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Who Asked You?

3.97  ·  Rating details ·  5,628 ratings  ·  889 reviews
Kaleidoscopic, fast-paced, and filled with McMillan’s inimitable humor, Who Asked You? opens as Trinetta leaves her two young sons with her mother, Betty Jean, and promptly disappears. BJ, a trademark McMillan heroine, already has her hands full dealing with her other adult children, two opinionated sisters, an ill husband, and her own postponed dreams—all while holding do ...more
Hardcover, 383 pages
Published September 17th 2013 by Penguin Publishing
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Apr 17, 2016 rated it really liked it

Betty Jean (BJ), an African American hotel employee, lives in a middle-class, mixed-race neighborhood in Los Angeles with her husband Lee David, who has Alzheimer's disease.

As the book opens BJ's drug-addict daughter Trinetta drops off her two school-aged sons, Luther and Ricky, 'for a few days' while she 'applies for a job'.

Trinetta then takes off for Atlanta with her new guy, leaving the kids behind.

BJ also has other things on her mind. Her oldest son Quentin, a wealthy chiropractor who's di
Sep 17, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Hard core Terry McMillan Fans
Who Asked You? By Terry McMillan is a quick, easy, engaging and entertaining read. While true to McMillain’s style, giving us storylines with colorful, quirky characters, set against dysfunctional family lives, I felt like I had read this book before and knew how these characters would fare well before the book ended. It seemed as though everything and I do mean EVERYTHING, was thrown into this book. And, at times there was a little too much drama going on for me to appreciate the antics. It’s a ...more
May 05, 2013 rated it it was ok
Pains me to say that I wasn't feeling this. I expected so much more. Maybe I'm judging too harshly, but had this not been written by one of my favorite writers ever, I would have stopped and put it away around the second chapter. I kept going, hoping it would get better but... *sigh* Not as bad as "Getting to Happy" though, but definitely not as good as her first four novels.
Buzzword-A-Thon: Who

I haven't read a Terry McMillan novel in YEARS and to tell you the truth I probably wouldn't have read this one of it wasn't for the Buzzword-A-Thon. I needed books with the words Who- What-When-Where-How in the title. I never realized how few books I own have those words in their titles. Interestingly enough I had 2 Terry McMillan novels that I could've read for this How Stella Got Her Groove Back and the one I chose to read Who Asked You?

I chose Who Asked You? because I h
Jessica Goodman
Sep 23, 2013 rated it liked it
The book was a decent read. The book was funny. The characters were real and easy to connect to. There were a couple LOL and are you kidding me moments.

But there were a lot of things I did not like about "Who Asked You", which is odd for me when it comes to McMillan. The book was extremely predictable. I knew what was going to happen and how it was going to end before I got to the second part of the novel. The story was told from the perspective of at least ten characters and the only thing the
Patrice Hoffman
May 29, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Who Asked You? is the latest by Terry McMillan that is sure to be a fan favorite. It's actually my favorite book that I've read so far from the woman who has given the world classics such as Waiting to Exhale, How Stella Got Her Groove Back, and Mama. Who Asked You? is sure to get fans back who were less than thrilled with others such as Getting To Happy.

So... of course many may wonder who asked me my opinion on this book. I answer that it's what I do. It's what many people do. We offer unsolic
May 24, 2013 rated it really liked it
Terry McMillan had me at the opening line: "It's my day off and I'm in the kitchen getting ready to fry some chicken." I immediately liked main character Betty Jean (BJ). She is the rock of a family with the world on her shoulders. Her youngest child, Trinetta's life is a continuous emergency. Trinetta disappears with boothang Dante leaving her two sons in BJ's care. Never mind that BJ is already taking care of her ill husband, working room service at a hotel, preparing for her son Dexter's paro ...more
Dee's Reading Zone
May 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing
McMillan's "Who Asked You" was well worth the wait. The characters were so real and relatable. I laughed, cried and cursed at BJ's dysfunctional clan of misfits because well, hell's bell they all were so like most families-- indescribable but selfish most of the time too.

So if you ask me, I strongly recommend this read because it reads like her first four classics that have all outlasted the test of time.

Thanks Terry McMillan for sharing your vibrant way of writing which continues to exude str
Natalie TBGWP
Jul 04, 2013 rated it it was amazing
A fiction book that reads as a true life book to me is a book that has pushed boundaries in writing. Who asked you? Does not in any way have you thinking it's fiction, it is as honest and as real as I am human. By god it's long, but it is not boring. Crammed to bursting capacity with every situation possible you may as well be watching a series drama on the TV.

We're following one family through their life and through life's troubles. We read passages from the main giver, Betty Jean Butler and
Kristen Beverly
Sep 18, 2013 rated it really liked it
This novel starts out full of character, spunk and humor. Even though this novel is told from the point of view of many, Betty Jean is definitely the focal point. And she deserves it. Betty Jean (aka BJ) is mother to three grown children and a wife to a man, Lee David, with Alzheimer’s. She has two sisters who won’t mind their own business. She goes to work as a hotel maid during the day, while another woman, Nurse Kim, watches her husband at home. Her only daughter drops off her two children on ...more
Feb 14, 2020 rated it really liked it
This was a very engaging book. Black family drama. VERY familiar & relatable family drama. I liked that this book was narrated by multiple characters. It’s easy to paint a picture of someone from one point of view but actually hearing the other person’s train of thought made me love this book. However, this book had so many narrators that it took away from the depth of the characters. It leaves you in a position to judge EVERYBODY and that’s exactly what I did! LOL The least likable person in th ...more
The CurvyJones
Jun 01, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: challenge-2013
I was looking forward to reading this book but didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't unforgettable.

I've not read a lot of Terry McMillan so perhaps I wasn't up on what to expect. I do remember that Getting to Happy (the last McMillan book I read) had multiple view points. Who Asked You had MANY POV's and to me, was overkill. It muddled the story to me and made it much less enjoyable to read.

Aside from that, Who Asked You reads like a real slice of Ameri
Who Asked You? Well nobody did! But that doesn’t mean that everyone in Terry McMillan’s latest novel doesn’t have an opinion and has no qualms about sharing it. Even the two youngest members of the Butler family, Ricky and Luther are full of opinions and they are not above sharing them with everyone and anyone.

Ms. McMillan’s fans will appreciate her consistency in developing characters that are covered with blemishes yet they each possess beautiful hearts. There are family secrets (Betty Jean a
A fun and engaging read that deals with realistic issues. The inner dialogue of the characters and the dialogue of Luther I found to be very funny at times. More than once when Luther was talking I laughed out loud. Who Asked you? is a fast paced read that will have you turning the pages and relating many of the characters to members of your family or inner circle of friends.
Tracy Darity
Apr 21, 2013 rated it really liked it
Recommended to Tracy by: McMillan fan
Who Asked You? by Terry McMillan, like all of her previous works, gives an accurate portrayal of issues that everyday people are experiencing EVERY DAY. The characters in this novel could be anyone that we know, heck, they could be us. The aging spouse with Alzheimer’s (it may have been Dementia, it seemed to have changed towards the end), the grandmother stuck raising her grand-kids, the child on drugs, the child in and out of jail, and much more. While facing all these unexpected problems ther ...more
Oct 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Terry McMillan is back! I'm so glad since I'm a huge fan and thought "Getting to Happy" missed her mark a bit, though I still enjoyed it (Ms. McMillan read from it at the Free Library of Philadelphia shortly after its release and even wrote a personal "Happy Birthday" wish when she autographed my copy, even though she was only supposed to be doing the standard signing of her name, the line was crazy long on a week/work night, and it was getting late. She was really down to earth, showed nothing ...more
Denise Billings
Sep 22, 2013 rated it it was amazing
A quick and delightful read. A coming of age story of Betty Jean, a woman of a certain age. Engrossing. I was pulled right into the drama of this family. McMillan can write convincingly from every point of view. We get to live in the heads of people from all backgrounds and economic strata. From crack heads to college grads. Even someone swirling the drain of Alzheimer's Disease. We see the effects of changes in an old neighborhood on the people determined to stay and those who left, never to re ...more
Aug 26, 2013 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2013, bea
This was an ARC from BEA. McMillan's dialogue and characterizations sparkle as always, but I didn't think the rotating points of view added much to the telling. I would have preferred the whole thing from one POV.
Nov 19, 2013 rated it liked it
Who Asked You? follows a number of members of the family of Betty Jean Butler, an African-American woman in her late 50s living in a not-s0-great (but racially diverse) neighborhood in LA. When the book opens, Betty Jean’s life is very stressful. Her husband is deteriorating with Alzheimer’s Disease, living at home with her and being cared for during the day by a nurse. Betty Jean works for a hotel, delivering room service. Her daughter is a drug addict who has just dropped off her two elementar ...more
Black Carrie
Jun 09, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Loved this book I re-read it today because the last time I read it I was still nursing my son and trying to finish it up . . . this book was really good not going to lie . . . I really don't have a favorite character this book was like reading Mama all over again . . . This book was real and had real characters I hated Quentin's self hating ass each chapter he had made me want to throw up in my damn mouth. Terry Mcmillan did not hold anything back when writing this one.... Bj was a strong woman ...more
Dec 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2017-books
OMG!!!! This book!!!!! Had me screaming and talking to out loud to the characters from the beginning through the end. Betty Jean is a mess (in a good way). The only reason she talks to her daughter is because she loves and is worried about her grandkids.

Terry McMillan draws you into the story. You walk with the characters. You understand and can relate to BJ owning her own mess and faults. You feel what BJ feels when she gets the news about her daughter. You can relate when people talk about Qu
Sep 11, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audio
I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this book. I like how I felt like I was growing up with the characters especially the kids. There were some sad events, funny times and warm your heart moments with some family drama mixed throughout. Overall it was a feel good story and very relatable. Every family has their drama and issues but loving one another despite of is what counts. It was nice to hear about not only Betty Jean's family but her best friend Tammy's as well. And Tammy had her own messines ...more
Mar 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: contemporary
On the way to work, I was just thinking how hard life was because so many people seemed to need a piece of, husband, children, church people, friends, in-laws, etc. So when I started this book at work, I had to laugh because that is exactly how this one started....B.J. said she felt like a pie with everyone taking a piece, leaving her only a little piece crust. I thought, "YES!!!"

I really like this one. I thought the author did a great and detailed job with the characterizations. Eve
Nov 14, 2014 rated it really liked it
I was prepared to chop this up as another Reality Show writing effort by McMillan. These are generally a bunch of slightly related characters chunked at the reader with little connection or central plot between them.

While this is 60% the case, McMillan does interweave the many storylines in a nice but loose braid.

The characters were very realistic. McMillan tends to intentionally date her books by major events and technology. This novel, spanning over about 10 years, uses these notches in rece
Sep 04, 2013 rated it really liked it
Very interesting read to say the least. I received this book as a complimentary copy from the publishing company prior to its release date and am sorry to say it has taken me a minute to complete reading it, but I must say I really enjoyed the story line. To me, it started off a little slow in the beginning but as I kept reading I discovered there is nothing like a grandma's love. Betty Jean stepped in and did a grand job and was always there for everybody. Truths, secrets, hurts, past pains all ...more
Jamise // Spines & Vines
Who Asked You was definitely not one of my favorite Terry McMillian books. Terry is a master storyteller. She engages the reader and her characters are believable. However, this book lacked plot. It was your stereotypical (sometimes factual) day to day story of an African American family's struggle and life in the "ghetto". I was expecting a little more but it really wasn't anything stellar. I wavered between 3 to 3.5 stars.
Oct 02, 2013 rated it really liked it
When I started this book, I had a few ??? moments while reading it. Some of the character's plot lines & brutal honesty totally threw me off. BUT! McMillan's book gets narrated by different characters. By page 100, you're invested in everybody. You become a champion, friend and enemy of the characters. It's a good book. The book is about family, the good and the bad, and it's wonderfully done. ...more
Nov 04, 2013 rated it did not like it
I love Terry McMillan, Lord knows I do. But I couldn't finish this book. It held absolutely nothing for me. I think the story is interesting, a grandmother raising her grandchildren, but it didn't invite me in. I am disappointed. I rarely choose to give up on a book, but I gave up on this one.
Oct 05, 2018 rated it really liked it
Great read!
Judy D Collins
Sep 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Wow! One of the funniest books I have ever read! I am sure the print would have been excellent; however, with this type of book, nothing better than a talented writer and excellent performers-- which are made for the character's part. Each of these performers were five star quality, and you could envision each unique character within each setting.

I had purchased the book; however, had to drive from West Palm Beach, FL to Amelia Island, FL (south to north) and from there to North Carolina---could
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Terry McMillan is an African-American author. Her interest in books comes from working at a library when she was fourteen. She received her BA in journalism in 1986 from the University of California at Berkeley and the MFA Film Program at Columbia University. Her work is characterized by strong female protagonists.

Her first book, Mama, was self-promoted. She achieved national attention in 1992 wit

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