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10 Things For Teen Girls
The world is run by teen girls: parents of teen girls, teachers of teen girls, boys trying to date teen girls, feminists who want to empower teen girls, companies trying to sell things to teen girls, and people who have had it “up to here” with teen girls. Chances are if you’re reading this, there is a young woman in your life for whom you desire the very best, and 10 Things for Teen Girls can help with that. Based on student minister Kate Conner’s runaway blog post, this book answers a lot of important questions: Why should I follow my heart? Should I care what other people think of me? Why are boys only interested in my body? How do I handle my emotions? Am I beautiful? Am I enough? Teen girls have already heard the typical shtick about how they need to dress modestly, or how they shouldn’t care what others think of them, but it doesn’t suffice. Rooted in biblical wisdom and interspersed with candid stories of the modern teenage experience, Conner’s imparts common (and all too uncommon) sense.
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208 pages, Paperback
Published August 1, 2014
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About the author
Kate Conner
3 books7 followersKate Elizabeth Conner is a 27-year-old writer, speaker, and first generation southerner who spends her days learning braille, counseling teenagers via text message, and adjusting to life in middle Georgia. She is married to a college pastor and has three impossibly beautiful children who only make her crazy 97% of the time. Kate authors a self-titled blog, which received more than three million views in two years, due in part to her viral post, 10 Things I Want To Tell Teenage Girls. Kate writes about surviving parenthood, teenagers, and her twenties with her faith and sense of humor intact. She believes in music, coffee, and prose – and in all the world, nothing has taken hold of her like Christ.
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January 10, 2023
This book started off a little rocky, however the last few chapters were really good, and made it more of a 3.5 star. There was nothing wrong with the theology, sometimes she just presented stuff in an odd way (ok, the whole first chapter had me uncomfortable). if you get past the first chapter though, i think you might enjoy it!
December 14, 2017
This book is intended for your teenage daughter to read while reading - Enough which is for the adult. I still got a lot out of it and am excited about sharing it with my daughters. I hope they can realize they are enough.
May 26, 2017
If I could give this more stars, I would. I LOVED this book. So much that anyone who's been around me for the past couple of days has heard all about it.
I read this to decide if I should give it to Boo (12) and I'm going to give it to her NOW. And again in a couple of years. And again a couple of years after that.
Here's what parents should know-- this is a Christian/Bible-based book. It's not the same flavor of Christianity that I subscribe to, so the vocabulary (and translation of the Bible) is not what my kids are used to. It's all good, we'll talk about it.
There is some discussion of sex. Also prostitution, sex trafficking, cutting, and eating disorders.
I would recommend this to girls 12 and up, though depending on the girl it might be appropriate as early as 10.
I plan to acquire a copy and mark it up and make all my girls read it over and over.
Overall, I'd suggest parents read it, if only to be able to better talk to their teen about it.
I read this to decide if I should give it to Boo (12) and I'm going to give it to her NOW. And again in a couple of years. And again a couple of years after that.
Here's what parents should know-- this is a Christian/Bible-based book. It's not the same flavor of Christianity that I subscribe to, so the vocabulary (and translation of the Bible) is not what my kids are used to. It's all good, we'll talk about it.
There is some discussion of sex. Also prostitution, sex trafficking, cutting, and eating disorders.
I would recommend this to girls 12 and up, though depending on the girl it might be appropriate as early as 10.
I plan to acquire a copy and mark it up and make all my girls read it over and over.
Overall, I'd suggest parents read it, if only to be able to better talk to their teen about it.
August 25, 2018
This book was so good! So approachable and down to earth. I will give it to Adele in a year or two. Great guidelines on modesty, social media, having emotions but not being a slave to them, responding instead of reacting, treating people right, drugs, boys, etc.
My favorite quote from the book, which she is quoting a Dr Ted Roberts, says:
“Maturity is not a vague philosophical concept, but a trained ability to meet the demands of reality.” (114)
I am still working on being fully mature in some ways. I feel like I’m constantly faced with realities that I don’t want to deal with, but I’ve started making a focused effort to deal with those things head-on, and shoulder my fair share of the workload, physical and mental. It’s been good for me.
My favorite quote from the book, which she is quoting a Dr Ted Roberts, says:
“Maturity is not a vague philosophical concept, but a trained ability to meet the demands of reality.” (114)
I am still working on being fully mature in some ways. I feel like I’m constantly faced with realities that I don’t want to deal with, but I’ve started making a focused effort to deal with those things head-on, and shoulder my fair share of the workload, physical and mental. It’s been good for me.
August 9, 2023
As an older teen the things in this book didn’t quite hit has hard to me compared to how they might have if I was younger. However, I still thought the things mentioned in this book were true. Things like: the world will never tell you that you look good enough, they always want to chasing what you aren’t; and don’t act dumb to get a boy’s attention, it’s not worth it! Overall it was a good book!
April 17, 2018
Kate Connor has some of the best advice for teen girls! Her book gives you life lessons and a few laughs also. I recently started highlighting important phrases and lessons in this book, and now my book is almost completely highlighted! I would totally recommend that you read this book!
July 2, 2018
I used this book to teach an adult Sunday school lesson series for couples with teenagers. For that purpose it was just ok - I was able to pull 3 lessons out of it. However, I read over some of the pages with my teenage daughters and had some good dialogue with them.
June 28, 2024
This is literally on of my favorite books for teen girls! I read it for the first time a few years back (as a teenager) and the writing was so well done and the content was profound. Can't recommend this book enough.
December 8, 2018
More of a 3.5
March 3, 2019
This book for me was a funny, brutally honest, inspiring slap in the face that I really needed. It was wake up call that made me take a second look at the way I’ve been living.
April 22, 2019
Great writing style, especially for teens. Heavy Christian slant (good for me, maybe not everyone).
January 25, 2021
There is a lot of great advice and helpful info with wisdom for teen girls :)
October 21, 2014
As the father of a teenage daughter, I am increasingly keenly aware of the massive influence her peers and society at large has on her thoughts and actions. From One Direction to the latest clothing fad to the most recent manner by which to twist a positive word into a negative connotation, the parade of pressure on the youth of today to conform to societal “norms” seems to not want to let up. Thus, I greatly appreciate it when great books come along that are geared towards teenage girls in an effort to clearly delineate the difference between the clamor of society and its every shifting sands and the firm foundation of biblical truth. Kate Conner’s book 10 Things for Teen Girls firmly resides in the category of needed reminders for today’s youth of that sound biblical truth.
This book had its genesis in a blog post by Conner that went viral, so viral in fact that it received two million views in a span of only two weeks. Recognizing that what she was addressing had hit home, Conner wrote this particular book to further elaborate on the salient points she had discussed in her blog post. In 10 Things for Teen Girls, Conner addresses a wide range of relevant subjects including modesty, the temptation to alter your physical appearance to conform, issues regarding social media, relationship drama, following your passion and dreams, emotions, the need to belong, perceptions, and the need for teenage girls to realize they are beautiful in God’s eyes.
My wife and I utilized this book as part of our daughter’s homeschool reading and bible curriculum. At first our daughter was a bit resistant to read a book she assumed was full of information she already knew. However, as she began to work her way through the biblically based and relevant concepts Conner shares throughout the book, our daughter began to quickly realize that she faces in some form or fashion each and every issue that is discussed. We found the principles and stories in this book to be timely, helpful, and accessible to our 13 year old daughter. Most importantly, Conner insights are full of biblical truth. Whether our daughter will readily admit it or not, we were able to observe through her actions following the completion of each chapter as well as conversations with her about what she read each day that this book had a positive impact on her outlook on the many issues Conner addresses.
For instance, concerning the issue of wearing appropriate clothing, Conner rightly notes that “modesty is not a dirty Christian word. It’s not oppressive or archaic.” Furthermore, she quite frankly and rightfully so notes that boys are attracted to girls bodies because of the reality that what God made is beautiful. In this time of adolescence when hormones are raging like a pot of boiling water, wearing immodest clothing only serves to stir up emotions and physical actions that should await their proper time. Conner aptly comments, “Sweet sisters, all attention is not equal. You think you want attention, but you don’t. You want respect. Use modesty as a tool to pursue that which is greater: admiration, respect, and love.” In a sex crazed society that seems to especially focus on every younger children, hearing this message of the need for modesty is sorely needed.
I highly recommend this book for parents to purchase for their children. Furthermore, I truly encourage parents to read this book as well. Conner includes some very helpful points for discussion at the end of each chapter that would be perfect for family bible study or even in a youth group setting. This book would also be useful as part of a homeschool curriculum, either for reading class or bible class. However you utilize this book, it will greatly benefit your teenage daughter.
I received this book for free from B&H Books for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
This book had its genesis in a blog post by Conner that went viral, so viral in fact that it received two million views in a span of only two weeks. Recognizing that what she was addressing had hit home, Conner wrote this particular book to further elaborate on the salient points she had discussed in her blog post. In 10 Things for Teen Girls, Conner addresses a wide range of relevant subjects including modesty, the temptation to alter your physical appearance to conform, issues regarding social media, relationship drama, following your passion and dreams, emotions, the need to belong, perceptions, and the need for teenage girls to realize they are beautiful in God’s eyes.
My wife and I utilized this book as part of our daughter’s homeschool reading and bible curriculum. At first our daughter was a bit resistant to read a book she assumed was full of information she already knew. However, as she began to work her way through the biblically based and relevant concepts Conner shares throughout the book, our daughter began to quickly realize that she faces in some form or fashion each and every issue that is discussed. We found the principles and stories in this book to be timely, helpful, and accessible to our 13 year old daughter. Most importantly, Conner insights are full of biblical truth. Whether our daughter will readily admit it or not, we were able to observe through her actions following the completion of each chapter as well as conversations with her about what she read each day that this book had a positive impact on her outlook on the many issues Conner addresses.
For instance, concerning the issue of wearing appropriate clothing, Conner rightly notes that “modesty is not a dirty Christian word. It’s not oppressive or archaic.” Furthermore, she quite frankly and rightfully so notes that boys are attracted to girls bodies because of the reality that what God made is beautiful. In this time of adolescence when hormones are raging like a pot of boiling water, wearing immodest clothing only serves to stir up emotions and physical actions that should await their proper time. Conner aptly comments, “Sweet sisters, all attention is not equal. You think you want attention, but you don’t. You want respect. Use modesty as a tool to pursue that which is greater: admiration, respect, and love.” In a sex crazed society that seems to especially focus on every younger children, hearing this message of the need for modesty is sorely needed.
I highly recommend this book for parents to purchase for their children. Furthermore, I truly encourage parents to read this book as well. Conner includes some very helpful points for discussion at the end of each chapter that would be perfect for family bible study or even in a youth group setting. This book would also be useful as part of a homeschool curriculum, either for reading class or bible class. However you utilize this book, it will greatly benefit your teenage daughter.
I received this book for free from B&H Books for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
August 12, 2019
This book was really interesting, I had it from a youth event a long time ago and had never gotten around to reading it. It had some different viewpoints and little bits of life advice aimed towards teens, it was just a really uplifting book and I would recommend to anyone looking for some advice or guidance through the teen years.
August 30, 2014
You are beautiful. You are valuable. You are enough. Those three little phrases are what women, young and old, all long to hear. Yet in this crazy world of hyper-sexualism those words seem to get drowned out by others that begin to erode the very essence of who we were created to be.
In 2012 Kate wrote a spur of the moment blog post entitled Ten Things I Want To Tell Teenage Girls. In a short span of time the post went viral. Why? I would guess that it is because it spoke truth to fables that we have been trying desperately to make into reality. What are the 10 things you ask? I'll give them to you:
1. If you choose to wear shirts that show off your boobs, you will attract boys.
2. Don’t go to the tanning bed.
3. When you talk about your friends “anonymously” on Facebook, we know exactly who you’re talking about.
4. Newsflash: the number of times you say “I hate drama” is a pretty good indicator of how much you love drama.
5. “Follow your heart” is probably the worst advice ever.
6. Never let a man make you feel weak or inferior because you are an emotional being.
7. Smoking is not cool.
8. Stop saying things like, “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me.”
9. Don’t play coy or stupid or helpless to get attention.
10. You are beautiful. You are enough.
If you're a momma you're probably nodding your head and giving a great big hallelujah! If you're a teen girl, it is quite possible you're rolling your eyes. For both of those very reasons you need to get a copy of each of these books. Read them together. Each chapter in each book coincides with the other book.
I know what you're thinking . . . you've already given us the link to the blog post and the list of the 10 things. Why should we get the books? As I said earlier, Kate wrote the post on a whim. In the books she delves deeper and expounds on each subject. As a momma I'm telling you there is nothing more important than instilling in your girl that she is valued. She is a child of the King. She is royalty and she should learn to act like it. Someone gave His very life for her. She needs to know these truths. You need to know these truths! If you have a little bitty girl, get the books now and read them over and over so you will have a head start on raising her to know that above all things she is enough.
We all know I'm a crazy reader. If it has words, I'm reading it! But I do realize that not everyone is as taken with reading as I am. So hear my heart on this. If you get only one book, get Enough. Then read chapter 10 and absorb it until it is part of your very essence. Then love your daughter enough to share it with her until the truth contained becomes part of who she is as well.
These books would make a fabulous small group study in your youth group. Make a retreat weekend out of it. Get copies of 10 Things For Teen Girls for all the teen girls and copies of Enough for all the adult women leaders. If we could instill these truths into all the girls in our circles of influence we could change a generation. Remember, If God Is For Us . . . Who Can Stand Against Us?!!
I received a copy of this book to facilitate my review.
In 2012 Kate wrote a spur of the moment blog post entitled Ten Things I Want To Tell Teenage Girls. In a short span of time the post went viral. Why? I would guess that it is because it spoke truth to fables that we have been trying desperately to make into reality. What are the 10 things you ask? I'll give them to you:
1. If you choose to wear shirts that show off your boobs, you will attract boys.
2. Don’t go to the tanning bed.
3. When you talk about your friends “anonymously” on Facebook, we know exactly who you’re talking about.
4. Newsflash: the number of times you say “I hate drama” is a pretty good indicator of how much you love drama.
5. “Follow your heart” is probably the worst advice ever.
6. Never let a man make you feel weak or inferior because you are an emotional being.
7. Smoking is not cool.
8. Stop saying things like, “I don’t care what anyone thinks about me.”
9. Don’t play coy or stupid or helpless to get attention.
10. You are beautiful. You are enough.
If you're a momma you're probably nodding your head and giving a great big hallelujah! If you're a teen girl, it is quite possible you're rolling your eyes. For both of those very reasons you need to get a copy of each of these books. Read them together. Each chapter in each book coincides with the other book.
I know what you're thinking . . . you've already given us the link to the blog post and the list of the 10 things. Why should we get the books? As I said earlier, Kate wrote the post on a whim. In the books she delves deeper and expounds on each subject. As a momma I'm telling you there is nothing more important than instilling in your girl that she is valued. She is a child of the King. She is royalty and she should learn to act like it. Someone gave His very life for her. She needs to know these truths. You need to know these truths! If you have a little bitty girl, get the books now and read them over and over so you will have a head start on raising her to know that above all things she is enough.
We all know I'm a crazy reader. If it has words, I'm reading it! But I do realize that not everyone is as taken with reading as I am. So hear my heart on this. If you get only one book, get Enough. Then read chapter 10 and absorb it until it is part of your very essence. Then love your daughter enough to share it with her until the truth contained becomes part of who she is as well.
These books would make a fabulous small group study in your youth group. Make a retreat weekend out of it. Get copies of 10 Things For Teen Girls for all the teen girls and copies of Enough for all the adult women leaders. If we could instill these truths into all the girls in our circles of influence we could change a generation. Remember, If God Is For Us . . . Who Can Stand Against Us?!!
I received a copy of this book to facilitate my review.
November 8, 2014
In her book 10 things for Teen Girls, Kate Conner tackles topics that are often difficult to breech with our teens. Do your attempts to discuss modesty, emotions, social media usage, or peer issues (aka drama) with your teen lead to eye-rolling or worse - shouting matches?! Does your teen know that her value comes from her Creator God who has designed her with special gifts, talents, and passions? Without mincing words, Kate Conner gets straight to the heart of these issues! She speaks the truth which our girls need to hear; in a way that will be well received because it is seasoned with grace, love, and well timed humor.
As a mom, I’m still 7 years away from having my own daughter enter her teens. However, I work with teen girls every week at a crisis pregnancy center. I would love to get this book into the hands of every one of them. Every teen needs a parent(s) or a loving adult who cares enough, who is bold enough and willing to take the time to share these principles. Kate uses her own misadventures, stories and examples from her ministry, as well as key scriptures to convey her message without causing teens to tune out. By doing so our girls gain a greater appreciation of their femininity, their potential, and their purpose. If you have hit a roadblock with your teen or are unsure of where to start then get a copy of 10 Things for Teen Girls. Read it for yourself and then give it to her. Better yet, read it together so she can ask you questions, you can affirm the books biblical messages, and you can both get a good laugh.
Beyond personal use, this book would be great for churches or homeschool groups to use with a small group of teen girls. There are discussion questions at the end of every chapter. I can’t say enough about this book other than it is a #mustread for teens and their parents. I enthusiastically award 10 Things for Teen Girls 5/5 stars!!!
Find pinnacle images of my favorite quotes on my blog: http://christianshelfesteem.wordpress...
**I received this book free as a member of the Family Christian Blogger program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
As a mom, I’m still 7 years away from having my own daughter enter her teens. However, I work with teen girls every week at a crisis pregnancy center. I would love to get this book into the hands of every one of them. Every teen needs a parent(s) or a loving adult who cares enough, who is bold enough and willing to take the time to share these principles. Kate uses her own misadventures, stories and examples from her ministry, as well as key scriptures to convey her message without causing teens to tune out. By doing so our girls gain a greater appreciation of their femininity, their potential, and their purpose. If you have hit a roadblock with your teen or are unsure of where to start then get a copy of 10 Things for Teen Girls. Read it for yourself and then give it to her. Better yet, read it together so she can ask you questions, you can affirm the books biblical messages, and you can both get a good laugh.
Beyond personal use, this book would be great for churches or homeschool groups to use with a small group of teen girls. There are discussion questions at the end of every chapter. I can’t say enough about this book other than it is a #mustread for teens and their parents. I enthusiastically award 10 Things for Teen Girls 5/5 stars!!!
Find pinnacle images of my favorite quotes on my blog: http://christianshelfesteem.wordpress...
**I received this book free as a member of the Family Christian Blogger program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
May 21, 2016
Nearly identical to "Enough" but this is tweaked to speak directly to the teen girls. The stories and words are all the same otherwise. And both books are gold for teen girls and the parents (maybe more mothers) who love them. The original blog post is now a summary of the book in the Appendix. I love that the iBook version of the notes are also links so you can go between the statement and its source or a note of Kate's. This version has easy questions at the end of each chapter for the girls to consider before moving on.
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September 11, 2015This book is purely amazing. So far I am 93 pages into this. This book is great for teen girls. It has great Godly information to help you achieve your goals, follow your dreams, and become a strong, independent woman. The author, Kate Conner, is very inspirational and seems to be a very good mentor towards teenage girls.
January 25, 2017
I love these type books because you learn something new about yourself with every page! This book helps put into reality and discuss some of the issues that the world presents to teen girls and how to overcome them through faith. This book is beautifully written and is an easy read but you find yourself stopping to think after every page and that's why I love this book!
February 1, 2015
This is a very wonderful book. I want to give this book to every 14 year old girl I know--heck, I want to give this to every girl I know regardless of age. I broke down crying at least four times while reading, because 9 times out of 10, Kate Conner just gets it.
February 19, 2015
Full review to follow.
September 12, 2015
This is an awesome book! Great, common sense, reassurance for girls of ANY age! Seek your worth in God, not man or the world. You are enough. Great book!
March 24, 2017
Charming, funny, endearing, and convicting. I really adored this book for teen girls. I would definitely recommend it to any pre-teens, teens, or adults who work with young girls. Kate's candid approach to topics like modesty, having a verbal filter, your emotions, and who should/shouldn't influence your life were on point and relevant.
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