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Fire Season: My Journey from Ruin to Redemption

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Who would you be if you lost everything?Hollye Dexter and her husband Troy woke one night to find their house ablaze. To escape the fire, they had to jump from their second-story window with their toddler son—and then watch their house and home-based businesses burn to the ground. Over the next two years, the family went bankrupt, lost their cars and another home, and got dropped by their best friends. As the outer layers of her life were stripped away, Dexter began to unravel emotionally; but then she found herself on the brink of losing her marriage, and she realized that if she was going to save her family, she would have to pull herself back together somehow. As she fought to reassemble the pieces of the life she’d had, Dexter discovered that a shattered heart has the ability to regenerate in a mighty way; that even in the midst of disaster, you can find your place; and that when everything you identify with is gone, you are free to discover who you really are. Poignant and inspiring, Fire Season is a story for anyone who has ever lost hope—and found it again.

348 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 10, 2015

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Hollye Dexter

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Hollye Dexter is author of the memoir Fire Season (She Writes Press, 2015) and co-editor of Dancing at the Shame Prom (Seal Press)-- praised by bestselling author Gloria Feldt (former CEO of Planned Parenthood) as “…a brilliant book that just might change your life.” Her essays and articles about women’s issues, activism and parenting have been published in anthologies as well as in Maria Shriver’s Architects of Change, Huffington Post, The Feminist Wire and more. In 2003, she founded the award-winning nonprofit Art and Soul, running arts workshops for teenagers in the foster care system. She currently teaches writing workshops and works as an activist for gun violence prevention in L.A., where she lives with her husband and a houseful of kids and pets. www.hollyedexter.net

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380 reviews16 followers
April 23, 2015
So as I think back on this book, I am incredibly grateful for my life and everything in it. I remember thinking while I was reading this book "How could so much bad happen to one family in such a short amount of time?" Not only did the fire destroy their home, but it destroyed their livelihoods since both of them worked from their home. They lost their feeling of safety and a space for them. The Dexter family goes through so many struggles in such a short amount of time, that I think I would have handled it a lot worse than they did. Hollye and her husband struggle with their relationship because they each grieve in a different way and have a hard time understanding that about each other. They are kicked out of two houses in two years because the owners of the houses do not pay the mortgage on the house. They pay their rent even though sometimes they cannot pay their water or light bill. They unfortunately have to declare bankruptcy. They just keep getting kicked down and lose a lot of their pride and self-esteem.

I think one of the things that I was most shocked by was how some of their "friends" treated them through this whole ordeal. Hollye's husband had a saying that people will tell/show you who they are. And boy do some people do that! Right after the fire destroyed their lives they heard things like "You must have some really bad kharma." Who says that? Hollye had a business partner make this tragedy about her and stole money from their business that Hollye had borrowed under her own name. There were friends that helped donate things and money, but wanted to put stipulations on what they could do with that. (For instance, Hollye and Troy decide to rent a house months after their fire. They invite their two closest friends over to show them and be happy for them. Instead, these friends called it a dumb idea and that they shouldn't be renting this house.) People also seemed to want to have a timetable and end point for the Dexter's grief. After a few months people expected them to be over it. They lost their pets, their sources of income and ultimately themselves. That may be one of the scariest things of all, not losing your things, but you as a person.

Throughout this memoir Hollye kept wondering why this happened to them. I wondered the same thing too. A lot of times we try to figure out the way or what lesson is there in this? And unfortunately we never find those answers. It is very easy for me to say as an outsider that we will figure out why such horrific things happen. However, when we are going through these things it is not the answer we want. Hollye becomes depressed (and who wouldn't?) and has a suicide attempt. People kept telling them how lucky they were to be alive, which is true, but the being alive part and living with the aftereffects at times seem so much worse. Events like this can break you or build you up. Eventually, the Dexter's become stronger people and stronger together. They even end up buying their dream home that has an inside sprinkler system and is located a mile from the local fire station! :)

I received a review copy of this book for an honest review.
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1,301 reviews183 followers
July 14, 2015
Review: Fire Season by Hollye Dexter {Truth or Dare Blog Tour} Oh my sweet goodness gracious all I want to do after finishing FIRE SEASON is hug Hollye. And maybe cry a little. And tell her that she is a much bigger person than I probably will ever be. And tell Hollye how much I admire her and her family. This memoir did something to me. It felt *chuckles and shakes head* This book, y’all it felt like drowning. Or how I imagine I think drowning to feel. I felt like my head would get pushed toward the surface of the water, only to get shoved under again: nails scratching at the throat, fighting to shove oxygen into the lungs, eyes bulging and watering and lungs burning like they were set on fire. It felt like falling and getting up. Actually, it felt like getting pushed to the pavement and standing up.

FIRE SEASON sets it’s course on a normal day and a feeling. A feeling like things were going to change. Then it literally all comes down in flames. Following the events and the emotions after the fire consumed their house and thus changing the way the Dexter family lived, FIRE SEASON pulls at the human heart strings in a way that made me feel numb. Dexter puts her family dynamics, the good and the bad and the ugly and the heartbreaking, on display for the world to read and I feel grateful. She makes you re-evaluate your life and shows you what you have got to be grateful for.

This novel feels human. Gorgeously composed, terrifyingly raw and real, I couldn’t put it down. Oh my. That sounds odd. But, really. I couldn’t. I wanted the drunk in the beginning to be right about them lasting. I wanted a happy (or at least not quite as tragic) ending. Hope, hurt and healing, this memoir is one I would highly recommend.
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662 reviews35 followers
July 16, 2015
This is one of those books which is going to sit with me for a while. I've highlighted some passages and I know I will find myself going back and saying to myself "Now, what did Hollye write about when that happened?"

I don't like how much I loved a book about a family losing everything because of a house fire. But it's okay because this book is so much more than that. It's about Hollye's journey to find herself, be the best mother she can be, improve her marriage, engage with new and old friends, finding and valuing her worth, and living in the moment.

If I learned one or two things from Fire Season: A Memoir, it would be instead of trying so hard, try easy. Try easy and let things work out instead of struggling against the grain. And the other would be "I feel envy when I'm struggling and I see others whose lives seem so damned breezy." (Pg. 260) I, too, have felt this way. Yet, I never stopped to examine those feelings. Hollye's story taught me to stop and recognize when that happens to me.

Above all, I learned things can be okay even after they seem to be at their worst. I appreciate Hollye's writing. Thank you, Holley Dexter, for having the courage to share your story with the world.



I received a copy of this book from BookSparks for my honest review.
Profile Image for Shaun.
289 reviews16 followers
May 10, 2015
The description for the book is pretty straight forward, so describing what the book is about really wouldn't be useful in this review.

It's hard to critique a book that is a memoir, since the memories, feelings and actions are those of the author. I am not, and haven't been, in the same situations, so I'll refrain from making an attempt to assess the decisions and feelings of someone else.

Instead, I'll say the book made me realize to be thankful for what I have. I tend to not accumulate a lot of "stuff", but I'd be destroyed if I lost what I do have. Hollye Dexter and her family lost it all. The book is heartbreaking and quite raw emotionally. Dexter writes with detailed feelings gleaned from diaries of the time and the chance to reflect since this tragedy occurred in the early 1990's.

Four stars instead of five, simply because I thought the middle third of the book struggled a bit. It was a tad repetitive. I thought the first and last thirds were outstanding though. I'd certainly recommend it to anyone that enjoys memoirs that deal with loss and redemption and enjoying reading deeply emotional memoirs.

I received this book through a Goodreads First Reads Giveaway.
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January 31, 2021
I began reading Fire Season prior to the pandemic. Her account of the incident is terrifying and raw. In the first section, hard questions about our relationships to each other in neighborhoods and communities are posed. She relates experiences of judgement from others (blame the victim). My heart cried out for her pain.

The shutdown was in full swing when I finished the first section (the second focusing on what comes next). Because of personal issues and our National trauma, I found it too painful to continue.

I plan to return to this book post-pandemic, when I can read through a lens of hope (instead of despair).
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103 reviews
June 28, 2018
Holy Dexter knows how to keep the story moving forward. This well written memoir is rife with personal and family tragedy, to the point of wearying this reader at times. But overall the story is compelling, relatable, and in parts curiously familiar. Our life experience as humans on this planet is not as unique as we sometimes feel. This story includes drug addiction, marital strife, depression, and many other aspects readers may know firsthand. At 342 pages, it is slightly longer than I'd have wanted, but a good read nonetheless. 4 stars
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636 reviews66 followers
April 28, 2015
In a brief moment, life as we know it can disappear. Hollye Dexter and her family experience such a moment on November 18, 1994, when they awaken on a record-breaking cold night in Southern California to find their house engulfed in flames. Dexter and her husband are trapped on the second floor with her four-year-old son as the fire whooshes into the rooms. Their only hope of escape is a thirty-foot drop out the window onto concrete below.

In her memoir, Fire Season: My Journey from Ruin to Redemption, Dexter narrates a gripping account of the fire and its aftermath... "The smell of that fire is something I will never forget. It is not the warm, cozy smell of a campfire, but the putrid stench of synthetic carpeting and drywall plaster and household appliances melting, the toxic cloud of our life disintegrating." Not only does her family lose all their personal possessions, their two dogs, two cats, and a bunny, they also lose their source of income from their home-based business. Fortunately, her six-year-old daughter was with her father that night. Nothing was insured.

The tasks that follow are overwhelming—replacing birth certificates, social security cards, drivers' licenses, credit cards, and the multitude of documents that are part of all of our lives. The family moves in with Dexter's mother and her husband. Friends donate clothing and household goods. Their musician friends hold a benefit concert. The local TV station features their story, which brings other material assistance. As difficult as the early days after the fire are, a Red Cross representative assigned to them warns of hard times ahead: "You are surrounded by people showing up to support you. Donations are coming in. You're getting phone calls every day. But soon, those things will taper off, and you'll be left picking up the pieces. That's the hard part, and that's when a lot of this loss will start to hit you."

Despite their optimism that life can only get better, the family suffers one blow after another. They must weather the loss of Dexter's kids clothing business when her partner withdraws the money needed to keep it going. A slowdown in the music business affects her guitar player husband's ability to get gigs. Finally, they are forced to declare bankruptcy. A sudden, inexplicable rift occurs with the couple who were their closest friends. The losses from the fire also uncover hidden fault lines in family history and relationships. Dexter unravels and must confront the question of who she really is now that she has lost everything. And so begins her path toward "redemption."

Dexter weaves her story of the fire and her struggles to rebuild a life with her history in a seamless tapestry. I was riveted by her no-holds-barred account of what happens when the life one has built is destroyed without warning, and the incredible strength needed to rise from the ashes. Reading Dexter's story will challenge readers to think about who they would be if everything in their own lives were destroyed.

by Barbara Heming
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women
Profile Image for Meg - A Bookish Affair.
2,484 reviews219 followers
July 19, 2015
After Hollye Dexter and her family wake up to discover their houses on fire, all of their belongings are destroyed and they feel like they're losing all hope. This book is about the family trying to find hope again and trying to get back on their feet after it seems like their life has totally been destroyed. This is a memoir that is about family and about what it means to lose hope and to, more importantly, regain it.

The Dexter family not only loses their house in a fire but their social circle is shaken as the friends that they thought would be there and the family that they thought cared for them weren't necessarily there. This book meanders from event to event after the fire that takes their house to show how the family copes and how they try to rebuild their life. The part that really hit home for me is how the Dexter's family and friends acted after they lose their house. I've always heard that it's the most difficult circumstances that show you who your true friends are. It's those life changes where friends or family either rally together or fall away. It shows you who's going to be with you when the going gets tough and who is simply a fair weather friend.

Like I said this book meanders quite a bit and it covers a lot of ground, not just the fallout from the fire. I did find myself wishing that the book covered a little bit less and was a little bit tighter because they've meandering takes away from the story actually and makes some of the events feel unrelated to each other.

The writing is very honest and because the narrative meanders so much, the book almost feels like stream of consciousness. You really feel like you are getting into the authors head and we are getting a front row for everything that she and her family go through. Overall, this book is for those two cars that give you a front row seat to be unimaginable.
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Author 3 books82 followers
April 30, 2015
Through the Refiner's Fire- Hollye Dexter's Fire Season

Some books we come to because they’ve created some buzz in our world and we take notice. Some books speak to our personal experience and we want to share in another’s similar one. And rarely, we have a personal connection to the author that leads us to read her book. When all three pathways combine, as it did to bring me to Hollye Dexter’s Fire Season: A Memoir the potential is high for a powerful effect. Fire Season did not disappoint. Thankfully, it’s an “exclusive” club – those of us who have come through a “refiner’s fire” because we’ve lost homes (but not human lives) in a house fire, but the legacy is painfully consistent: emotional devastation, recruitment of every other loss in one’s life to compound the material losses, brave fronts put on to soldier through in the aftermath, loss of stability and faith in the rightness of life, threat to relationships- the list goes on. What Hollye Dexter accomplished so beautifully is the open and honest description of the descent – the unraveling of her world, and while she can’t see it from the bottom, the rest of us cheer for the tentative but enduring strength that bring Hollye and her family through the succession of nightmare events in their lives. Love and devotion as redemption for pain and suffering is a theme that underlies the best of life’s stories, and Fire Season brings this notion richly to the page.
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Author 1 book186 followers
July 24, 2015
Oh my gosh--the emotions in this story. Everything that happened to this family just kept breaking my heart. Hollye is one of those women that you never think you could be, surviving blow after blow to her feelings of physical, emotional and financial security. She's definitely who I want to be when I grow up!

Hollye puts her life out there for all of us to read--the good, the bad, and the ugly. From her strained relationship with her mother, to the stress put on her marriage, to her bout with depression, to her ability to find joy in the little things with her children, we get a look into every corner of her life.

The varied reactions of their friends to their tragedies were eye-opening, even heartbreaking in some instances. Having some pull away from them, another steal from them...at least that was countered by many who were at their side in every way.

I want to thank BookSparks for bringing this book to my attention, as well as providing me a copy in exchange for an honest review. It is a story which will stay with me for a long time to come.
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2,228 reviews93 followers
July 24, 2015
When it comes to memoirs, I devour them! I love reading about how people can overcome and conquer over tragedy. I admire the bravery it takes for the writers to expose themselves in the darkest times in their lives so that others can learn from their tragedies. Fire Season was one of those reads that both breaks your heart and one that is hard to put down. It is raw and real and a story that forces the reader reconsider your own life, choices, friends and desire for belongings. I applaud Dexter for sharing her story with the world and for showing us that it is with the spirit of love and redemption that good can come from sadness and we can triumph over tragedy!!! 5 stars
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May 1, 2015
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I absolutely love this book and I highly recommend it. I didn't want to put it down.
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Author 3 books30 followers
July 14, 2017
Wow! This is a powerful book. Once I started it, I could not put it down. The author opens with such an intense description of the night she lost her house - and almost lost her life - in a fire, I had to continue to follow her story. It's such compelling reading, as we learn how she and her family struggle to rebuild their lives, through a series of further adverse events which in themselves would have crushed most people. But her resilience shines through, and she even has the energy to give back by becoming involved in work for foster children. Raw and honest, this is a very well-written and powerful memoir that will stay with me for a long time.
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53 reviews
October 26, 2018
A very good memoir. Her family has a tragic fire that destroys their home and kill all their beloved pets and they narrowly escape with their lives. Everything is upside down for them for years. I got a lot of anxiety reading her story. Her life and mine were very parallel. I didn't have a good relationship with my mother, I have by ostracized by family, I have lost friends. I guess we've all been down some kind of dark path. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel and she does go on to have a good life.
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April 20, 2025
A young woman wrote this memoir about her house burning to the ground in S. CA in the 90's and all the subsequent money losses, evictions, loss of friends.... Too much drama for me and immature attitudes.
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8 reviews
October 19, 2017
Well written memoir which starts with a house fire and the various trials and tribulations the family goes through afterwards. The fire took place ~20 years ago, but it feels very "present".
112 reviews
July 16, 2018
Well written, engaging and thought provoking.
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74 reviews8 followers
August 11, 2015
To the point: A very moving and inspiring story about overcoming difficult challenges. This very relatable story has an extreme emotional depth that will keep your positivity flowing long after you’re done reading.

Review: This was a story I needed to read. It has this unimaginable strength and courage to fight and keep fighting until those better days come. It may be about physical damage but the emotional pain and suffering are relatable to anyone. I think especially now, with all of our technology, we work hard for and value the things we can buy. The loss of those physical objects can be so devastating in a way we forget but if we do lose our possessions in some way we face the harsh lessons that it is the things money cannot buy that should hold the most value in our hearts.

Just reading about someone’s struggle like this and perseverance serves as a tool of strength for others going through struggles. The ability to take a terrible situation and give it a meaning and a purpose of finding yourself is somewhat magical. Those filled with grief often drown in their sorrows as we tend to forget the power in pain and the ability to come up out of the ashes (like a phoenix, maybe?).

This book is not only a reminder of hope, but a tool to fight for hope. Personally, I really appreciated the story and it couldn’t have come at a better time in my own life.

I enjoyed the writing style, the flow of the story and the effect of the story. I recommend this to anyone looking for a story of struggle, survival and perseverance, which I think could be good for just about everyone.

Fire Season by Hollye Dexter. She Writes Press (April 14, 2015). 344 pages. Memoir: Motivational. I received this copy from BookSparks in exchange for an honest review.
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