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Ho'oponopono: The Hawaiian Forgiveness Ritual as the Key to Your Life's Fulfillment

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Powerful yet concise, this revolutionary guide summarizes the Hawaiian ritual of forgiveness and offers methods for immediately creating positive effects in everyday life. Exploring the concept that everyone is deeply connected--despite feelings of singularity and separation--four tenets are disclosed for creating peace with oneself and others: I am sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, and Thank you. Offering practical exercises, this simple four-step system encourages readers to focus on difficult conflicts within personal relationships and heal the past. By addressing these issues, owning one's feelings, and accepting unconditional love, unhealthy situations transform into favorable experiences. The final chapters delve into love, relationships, health, career and healing the planet.

96 pages, Paperback

First published February 1, 2012

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Ulrich Emil Duprée

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340 reviews102 followers
December 21, 2022
Ho'oponopono von Ulrich Emil Duprée

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ (4*)

Das kleine Buch von Duprée veranschaulicht auf einfache, interessante Art das hawaiianische Vergebungsritual. Dabei ist besonders spannend zu sehen, wie sich selbst zu vergeben, die Welt zu einem besseren Ort macht.

Zusätzlich zur ausführlichen Theorie, gibt es einige Übungen um das Gelesene in die Praxis zu überführen und bei sich selbst anzuwenden.

So wird man schnell zum Vergebungs-Profi. 😉😁 Eine Empfehlung für alle Menschen, die gerne etwas Anspruchvolleres lesen und sich mit sich und der Welt befassen und sich weiterentwickeln möchten. 👍🏻
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2 reviews2 followers
March 17, 2015
Very amazing. I've looked around for several books on Ho'oponopono, and found them lacking. Perhaps this sounds a bit "elitist", but the majority of what is put forth in spiritual writings and self-help are concepts that one can mostly figure out or grasp through 5-10 years of deep practice and daily meditation. And it's not fulfilling to read over and over of things you "get" already.

THIS book was different—not just for the simplicity of the Ho'oponopono practice itself, which is deep and profound in itself—but for the humble and pure simplicity of the delivery of the concept. It is not overly complicated, deals in big, basic truths, and gives very practical—but not easy—practices to engage with at your leisure.

There's no wrong way to read or experience this pocket sized book, and that's the beauty. You can read it all the way through and then start over with the intent of practicing the suggested the visualizations, or stop at each break and go through the exercise. You can use it in personal healing and meditation, or as a platform for for teaching others. The writing was never pretentious, or overly complicated, and only asked for you to meet the teaching at the level where YOU are at. Not the author, or anyone else.

I highly recommend this as a book to read and carry with you, and to share and to recommend to others. Amazing and powerful written and shared experience in a brief and simply constructed package.
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733 reviews147 followers
June 9, 2021
3.5

Knjižica kao sažet vodič s velikim znanjem, pruža nam pregled filozofije i prakse drevnog havajskog rituala opraštanja i nudi metode kojima se odmah mogu postići pozitivni učinci u svakodnevnom životu.

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29 reviews5 followers
September 19, 2015
This book is like a crystal that finds you because you need it. You might at the time not even realise why you need it, I certainly didn't expect anything that I got from this book. Every page I flicked to, the words literally leapt up and hit me right between the eyes. So much so I couldn't put it down, so I took it home and I will always keep this book close by.
It's relevant to any soul, anyone who wants to live through love and not their ego.
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13 reviews
November 5, 2023
Knížka skrývá obrovskou moc vyléčení a pochopení. Spojuje lásku a naše vnitřní světlo.
Sice ji mam dočtenou, ale určitě ji ještě párkrát otevřu. :)
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7 reviews6 followers
August 25, 2021
This is not hooponpono. Only part of it is. Also Chakras are not Hawaiian. This qualifies and contributes to cultural erasure by watering down the means of mediation. Part of this book is correct. But much of this book conflates.
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123 reviews23 followers
May 12, 2023
Really eye-opening and positive. Granted, some of the things in it are obvious - we do not see it like others in the moment. It’s a very refreshing and honest book and forces you to look within and remember that your emotions and reactions are completely self-directed.
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27 reviews
October 22, 2024
I did not read it to the end. I wasn't able to enjoy the writing style. Apparently, some of his tellings are lies though I did not do much research on that topic.

What I did like, thus still two stars, were the sentences. I believe that forgiveness and being thankful are core ingredients to true happiness. I enjoyed reading those four sentences.
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118 reviews2 followers
May 22, 2024
who knew that apologizing and asking for forgiveness is exactly what sets you free
9 reviews
January 2, 2025
I seek out books on indigenous lifeways, and I found that this book had very little indigenous wisdom and was mostly a mix of New Age, Western, and misplaced Eastern philosophy. The best parts of the book seemed to be referenced from more official sources, actually explaining briefly what Ho'oponopono was, but most of the book is Duprée extrapolating and preaching his own spiritual perspective, and giving short exercises one could do to practice "simplified" Ho'oponopono.

There is a big problem with this, however, because in the short section he wrote about traditional Ho'oponopono, he noted that it is a strict rule of the practice that it always be done in a complete way (with 14 steps, including prayers), but then not one page later he goes on to talk about how he has simplified it, with most steps skipped and no prayers involved. This kind of arrogance really underlies the entire problem of the book. What made Duprée feel he was qualified to write on this subject? I will not judge a person's background if they can write on a subject faithfully. But the author has done a disservice to the practice here by injecting his own bias into about 80% of the content.

Without an indigenous Hawaiian perspective, his Western lens goes all over the place, even contradicting itself, talking about Hindu concepts (karma) and other spiritual practices I've seen around in the New Age sphere. The practice he proposes doesn't explain enough of the cosmological underpinnings of Hawaiian spirituality, and instead veer into top-tier New Age gaslighting and victim-blaming. As such, I felt that the simplified exercises could be triggering to someone who has experienced trauma; to tell a person in the grips of despair that the harm they experienced is really caused by themselves seems unsafe, especially without that holistic view of the traditional spiritual beliefs behind the concept, which I assume would handle these topics more delicately.

As a spiritual person, I resonate with the core concepts he explained, but this text gave me no real grasp of their greater meaning and instead seemed to confuse and mislead me. I have no doubt that Ho'oponopono is a beautiful practice, as I could see glimpses of that here, but I will have to seek out more appropriate (and detailed) sources of information.
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46 reviews
June 20, 2021
The Ho'opponopono is a powerful and wise ritual, yet very easy to apply. This simple ritual reflects the fact that the Hawaiian understand deeply what can transform karmic data, and we don't need complicated practice or anything luxurious to perform the act. Just like Einstein declared that love (I think he meant "compassion") is the most powerful force in the universe and has the ability to completely transform karma, the same concept can be applied to Ho'opponopono practitioners. I've been doing this for about 2 years and it proves to be absolutely true, but the most challenging part is to be awake and humble whenever something "bad" happens. And it takes a lot of patience also. I think this ritual is suitable for people who want something simple to start transforming themselves to a higher level of consciousness; or maybe just want to live a happy, joyful, and loving life (that's me). And I think to get a deeper understanding of this method, people should have a thorough fundamental about what karma is and how it actually works in advance which can help them absorb the book better.
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68 reviews1 follower
December 30, 2023
This book teaches about forgiveness and inner peace in a way that clicked with me and I'll use it for life. I would give this a 5/5, but sometimes the author forces aplications that are nonsense. For example, it's very irresponsible to say you can cure diseases like cancer through forgiveness. You can know and use the principle and get good results, there's no need to modify it as a solution to ALL problems so it is "perfect". This reckless positioning can lead to dangerous and even lethal consequences and should be taken more seriously. It's just a fine line between recklessness and charlatanism.
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Author 15 books92 followers
October 27, 2017
The four magic sentences that this forgiveness ritual includes are: ‘I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.’ For some, those phrases are well integrated in their lives. For others, the phrases are rarely said. I have been practicing using them for a few years and they enrich my relationships when they are shared and reciprocated.
If you wish to live a peaceful life, this short but powerful read may assist you towards the objective of harmonious living by practicing the suggested exercises.
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23 reviews
January 13, 2021
На старте книга Дюпре интригует. Но мы с вами уже учёные. Текст про "калсарикянни" тоже весело начинался.

Первые строки отсылают к разговору о прощении и отдают эзотерическими практиками. Дословно "хоопонопоно" переводится как "делать правильно правильно". Вероятно повторение слов призвано усилить смысловую нагрузку и выделить основную идею полужирным шрифтом. А она, к слову, весьма незамысловатая - "вернуться на верный путь, выздороветь физически и духовно и обрести счастье и благополучие".

Оздоровление самого себя происходит под знаменем прощения. Автор сообщает, что "хоопонопоно" с практической точки зрения - система методик, позволяющих выявить негативные посылки, препятствующие нашему развитию и духовной гармонии. Объясняет это через простую и понятную метафору:

"Представьте, что в каждой руке вы держите по большому камню. Если я дам вам сейчас 500 евро, вам придётся отложить камни и освободить руки. Секрет получения нового заключается в умении отпустить и поверить в то, что можно расслабиться и не пострадать из-за этого."

Дюпре называет "хоопонопоно" средством решения внутренних и внешних конфликтов. Чтобы стать счастливым нужно перестать видеть в мире дуализм понятий "виновник - жертва". Больше знать необязательно.

Учение "хоопонопоно" в изложении автора предстаёт в виде переваривания известной идеи о том, что мир вокруг нас определяется тем, как мы к нему относимся. Если человек зациклен на негативных эмоциях, то и в окружающей действительности будет склонен видеть преимущественно плохое. Суть гавайского подхода к счастливой жизни состоит в попытке отринуть все, что тебе мешает улыбаться, принять совершенные ошибки, любить себя и других. В какой-то степени "хоопонопоно" можно назвать австронезийской интерпретацией нагорной проповеди.

Оперируя прописными истинами, Дюпре не предлагает решительно ничего нового. Изюминку книге придают лишь гавайские словечки. В остальном в тексте чувствуется чересчур высокое религиозное влияние.

Естественно, принципы, о которых пишет автор, хоть и общеизвестны, но весьма сложны для одномоментного воплощения их в жизнь. Не так-то просто помириться с прошлым, побороть неприятные воспоминания или простить плохих людей. Однако проблема конкретно этой книги заключается в том, что в ней нет искры. Она банальна и не стесняется быть таковой.

В книге есть несколько удачных фраз, которые органично смотрятся как самостоятельные и мотивирующие цитаты. Но чего-то более глубокого найти не удаётся. Особенно ярко несовершенство работы Дюпре проявляется на последних страницах, где автор приглашает посетить его семинары. Отсюда напрашивается вывод, что книга призвана быть скорее саморекламой Дюпре и является приложением к его курсам по саморазвитию и духовным практикам, а не самостоятельным произведением.
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May 1, 2022
Was a book club book pick, and I had never heard of this practice. The book references other ritual, practices, and thoughts from other spiritual traditions/teachers, so I am unsure of the Hawaiian cultural authenticity of the practice per se how it is written about in this book and am willing to read other books that may articulate that more precisely. It was a very easy, quick read and I can see the value in this method as it is similar to many practices of other traditions as well. I think the overall gist of forgiving oneself, seeing that part of ourselves is in every circumstance and behavior that troubles us, forgiving others, practicing living what changes you want to see in the world, practicing compassion are all good and important steps for humanity to take. Whether through the methods applied in this book or any other teachings of inter-being, loving kindness, ho’oponopono, meditation, compassionate empathy, or any other way of seeing ourselves in others, the planet, the divisiveness, the greed, a practice of opening our hearts on an individual bases seems so necessary right now. Is this book culturally accurate? I am unsure. Is it a helpful link to a more compassionate world and personal awareness? Yes. And it is simple to do.
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63 reviews
September 21, 2023
Lebensveränderndes Buch, eine große Bereicherung. Nur vier Sätze, die so viel in einem drin ändern.

Durch das Buch ,,Getrennt von der Dualseele'' bin ich auf dieses wundervolle Ritual gestoßen und möchte es am liebsten jedem ans Herz legen.

Es hat weder mit Übernatürlichem oder Übertreibung zutun -im Großen und Ganzen geht es um vier simple Sätze. Man schreibt vier Sätze auf und schon werden die Gedanken und das Herz leichter. Egal ob es um Stress auf der Arbeit, Streit im Privatleben oder Probeme mit einem selber geht, dieses Ritual hat mir jedes Mal geholfen. Die Aufmachung des Buches ist wirklich sehr schön und der Inhalt wird kurz und verständlich vermittelt.

Es geht viel darum die Vergangenheit loszulassen, sich bewusst zu werden über die inneren Verletzungen und um die Heilung und den Frieden des Herzens. Und natürlich ist eins der Hauptthemen die Vergebung. Anderen vergebe, sich selbst vergeben, der Situation vergeben.

Lohnt sich auf jeden Fall !
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20 reviews
April 26, 2025
Es un libro que inspira paz. Las ilustraciones y la forma en la que está escrito te transmiten mucha tranquilidad.
Es un libro muy cortito pero pienso que es bueno leerlo de forma pausada, en varios días, haciendo los ejercicios propuestos, para poder asimilar toda la información expuesta.
No es un libro de psicología profunda, es un libro espiritual, generalista y básico para adentrarse en los problemas cotidianos y explicar la filosofia de vida hawaiana, la profundidad de las lecciones depende de la interpretación de cada persona y el uso que le quieren dar.
Personalmente, lo recomiendo mucho.
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192 reviews8 followers
January 31, 2021
A short little book that teaches us the power of 4 magical sentences from Hawaiian culture: I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.

As Dr. Martin Luther said: forgiveness is not a one-time thing. Forgiveness is a life-style. This book should be kept in our bookshelves to remind us to come back to this simple yet effective practice whenever we feel wronged.

There are a number of Ho’oponopono songs on YouTube. I sing and chant along as meditation. My favourite version is Thank you by Carrie Grossman.
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175 reviews1 follower
December 23, 2024
This book describes a Hawaiian ritual for overcoming conflicts with others by focusing on the connectedness of all things. The ritual involves saying "I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you." It's central tenet is that we are all interconnected and are all inherently responsibility for outcomes of our relationships. It is a short "how-to" book with practical examples. It felt a bit repetitive and I didn't feel like the examples were terribly useful, but it's worth spending a few hours exploring.
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4 reviews1 follower
January 4, 2024
Short book that gives you easy tools to practice more forgiveness - for others and for yourself.
It is filled with spiritual pseudoscience and generic sentences that are to work as mantras, so not ideal if you are more of a cynical person. However, the exercises are applicable to every type of person, and to every type of situation. They make you reflect and be more in touch with your feelings and thoughts.
Ideal for a quick check-in with the spirit!
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79 reviews13 followers
December 13, 2020
Sorry - Please forgive me - Thank you
The book came to me as a precious gift in the 2020 year. I put the book on the head of the bed and read it before sleeping. Learning to hear your inner voice and universe voice is a long life process and this book will be along with you within this road. Forgiveness Ritual brings us to close together.
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9 reviews
March 29, 2023
Quick Read, Great Content

This book was short and sweet and to the point which is what I loved about it. I was recently introduced to Ho’ponopono and thus book outlines exercise in how to apply it to different situations. I love the fact that u do not have to read a bunch of fluff to get tot he meat of the topic. I highly recommend.
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48 reviews3 followers
January 19, 2024
Ho’oponopono es un sistema hawaiano que permite liberarnos de las energías tóxicas dentro de nosotros mismos y purificar nuestras creencias.
Este libro me ha sorprendido pensé que iba a ser más pesado ya que no es algo que habitualmente suela leer pero me ha gustado mucho y he aprendido muchas facetas de este sistema que voy a aplicar en mi vida sin duda.
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433 reviews8 followers
October 9, 2024
Hoe waardevol ho'opono als ritueel / gebed / meditatie / houding ook kan zijn, dit boek vliegt alle kanten op. Helaas ook weer door allerlei quantumtoestanden en morfogenetische velden. Moet dat nou? Erg slecht geschreven. Biedt niets wat een artikel in een lifestyle magazine niet had kunnen bereiken.
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Author 7 books13 followers
November 27, 2017
helder verhaal, duidelijke boodschap. Ik heb het mantra 'het spijt me, vergeef me alsjeblieft, ik houd van je, dank je' wel duizend maal herhaald en doe het nog elke dag. Het helpt me. Ik word er heel rustig van en kan erdoor relativeren.
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133 reviews
January 3, 2019
Full review (with some spoilers): http://booksperweek.blogspot.com

This book has gained a permanent spot on my nightstand. It will be out in the open where i can use it regularly. If i could give more than 5 stars i would.
23 reviews
July 3, 2019
This is a lifesaver!

Sometimes the solution to our stress and lifes turmoil is a very simple one! At first look, it seems too simple to be true. I wish I had learned this very simple but extremely powerful prayer many years ago. A guaranteed life saver!
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135 reviews
November 20, 2019
Das Cover, die Bucheinteilung und der Schreibstil, sowie natürlich der Inhalt, haben bei mir dafür gesorgt, dass es mir Spaß gemacht hat, das Buch zu lesen. Jetzt hoffe ich darauf, auch einiges davon umsetzten zu können.
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9 reviews1 follower
August 17, 2020
A fresh look on forgiveness. The exercises in this book look to help break down your preconceived barriers to help you become a more whole and loving person. Ho'oponopono looks to help connect you with self and the cosmic to heal. Highly recommend.
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