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Surrendering to Motherhood: Losing Your Mind, Finding Your Soul

3.7 of 5 stars 3.70  ·  rating details  ·  128 ratings  ·  34 reviews
The story of a woman who came of age with the sexual revolution who finds emancipation in the Zen of motherhood, "Surrendering to Motherhood" is about letting go of the need to achieve and finding one's true self.
Paperback, 224 pages
Published May 1st 1998 by Miramax Books (first published 1997)
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Melinda
This books is for career women who are struggling with the idea of becoming a mother, or for career women who are struggling to juggle motherhood at the same time. She spends most of the book name dropping and going on about various lovers and amazing travel adventures, as if she is trying to say, See I am Relevant, I did things in my life. Two-thirds of the book is her boasting of her accomplishments pre-baby instead of building up motherhood and the sacrifice of career for something more signi ...more
K.
I don't know what I expected, but this wasn't really, truly surrendering to motherhood. It was more about "look how dang cool I was, I used to hang out will all of these really big people and now I sit home in my bathrobe with my kids" except she didn't really sit home. She still worked, still hobnobbed with the "stars" and had a maid and a nanny!!
Stephanie
Mar 06, 2010 Stephanie rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Moms, especially transitioning SAHMs
I am so grateful to have happened upon this book in the library. Despite our major differences, Krasnow’s story of her journey into motherhood resonates deeply with my own story. After over a decade of working in the fast-paced, adrenaline-filled news industry, Krasnow finds it difficult to surrender to everything that motherhood requires when she has her first child. Similarly, my transition from recent college graduate to stay-at-home-mom was terribly difficult. I felt like I was disappointing ...more
Sonya Feher

In Surrendering to Motherhood, Iris Krasnow searched her work, travel, relationship and family history as a means of exploring her own mothering. Having decided that she wanted to have four kids by forty, she then found herself itching to get out of her house, back to the glamorous and fulfilling job as a professional writer interviewing celebrities and politicians and traveling the globe. After spending twenty years to establish a career most people only dream about, she can not get comfortable

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Elizabeth
May 18, 2008 Elizabeth rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: moms
Shelves: parenting
A very personal glimpse into IK finding herself finally in her children. She does often go on and on about questions and stresses but it was a wonderful read for Moms to know that you can CHOOSE to stay at home and still be a feminist. Fortunately we live in a time where we do have choices and many are realizing the importance of being with your kids when they are young. Yes, we could have a better house, newer cars and two cells phone but I am choosing instead to be the one who gets to hear Lyd ...more
Syifarah
Buku ini menceritakan tentang perjalanan hidup Iris Krasnow yang sejak remaja terus mencoba mencari pegangan hidup, mencari kedamaian hati dan jiwa, mencari Tuhan. Ketika membaca buku ini aku benar-benar bersyukur akan nikmat iman Islam di dalam hati ini. Tidak usah mengalami pencarian yang panjang dan berliku seperti yang dialami oleh Iris.

Iris mengalami masa-masa lahirnya feminisme yang memandang bahwa menjadi ibu RT saja itu tidaklah adil bagi wanita. Iris mempunyai karir nan gemilang tapi te
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Megan
Aug 25, 2007 Megan rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Professional women transitioning to SAHM
Iris Krasnow had an interesting life as a journalist, which she gave up her successful career to be a mother full-time (well, with writing bouts in the wee hours of the night). So it was interesting to read her insights and the truths she found out about motherhood--especially for someone who is non-Mormon and/or unaccustomed to the idea of of staying at home with children. There are some nuggets of goodness here. Some of her stories really made me appreciate being an at-home mom and helped me t ...more
Heidi
Jun 13, 2007 Heidi rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone contemplating motherhood
I really want to give this 3.5 stars, because I really liked it, but it dragged at the end. (I started thinking, "Ok, I get your point, you don't have to say it over and over 5 different ways.")

I stumbled across this book at the library, and since, like the author I'm in my mid-30s and considering parenthood, it seemed like a good fit. Krasnow is very honest about her struggle between her career ambitions and raising her sons, and while she ultimately chooses full-time parenthood, she does not
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Emy
Read this based on Power of Moms retreat recommendation. This author had an exciting career as a journalist but what she really longed for was home and family. This was the story of finding her purpose in life, and the struggle between career and motherhood. As a new mother she really struggled with wanting to do career full-time still, but after her child's illness, she realized that she was the one who needed to be home caring for her kids, because no one could do it like she could. She ended ...more
Amy
For moms conflicted about staying at home versus working. Iris doesn't mince words, and she probably could, meaning she repeats herself quite a bit, but I think she's writing with an imperative. She truly does not want mothers to miss out on their children's childhood. Quite a bit of name-dropping from her journalist days and falls prey to society's tendency to look to celebrities for insight into how to live life. But all in all, a book that says what a lot of books aren't. It's OK to stay at h ...more
Evaly
I loved this book. It made me so grateful for the spiritual direction I have had in my life and for the opportunity to be a mother. I think she has very wise advice for modern women- a return to the basics. She learned this the hard way by trying to be part of the feminist movement, but then realizing that being the stereotypical stay-at-home mom was what brought her lasting happiness. I loved this quote "Having small kids is like the last day of summer vacation, when you are savoring every seco ...more
Fawn
If you're a mother that struggles with sense of self, and whether you would be better as a working mom or as a stay at home mom, this is a fantastic read by an accomplished journalist, bolstered by excerpts from several sources on motherhood and soul-searching. I found this book to be incredibly relate-able and easy to read. (planning to do a more in-depth review on my blog...)
Sarah Johnson
Mid-pregnancy on the verge of a new journey into motherhood, I absolutely LOVED this book! It sounds cheesy, but it really spoke to me. :) Would recommend to all young women of this generation who've felt they were searching for some seemingly evasive fulfillment in life... and/or those who consider having children... and/or those who've considered themselves feminists of any kind. :)
Nichole
I really liked this book because it's the story of a reporter who "surrenders" her career to raise her children. I could relate in many ways. In the book she talkes about finding "mom" clothes. I was there!! Two days after I left the news business, I called my mom crying because I didn't own a pair of jeans! Others read this and didn't enjoy it as much. Maybe it's a news-junky thing.
Rachel
I recommend this book to ANY mother. It really puts alot of things about motherhood in perspective quite succinctly. While I didn't identify with everything she writes about, there are so many "I wasn't the only one who thought that?" or "Amen!" moments in the book it was a gratifying experience. Great mom book.
Kim
It took a while to get to what I'd call the "meat" of this book, but It left me feeling joyful and at peace with my role as a stay at home mother. I am able to "be where I am" and really enjoy the moment more often now, after reading this book. Well written and insightful.
Toby
Apr 05, 2008 Toby rated it 1 of 5 stars
Recommended to Toby by: Angela Dinerstein
This was referred to me by my sister-in-law who felt that it helped her accept the chaos of her life. I felt it was frustrating. I don't want to surrener to motherhood and give up all I am. I want a balance. I did not like the premise and it in fact made me angry.
Sarah B.
I thought it was terrible. I actually thought the author was a bit of a wingnut. I wanted to tell her to get over herself -- or, more specifically, get over the super-hip namedropping party girl she was before she "gave up her life" to have kids.
Bridget
This book was a bit of a lifeline when my children were very young - it enticed me to a book talk and eventually a book group. It made me a fan of Ms. Krasnow's journalistic approach to writing and revealing.
Laura
Apr 16, 2010 Laura rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Laura by: LLL
This book was extremely compelling. It prompted me give my notice to my job and stay at home with my two sons...cleaning mac n cheese off the floor. BEST decision I've ever made.
Kimberly Ann
This book is so amazing!!!! I am going to be recommending it to everyone. It is so neat to see how she truly finds herself, so to speak as she becomes committed to motherhood.
Mindy
Wanted to like this one, but couldn't quite get into it. I wanted to read about motherhood and spirituality, but the book took too long to get to it.
Molly Christensen
Great book on mothering. Gave me a new perspective that I hadn't gotten before, and I've read a lot of mothering books.
Meagan Church
Sep 20, 2008 Meagan Church rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Mothers questioning career vs. staying at home
More of an autobiography than I expected, but in the end it came around and had good/interesting perspectives on being a mom.
Stephanie
Sep 26, 2008 Stephanie marked it as to-read
I was so excited to find this one at a garage sale. The more memoirs to read on parenting, as a woman, the better.
Rebecca Cooley
This book really helped change my perspective on how we should really cherish and value our role as mothers!
Kaleena Menke
meh. didn't really apply to my life right now, but I'm sure it's a descent book.
Judy
I read this twice. Reminds me how wonderful motherhood is.
Jessica
Let Motherhood fill me up while it is my present.
Maria
Great book to understand what it means to be a mother.
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Iris Krasnow was born and raised in Oak Park, Illinois. A graduate of Stanford University, she became the fashion writer for the Dallas Times Herald, then moved to United Press International in Washington, D.C. for the position of national feature writer. In her several years at UPI, Krasnow specialized in lifestyle stories and celebrity profiles, including Yoko Ono, Billy Graham, Ted Kennedy, Eli ...more
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