The Break Up Manual for Men: Recover From a Serious Breakup, Become Stronger and Get Your Ex Back

by Andrew Ferebee

Major update 2022—transform your breakup into the best thing that ever happened to you.

End the agonizing pain of a breakup, reclaim lost masculine power and self-confidence, and discover the secrets of how to get over a breakup faster and use it as a launchpad to reinvent your life, attract higher quality women, and pursue your dreams.

No man is immune to experiencing a breakup and the loss of love. It literally feels as though your heart has been torn out of your chest and ripped into pieces.

You can't stop thinking about her, what you could, should, or would do if you had another chance, even if the breakup occurred last week or years ago.

So what can you do about it?

It's time to start fixing a broken heart and mend the pain of a breakup for good and become your strongest self because of this experience.

In this powerful book, relationship coach for men Andrew Ferebee distills the foundations of his own success and life-changing work with men who have been blindsided by breakups into an easy-to-follow strategy that you can finish in as little as a day to get your power back and achieve your highest potential because of this painful experience.

This is not like typical breakup books for men. You will leave behind all confusion, pain, and heartbreak as Andrew leads you through how to truly overcome, heal, and recover, so you can become stronger, attract women more aligned with your values, and have the confidence to start living fully in the shortest time possible.

The result is one easy-to-understand breakup book that reveals what you need to know when getting past your breakup, recover faster, and become stronger, and also revealed is the most effective strategy for getting your ex back (if you want).

Genres: Relationships, Psychology, Nonfiction

Audible Audio

First published August 12, 2015

Reviews

[Matt · Rating 4 out of 5]

Personal, helpful, concise, direct, informative. Ferebee isn't afraid to go deep into some taboo topics: contemplating suicide, porn and masturbation, human mortality. Pick it up once you're out of crisis mode, done wallowing in self-pity, and ready to move forward.

However, some of the suggestions are almost laughable when your "breakup" is actually a sudden divorce after over a decade of marriage and you have several children together:
- Avoid seeing her for a certain amount of time? Impossible. I have to see her almost daily because of the kids.
- More money to spend on myself and not on her? Not with the terms of our divorce settlement, no.
- Remove her from social media? Ok, but even if I could ignore her completely, I still have to field frequent, painful questions from the kids, talk my friends and family into being civil, and diplomatically interact with the now ex-in-laws.

The Bottom line... Once you can actually listen to Joy Division again without breaking down and sobbing, pick up this and a copy of Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" for a much needed dose of real perspective. Stay calm, maintain a steady course, and remind yourself that everything is transitory.

[Eric Frolka · Rating 3 out of 5]

While the book does have good tips and insights into the male and female brains. I couldn’t shake the feeling that the whole premise was more in line with “gaslighting” and helping men become more of a “womanizer” than truly working on bettering yourself.

[Khanishka · Rating 4 out of 5]

I know what Andrew is Talking about in the whole book. I just read this book because I wanted to get a glimpse of how man recover from a breakup and to be honest it's pretty much similar for both men and women. So, the Breakup Manual is not for just men but women too, so it's the break up manual for humans overall. I pretty much agree with Andrew except the chapter i.e. Understanding the biology of breakup. That chapter to me is flawed. Else the suggestion and practical guide the book offered is something you should apply and that's how you are supposed to deal with breakup and you should. It's the healthy way. I swear the breakup is an opportunity for everyone to heal from all their past and trauma and everything. So that your future family won't suffer from your negative patterns. Because by healing yourself you leave those patterns and get yourself out of the loop ♾️.

[Greg Gee · Rating 5 out of 5]

It really is a manual

This was one of if not the best book on breakups I’ve read. It’s not a step by step, it truly is a manual— guide on how to respond to a break up and not forcing us one way or another, but showing us the paths that we will eventually cross. Because the author has already navigated the speed bumps and hurdles.. he is informing us of the same speed bumps and hurdles we’ll eventually meet on our own path. However… in whatever we choose to do after a break up… Live.

[Aniket Gupta · Rating 5 out of 5]

Perfect guide for breakup recovery as title suggest

I am at my last stages of breakup recovery and i wish i could have read this book earlier. As my progress happened since my BREAKUP it was all well said in book already. And if you are at starting stage of your breakup i suggest you you should read it once and please importantly apply it to your daily life. It all in your heads. So get out of there and make it place where you can live peacefully. Happy reading.

[Evan Gillard · Rating 5 out of 5]

very good read

This was a good book that I decided to read. Men need to realize the true value of being a man in the relationship. This book gives you an abundance mindset vs scarcity mindset. Also tells you about finding the true value for wanting your ex back. It’s def a good read if your currently going thru a breakup. The best part of the book is when the author mentions your winning regardless of any decision your ex makes. Use this breakup as a chance to grow.

[Omar Manning · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a gem

This book will allow you to do 2 things at minimum:

1. Look at your ex differently
2. Look at yourself differently

You will get an understanding of her and her actions and how to handle the situation. The only thing you will need to do after reading this book is take action.

[keith gresham · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very useful information

Andrew Ferebee's book let's you prepare for moving on by focusing on yourself and the you aren't going be alone. Focus on improving yourself and good things will happen.

[Juan Pablo Armour Fontaine · Rating 5 out of 5]

Listened to the audiobook twice, and I have to say everything in this book is so accurate, it is insane how you can't really see clear when you're going through a breakup, but once you pick yourself up, you can walk into a room and light it up and people notice you.

[Wayne Thompson · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book about break ups that every man should read before his next relationship.

A great book to understand all the things you shouldn’t do immediately following a break up. Read it before it’s too late.

[harrison · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Read.it helped my realize that I'll be just fine

I liked the tone and precision that this title is written with. Its given me a plan of actions after the end of a 4 year relationship.

[Sergio Robledo · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great

This book pushed me to do the things I was already doing before the relationship and break up. I will get back into the gym and improving myself every day.

[Michael Robinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Helpful

I loved it , helped me soo much. I will recommend this book. Keep up the work. Thank you soo much

[Bill Huber · Rating 5 out of 5]

Short but powerful

Just what I needed right now. Going to work this process and reinvent myself starting now. Thank you for this tool.

[sutac alex · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing

Quick and practice steps to follow after a break up to come up stronger and a better man . Read this book if you going to hard times after a brake up with your partner .

[Michael Kuron · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good read

Good lay out and straight to the point. I will read this a few more times before returning it. Thanks.

[Christopher Lopez · Rating 2 out of 5]

It's a compilation of blog posts. I do find it helpful for someone desperate or deep into depression.

It is quite simple and straight to the point.

[Hikmat · Rating 5 out of 5]

Helped me a lot.

I know many of the things in there but it’s a good reminder mixed with empathy needed from a man to a man.

[Eric · Rating 3 out of 5]

More of a blog post than a book... Simple, motivating words but nothing mind blowing here, still helpful content if you feel stuck.

[Christopher Andres · Rating 5 out of 5]

so helpful!

So helpful, perfect timing too. This may have been a life changing read for me, thank you so much Andrew!

[Amir · Rating 3 out of 5]

Helpful book 😭

[George Walker · Rating 1 out of 5]

didn’t work

[Kakyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm able to let go my 8 year relationship after 5 years of separation/divorce.

[Danny · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wouldn’t say it’s all the pieces of the puzzle you might be trying to solve. There are usual perspectives, and analogies though.

[Sean Robinson · Rating 5 out of 5]

excellent

Thoughtful, informative and connects the dots for men who have experienced a breakup. Great read and tangible takeaways. Highly recommend!

[Brian Sunglasses · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’m not gonna write a review now as I discovered this before I discovered good reads but on my book the title says”… and get your ex back (if you want). I think the “if you want” part is really important and this book is great for men who don’t want their wives back also I can’t say if the getting your ex back part works lol.

[Srinivasan Nanduri · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good and valuable advice. The linked resources are more helpful