Awakening from Grief: Finding the Road Back to Joy

by John E. Welshons

AWAKENING FROM GRIEF is a treasure chest filled with heart-warming stories of growth, insightful, compassionate wisdom, and useful, inspirational help. It is a superb resource for those who are working to understand the confusing and difficult emotions surrounding loss. It will help the reader to develop a new perspective on loss . . . to recognize that rather than victimizing us, loss gives us the opportunity to develop a deeper experience of life, a deeper experience of love, and a profoundly expanded sense of happiness. It speaks directly to those who are dealing with the loss of a relationship, divorce, the death of a parent, the loss of a spouse, caring for an aging or sick relative, the loss of a child, alcoholic parents, and the illness or death of friends. It is a tremendous aid to those who are grieving, those who care for them, and those who wish to prepare for life's inevitable changes.

Genres: Self Help, Grief, Nonfiction

210 pages, Paperback

First published December 1, 1999

Reviews

[Dulcinea Contreras · Rating 5 out of 5]

‎"A powerful read for all humans that delves into all aspects of grief from loss via death, to the loss of a job, relationship, or friendship and focuses on the positive opportunities that arise from the deep changes that inevitably all human beings face along their very delicate life journey... a MUST read!" ~Dulcinea, September 2, 2010

[Tami Cook · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book saved me during the deepest grief of my life when my baby son passed away. I did awaken from grief with the help of these wonderful words.

[Nancy · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5 stars.
My favorite books on grief are the Christian ones. Those, for me, are the most helpful and comforting. This one is pretty secular. Welshons dabbles a bit in Christianity, along with most other religions, at some point in this book. I can't tell if he is trying to appeal to/please everyone who may read the book regardless of their religious persuasion, or if he believes in all of them personally?

In spite of the author's eclectic, pluralistic/all-over-the-place belief (?) system, which I could never quite nail down, and which made me almost quit the book pretty early on, this book turned out to be quite encouraging and comforting in many ways. As it progressed, it seemed to get better and come together, and Welshons grew on me along with his unique and odd personality and style. I could really see him helping to put a grieving person at ease and providing comfort and support quite effectively. Reading some sections of this book felt like getting a warm hug.

Then I learned that he graduated from USF (Go Bulls!) and that endeared him to me even more.

This book is a shining example of why older titles on the subject of grief are valuable. Just because it's 10+ years old doesn't mean it has outlived its usefulness. Oftentimes, the older, classic titles are the best. Human nature and the way we grieve doesn't change, nor does the way we can be comforted as we experience it.
If you are grieving, my heart goes out to you. May you find the peace and comfort you need. It gets better with time; promise.
Recommended.

[Becky · Rating 4 out of 5]

I had to push myself through the first half of this book. It consisted primarily of the author's personal experiences leading toward his work with death and dying. The second half contained more practical information and applicable techniques for those of us struggling to process profound grief. I am sure I will refer back to these sections many times in the years ahead.

[Regina Spiker · Rating 4 out of 5]

Grieving the loss of a loved one or relationship is devastating. It's not something that can be "overcome" or "gotten over" and shame to those people who think so. Loss must to be lived with and always carried. The more love, the more grief...as I go through my own grief journey...several beloved in just 2.5 years - this book is a small comfort...

[Sammi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Well written and it didn't make you feel stupid for your grief. It was light and hopeful.

[Douglas Lord · Rating 5 out of 5]

Welshons' book characterizes grief as a journey to one's self that one achieves by passing through the doors of sadness. Grief includes, but is not limited to, the mourning associated with death and takes the form of avoiding unpleasantness or disappointment. "Our entire culture," the author writes, "is built on maximizing pleasure through the systematic avoidance of grief" by avoiding, busying, distracting, and/or numbing ourselves. The energy we consume in avoidance detracts from our ability to embrace life's downs as well as its ups. Embracing tragedy, disappointment, and unpleasantness "can become the groundwork for tremendous growth and insight" in life. These opportunities--catalysts in disguise--provide a chance for "aliveness" "awareness," and "enthusiasm" to break through. Welshons, a student of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, previously self-published this title and sold 17,000 copies; his clear, direct style will hook readers. Highly recommended.

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[Paula · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this year's challenge of putting together integrative, effective grief support groups (from scratch), I came across this book. I appreciate that it is approachable and conversational in tone; but even more, I appreciate that the overall concept is that we never "get over" the loss of a loved one, but rather need to "lean in," embracing the change in our relationship, honoring and celebrating the memory of the person who has died, and developing a new way of being in light of all of that, in our own lives. The chapters from this that I've used with grief support group participants have been especially well-received and resonant with participants and their families.

[FSU Alumni]

John E. Welshons (M.A. '81)

[Tracy · Rating 5 out of 5]

One I will continually reread