Unconditional: Break Through Past Limits to Transform Your Future

by Samra Zafar, Kim Pittaway

Lived experience and the science of healing tell the life-changing unlearning is the key to setting yourself free

In an inspirational, practical self-help book, bestselling author of A Good Wife Samra Zafar weaves together research and personal stories to share how she has broken free of beliefs that held her back, and how listeners can too.

After escaping an abusive marriage in her twenties with her two daughters in tow, Samra Zafar thought the biggest challenges she would face would be supporting her family, putting herself through school, working in the corporate world, and rebuilding a support system for herself and her daughters. But she discovered the hardest challenge of all was within her own heart. Her childhood conditioning to criticize her every move paralyzed her from pursuing what she truly wanted, landed her in relationships that held her back rather than lifting her up, and constrained the way she wanted to mother her children. Finally, when she couldn’t take it anymore, she sought help.

In Unconditional, Samra shares everything she has learned, as a woman, physician and mother, about unlearning the harmful beliefs we store deep within ourselves. Through the hard work of digging out past trauma, unpacking faulty ideas that no longer serve you, creating healthier neural pathways, and embracing who you truly want to be, you can learn to love yourself—unconditionally.

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Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

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Published February 18, 2025

Reviews

[Nicole · Rating 2 out of 5]

2.5 out of 5 stars.

In Unconditional, Samra shares personal stories from escaping her abusive marriage, rebuilding a support system, trying again with a new partner and walking away when he showed her his red flags, working and making a living, buying a house and wishing she'd kept her previous house from her abusive partner where she'd be further ahead, becoming successful with her last book, and protecting her daughters. Through her stories, she goes through what held her back and the harmful behaviors and self-neglect she had to unlearn. The book was more about the author's personal experiences than guidance for breaking through past traumas and transforming your future.

The book was insightful, and I felt like someone was sharing stories with me and offering a quote or some words of wisdom here and there, but I didn't find it memorable. I could relate to some stories and understood and empathized with the author's trauma, but I didn't connect to the book. It didn't give me anything new or resonate with me in a way where I felt engaged and like I couldn't put it down. It felt disjointed.

[Michelle Glogovac · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dr. Zafar has lived a life many of us only see in the movies. This self-help book explores not only the complexities of trauma but addresses the various areas in your life that they show up if you don't work towards transforming your future. I really enjoyed how Dr. Zafar shared personal stories in every section and how she not only worked towards creating boundaries in all areas but also how she ensured she took responsibility for her actions. Each chapter contains a workbook which helps the reader to push towards their own transformation.

[Tova Ralph · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dr. Samra Zafar's books are fantastic. This book is a look into her life and provides skills to use in your own life. I love the workbook at the end of each chapter. Thank you for sharing your heart and wisdom. I recommend this book.

[Amanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

So surprised this isn't a best seller yet!! Amazing she really did that!!!

[Kate G · Rating 4 out of 5]

There were some helpful tips, but I was expecting it to be a bit more general then talking so much about the authors story but I still enjoyed it.