothing is really done about it, and Gilhooly has to just "move on."
There were moments where the narrative derailed from his story; such as his work experience at CanWest in which he droned on about the success and failure of the said company. It almost felt like I was reading a welcome package from them. There were also many passages in which he would self-praise a lot. Whether that be about his hockey skills or his overall intelligence, this was irritating to read from a memoir. These were just minor annoyances that I had, however, and does not take away from the memoir entirely.
No truer words have been spoken about the justice system: "We over-incarcerate for so many crimes but still under-incarcerate our worst offenders" (249). Gilhooly's heartbreaking memoir ends with a strong epilogue that provides some hope. There will never be true redemption for what has happened to him, but it's a start now that his story is one of many out there for more male sexual assault/harassment survivors to come forward. It's also a story that shows you don't have to be a celebrity or someone who is well-known for your experience to matter.
Greg Gilhooly
Rating: 4/5
Note:Special thanks to Greystone Books for providing a copy for review.
Wow, I was blown away by Greg Gilhooly's memoir. It is so common to see women's stories of sexual assault and harassment that it's easy to forget that some men have stories of their own too; ones that they had to keep to themselves because of the stigma that society places on men. This very important memoir helps pave a way for more people to come forward.
Gilhooly highlights much of his childhood that it's almost easy to forget why this book was written in the first place. You fall into a false sense of hope that perhaps he would be okay and the despicable Graham James would keep his hands off of him. That is not how the story goes however. Gilhooly does a wonderful job capturing his childhood, his strained relationship with his dad, and highlighting his love for hockey throughout the early chapters. Despite already knowing his reason for writing this memoir, it is still extremely gut-wrenching when he recalls the moments leading up to his sexual assault. In contrast to his childhood years marveling at his talent and love for hockey, the memoir takes a dark turn when he bravely writes about his encounters with James. What seems like innocuous private coaching lessons for Gilhooly, really had an underlying dark and sick intentions from the adult hockey coach.
It's tough reading about the sly way abusers seek vulnerable children out, isolate them, and then reel them in with fake emotional connections. This subject is one that appalls many people, but it's even more shocking to read about how easily it can be done by a hideous individual. It is truly terrifying to know that there are people, especially children, who have suffered at the hands of an abuser. There is where the memoir excels. The way Gilhooly describes the secret meetings, the things that were said between the two, and the awful excuses for exercises and stretches were incredibly distressing to read. He adds so much detail into these scenes that it is difficult to just simply sit there and continue on to the next page while feeling a colossal amount of rage. That anger is then heightened when nothing is really done about it, and Gilhooly has to just "move on."
There were moments where the narrative derailed from his story; such as his work experience at CanWest in which he droned on about the success and failure of the said company. It almost felt like I was reading a welcome package from them. There were also many passages in which he would self-praise a lot. Whether that be about his hockey skills or his overall intelligence, this was irritating to read from a memoir. These were just minor annoyances that I had, however, and does not take away from the memoir entirely.
No truer words have been spoken about the justice system: "We over-incarcerate for so many crimes but still under-incarcerate our worst offenders" (249). Gilhooly's heartbreaking memoir ends with a strong epilogue that provides some hope. There will never be true redemption for what has happened to him, but it's a start now that his story is one of many out there for more male sexual assault/harassment survivors to come forward. It's also a story that shows you don't have to be a celebrity or someone who is well-known for your experience to matter.
December 16, 2025
Found myself picking up this book while I was wandering around my university’s library. I didn’t really know want to expect, at first the book’s title caught my attention so I decided to read it one day. “I Am Nobody” left a very strong impression to me. I ended up reading the first page and realized it was sexual abuse. The thing is, topics like sexual abuse frighten me because I know the content inside will be very disturbing and hard, I wasn’t sure I was ready to face a heavy topic like this but I decided to give myself the chance anyways! However, in my opinion this book wasn’t exactly graphic in detail about the abuse Gilhooly faced but instead the impact it had on his life. As someone who lives in Winnipeg, I’ve never even heard about this case until I read this book. I was completely unaware and now I’m really glad that I had read this because it was so deep and important for those of us who luckily never went through sexual abuse to understand the pain and suffering someone who had does.
I find it really relatable despite not experiencing the trauma myself I found myself crying at some pages and feeling teary eyed. This book really made me just want to hug everyone who’s a victim and it really opened my eyes to what life they face. You find out about how Gilhooly mind works facing the abuse, how hard life was, it was really heartbreaking to learn because he really had life stolen from him… Just so much pain… 😭
It’s really unfair… And it made me so upset while reading at why someone had to go through this??? Why all victims of abuse go through this???
I’ve related to the feeling of being stuck and failing but just to imagine his own experience of how it must of been? Despite being successful. That’s unimaginable… But the funny thing is despite the depressing topic matter the book left on a hopeful note and I think that’s a really great part.
Because it’s about a lot of things following his life, from the hockey team, Princeton, law school, being an adult. You get a lot out of this book and how really great his mind works. I really loved reading it.
So I’ve learned a lot from this book, not just about how victims of sexual abuse live but also another’s life and all his remarkable experiences, being strong despite going through this all.
I find it really relatable despite not experiencing the trauma myself I found myself crying at some pages and feeling teary eyed. This book really made me just want to hug everyone who’s a victim and it really opened my eyes to what life they face. You find out about how Gilhooly mind works facing the abuse, how hard life was, it was really heartbreaking to learn because he really had life stolen from him… Just so much pain… 😭
It’s really unfair… And it made me so upset while reading at why someone had to go through this??? Why all victims of abuse go through this???
I’ve related to the feeling of being stuck and failing but just to imagine his own experience of how it must of been? Despite being successful. That’s unimaginable… But the funny thing is despite the depressing topic matter the book left on a hopeful note and I think that’s a really great part.
Because it’s about a lot of things following his life, from the hockey team, Princeton, law school, being an adult. You get a lot out of this book and how really great his mind works. I really loved reading it.
So I’ve learned a lot from this book, not just about how victims of sexual abuse live but also another’s life and all his remarkable experiences, being strong despite going through this all.
January 6, 2019
Thank you, Greg Gilhooly, for your courage in telling your story. My heart broke for you so many times whilst reading this book, I can only imagine what force of will it took for you to get this story down on paper. At times I had to skip the narrative you told yourself about being worthless and nobody; I just couldn't take on that pain and I at the time wondered why you insisted on repeating it in the book, but I think I understand - for one thing, it wasn't a one-time deal for you, it was a constant barrage and repeating it gave me a glimpse of what you lived with on a daily basis. The other take-away from the repetition of your self talk for me was perhaps more subliminal; I feel it was a message to others that it doesn't matter how 'smart' you are, a predator can and will find a way in if they are determined to do that - a message to other people who are calling themselves stupid for having "let" an ugly thing, and an ugly thing like Graham James, happen to them.
I'm not sure why we refer to the legal system as the 'justice' system. It rarely is just, and child sexual abuse it only one area where that is blatantly apparent - thank you also for shining a light on this very important aspect of child rape and the lack of punishment meted out by the system to the perpetrators of this horror.
Kudos to you, to Sheldon Kennedy, Theo Fleury and all the other brave men who have realized that the cloak of shame that was thrown over you is not yours to wear and for refusing to wear it one day longer. May your healing continue. And may the legal system finally wake up.
I'm not sure why we refer to the legal system as the 'justice' system. It rarely is just, and child sexual abuse it only one area where that is blatantly apparent - thank you also for shining a light on this very important aspect of child rape and the lack of punishment meted out by the system to the perpetrators of this horror.
Kudos to you, to Sheldon Kennedy, Theo Fleury and all the other brave men who have realized that the cloak of shame that was thrown over you is not yours to wear and for refusing to wear it one day longer. May your healing continue. And may the legal system finally wake up.
March 17, 2021
In many ways a fascinating read. I feel sorry for Greg for his issues and his almost narcissistic version of his life. His issues run deep. Graham James was a predator who had many victims but Greg Gilhooly was not one of them. He never played hockey for Graham and his version of how he met him is made up and borderline ridiculous. The big question is why did Greg make this up ? He certainly created a way to blame someone for all his troubles (mixed in with his success). Greg called me to chat prior to writing his book and he outright lied about everything to do with Graham and his made up abuse. That is how I was able to determine his scam.. IT is obvious by the book he is obsessed with Graham ? But why ? Greg received 1 million dollars from Hockey Canada and ultimately the taxpayers of Canada. While he writes about real issues -his personal story of abuse is made up. He is a fraud who stole money from Hockey Canada. That money should have gone to the real victims of Graham James. Greg was not one of them. And what kind of person trashes his parents after they died ? Continuously calling his father a loser. How much time in jail should Greg get for fraudulently getting paid 1 million dollars for a make believe abuse story ? Sheldon, Todd, Theo, and and several others are the real victims. Greg is a make believe victim who was compensated nicely -stealing money from the true victims. It sickens me.
January 8, 2022
What happens after this type of abuse is something that had to be told like this, with so much honesty and in such a detail that really makes you think how this crime changes people lives. I've read a couple of books with this topic and I'm always amazed of how people overcome this trauma this is the best book I've ever read detailing the aftermath of sexual abuse. Great work. I feel so bad for Greg so unfair and so inspiring learning about survivors and how they cope with so much pain.
I loved how he was very honest when he said he didn't feel.like forgiveness was his path and that's okay part of the recovery process is to be honest and to live in the moment and he's doing that things might change or not but at the moment he's been truthful in his experience.
This book Made me cried I related so much to his mental health issues like when he said that he wasn't a nice person to be around and seemed to only take and never give anything back, when he said also how he didn't think he deserved anything good in his life that he felt dead already and he was choosing to kill himself in a way, I cried. He said he wasn't unique. I can see that.
Loved when he share all his internal conversations with himself the selfhate and how his self harm made no sense but in a way it did.
I hope he is doing okay❤️ If You are struggling with PTSD, sexual abuse or any mental diseases this one would help You and inspire You.
Wish You The Best life Greg❤️
I loved how he was very honest when he said he didn't feel.like forgiveness was his path and that's okay part of the recovery process is to be honest and to live in the moment and he's doing that things might change or not but at the moment he's been truthful in his experience.
This book Made me cried I related so much to his mental health issues like when he said that he wasn't a nice person to be around and seemed to only take and never give anything back, when he said also how he didn't think he deserved anything good in his life that he felt dead already and he was choosing to kill himself in a way, I cried. He said he wasn't unique. I can see that.
Loved when he share all his internal conversations with himself the selfhate and how his self harm made no sense but in a way it did.
I hope he is doing okay❤️ If You are struggling with PTSD, sexual abuse or any mental diseases this one would help You and inspire You.
Wish You The Best life Greg❤️
July 11, 2019
What a difficult account to write. What an amazing job he did. If it were only the courage it took to tell his story--ALL of his story--that would be enough to earn our respect. Besides that, Gilhooly is a very good writer. And besides that, Gilhooly discusses what happened to him--and what happens in the legal system--from the perspective of a skilled, thoughtful legal mind, and that is a gift to society. He also offers suggestions and solutions, both for the world of hockey and the world of the courts.
For his sheer endurance, for his courage, for his perspective and for his (ultimately) positive outlook, we owe him thanks.
Gilhooly will be conducting an author visit at the Fort Erie Public Library in the fall. Watch for it.
For his sheer endurance, for his courage, for his perspective and for his (ultimately) positive outlook, we owe him thanks.
Gilhooly will be conducting an author visit at the Fort Erie Public Library in the fall. Watch for it.
February 21, 2019
I read Fleury's book as well. Gilhooly did not play in the NHL, but he did become an attorney and wrote this himself - this is extremely well written. Guys like Graham deserve to rot in hell for preying on our children. Gilhooly's life will never be the same. This is a cautious tale for all parents out there, particularly those that are ok having other adults watch their children all of the time - sports, outside of school etc. I was a hockey goalie - so we had that in common - growing up, I also had an uncle of one of our youth hockey players do time for the same type of things - not someone on our team but another area youth team - this book hit home.
July 12, 2018
This was an interesting read that will make you sad and mad. The author describes himself as both a victim and a survivor of Graham James, the pedophile coach who preyed on young hockey players. This gives interesting insight into the psychological aftermath of being sexually assaulted. I commend the author for his bravery in sharing his painful story.
July 21, 2018
A personal, hard and raw look at child sexual assault. I applaud Mr. Gilhooly for finding the courage to both tell his story and to dealing with the psychological aftermath of an abusive childhood.
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