So I didn't read Oriental Girls Desire Romance in two nights like Kathy Acker did; I read it fast-yet-slow in four, and I kept bringing the book up in conversations because it was like talking about myself and beyond. Catherine Liu takes you, introspectively, through themes of relationships, love, sex (the parts most resonating to me), trying to be a writer but being held back by so many things (another "ugh, yes!" moment), troubled family dynamics, disconnecting friendships, not having enough money, thinking of her year teaching English in Beijing, all the U.S./China relations, graduate school, the weight of her experience, all told with a very real and "likeable," voice. I identified so much with Our Heroine, thinking, wow, holy shit, this is the novel I've been imagining I wanted to read! and write!
A Chinese-American woman in her twenties, in a city, feeling inexperienced, impatient, ambitious but lazy and talentless, looking for something to happen, not knowing what, and sometimes for lack of anything better to do, she says yes to social opportunities like first dates for free dinner (I love when she lists food in detail, making you want exactly that dish), free and convenient cocaine in a cab, meeting at a party an arrogant activist-y Italian man who thinks he knows literature and compassion who seems to be the first one to break her heart. The difficulty of reconciling your rational thoughts with irrational behavior when you draw toward him despite knowing that you shouldn't, as he is indifferent to you. How at first he was the one to initiate everything with her, back when she was the one who didn't care much, until he hooked her, and now he doesn't want her, and now she's leaving a message on his answering machine that it's over between them, realizing how unoriginal it is, how he never verbally stated what he wanted and instead he duped her into saying aloud what he wants, not what she wants.
The narrator walking and talking with someone (I enjoy these scenes because I do this a lot, too, irl), admiring strong female professors, watching drag queen shows, thinking of people she knows in general and their personalities and hopes and setbacks, window shopping longingly, the rich Susannah who appears in the "Vampire" story who can have any woman she wants it seems but always needs new flesh and blood, who was almost a perfect lover. Joe—once the book reaches Joe, I became terrified to be like what Joe was to the narrator: dumb, boring, safe, Midwestern, no conversational skills, not very fashionable, a body in her bed that she got used to holding but whose presence became the source of her irritation. At this part, I thought, "Wow. I cannot be with anyone ever. I would rather be alone than be someone's Joe. I'm glad I'm alone right now."
It wasn't until I got to the final "Go-Go" story about the narrator dancing and stripping for good cash that I understood the book was not told in order, that the "chapters" were really like memories, short stories, but why did "Go-Go" have to be the closing remark? I'm not entirely bothered about it, maybe it's trying to say something about life being #dark, but it left me feeling hollower but with a longing to be a go-go dancer, too, in an alternative universe. This is a "figuring things out" book, a "making mistakes" and "growing up" book. There's a part where the narrator is irresponsible with her scarce money and decides to spend it on a little strapless dress made of fabric that's deep blue and green and red on a black background. A kind of tropical print, she says. A dress to surprise a husband during a rendezvous, she daydreams, a dress for a movie star.
I'm disappointed to see a lot of one-star ratings on here, probably a result of this book being listed on a syllabus, reaching a classroom audience that should read it yet who should not read it. I don't know. For someone who's reading through these, unsure of whether to give this book a chance because of the low stars, I'm hoping my review will influence you otherwise. I personally judged this book for its design until I saw the Kathy Acker blurb on the back, I'm sorry I did that. It feels like perfect timing for me to have read the book now, being 25, being, being. . .
This book could have (should have!) ended with that "M.B.A." story, in which the final paragraph is:
I had not imagined that my life would turn out this way. Sometimes I felt as if anything was possible, that I was going to be something in the world, something wonderful. My ideas about this something wonderful were variable and ill-defined, ranging from brilliant film director to brilliant Lacanian analyst. I was such a good daydreamer. At other times, I wondered how long I could continue to do what I was doing. My existence would suddenly appear fragile and without support, but I couldn't focus for long on what it all meant or what I wanted; my thoughts were too restless to stay put. I began to suspect a congenital defect, but I was happy when I went out dancing that summer. Because I was very young, when I was wearing my beautiful strapless dress, i could always manage to pretend that I didn't have a care in the world.