As a veteran online dater who ultimately met her husband online—but was forced to wade through piles of insane replies from scary and clueless dudes in order to finally find “The One”—I was immediately hooked by this book’s premise of “real men, real messages, real messed up.” Honestly, if I’d kept all the messages I received via PlentyOfFish, Match.com, Craigslist and OKCupid, I could have written this book myself. (I still remember the dude I dubbed “The Tooth Fairy,” who complimented my teeth in such an odd and off-putting manner that I was certain he wanted to meet me in a motel mainly so that he could spend our time together creating a necklace from my pearly whites.) Tragically, my own “inbox full of crazy” was all too depressing to me at the time, and I eventually deleted the missives, despite my belief that all of this was actually great research for a book of my own.
Chris-Rachael Oseland, on the other hand, has actually used her own emails in service of creating such a book, doing the dating world a huge favor by showing the men and women of online dating that no, you’re not the only ones getting these whackadoodles in your inbox. From the dudes who just don’t get it (asking for lunchtime BJs, getting angry about nonexistent foot photos) to the truly repulsive (dudes who look like Santa! creeps and weirdos galore!), there’s a little bit from every shade of the crazy spectrum here.
Although I’ve read similar books, where bitter women rant about how the only men who are available are like parking spots (i.e. handicapped), Oseland’s book distinguishes itself from the “life in the dating trenches” genre with one very smart move: she also includes some of the winners from her inbox. Not only does this help clue guys in on how it’s actually supposed to look when you email a lady whose profile you like, this also provides hope for women who might otherwise fear that there’s nothing in the Sea of Love but a bunch of dead fish, bloodthirsty sharks, and that weirdo talking about octopus hands.
I can definitely sympathize with the types of strange emails Oseland receives (although I must admit I never personally received any of the “WWJD… With His Cock?” variety), and applaud her ability to turn lemons into lemonade while also sticking to her guns when it comes to having high standards about her potential mates. While I would have also enjoyed being able to read the geeky profile(s) that attracted her anonymous missives, I definitely found her “henchmen” and “zombie apocalypse” profile responses refreshing, funny and genuine examples of how to do online dating right. After all, you’re never going to find “The One” by being just like everybody else.
Highly recommended for the lovelorn, the newly single, the chronically single, anyone who’s ever dated online, and people who think spelling and grammar just don’t matter!
I might be too old and married for this book. All I could think of was, Thank Om I don't have to date! The book is a collection of some of the more interesting/appalling emails Oseland has received over the years in response to her online personal ads. I can't say I've never done this (mostly in the pre-internet era) and I own up to meeting my best beloved on the internet, but Oh Em Gee! The responses are sorted by category (the most head-banging one being the "WWJD ... with his cock?" chapter) and she prefaces each chapter with an explanation - or you couldn't really say she "wrote" this book. Fortunately, she concludes with examples of good responses so no woman gives up utterly. I suppose you younger folk with iPhones constantly at your side and e-feelers out everywhere would be able to relate to the book. Men would, one could only hope, learn something about how to respond properly to a personal ad. Women will just read them dramatically to each other over pre-mixed mimosas and roll all over the floor. Me, I just sat there gobsmacked. This book was a Kindle edition ... that was free. Maybe I should give it an extra star. Yeah, let it be Three.