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Attraction Isn't a Choice
A hundred years ago Sigmund Freud, the father of modern psychology,
said that there was one question that he couldn’t answer: “What do women
want?” My opinion is that old Sigmund was asking the wrong question. He
was thinking about the situation all wrong. The question isn’t “What do
women want?”, but “What do women RESPOND to?”
Everyone knows that if you ask a woman “What do you want in a guy?”
she’ll answer with something like, “I want a NICE guy who comes from a
good family… honest, stable, dependable… etc.” Right? But we also know
that a lot of really attractive women on this planet seem to be found with
guys who are exactly the opposite. Let’s look at some of the top models of
all time. Why is it that all the super-models seem to date violent, drugaddicted,
unstable, wild rock stars? And why is it that every attractive
woman that has ever been interviewed in history has admitted to being
attracted to “bad boys”? I think you get the picture.
My point is that there’s a HUGE difference between what women say they
want and what women are attracted to. Women have many conflicting drives
going on inside. And in many cases women RESPOND to completely illogical
things – which are often very different than what they say that they “want”.
The question that I am going to attempt to solve in this book is, “How can I
make women feel this attraction that they feel for ‘bad boys’ without having
to be an abusive jerk?”
said that there was one question that he couldn’t answer: “What do women
want?” My opinion is that old Sigmund was asking the wrong question. He
was thinking about the situation all wrong. The question isn’t “What do
women want?”, but “What do women RESPOND to?”
Everyone knows that if you ask a woman “What do you want in a guy?”
she’ll answer with something like, “I want a NICE guy who comes from a
good family… honest, stable, dependable… etc.” Right? But we also know
that a lot of really attractive women on this planet seem to be found with
guys who are exactly the opposite. Let’s look at some of the top models of
all time. Why is it that all the super-models seem to date violent, drugaddicted,
unstable, wild rock stars? And why is it that every attractive
woman that has ever been interviewed in history has admitted to being
attracted to “bad boys”? I think you get the picture.
My point is that there’s a HUGE difference between what women say they
want and what women are attracted to. Women have many conflicting drives
going on inside. And in many cases women RESPOND to completely illogical
things – which are often very different than what they say that they “want”.
The question that I am going to attempt to solve in this book is, “How can I
make women feel this attraction that they feel for ‘bad boys’ without having
to be an abusive jerk?”
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First published April 4, 2011
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May 5, 2014
Everything was repeated so many times. Also, I felt like author spend more time assuring you how he will explain some things than actually explaining them.
September 16, 2023
- People's attraction aren't choices: that they're innately ingrained into people's head through evolution, not logic. Author argues that for any guys who doesn't get why girls like bad boys but not "a good guy": when you see a girl with perfect makeup and clothing, do you think rationally and say "oh woah she requires a lot of maintaince and in terms of personal finance she wouldn't have the return of capital?" Similarly, women's choice in men aren't "rational" either
December 6, 2016
Its a good book , its not really about getting girls but to be a person with good personality.
November 21, 2017
It is actually a cool and useful book, but Red Pill collection has much better books. This one is just average when compared to them.
February 20, 2021
This book should be read by all men, it's full of precious advice.
September 21, 2014
Great book, try it
May 24, 2016
A must read book, very easy to understand, interesting and revealing.
October 6, 2024
Not so long ago I became single after a very long relationship and I needed some guidance to hone my game again because I totally forgot how to get chicks, and so I stumbled upon this book.
I find this book funny, light, educating, and practical, and you will be able to learn the basics of charming women.
It talks about some of the evolutionary side of us humans - how does a woman think of her future man, and what is attraction and how does it actually work.
In the practical part it talks about how to use humor and teasing in order to create attraction in women and what are the behaviors of men that turn off women.
The only down side I find is It is VERY repetitive. Do yourself a favor and DO skip on stuff sometimes, it will save you tons of time, don’t worry you won’t miss anything.
I absolutely loved this book and I’d recommend it to anyone who seeks out guidance like me. Have fun reading!
I find this book funny, light, educating, and practical, and you will be able to learn the basics of charming women.
It talks about some of the evolutionary side of us humans - how does a woman think of her future man, and what is attraction and how does it actually work.
In the practical part it talks about how to use humor and teasing in order to create attraction in women and what are the behaviors of men that turn off women.
The only down side I find is It is VERY repetitive. Do yourself a favor and DO skip on stuff sometimes, it will save you tons of time, don’t worry you won’t miss anything.
I absolutely loved this book and I’d recommend it to anyone who seeks out guidance like me. Have fun reading!
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February 20, 2019
When David De Angelo says "Attraction isn't a Choice" What came to your mind first? What came to my mind was:
If you meet a girl, she is either attracted to you or she isn't attracted to you. And thats it. Period.
This was a very logical, concise way to put it, and it is mostly incorrect.
For people who haven't really looked into this, or gone out into the field and really scrutinized their interaction with women you may not have realized exactly what is meant.
Attraction isn't a choice. Key word.. Attraction. What is it? Why is it there? Why is it not a choice?
David says something along the lines of "Attraction is the human reaction to cause someone to want to mate with another with good genes."
Its there to spread genes. But is it a choice or not?
The answer is still no, Attraction isn't a choice, but here is why it isn't a choice?
Women are not attracted to "good looks" "dark skin" "toned body". They just find them very appealing. Women are attracted to how you make them feel! You don't make women feel good by dressing fancy and becoming tanned.
You make them feel good by being a man around them. An alpha. By being a high status male with values. Women don't have any choice BUT be attracted to you. Men who don't give up their emotions easily, sacrifice values and needs for anything less. Someone others look up to (social proof). Someone who knows and has things, but doesn't care to brag about them.
They may not like you, love you, or want you. In fact they may hate you. But they will be attracted to you. Without attraction, you can't take your relationship to the next level.
If you meet a girl, she is either attracted to you or she isn't attracted to you. And thats it. Period.
This was a very logical, concise way to put it, and it is mostly incorrect.
For people who haven't really looked into this, or gone out into the field and really scrutinized their interaction with women you may not have realized exactly what is meant.
Attraction isn't a choice. Key word.. Attraction. What is it? Why is it there? Why is it not a choice?
David says something along the lines of "Attraction is the human reaction to cause someone to want to mate with another with good genes."
Its there to spread genes. But is it a choice or not?
The answer is still no, Attraction isn't a choice, but here is why it isn't a choice?
Women are not attracted to "good looks" "dark skin" "toned body". They just find them very appealing. Women are attracted to how you make them feel! You don't make women feel good by dressing fancy and becoming tanned.
You make them feel good by being a man around them. An alpha. By being a high status male with values. Women don't have any choice BUT be attracted to you. Men who don't give up their emotions easily, sacrifice values and needs for anything less. Someone others look up to (social proof). Someone who knows and has things, but doesn't care to brag about them.
They may not like you, love you, or want you. In fact they may hate you. But they will be attracted to you. Without attraction, you can't take your relationship to the next level.
November 22, 2014
This is an interesting program, it argues that people are attracted through biological mechanisms; therefore, using things that cue biology will work best for you (and of course tells you how to do that). It's a rather fascinating argument and one that I normally would argue against (I think things are bio + culture), but I enjoyed this program very much nonetheless.
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