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Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Lovers

3.89  ·  Rating details ·  154 ratings  ·  16 reviews
Need help with your riding-crop technique? Wonder how to wrap your husband like a mummy? Or maybe you caught your girlfriend wistfully eyeing a pair of handcuffs in a shop window and simply want to know how to bring up the subject with her. Sensuous Magic has the answers. Writer, therapist, and sex radical Patrick Califia-Rice has updated his classic introduction to S/M ...more
Mass Market Paperback, 304 pages
Published January 15th 1998 by Masquerade Books (first published 1993)
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j
Jan 22, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Dear Patrick Califia:
Marry me.

Okay, not really. (At least not until bigamy is legal.) But in seriousness, I am pretty sure this is the best beginner S&M book I've ever read and anyone who is even THINKING about getting kinky with it should definitely give it a shot.

There are many good BDSM books marketed towards beginners, but I find they all have flaws - either not enough information, or a scope that's so excessive as to be terrifying to a rank novice. I've read "novice" BDSM books that
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Agnieszka
May 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
This is a review of the updated version. I understand the first version was a lot more focused on het couples. Although this isn't primarily a book about leather scene history in San Francisco, you get to learn a lot about it on the way. Maybe all this great queer stuff wasn't there in the first edition.

A couple of things make this book stand out in a world of sex and BDSM advice books and tech manuals. First, the writing. It's really good! A lot of books about sex, in an attempt to be not
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Ellie
A well constructed introduction to BDSM that may be too much for the true novice - I know I certainly got nervous whenever the subject of blood was brought up. Nonetheless, the author makes a strong attempt to quell fears.

An especially nice touch was the addition of short stories describing scenes at the end of each chapter, featuring a variety of activities and gender combination. Probably the only thing bad about this book is that the number of these stories begin to dwindle as the book
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Michelle
Jan 09, 2012 rated it really liked it
A decent summary of BDSM culture and practices by Pat Califia (the author was female-identified when my edition was published in the late 90s, though they are now male-identified and go by Patrick). Oddly hetero-oriented, given who the author is, though certainly other sexualities are addressed as well. Very safety-first, for which I give it an A++. Short on fantasy, long on practicality, which I find rather refreshing.
Sheryl
Aug 25, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: sexualities
A very practical, no funnystuff guide aimed primarily at hetero couples interested in first time S/M exploration.
I can't say that it was "instructional" for me (except for the caution against whipping someone along the spine...that really sunk in!) but Pat/rick's style is so enjoyable that I will read almost anything with interest.
Kal Cobalt
Apr 09, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Out of all the BDSM stuff out there, I really only ever recommend two books to relative newcomers. This is the one I loan out for people who need more information than basic physical stuff -- who want to know more about the "why" of BDSM and how it works in a larger context. I can't imagine a better introduction to the field.
Transgender Bathroom
Jan 12, 2008 marked it as bagrat-topagwa  ·  review of another edition
If you'd like to know what I thought of this book, please contact me directly and I'd be happy to discuss it with you.

All the best,

- TB
Annamarie
Jan 10, 2011 rated it liked it
A bit outdated now, but a good basic guide. To be honest, I mostly skimmed this one as I've read so many "101" books by now!
J Crossley
May 05, 2017 rated it liked it
This book provides ideas and scenarios to spice up your BDSM play.
Jeanette
Jan 02, 2008 marked it as to-read
I bought this when I first was introduced to S/M and Pat Califia. I read it when I get in the mood, and I love it. Very informative and well- its by Pat Califia!
Corinne Natasha
Apr 26, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: sex
Read it for the academic ideas and porn, not for technique.
Sylvie
Mar 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
good read, took my time so i could absorb the info
Avory
Jan 19, 2020 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: sexuality
This is a classic, but I found it very up-and-down. There's a lot of domism in this book. While there are a lot of gay and lesbian examples in this edition, it still doesn't feel like much is being queered. On the other hand, the practical information is solid. I think the audience for this book would be folks who are new to the topic and intrigued but not yet sure of themselves, particularly D-types (there isn't much information for s-types beyond surface level). The author provides practical ...more
Imogen Donato
Feb 05, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Pat is fantastic and I totally didn’t have an issue w/ his use of excessively heterosexual couples due to his other works being more geared towards women etc etc etc. Easy to read covertly at the hospital I work at between the hours of 1 and 5am.
Bruce
Nov 17, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Patrick Califia-Rice, who formerly wrote under the names Pat Califia and Patrick Califia, is a writer of nonfiction (on men, gender, transgender identity, and sexuality) and fiction (erotica, poetry, and short stories).