How to Argue So Your Spouse Will Listen

by Sharon Morris May

Dr. Sharon helps us understand conflict through the lens of the attachment theory: why we argue, how we argue, and how to unravel our arguments. She helps us identify what's really going on in our brains and body when we argue and then offers six practical principles that help turn arguments into conversations.

Genres: Marriage, Christian, Nonfiction, Self Help

224 pages, Paperback

First published September 4, 2007

Reviews

[Devin · Rating 4 out of 5]

An incredible resource for navigating the underlying emotional activity in a couple's argument. My wife and I have both read this, and the way we speak with each other - especially in conflict - has seen incredible benefit.

[Kim BookJunkie ~ Editor & Proofreader · Rating 5 out of 5]

About 20 years ago, a couples therapist had me and my husband each buy a copy and read this book. I loath non-fiction, so I wasn’t excited, but this book changed our relationship irrevocably. Over 20 years later, we are still benefiting from what we learned in this simple, concise, brief book. By the way, we aren’t religious, so we just ignored anything in that regard and used everything else in the book.

[Mandi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very good ideas. Good advice.

[Dalen · Rating 4 out of 5]

Overall helpful. Felt a bit repetitive at times, but in a way that tried to reinforced its message. Focused on the physiological effects of arguing and how to fight against them for the sake of your marriage.

[Amy Davis · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great for attachment based therapy for couples.