Unfuck Your Kink: Using Science to Enjoy Mind-Blowing BDSM, Fetishes, Fantasy, Porn, and Whatever Your Pervy Heart Desires

by Faith G. Harper

What turns you on? Maybe it's something vanilla, but chances are good that there's more to it than that. Dr. Faith G. Harper, sexologist, therapist, and author of bestselling titles like Unfuck Your Intimacy and Unfuck Your Blow Jobs, tackles the whys, whats, and how-tos of the very wide range of human erotic experience--much of which doesn't involve actual touching. She debunks myths, explains the science behind why we like what we like, and discusses how to engage safely, shamelessly, and satisfyingly in BDSM, pornography, fantasies, role-play, and fetishes both common and rare. Whatever gets you off, there's a way for you to feel good while feeling good about yourself. Leave shame behind and let the sex positivity resound!

Genres: Nonfiction, Sexuality, Self Help

191 pages, Paperback

Published January 16, 2024

About the author

Faith G. Harper, PhD, LPC-S, ACS, ACN is a bad-ass, funny lady with a PhD. She’s a licensed professional counselor, board supervisor, certified sexologist, and applied clinical nutritionist with a private practice and consulting business in San Antonio, TX. She has been an adjunct professor and a TEDx presenter, and proudly identifies as a woman of color and uppity intersectional feminist. She is the author of the book Unf*ck Your Brain and many other popular zines and books on subjects such as anxiety, depression, and grief. She is available as a public speaker and for corporate and clinical trainings.

Reviews

[adiantum · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great introduction into the world of kink, the psychology behind kink, and that really humans are all very strange and that’s okay! Especially appreciated the depth of safety information and the constant reassurance that ppl are normal + guidance to combat any shame you might hold. Only thing I wish it included was a more in depth section on some of the more common kinks for ppl who might be very new to all of this and want ideas for things to explore

[Josh · Rating 3 out of 5]

More like a low 2.5

Decent overview (i.e.: not a lot of depth on any one area) with a fairly long reference list and a fair emphasis on safety consent. Which lends itself to being a decent jumping off point for someone new in the arena and a good review for those more familiar with the subject.

Not a fan of Dr. Harper's overly casual tone that often came across as a terminally online millennial speak / overly familiar and sarcastic, especially throughout the beginning.

[Tyra Thompson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Auntie Faith you did it again! This book tackles important, complex and educational topics related to the kink community in a light hearted and fun way. Such a good read for anyone who practices or is interested in kink!!!

[jack · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some interesting and informative information, but is unfortunately couched in a (dare i say cringe) OJST-esque casualness. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this, and i doubt the author cares about what i think is cringe, but it did hamper my enjoyment on a personal level.

[Tziona · Rating 4 out of 5]

An interesting fun easy read on consent, and sex. Kink was not as central for the first half of the book which I found disappointing. The chapter on consent was really well done and in-depth.

[Saulėtoji Vapsva · Rating 2 out of 5]

Skaičiau dėl informacijos rinkimo istorijai. Bet pasitrigau. Po to kiek pavarčiau psl, neaigilindama. Mech. Nepatiko nei pateikimas, nei rašymo stilius.