I think this is the book I have enjoyed reading the most this year, and it is also one of the best books I have read this year, in terms of opening a new world open to me. I have read several other Chinese authors, but this is probably my favorite. I felt that the characters were both universal and specific, and that the book was a strong insight into "real" (although it is fiction), human lives in China... and would be interested to know of course what people who know more about real life in China think. My praise is not necessarily in her crafting of sympathetic characters. The characters are well crafted and complicated figures, but you do not really "sympathize" in any serious way. But their lives are interesting, and I wanted to read more.
I realize that nothing about this review is really explaining why I liked it so much. I just did. Bleak, inspiring writing, if those words can go together. I guess to me, the best way to sum it up is the last quote I liked, the last line of the book (don't worry - not really a spoiler):
"They were lonely and sad people, all three of them, and they would not make one another less sad, but they could, with great care, make a world that would accommodate their loneliness." (162)
--- QUOTES ---
"It is a terrible thing, even for an indifferent person like me, to see the bleakness lurking in someone else's life." (6)
"I have learned, since then, that life is like that, each day ending up like a chick refusing to be returned to the eggshell." (7)
"I had learned that if one remained unresponsive in those situations one could become transparent; when my mother's eyes peeled off my clothes piece by piece they would meet nothing underneath but air." (8)
"People who think they know their own stories do not appreciate other people's mysteries, Professor Shan explained; that is why people like you and me will always find each other." (14)
"I waved back once, thinking perhaps we were the loneliest family in the world because we were meant to be that way." (40)
"Never would I have a more memorable time than the month I spent in the mountains, though I wonder, when I say this, if it appears so only because it is our nature to make a heaven out of places we can never return." (43)
"There are people, I now know, who have been granted happiness as their birthright, and who, believing that every mystery in life can be solved and every pain salved, reach out with a savior's hand." (49)
"the loneliness I had learned to live with all of a sudden unbearable. I did not know the driver's name, nor had I gotten a close look at his face -- but for years to come I would think of his salute, a stranger's kindness always remembered because a stranger's kindness, like time itself, heals our wounds in the end." (53)
"Professor Shan must have suspected all this talk but, as always, she refused to let the mundane into her flat. Instead, we read other people's stories, more real than our own; after all, inadequate makers of our own lives, we were not match for those masters. ... My mother fell in love at an early age, my father late; they both fell for someone who would not return their love, yet in the end their story is the only love story I can claim, and I live as proof of that story, of one man's offering to a woman from is meager existence, and of her returning it with her entire adult life." (55-56)
"One day, if they were fortunate enough to survive all the disappointments life had in store for them, they would have to settle into their no longer young bodies." (63)
"'One should never hope for the unseeing to see the truth,' Teacher Fei said now." (72)
"Perhaps that was what they needed, the unhurried life of a dormant town, where big tragedies and small losses could all be part of a timeless dream." (78)
"The world was intolerant of men with sensitive hearts, but how many people would bother to look deeper into their souls, lonely for unspeakable reasons?" (117)
"The first time Meilan watched a hundred old people slow-dance to the song, she was overwhelmed by a bleakness that she had never known existed." (124)
"An old donkey who loved to chew on the fresh grass, they must have been saying behind his back. He'd better watch out for his stomach, some of them would perhaps say, but they forgot it was the heart that would kill a man; a man never died from indigestion." (127)
"Perhaps she blended in with the furniture well, but even a piece of good furniture might save someone's life by miracle." (146)
"... although she knew it was not the students that his mother missed but the white skulls of mammals and birds on her office shelves, the drawers filled with scalpels and clamps and tweezers that she had cleaned and maintained with care, and the fact that she could mask her indifference to the human species with her devotion to animals." (149)
"Freedom is like restaurant food, he once told an old friend in the States, and one can lose one's appetite for even the best restaurants." (152)
"There were snapshots of him when he had first arrived in America, with his bright-colored T-shirt, long and flying hair, and broad smile, as picturesque and unreal as the Statue of Liberty in the background." (154)
"They were lonely and sad people, all three of them, and they would not make one another less sad, but they could, with great care, make a world that would accommodate their loneliness." (162)