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30 Days of Sex Talks: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy Ages 3-7
The most meaningful discussions you will have with your child—made easy! This book contains downloadable, bonus content! Included with this book is a code that will allow you to download topic cards which can be printed and placed in strategic locations, such as a mirror, refrigerator or in your pocket, to remind you and your child to start talking! We’ve made it easy to engage your child in conversations about relationships, affection, anatomy, boundaries, predators, online dangers and many other vital topics. Using the numerous questions and conversation starters we have provided, you can launch these essential talks with your child and interject your personal thoughts, feelings and cultural beliefs. Written by parents and reviewed by professionals, the 30 Days of Sex Talks program makes it simple for you and your child to talk about sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy. Remember that having these talks with your child will establish a pattern of healthy conversations for the future. Your goal is that your child will feel comfortable talking to you about anything as he or she grows into the healthy, knowledgeable person he or she will become.
89 pages, Paperback
First published January 21, 2015
About the author
Dina Alexander
33 books39 followersDina Alexander is the founder of Educate and Empower Kids (educateempowerkids.org), an organization determined to strengthen families by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy, and healthy sexuality education—including education about the dangers of online porn.
She is the creator of How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography and the 30 Days of Sex Talks and 30 Days to a Stronger Child programs. She is also the author of Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good and Petra’s Power to See: A Media Literacy Adventure. Dina also co-wrote Messages about Me, Sydney's Story: A Journey to Healthy Body Image and Messages about Me, Wade's Story
Most recently she has published Chloe has a Question, a Very Important Question and This is the Spirit of Revelation for Latter-day Saint children and their families and Conversations with My Kids, 30 Essential Family Discussions for the Digital Age.
She received her master’s degree in recreation therapy from the University of Utah and her bachelors from Brigham Young University. She loves being a mom and spending time with her husband and three kids. Together, they live in New Mexico.
She is the creator of How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography and the 30 Days of Sex Talks and 30 Days to a Stronger Child programs. She is also the author of Noah’s New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good and Petra’s Power to See: A Media Literacy Adventure. Dina also co-wrote Messages about Me, Sydney's Story: A Journey to Healthy Body Image and Messages about Me, Wade's Story
Most recently she has published Chloe has a Question, a Very Important Question and This is the Spirit of Revelation for Latter-day Saint children and their families and Conversations with My Kids, 30 Essential Family Discussions for the Digital Age.
She received her master’s degree in recreation therapy from the University of Utah and her bachelors from Brigham Young University. She loves being a mom and spending time with her husband and three kids. Together, they live in New Mexico.
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April 15, 2022
The girls and I have been doing a lesson or two every few days together. Some of the lessons were beyond them right now. Most were spot on. I look forward to going through this book with them in a year or two again. This book was a great starting point for me—a place to start conversations I wanted to have, but wasn’t sure how to go about it. I appreciated the direction and suggestions.
One of the first lessons is learning who your body belongs too. When I asked the girls what they thought, they both pointed at me. “You, of course, Mama.” The simple shift to them learning their bodies belonged to them was powerful to watch unfold. Over the last few weeks, they kindly told me and others, “I don’t like when you….”. They’ve begun to close the door for privacy in the bathroom, turned down hugs when they didn’t want one, used anatomy terms I didn’t feel comfortable with til my twenties, and over and over again have told me how great and wonderful and strong their bodies are today and every day.
Here’s to raising strong, badass littles. I deeply hope these girls hold on to this power and confidence that’s so natural to them now.
One of the first lessons is learning who your body belongs too. When I asked the girls what they thought, they both pointed at me. “You, of course, Mama.” The simple shift to them learning their bodies belonged to them was powerful to watch unfold. Over the last few weeks, they kindly told me and others, “I don’t like when you….”. They’ve begun to close the door for privacy in the bathroom, turned down hugs when they didn’t want one, used anatomy terms I didn’t feel comfortable with til my twenties, and over and over again have told me how great and wonderful and strong their bodies are today and every day.
Here’s to raising strong, badass littles. I deeply hope these girls hold on to this power and confidence that’s so natural to them now.
October 17, 2016
My husband and I went through the topics in this book with our girls at family home evenings over the course of the past 6 months and it was a huge success. We had many meaningful discussions as a family and I feel a million times better knowing that we've started this dialogue with our girls. We will certainly continue on with the other books geared to older children and be reviewing the topics we've already covered. This is an ongoing process but it's not something I'm stressed about anymore. I highly recommend this to all parents and I highly recommend that both parents are involved in the discussions where possible.
March 23, 2022
This book is a great guide for starting to talk to your child about their bodies and lead into talking about sex. I really appreciated that there were topics brought up that I hadn’t thought to bring up. While there are some approaches that are slightly different than the way I would explain, I found this to be very helpful. I also really appreciated the way the sample discussions often began with “In our family”… in order to make space for differing approaches. The glossary in the back is also a great resource for finding a concise and clear explanation for some difficult topics.
August 22, 2019
I originally got this from my library but liked it so much, that I bought it on amazon.
This is such a great book to prepare kids to learn about their bodies and intimacy-and not just in a sexual way. There's no shaming, which is really important to me. I was raised differently than I want to raise my children and I want then to understand and be comfortable with their bodies and how they work. I was also worried about scaring my children when talking about predators and other scary issues but this book is very positive and un-threatening in this way.
There were also portions that I didn't even think of and when discussing with my daughter, she picked up on right away. For instance, correlating private spaces with private parts and how there are degrees of privacy. That a bathroom or closed bedroom is more private than a living room but that a living room is more private than a front yard or store.
Anyway, I really appreciate book and I'll be buying the others in the series as they become relevant to my needs.
This is such a great book to prepare kids to learn about their bodies and intimacy-and not just in a sexual way. There's no shaming, which is really important to me. I was raised differently than I want to raise my children and I want then to understand and be comfortable with their bodies and how they work. I was also worried about scaring my children when talking about predators and other scary issues but this book is very positive and un-threatening in this way.
There were also portions that I didn't even think of and when discussing with my daughter, she picked up on right away. For instance, correlating private spaces with private parts and how there are degrees of privacy. That a bathroom or closed bedroom is more private than a living room but that a living room is more private than a front yard or store.
Anyway, I really appreciate book and I'll be buying the others in the series as they become relevant to my needs.
May 18, 2015
This is a great, basic curriculum for parents to use when discussing body image, privacy, limits, differences between genders, where strangers are allowed to touch or not, and so on. It's perfect for kids in that 3-7 age range and SO EASY TO DO! The lessons are literally 2 pages with very large font and are designed for casual conversations. I highly recommend.
My full review and thoughts can be found on my blog - http://www.whatsupfagans.com/2015/05/...
My full review and thoughts can be found on my blog - http://www.whatsupfagans.com/2015/05/...
September 8, 2021
Even if we didn't follow the 30 lessons exactly, this book spelled it out enough for me that I could actually have the conversations with the kids.
November 20, 2018
Both editions of this book (ages 3-7 and 8-11) are easy to read and provide good jumping off points for parents looking to talk to their kids about sexual intimacy. They demonstrate that caregivers can have important conversations with their children in an age appropriate way that does not rid kids of their innocence. The authors highlight important values that are useful for creating healthy relationships of all types: respect, understanding different types of love and affection, and gender roles.
However, there are a few limitations. These two editions do not address being transgender or intersex. The mechanics of sex is defined as penis-in-vagina intercourse, rather than a wide variety of intimate and sexual touch that allows for various expression. This is surprisingly limited, given that one "talk" discusses differences in sexual orientation. When discussing pornography, the authors are decidedly anti-use. Though an appropriate response for this age group, we worry that the prescriptive nature of this conversation may limit more nuanced ones in the future.
Finally, behaviors are focused on resisting harm rather than not harming others. It is certainly important to learn how to firmly say "no," and how to ask for help from a trusted adult. There are even moments in these books where parents are meant to remind their child that just as their response should be respected, they need to accept the boundaries of their peers and friends. But there is no conversation about not being coercive (not bullying), not asking peers for sexually explicit photos, etc. If parents had conversations about not harming others - in addition to these conversations about what to do once harm has occurred - society would make huge waves in preventing sexual violence.
However, there are a few limitations. These two editions do not address being transgender or intersex. The mechanics of sex is defined as penis-in-vagina intercourse, rather than a wide variety of intimate and sexual touch that allows for various expression. This is surprisingly limited, given that one "talk" discusses differences in sexual orientation. When discussing pornography, the authors are decidedly anti-use. Though an appropriate response for this age group, we worry that the prescriptive nature of this conversation may limit more nuanced ones in the future.
Finally, behaviors are focused on resisting harm rather than not harming others. It is certainly important to learn how to firmly say "no," and how to ask for help from a trusted adult. There are even moments in these books where parents are meant to remind their child that just as their response should be respected, they need to accept the boundaries of their peers and friends. But there is no conversation about not being coercive (not bullying), not asking peers for sexually explicit photos, etc. If parents had conversations about not harming others - in addition to these conversations about what to do once harm has occurred - society would make huge waves in preventing sexual violence.
October 23, 2015
I saw this book on the Power of Moms website and discovered our library system didn't have a copy. I requested all three in the series and the library purchased them.
I was pleasantly surprised with this book and think it will be a great resource. I think I may even follow it as written and have a discussion each day on the topic suggested. There was only one topic that I felt kind of "eh" about. It was the one on toys and suggested having kids play with toys that are "meant" for the other gender.
We've already covered a lot of the topics in the book, but there were some things I never considered or that I feel like now we should bring up again.
This book empowered me as a parent and helped me feel less "scared" about navigating sex and sexuality in a positive light with my kids.
Book #41 of 52 in 2015
I was pleasantly surprised with this book and think it will be a great resource. I think I may even follow it as written and have a discussion each day on the topic suggested. There was only one topic that I felt kind of "eh" about. It was the one on toys and suggested having kids play with toys that are "meant" for the other gender.
We've already covered a lot of the topics in the book, but there were some things I never considered or that I feel like now we should bring up again.
This book empowered me as a parent and helped me feel less "scared" about navigating sex and sexuality in a positive light with my kids.
Book #41 of 52 in 2015
October 27, 2016
Go buy this book!!! I love that the format is questions so that it is a discussion with your kids so you can fill in your beliefs or any information you like. I love that there are 30 topics - many including safety issues (good touch, bad touch, how to say no, pornography, predators) When you use this book - you know that you have covered all the information! we use it as our morning discussions. highly recommended. I look forward to the 8-11 book.
July 29, 2017
This book has some wonderful and informative information regarding ways to approach your child when it comes to difficult subjects like sex and pornography. The terms are simple, the lessons are easy to follow and the books are solidly based in research! If you need a way to talk to your young child about pornography, (or anything, really) give these books a go.
November 16, 2018
This book has been a big help in starting the sex talks with my daughters. It doesn't get too far into the topic but shares an important amount that is good for their age. This was a great help in knowing where and how to start! This is something I go back to constantly for help. The books for older kids are great too!
January 17, 2024
I liked the concept of this book, but I felt the delivery could have been better. I think it needed to be clear on what the direct instruction entailed and where the questions fit in with that (before or after or in the middle?). I felt we were repeating ourselves a lot with the discussion questions and some so very similar they were basically the same question at times with just a random tweak or something I had already asked during the main instruction part. Being more clear in a "lesson plan" style would have helped me.
I did like that it gave us a way to talk to our kids about body image, nudity, pornography, predators, sex, private parts, etc. in a way that was suitable to their age range. My kids should hopefully know where babies come from even if I never introduced them to the word "sex" yet, but we at least talked about the physiology of how it all works which I think is a good stepping stone at this age.
I read this with my 4, 6, and 8 year old all together for our daily "discussions" as I called them.
I did like that it gave us a way to talk to our kids about body image, nudity, pornography, predators, sex, private parts, etc. in a way that was suitable to their age range. My kids should hopefully know where babies come from even if I never introduced them to the word "sex" yet, but we at least talked about the physiology of how it all works which I think is a good stepping stone at this age.
I read this with my 4, 6, and 8 year old all together for our daily "discussions" as I called them.
April 13, 2021
This book is a must own book for everyone who is raising a child of any age. The books recommended age range is from 3-7, but, there does not need to be an age limit. It makes you think of various topics and what rules/standards you want to implement in your family. It provides thoughtful ways to start the conversation, follow-up questions to ask your kids, and how to appropriately respond to questions and situations. This should be required reading for everyone.
April 13, 2021
This book impressed me with the way it was structured. Each chapter tells the reader how to start the conversation with their child. I think that is so important. It gives great examples on things to say.
February 12, 2023
Easy parenting win. 👏
May 26, 2021
Thanks to Dina for providing this book through a Goodreads giveaway.
This is a fantastic book that every parent should use. Deceptively simple and brief (at 89 pages, including glossary), this guide provides much to consider. This would have made discussions with my daughter easier and more thorough. I plan to gift this book to parents that I know.
Topics covered include:
* body/anatomy/ changes as part of development
* how boys and girls are alike
* public vs private
* feelings, emotions, instincts
* where babies come from
* bodily functions
* nudity
* pictures/phone/internet
This is a fantastic book that every parent should use. Deceptively simple and brief (at 89 pages, including glossary), this guide provides much to consider. This would have made discussions with my daughter easier and more thorough. I plan to gift this book to parents that I know.
Topics covered include:
* body/anatomy/ changes as part of development
* how boys and girls are alike
* public vs private
* feelings, emotions, instincts
* where babies come from
* bodily functions
* nudity
* pictures/phone/internet
October 11, 2022
Highly recommend this book and the next one, for ages 8-11. So good.
November 7, 2016
This book helped give my husband and I good direction on where to take the conversation with my kids. Something we plan on reviewing every 6 months or so. I liked how the book asked the questions then gave us adults a way to explain the answer so the kids could understand.
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