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He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Decoding Guys
The He’s Just Not That Into You for the iPhone generation—a frank, funny, and refreshingly helpful guide to dating in the age of social media from the creators of the wildly popular blog HeTexted.com.
You’re a busy, intelligent, modern woman. You stay on top of work e-mail. You “like” all the baby photos your sister posts on Facebook. You found your dream job through LinkedIn. But when your crush texts you “Sup?” every few days, yet never asks you out, what the hell does that mean?
These days, dating is more confusing than ever. Friending? Following? Liking? Poking? Linking? LOLing? WTF? In an era when FaceTime is no longer the same as face-toface, it’s no wonder you can’t tell if he’s into you or just really into his iPhone.
This hilarious and essential guide from the founders of HeTexted.com—with totally straightforward guy sight from the HeTexted Bros—will help you autocorrect your digital dating life, from decoding your Facebook friendships, to reading the intentions behind guys’ perplexing texts, to deciding when—if ever—you should text him first. It’s He’s Just Not That Into You for the digital age and What to Expect When You’re Expecting . . . a second date —all in one invaluable package!
You’re a busy, intelligent, modern woman. You stay on top of work e-mail. You “like” all the baby photos your sister posts on Facebook. You found your dream job through LinkedIn. But when your crush texts you “Sup?” every few days, yet never asks you out, what the hell does that mean?
These days, dating is more confusing than ever. Friending? Following? Liking? Poking? Linking? LOLing? WTF? In an era when FaceTime is no longer the same as face-toface, it’s no wonder you can’t tell if he’s into you or just really into his iPhone.
This hilarious and essential guide from the founders of HeTexted.com—with totally straightforward guy sight from the HeTexted Bros—will help you autocorrect your digital dating life, from decoding your Facebook friendships, to reading the intentions behind guys’ perplexing texts, to deciding when—if ever—you should text him first. It’s He’s Just Not That Into You for the digital age and What to Expect When You’re Expecting . . . a second date —all in one invaluable package!
272 pages, Hardcover
First published April 15, 2014
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January 5, 2014
While I think this is a very pertinent and important topic in this day and age, the text left something to be desired. Perhaps this book was written for a certain type of woman and I was just not a part of that demographic. I was hoping for something substantive and was left wanting. I was also not happy with the characterizations in the book about the "typical woman" and the "classic" man.
December 9, 2013
while it has some amusing (and some cringe-worthy) texting screenshots, I wouldn't call it the "He's Just Not That Into You" for the digital age.
Maybe I'm not the right demographic and didn't really get it, but I didn't find the conclusions of the guys to be that helpful in interpreting the texts. I admit I belong to the over 30 crowd, and I am one of those who find excessive texting annoying.
Maybe I'm not the right demographic and didn't really get it, but I didn't find the conclusions of the guys to be that helpful in interpreting the texts. I admit I belong to the over 30 crowd, and I am one of those who find excessive texting annoying.
December 3, 2014
*I borrowed He Texted by Lisa Winning & Carrie McDermott from the borrow program at Barnes & Noble, and the following is my honest review.
To be completely honest, I am not so sure why I decided to pick up He Texted. I guess I just thought that it seemed quite interesting when I saw it at work. That and because I do have a serious texting problem, and was completely single when starting this book. I thought, why not I’ll just read it and see what it has to say about texting and boys.
It ended up being interesting. I enjoyed the way the book was set up very much. Each chapter had its own subject corresponding to something guys do. For example, one chapter was called “He Loves You” and that chapter goes into detail about the different ways males express their love, which ways are significant, and which ways are not. This book was filled with interesting information, I actually found a couple things useful that I will remember from now on.
A nice aspect of the book was that the two ladies writing this book used real males to back up their theories. After the introduction to the chapter, both ladies had a page or two explaining the situation, and or giving examples. Then the three males would give their ideas as well. I liked when they shared their thoughts because it did not seem fake. Everything they said seemed like it would make sense when thinking about the specific topic.
For a book found in the self help section I found it enjoyable to read, and easy to keep up with. It easily earned a 5 out of 5 stars. There was not an overwhelming amount of information in this book. It was more or less a pick and choose what you wanted to keep with you and that is fine for a book like this. I would recommend this to anyone who is looking for an interesting read about topics like the different aspects of texting boys, dating, and social media. Even if you don’t have a problem or you don’t think you do, you might read something useful. I certainly did.
To be completely honest, I am not so sure why I decided to pick up He Texted. I guess I just thought that it seemed quite interesting when I saw it at work. That and because I do have a serious texting problem, and was completely single when starting this book. I thought, why not I’ll just read it and see what it has to say about texting and boys.
It ended up being interesting. I enjoyed the way the book was set up very much. Each chapter had its own subject corresponding to something guys do. For example, one chapter was called “He Loves You” and that chapter goes into detail about the different ways males express their love, which ways are significant, and which ways are not. This book was filled with interesting information, I actually found a couple things useful that I will remember from now on.
A nice aspect of the book was that the two ladies writing this book used real males to back up their theories. After the introduction to the chapter, both ladies had a page or two explaining the situation, and or giving examples. Then the three males would give their ideas as well. I liked when they shared their thoughts because it did not seem fake. Everything they said seemed like it would make sense when thinking about the specific topic.
For a book found in the self help section I found it enjoyable to read, and easy to keep up with. It easily earned a 5 out of 5 stars. There was not an overwhelming amount of information in this book. It was more or less a pick and choose what you wanted to keep with you and that is fine for a book like this. I would recommend this to anyone who is looking for an interesting read about topics like the different aspects of texting boys, dating, and social media. Even if you don’t have a problem or you don’t think you do, you might read something useful. I certainly did.
January 21, 2014
I like reading about social media so this book caught my eye. It's about how people today date with their phones and texting. Dating sure has changed!
The chapters cover different topics and include getting friended on FaceBook and what to have on your timeline, group texting, "abbreving" (using abbreviations rather than putting the effort into using words), sexting, lying, using emoticons (apparently not cool for a guy to use them), booty texting, getting dumped by text and the appropriateness of saying "I love you" for the first time by text rather than face-to-face.
Each chapter is set up by the authors who give their opinion. And then three resident "bros" give their input. The chapter ends with "wants" and "do not wants".
I have a work-issued cell phone. I'm not much of a cell phone user and I don't do a lot of texting. My Kobo Arc is always in my purse and that keeps me connected if I want to be to check Facebook and emails where there's WIFI.
It drives me crazy that the younger generations are so addicted to their cell phones and texting ... walking along the sidewalk or crossing streets with their heads' down not caring if they are going to walk into people or get hit by cars. It's sad to see couples out for supper and both are spending their time with their phones rather than each other. Or dads at baseball games with their sons but they are paying more attention to their phone. Put the phones down, folks, and enjoy who you are with!
I tried to like this book but I'm not a fan. As I said, I don't text a lot and I can't imagine hiding behind my phone if I was dating. Plus I found that the depiction of women made us seem desperate and pathetic and men seemed like slimy dogs and losers.
As a head's up, the language at times is for mature readers.
Blog review post: http://www.teenaintoronto.com/2014/01...
The chapters cover different topics and include getting friended on FaceBook and what to have on your timeline, group texting, "abbreving" (using abbreviations rather than putting the effort into using words), sexting, lying, using emoticons (apparently not cool for a guy to use them), booty texting, getting dumped by text and the appropriateness of saying "I love you" for the first time by text rather than face-to-face.
Each chapter is set up by the authors who give their opinion. And then three resident "bros" give their input. The chapter ends with "wants" and "do not wants".
I have a work-issued cell phone. I'm not much of a cell phone user and I don't do a lot of texting. My Kobo Arc is always in my purse and that keeps me connected if I want to be to check Facebook and emails where there's WIFI.
It drives me crazy that the younger generations are so addicted to their cell phones and texting ... walking along the sidewalk or crossing streets with their heads' down not caring if they are going to walk into people or get hit by cars. It's sad to see couples out for supper and both are spending their time with their phones rather than each other. Or dads at baseball games with their sons but they are paying more attention to their phone. Put the phones down, folks, and enjoy who you are with!
I tried to like this book but I'm not a fan. As I said, I don't text a lot and I can't imagine hiding behind my phone if I was dating. Plus I found that the depiction of women made us seem desperate and pathetic and men seemed like slimy dogs and losers.
As a head's up, the language at times is for mature readers.
Blog review post: http://www.teenaintoronto.com/2014/01...
October 27, 2014
Full Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
My Thoughts: Wait a minute… this happens to other people too? I never would have guessed! He Texted was not what I expected it to be going in. I’d never visited the website or even heard of it. At first I thought, “Great, more people trying to make money off of a single person’s cluelessness.” I expected the authors to mention a general digital dating topic and make a statement about it and maybe have a common example (text, facebook message, etc.) with their interpretation of the meaning. Basically women giving their advice on what men were thinking. I could not have been more wrong if I’d tried.
The explanations and anecdotes from the authors made it easy to relate to them and realize you’re not the only one that wishes they could take back a few social media/texting gaffes. Then there are the “Bros.” Why didn’t someone think of this sooner?! In the book there’s advice on each topic from 3 different guys. Their advice is blunt and straightforward…exactly how I wish dating was (I’m what you might call oblivious). There were some situations that I read through thinking, “how did that person not realize they’d pole-vaulted way over the line for crazy?” But as the book points out, when you’re in the moment it’s hard to take a step back and say, “I need to take a chill pill.” He Texted was filled with great stories and good advice within the non-fiction book realm. It doesn’t hurt that it’s funny too. I would recommend He Texted without hesitation, especially if you want a laugh.
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My Thoughts: Wait a minute… this happens to other people too? I never would have guessed! He Texted was not what I expected it to be going in. I’d never visited the website or even heard of it. At first I thought, “Great, more people trying to make money off of a single person’s cluelessness.” I expected the authors to mention a general digital dating topic and make a statement about it and maybe have a common example (text, facebook message, etc.) with their interpretation of the meaning. Basically women giving their advice on what men were thinking. I could not have been more wrong if I’d tried.
The explanations and anecdotes from the authors made it easy to relate to them and realize you’re not the only one that wishes they could take back a few social media/texting gaffes. Then there are the “Bros.” Why didn’t someone think of this sooner?! In the book there’s advice on each topic from 3 different guys. Their advice is blunt and straightforward…exactly how I wish dating was (I’m what you might call oblivious). There were some situations that I read through thinking, “how did that person not realize they’d pole-vaulted way over the line for crazy?” But as the book points out, when you’re in the moment it’s hard to take a step back and say, “I need to take a chill pill.” He Texted was filled with great stories and good advice within the non-fiction book realm. It doesn’t hurt that it’s funny too. I would recommend He Texted without hesitation, especially if you want a laugh.
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April 9, 2014
This book certainly fell short for me. When I picked it up I was working on a new relationship and was hoping to get some really good insight on the dating world of today but honestly, there was nothing in this book I didn't already know and I felt as though it was definitely aimed at a younger demographic of clueless people.
I get the concept and understand where these people are coming from and enjoyed the format having the men chime in with their opinions but I think they could have done a lot better--I could have done a lot better and hoped "experts" could tell me a bit more than I already knew. Perhaps if they consulted with some actual experts or read other dating books they might have gone a bit further with this book. Maybe I am just too old now.
I get the concept and understand where these people are coming from and enjoyed the format having the men chime in with their opinions but I think they could have done a lot better--I could have done a lot better and hoped "experts" could tell me a bit more than I already knew. Perhaps if they consulted with some actual experts or read other dating books they might have gone a bit further with this book. Maybe I am just too old now.
March 16, 2014
Hope the edit it before releasing! More common sense than advice.
August 21, 2017
"He Texted" was a pretty blunt, yet humorous look at the many text messages males send, "hidden" messages that may be behind those texts, the way women look into them way more than we should. Fro'm the viewpoints of three men (all with different relationship statuses) with the authors Lisa Winnings and Carrie Henderson- McDermott , the book offers a gutsy look at the world of texting and Facebook. It was a great one.
May 31, 2017
Cute, quick read, but totally geared to the 20-something reader, kinda alienating anyone over 35. All common sense, nothing new. And the text screen shots were very hard to read.
August 29, 2020
pretty common sense, but a fun read! even though it was written in 2014, it's definitely out dated already
December 19, 2015
I won a copy of this book from the Goodreads First Reads Giveaway program.
For me, this is the modern version of He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys. While trying to get to know a guy and date we're dealing with Facebook, Twitter, Apps, dating sites, Skype, and texting. Always texting. So. Much. Texting!
Lisa and Carrie started HeTexted.com, a site to receive peer advice to decode what a guy really means. Questioning if a guy actually likes you or is an incorrigible flirt looking for a hookup? Post a screenshot and others will weigh in. There's even a section to seek out more private advice from actual guys.
So, that's what started this book, which is broken down into different things a guy can do to communicate in this digital age. Things like adding you on Facebook, ranting, sexting, emoji and emoticon usage, all the way to texting vs. saying "I love you" in person. Lisa, Carrie, and three "bros" weigh in throughout. There are also image examples of texting conversations pulled from the site.
Now, lets get into what I personally thought. Me, being me, I took notes. I knew some things I was not going to agree with and other things would completely speak to me. I wanted to make sure I kept track. Hello yellow sticky notes. I also felt I probably wasn't necessarily the target demographic with this book. At the end of it all I realized no matter what you've got going on everyone's probably run into some of the scenarios being tackled here, and we've all for sure been confused about a love interest at some point.
I got through the first chapter entitled He Friended and immediately asked this new guy I've been talking to for about a month if he only looked through my pictures or checked out other parts of my page. He'd only looked at my pics. Throughout the month I'd skimmed his wall, gone through his liked music pages, and even ended up on his sister's and mother's profiles. Ok, so the book has men and women pretty much pegged right so far.
About half way through the book there's the He Updated chapter. This is probably the only chapter that actually irritated me. "Women are right to examine his Wall... Everything you need to know about a guy is right there on it." NO! That's not true at all. Want to know why? Because I am not MY wall. Let me bury you under a mountain of salt you should be taking this chapter with. I know how to make lists on FB or change custom settings and hide things from entire groups of people, or just one. I loved the section about a guy's handle on FB. Um no I didn't. If his name isn't his real name and he's made up some crap just report it. Seriously. It's against the TOS on FB.
And for the love of all that is holy, this book needs to stop referencing things like Star Wars or Harry Potter. It's painful because they don't really get it right. This fan does not appreciate it.
A few pages later this book is redeemed for me. The last half is a bit more serious. There are little nuggets we all need to absorb and live by. I actually gave some succinct advice from Kenny in the E Txd chapter to my best friend, who happens to be a guy. Proof that some advice goes both ways. It works for everyone. He was confused about a girl being busy. Too busy to text. A BS excuse I've heard more times than I can count. Replace busy with neglectful and don't suffer through someone keeping you waiting for days on end.
For me, this is the modern version of He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys. While trying to get to know a guy and date we're dealing with Facebook, Twitter, Apps, dating sites, Skype, and texting. Always texting. So. Much. Texting!
Lisa and Carrie started HeTexted.com, a site to receive peer advice to decode what a guy really means. Questioning if a guy actually likes you or is an incorrigible flirt looking for a hookup? Post a screenshot and others will weigh in. There's even a section to seek out more private advice from actual guys.
So, that's what started this book, which is broken down into different things a guy can do to communicate in this digital age. Things like adding you on Facebook, ranting, sexting, emoji and emoticon usage, all the way to texting vs. saying "I love you" in person. Lisa, Carrie, and three "bros" weigh in throughout. There are also image examples of texting conversations pulled from the site.
Now, lets get into what I personally thought. Me, being me, I took notes. I knew some things I was not going to agree with and other things would completely speak to me. I wanted to make sure I kept track. Hello yellow sticky notes. I also felt I probably wasn't necessarily the target demographic with this book. At the end of it all I realized no matter what you've got going on everyone's probably run into some of the scenarios being tackled here, and we've all for sure been confused about a love interest at some point.
I got through the first chapter entitled He Friended and immediately asked this new guy I've been talking to for about a month if he only looked through my pictures or checked out other parts of my page. He'd only looked at my pics. Throughout the month I'd skimmed his wall, gone through his liked music pages, and even ended up on his sister's and mother's profiles. Ok, so the book has men and women pretty much pegged right so far.
About half way through the book there's the He Updated chapter. This is probably the only chapter that actually irritated me. "Women are right to examine his Wall... Everything you need to know about a guy is right there on it." NO! That's not true at all. Want to know why? Because I am not MY wall. Let me bury you under a mountain of salt you should be taking this chapter with. I know how to make lists on FB or change custom settings and hide things from entire groups of people, or just one. I loved the section about a guy's handle on FB. Um no I didn't. If his name isn't his real name and he's made up some crap just report it. Seriously. It's against the TOS on FB.
And for the love of all that is holy, this book needs to stop referencing things like Star Wars or Harry Potter. It's painful because they don't really get it right. This fan does not appreciate it.
A few pages later this book is redeemed for me. The last half is a bit more serious. There are little nuggets we all need to absorb and live by. I actually gave some succinct advice from Kenny in the E Txd chapter to my best friend, who happens to be a guy. Proof that some advice goes both ways. It works for everyone. He was confused about a girl being busy. Too busy to text. A BS excuse I've heard more times than I can count. Replace busy with neglectful and don't suffer through someone keeping you waiting for days on end.
July 21, 2014
Single women from every generation have always wondered if the man that occupies her thoughts is “The One.” Does she ever cross his mind as often as he crosses hers? In today’s modern world where the majority of communication is done electronically with a slew of various gadgets and devices, dating has become a tricky ledge that women find themselves treading upon very carefully, trying to decipher what Mr. Wonderful’s most recent text, email, Facebook comment, etc., really means. With He Texted, the authors bring the reader some direct analysis and somewhat expert advice and varying points of view from three men, known as The Bros covering a wide range of scenarios to help the single gal determine if he’s a keeper or if she should move on.
While reading this book, I couldn’t stop thinking that if the women who submitted the texts for analysis spent as much time verbally communicating with the man she is interested in as she does trying to decipher and comprehend his texts, emails, etc., she would probably find herself in a meaningful relationship in no time. But then what do I know? I’m certainly no expert on relationships or matters of the heart, but I can’t help but think that in order to determine if you are compatible, it’s best to get to know each other speaking out loud to one another. As a society, are we really too busy to do that or are we just lazy and just want to see positive results with little to no effort on our part?
I found this book very easy to read and enjoyed that the authors had real men offering real advice about the various topics ranging from “he friended” to “he booty-texted” to “he loves you” and all of the pitfalls and drama in between. You could also get the same advice, feedback and interaction if you just visit the He Texted website. I also enjoyed that even with the various points of view from both the guys and the gals, there was no gender bashing. The guys were not afraid to label another guy a tool or the girl as naïve or gullible, but when they did, they did so with tact and professionalism. Nobody went off on a tangent, jumping on the soapbox to vilify one gender over the other. I felt like the advice and feedback provided was given with sincerity and honesty. The book also provides a good amount of humor, especially with the “text examples” provided in the book.
Overall, although common sense and logic should prevail and people should be interacting with their voices instead of their thumbs on a keypad, the digital age we live in is proof that it isn’t happening. More people are finding their mates online year after year and this book provides a good road map for Ms. Single Gal to use to help her understand the signs so she is successful on her journey to Happily Ever After.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of He Texted from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
While reading this book, I couldn’t stop thinking that if the women who submitted the texts for analysis spent as much time verbally communicating with the man she is interested in as she does trying to decipher and comprehend his texts, emails, etc., she would probably find herself in a meaningful relationship in no time. But then what do I know? I’m certainly no expert on relationships or matters of the heart, but I can’t help but think that in order to determine if you are compatible, it’s best to get to know each other speaking out loud to one another. As a society, are we really too busy to do that or are we just lazy and just want to see positive results with little to no effort on our part?
I found this book very easy to read and enjoyed that the authors had real men offering real advice about the various topics ranging from “he friended” to “he booty-texted” to “he loves you” and all of the pitfalls and drama in between. You could also get the same advice, feedback and interaction if you just visit the He Texted website. I also enjoyed that even with the various points of view from both the guys and the gals, there was no gender bashing. The guys were not afraid to label another guy a tool or the girl as naïve or gullible, but when they did, they did so with tact and professionalism. Nobody went off on a tangent, jumping on the soapbox to vilify one gender over the other. I felt like the advice and feedback provided was given with sincerity and honesty. The book also provides a good amount of humor, especially with the “text examples” provided in the book.
Overall, although common sense and logic should prevail and people should be interacting with their voices instead of their thumbs on a keypad, the digital age we live in is proof that it isn’t happening. More people are finding their mates online year after year and this book provides a good road map for Ms. Single Gal to use to help her understand the signs so she is successful on her journey to Happily Ever After.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of He Texted from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
April 17, 2014
(This was originally posted on my blog: http://elizabethannsalem.wordpress.co...)
Lisa Winning and Carrie Henderson McDermott’s He Texted (published on April 15th of this year) is based off of their popular advice website, which aims to decode the often arcane ways in which texting has changed the dating world. Dating was hard enough in the days of actual telephone calls, so what on earth is a girl to do with the text message? The book takes some of the more popular entries from their website, where users sent in texts and asked for assistance in decoding them, and lays out the website’s signature brand of advice from the “HeTexted Bros,” Winning and McDermott’s crew of advice-giving men from various walks of life.
In a lot of ways, I found the book more interesting as a sociological slice of life and dating as it is currently experienced by twenty-somethings, especially as my last foray into the dating world took place during the pre-smartphone era. Things have certainly gotten more complicated, and the text message seems to be inspiring new forms of bad dating etiquette and rude behavior. While I loved the book’s tone, the down-to-earth advice, and the HeTexted Bros, I have to say that for the most part, I’m saddened by the lengths people now have to go to in order to get a straight answer or even some honesty from the people they’re dating. While I know that the website is basically the “annals of bad texting behavior,” it seems like there are a whole lot of people out there making themselves into nervous wrecks in the name of finding a relationship. If ever a case was made to ditch the smartphone, this would probably be it.
This, however, is more my reaction to the phenomenon that He Texted aims to decipher, rather than to the book itself. Winning, McDermott, and their group of advice-giving bros are a fun group to spend some time with, and the book is a useful guide to dating as we now know it, as well as to the ways in which we need to exercise a lot more common sense when it comes to finding love.
Source: ARC from the publisher via NetGalley
Lisa Winning and Carrie Henderson McDermott’s He Texted (published on April 15th of this year) is based off of their popular advice website, which aims to decode the often arcane ways in which texting has changed the dating world. Dating was hard enough in the days of actual telephone calls, so what on earth is a girl to do with the text message? The book takes some of the more popular entries from their website, where users sent in texts and asked for assistance in decoding them, and lays out the website’s signature brand of advice from the “HeTexted Bros,” Winning and McDermott’s crew of advice-giving men from various walks of life.
In a lot of ways, I found the book more interesting as a sociological slice of life and dating as it is currently experienced by twenty-somethings, especially as my last foray into the dating world took place during the pre-smartphone era. Things have certainly gotten more complicated, and the text message seems to be inspiring new forms of bad dating etiquette and rude behavior. While I loved the book’s tone, the down-to-earth advice, and the HeTexted Bros, I have to say that for the most part, I’m saddened by the lengths people now have to go to in order to get a straight answer or even some honesty from the people they’re dating. While I know that the website is basically the “annals of bad texting behavior,” it seems like there are a whole lot of people out there making themselves into nervous wrecks in the name of finding a relationship. If ever a case was made to ditch the smartphone, this would probably be it.
This, however, is more my reaction to the phenomenon that He Texted aims to decipher, rather than to the book itself. Winning, McDermott, and their group of advice-giving bros are a fun group to spend some time with, and the book is a useful guide to dating as we now know it, as well as to the ways in which we need to exercise a lot more common sense when it comes to finding love.
Source: ARC from the publisher via NetGalley
September 13, 2016
This is a very cute and insightful little book. I found several things in this book to be helpful and applicable to my life.
Although my four star rating clearly states that I enjoyed reading He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era, I would first like to declare my criticisms for it. First of all, there are three supposedly various male perspectives given in this book (Jared, Brian, and Kenny). However, every single one of them seem to embody the stereotypical male: all they want is sex and beer. Lisa Winning's book could have been much more enlightening is she had included a wider variety of male perspectives.
Secondly, I would not recommend this book to impressionable young teenagers, because there are several ideas in it that just don't seem quite right. For example: Lisa and Carrie say that you should not remain friends with your ex. Ehhh, I don't know about that. That might be wise in some situations, but I would not advise that to a couple of fifteen-year-olds. Furthermore, I think it is wise to try to remain on friendly terms after a break up if that is at all possible.
I enjoyed reading this book, though, for its humor, wit, and insightful advice. One thing I particularly appreciated was Lisa's explanation in chapter ten about why humans develop a dependency upon social media (particularly Facebook). She says that people can become obsessed with updating their lives on Facebook due to a subconscious belief that if other people do not know that they exist, then maybe they don't really exist. She also suggests that people have a desire to glorify their lives through social media in an attempt to conceal their insecurities. Anyway, I really appreciated hearing the psychology behind the digital era, and I can say that I agree with... at least half of everything that is stated in this book. I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads.
Although my four star rating clearly states that I enjoyed reading He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era, I would first like to declare my criticisms for it. First of all, there are three supposedly various male perspectives given in this book (Jared, Brian, and Kenny). However, every single one of them seem to embody the stereotypical male: all they want is sex and beer. Lisa Winning's book could have been much more enlightening is she had included a wider variety of male perspectives.
Secondly, I would not recommend this book to impressionable young teenagers, because there are several ideas in it that just don't seem quite right. For example: Lisa and Carrie say that you should not remain friends with your ex. Ehhh, I don't know about that. That might be wise in some situations, but I would not advise that to a couple of fifteen-year-olds. Furthermore, I think it is wise to try to remain on friendly terms after a break up if that is at all possible.
I enjoyed reading this book, though, for its humor, wit, and insightful advice. One thing I particularly appreciated was Lisa's explanation in chapter ten about why humans develop a dependency upon social media (particularly Facebook). She says that people can become obsessed with updating their lives on Facebook due to a subconscious belief that if other people do not know that they exist, then maybe they don't really exist. She also suggests that people have a desire to glorify their lives through social media in an attempt to conceal their insecurities. Anyway, I really appreciated hearing the psychology behind the digital era, and I can say that I agree with... at least half of everything that is stated in this book. I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads.
March 16, 2014
I received this book free in exchange for an honest review. Really enjoyed this book. I have to admit I've been guilty of some of these things myself; like jumping to major conclusions when I don't hear from a guy for an extended period. It's definitely a must read for women; especially those of us that are used to the old idea of someone actually calling us and hearing a voice. Now it's way too much texting for most of a relationship. I'm suddenly finding that guys are extremely comfortable leaving a large portion of communication to texting since it's so easy. So it's pretty good to have a book and now I know there's a website that helps us understand that sometimes no answer is an answer. Sometimes we read way too much into how much time a response takes; if he is normally very prompt in responding and this time he's not, chances are he really is busy not the end of the world as we know it. Sending more than one message without a response can change a guys whole opinion of you especially if you are still in the getting to know each other phase. Just like allowing guys into your Social Media world may be too much too soon. Some of your status updates may just convince him you are a tad crazy. Not to mention all those updates about how great he is or how great the date was. If he is super private it will be a major turn off. Just giving him a preview of what's to come should you get more serious.
April 3, 2014
Meh. Maybe if I were single, I might've put more stock into the information presented in this book. There were a few things that I clicked with, things that were similar to some of my own dating/relationship experiences that shed some light on the guy's behavior. And it would've been nice to know that then, and saved myself some mental anguish, but oh well, what's in the past is in the past.
On the other hand, if you are single and slightly neurotic, this book may help you figure out some guys' digital behavior. Keep in mind I said, "digital," because we all know that guys can say and do things in person that can confuse the hell out of us as well.
The book reads kind of like a magazine article, which is no surprise as one of the authors is a former Glamour employee. Each author, along with three different guys weigh in on each subject. The guys' points-of-view can be helpful, but at the same time, if you're not a twenty-something, maybe not so helpful. Some of the advice is very specific to this age group and to women that do not have kids. I understand they're just generalizing, but it seems like it was just the stereotype they were giving advice to. Maybe they could've branched out a bit to include different situations - single mothers, women taking care of family members, etc., etc.
On the other hand, if you are single and slightly neurotic, this book may help you figure out some guys' digital behavior. Keep in mind I said, "digital," because we all know that guys can say and do things in person that can confuse the hell out of us as well.
The book reads kind of like a magazine article, which is no surprise as one of the authors is a former Glamour employee. Each author, along with three different guys weigh in on each subject. The guys' points-of-view can be helpful, but at the same time, if you're not a twenty-something, maybe not so helpful. Some of the advice is very specific to this age group and to women that do not have kids. I understand they're just generalizing, but it seems like it was just the stereotype they were giving advice to. Maybe they could've branched out a bit to include different situations - single mothers, women taking care of family members, etc., etc.
April 6, 2014
I read “He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys” 10 years ago and took most of the message to heart, so reading “He Texted: The Ultimate Guide to Decoding Guys” book felt like a refresher. Although the methods for meeting and communicating with guys has changed (Facebook, Online dating sites, texting, etc.), the message hasn’t and I didn’t get much new information or insight by reading this book. I assume people (which includes men) want to connect, and if they are interested and available, they’ll find a way to reach out – and if they don’t, it’s not worth obsessing over. Perhaps since I was married for 20 years, I don’t feel the confusion that someone in their 20s might feel on how to decode men's communications – or lack of.
I usually start and finished books within a day or two. With this book, I read about a quarter of the book in one sitting and then put it aside for a week before going back to finish it. I read the rest of the book in 20 minute intervals, which is probably what I should have done from the beginning. I can see how the authors’ blogs would be fun to read; smaller bites were more enjoyable. I enjoyed the male commentators.
I received an ARC in exchange for a truthful review.
I usually start and finished books within a day or two. With this book, I read about a quarter of the book in one sitting and then put it aside for a week before going back to finish it. I read the rest of the book in 20 minute intervals, which is probably what I should have done from the beginning. I can see how the authors’ blogs would be fun to read; smaller bites were more enjoyable. I enjoyed the male commentators.
I received an ARC in exchange for a truthful review.
September 4, 2016
I received an ARC copy of this book in exchange for an honest review
It's 'He's Just Not That Into You' for the digital age!
As soon as I found out that I would be receiving this e-galley for review, I logged on to the website to check it out. And immediately, I understood the need for this kind of book and the website in this dating age. I, for one, have often thought that my boyfriend's e-mails or texts mean one thing when he completely means the other!
This was a quick and easy read. The authors cover a variety of topics that are questionable to many men and women alike. I also love that they have a panel of men who offered their opinions on the different topics as well.
Overall, it was a great book but it just wasn't for me. I study relationships in school and I'm planning on going into therapy, so these kinds of books never really appealed to me. I'm a firm believer in the fact that every situation is different. From an objective standpoint, though, I thought that this book was well written and could be quite helpful. I am definitely planning on picking up a copy or two for my college friends who are just getting in to the dating game.
It's 'He's Just Not That Into You' for the digital age!
As soon as I found out that I would be receiving this e-galley for review, I logged on to the website to check it out. And immediately, I understood the need for this kind of book and the website in this dating age. I, for one, have often thought that my boyfriend's e-mails or texts mean one thing when he completely means the other!
This was a quick and easy read. The authors cover a variety of topics that are questionable to many men and women alike. I also love that they have a panel of men who offered their opinions on the different topics as well.
Overall, it was a great book but it just wasn't for me. I study relationships in school and I'm planning on going into therapy, so these kinds of books never really appealed to me. I'm a firm believer in the fact that every situation is different. From an objective standpoint, though, I thought that this book was well written and could be quite helpful. I am definitely planning on picking up a copy or two for my college friends who are just getting in to the dating game.
March 9, 2015
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Are you currently in the dating pool or have recently re-entered? This book is a must read!
As an "old" married lady, I am not currently in the dating pool and have been out of it for awhile, so this book completely intrigued me. I am not too old that texting was happening when I was dating and facebook was around - not like it is now, but social media and things have changed a bit since I left the dating world. More or less, I read this book just intrigued by the things that women and men face with the ability to google one's potential date and find out basically their whole life story from a few clicks. I love that this book was set up almost from the start of a relationship to the possible end and how one should act through each stage with men giving their thoughts also.
Are you currently in the dating pool or have recently re-entered? This book is a must read!
As an "old" married lady, I am not currently in the dating pool and have been out of it for awhile, so this book completely intrigued me. I am not too old that texting was happening when I was dating and facebook was around - not like it is now, but social media and things have changed a bit since I left the dating world. More or less, I read this book just intrigued by the things that women and men face with the ability to google one's potential date and find out basically their whole life story from a few clicks. I love that this book was set up almost from the start of a relationship to the possible end and how one should act through each stage with men giving their thoughts also.
September 22, 2014
I received a copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
This book had me laughing and nodding in agreement! I couldn't believe there were other women out in the world that were just as confused as I was about the role of texting and social media in our love life's. I did remove a few stars as I felt a lot of the blame seem to be placed on women when it can go both ways and I found myself skimming parts of the book because the advisers were a bit long winded. I would recommend this to my friends that are having a hard time understand some of the dating/texting etiquette as there is certainly some good advise given like put your phone AWAY when you are on a date!
This book had me laughing and nodding in agreement! I couldn't believe there were other women out in the world that were just as confused as I was about the role of texting and social media in our love life's. I did remove a few stars as I felt a lot of the blame seem to be placed on women when it can go both ways and I found myself skimming parts of the book because the advisers were a bit long winded. I would recommend this to my friends that are having a hard time understand some of the dating/texting etiquette as there is certainly some good advise given like put your phone AWAY when you are on a date!
April 24, 2015
I read this book without ever hearing about the website beforehand, which is designed to help women understand what men are really saying in their texts, so I didn't really know what it would detail. It covers several key points in guiding women through dating in a digital world, along with commentary from the two authors, Lisa and Carrie, and three "Bros", all in various stages of dating/relationships. The pictures of text screens in the book are sometimes a little hard to read, being printed so small that it's nearly impossible, but, in general, are a nice touch in linking the subjects with the idea of the website. I found many ideas in the book to be no-brainers, but it was nice to see several different points of view on each topic.
March 6, 2014
I can't say this had anything earth shattering to say about how to interpret a guy's texts. It's pretty simple. If he doesn't seem interested over text, he isn't interested. Same as a phone call. If he's not texting you back, he's not into you. Sort of sounds like another book out there, hmm? This book was really short and I didn't really care to hear their start-up and come-together story, I wanted the dirt on why guys can't return a text, why they are so elusive and WHAT THE HELL DO THEY WANT, FOR REAL. This book didn't really offer any insight into that other than reiterate what I already knew, he's just not that into you.
April 9, 2014
*from netgalley, my opinion was in no way influenced*
Cute, with lots of formatting errors, though, and that bothered me and made it difficult to read. There were some funny anecdotes, and sound advice, but nothing that really wowed me. Including the "bros" and their opinions was a unique touch, and I enjoyed that. There is not much to say with this book, you either agree with them or you don't. I looked at the HeTexted website, and it also is formatted strangely. But it is a great concept, and I'm sure many women find it very helpful.
Cute, with lots of formatting errors, though, and that bothered me and made it difficult to read. There were some funny anecdotes, and sound advice, but nothing that really wowed me. Including the "bros" and their opinions was a unique touch, and I enjoyed that. There is not much to say with this book, you either agree with them or you don't. I looked at the HeTexted website, and it also is formatted strangely. But it is a great concept, and I'm sure many women find it very helpful.
April 29, 2014
A fun light read with good motivational tips. A lot of it is common sense, but common sense isn't always common. I enjoyed this more than I thought I would and found it relatable at times. It isn't the ultimate dating guide or anything like that. It focuses mostly on the surface level interactions earlier in a relationship. I didn't really learn anything new aside from people becoming more annoyed with emoticons than I am. I still use them (shrugs).
April 3, 2014
I received a copy from Netgalley for an honest review.
I really had a hard time getting engaged in He Texted. While there were some funny passages and very true comments, there were too many generalizations. I think others may really enjoy this book as it was written well, it was just not my cup of tea.
I really had a hard time getting engaged in He Texted. While there were some funny passages and very true comments, there were too many generalizations. I think others may really enjoy this book as it was written well, it was just not my cup of tea.
February 23, 2014
Wit and wisdom! Every mother with a teenage girl should buy this easy-to-read fun book for her daughter. What a great idea to ask the Bros to advise young girls about the dangers of electronically sharing sexually explicit messages or photos. Lots of sensible advice about other issues, too.
August 11, 2016
It was interesting and had some good advice.
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April 25, 2014
I'm so happy I'm married. This was a Goodreads First Read. Pretty hysterical. But again, I'm so happy I'm married with none of the digital dating to deal with. I have a full review on my blog.
July 17, 2014
Like it or not, technology is now part of the dating world, relationships, marriages....
how you choose to deal with it is up to you but this book is helpful in just putting it right out there........ i read it in a day. fun reading.
how you choose to deal with it is up to you but this book is helpful in just putting it right out there........ i read it in a day. fun reading.
September 26, 2015
A lot of my friends are single and have to deal with text etiquette, and this seemed like a good way to understand what they are dealing with. There's nothing really life-stopping here, but it's a quick read and provides practical tips, many of which seem to boil down to "back off and lighten up."
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