"Gradually, over the course of the century women were encouraged to see themselves as passive, lacking sexual desire and instead focusing their whole sexual being on the one act of losing their virginity. Women went from a situation in which they were encouraged to believe themselves to be lustful and full of a barely controllable desire, to being sexually numb.
"At the same time, men who had begun the century being encouraged to believe that their own sexual desires could be easily controlled by their greater rationality and mental strength, who were being taught that they had a duty to be sexually responsible, ended the period being told that their sexual desires were largely beyond their control" (100).
An ENLIGHTENING volume despite how short it is!
There's a lot of misconceptions about sexuality in the 18th century. I'd always thought that people acted pretty chaste back then, but they really didn't. Heck, leap frog was NOT an innocent game back then (people didn't wear undergarments). Queer people certainly did exist, but it was seen more as a thing anyone could do, a "sinful" but normal human behavior, rather than an identity that some people ascribe themselves to. And prostitutes owned themselves! Not only that, but a lot of them got married after using the job to save up money.
I'm gonna be rotating that quote at the top in my head for a good long time. I hadn't realized that the end of the 18th century signaled a lot of the more backwards sexual beliefs that are deeply rooted in society.
It was a little tough to get through at times, but certainly worth the read!