Separated by Duty, United in Love: A Guide to Long-Distance Relationships for Military Couples

by Shellie Vandevoorde

Provides resources and advice for spouses of military personnel on coping with separation during active deployment, including insights on communication, finances, and dealing with post-traumatic stress.

Genres: Military Fiction, Self Help, Nonfiction

175 pages, Paperback

First published March 1, 2006

About the author

A 6-year Army veteran, devoted military wife and mother, author, speaker, fitness trainer and a former law enforcement officer.

Reviews

[Eric]

Newsflash: Deployments are tough on marriages. People change after traumatic life experiences. Overall, a good guide for military spouses trying to prepare for life's changes. Good tips on how to help kids deal with deployment.

[kayla]

I really tried to find the good in this book and although there were some things I agreed with wholeheartedly, I found sooo much of this content very troubling. Particularly the infidelity chapter is upsetting because the author more or less tells the reader that cheating on your S/O is forgivable and can even make your marriage stronger. I really think that is the LAST thing that service members and their spouses should be told.

[Catherine]

I am really enjoying this book! It does talk about some very common sense topics, however sometimes you need to read or be told about things that would otherwise be common sense when in a stressful situation. My soon to be husband is deployed as of now. Being apart is not something new to us, as we have been long distance quite a bit in our 4 years together, but reading this book helps put things in a different perspective. I have learned quite a bit from this book so far. I am looking forward to finishing it soon!

[Heather]

I would definitely recommend this book to any military spouse. It is very easy to read and provides some serious topics to talk over with your deployed spouse before he goes to make it easier while they are gone.

[Christina]

This was an infomative and insightful guide to how to survive deployments and military relationships in general. Didn't agree with every word, but her description of the "stages of deployment" were on par. Plus her ideas and list of resources were fantastic! Highly recommend it.

[Amber]

This is yet another good Military Spouse book. Very helpful so far.

[Brenda Madrigal]

A must have to all military spouses, really good!

[Michele]

A wonderful resource for the new military spouse as well as us old more seasoned gals.

[Kimi]

Back in 2005 my husband gave this book the day he left for another deployment. Great book.

[Dana Petrovski]

Pre americke zeny - velmi dobre a prakticke.. Pre ostatnych - prva polovica knihy ok, da sa nieco uzitocne vybrat.. Pripravilo ma to na moje polrocne odlucenia od vojaka? Nie :-D Ale s tym sa tak nejako pocita, clovek moze precitat aj milion knih o tom, a aj tak ma to zasiahne ako kamion :-D Z tych par, co som o tejto tematike precitala, bola tato zatial najpraktickejsia...