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Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness: Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment
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"Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness." —James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art
Finding Joy presents a comprehensive, practical guide for living your best life with chronic illness. This psychology self-help book integrates personal and professional insights to give you tools for handling various aspects of living with a chronic illness. There is also a chapter specifically for the loved ones and caregivers of the chronically ill. While this book is designed for anyone with a chronic illness, the spiritual content early in the book suggests the value of sticking to your faith and offers several Bible references.
Ultimately, Finding Joy is an A-to-Z guide that critiques the literature and empowers the reader with:
1. Positive psychology techniques. These range from self-compassion, positive reappraisal, positive self-talk, and pacing to positive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors such as optimism, humor, and volunteer work.
2. Stress-reduction methods. These include tools such as mindfulness, breathing exercises, simplification, and (therapeutic) journaling.
3. Proven therapies. Examples include cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).
4. Effective communication strategies and their impact on relationships and even the ability to access quality healthcare.
5. Numerous tips to both access and optimize your experience with high-quality healthcare.
6. Important considerations for loved ones of the chronically ill, so they too can know how to best support their loved one and take care of themselves in the process.
“This book offers great value for anyone with chronic illness as it contains clear, practical, and actionable insights and steps that can be naturally implemented into daily life. An engaging, easy, and helpful read. Highly recommended.” —Alla Bogdanova, MSc, MIM, co-founder and past president of the International Empty Nose Syndrome Association
"Finding Joy is a vital guide on how to best manage and navigate life with a chronic illness." —James Nestor, New York Times bestselling author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art
Finding Joy presents a comprehensive, practical guide for living your best life with chronic illness. This psychology self-help book integrates personal and professional insights to give you tools for handling various aspects of living with a chronic illness. There is also a chapter specifically for the loved ones and caregivers of the chronically ill. While this book is designed for anyone with a chronic illness, the spiritual content early in the book suggests the value of sticking to your faith and offers several Bible references.
Ultimately, Finding Joy is an A-to-Z guide that critiques the literature and empowers the reader with:
1. Positive psychology techniques. These range from self-compassion, positive reappraisal, positive self-talk, and pacing to positive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors such as optimism, humor, and volunteer work.
2. Stress-reduction methods. These include tools such as mindfulness, breathing exercises, simplification, and (therapeutic) journaling.
3. Proven therapies. Examples include cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).
4. Effective communication strategies and their impact on relationships and even the ability to access quality healthcare.
5. Numerous tips to both access and optimize your experience with high-quality healthcare.
6. Important considerations for loved ones of the chronically ill, so they too can know how to best support their loved one and take care of themselves in the process.
“This book offers great value for anyone with chronic illness as it contains clear, practical, and actionable insights and steps that can be naturally implemented into daily life. An engaging, easy, and helpful read. Highly recommended.” —Alla Bogdanova, MSc, MIM, co-founder and past president of the International Empty Nose Syndrome Association
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200 pages, Hardcover
First published November 15, 2021
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About the author
Christopher Martin
2 books58 followersChristopher Martin is a school psychologist, husband, father, and an award-winning author who has lived with multiple debilitating chronic illnesses and their hidden effects - from chronic fatigue to significant pain to seemingly endless infections - for 25 years. As a result, he is all too aware of how disruptive and life-changing they can be to our daily lives.
He wrote his most recent book, Finding Joy, because not enough books exist that offer comprehensive, practical guidance on chronic illness. And even fewer books exist that include mental health tips from the perspective of a psychologist and sufferer. Christopher enjoyed integrating his background in psychology with his experiences as a patient into realistic, easy-to-understand and apply strategies. His deepest hope in writing his most recent book, Finding Joy, is to inspire the reader to live a more abundant life.
He wrote his most recent book, Finding Joy, because not enough books exist that offer comprehensive, practical guidance on chronic illness. And even fewer books exist that include mental health tips from the perspective of a psychologist and sufferer. Christopher enjoyed integrating his background in psychology with his experiences as a patient into realistic, easy-to-understand and apply strategies. His deepest hope in writing his most recent book, Finding Joy, is to inspire the reader to live a more abundant life.
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December 8, 2021
I have had various invisible chronic illnesses for nearly forty years now so when I saw that this book was coming out I was very interesting to read it.
Christopher Martini has had an illness like this for a long time as well and I could feel that his experiences had definitely influenced this book. So many of the things that I had gone through are reflected in this book. From family and friends (even doctors) not believing I was ill to being sad and angry about how being ill had affected my life and many more things that I had to work out on my own Mr. Martin addresses here.
How I wish that I had this book many years ago. I still was able to go through this book and find suggestions that will help me on my journey and if you have an invisible chronic illness I highly recommend this comprehensive book as a way of beginning to find the elements that you need in order to still thrive as a human being..
From my own experience I want to say. Don’t give up! It took me eight years and thirty seven different doctors to even find out what I had. I still managed to get married, have two wonderful boys and have a relatively happy life for the nearly forty years I have been living with this. It does get better, then worse, then better but generally as you learn to live with and accept your illness life goes on. It is up to us what we do with what we are given. I know that sounds trite and simplistic but please read this book and try the things that Mr. Martin says. It won’t cure you but using resources like this book and working to make your life better is so worth it.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
Christopher Martini has had an illness like this for a long time as well and I could feel that his experiences had definitely influenced this book. So many of the things that I had gone through are reflected in this book. From family and friends (even doctors) not believing I was ill to being sad and angry about how being ill had affected my life and many more things that I had to work out on my own Mr. Martin addresses here.
How I wish that I had this book many years ago. I still was able to go through this book and find suggestions that will help me on my journey and if you have an invisible chronic illness I highly recommend this comprehensive book as a way of beginning to find the elements that you need in order to still thrive as a human being..
From my own experience I want to say. Don’t give up! It took me eight years and thirty seven different doctors to even find out what I had. I still managed to get married, have two wonderful boys and have a relatively happy life for the nearly forty years I have been living with this. It does get better, then worse, then better but generally as you learn to live with and accept your illness life goes on. It is up to us what we do with what we are given. I know that sounds trite and simplistic but please read this book and try the things that Mr. Martin says. It won’t cure you but using resources like this book and working to make your life better is so worth it.
I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.
December 3, 2021
Christopher Martin’s “Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness” is a well-written, well-researched, informative and inspirational book aimed to assist chronic illness sufferers better identify, understand and manage all aspects of their chronic illness. The target audience of “Finding Joy” is anyone with a chronic illness and their loved ones, although this would also make a valuable resource for the mental health and medical professionals who treat them.
“Finding Joy” covers all aspects of what life is like living with a chronic illness, what to expect, how to deal with pitfalls, how to accept your illness, and how (utilizing psychology-based practices) to embrace and maximize the quality of your life in your “new normal.”
Martin, a nationally-certified school psychologist (NCSP) and author who suffers from multiple chronic illnesses since 1997, shares his initial diagnosis and self-discloses relevant tidbits from his subsequent journey. He emphasizes that, while being diagnosed with a chronic illness can (at first) be shocking and devastating to the sufferer, acceptance of the diagnosis is the first step to adopting your “new normal” and living a more positive, purpose-driven life.
“Finding Joy” acknowledges that coming to terms with your diagnosis and attempting to live a positive life is neither easy nor expected, but Martin’s psychology-based approach (and vast experience in dealing with his own chronic illnesses) will better help the reader take baby steps to ultimately achieve a higher level of happiness and contentment. Martin evokes his background in psychology to demonstrate how a chronic illness sufferer can establish and maintain a positive mindset and help to create a fulfilling life. He argues sufferers can find purpose in their suffering through a variety of psychology-based strategies, including utilizing positive self-talk, thinking about circumstances differently, as well as showing self-compassion and avoiding self-blame. Persevering to find joy also requires the sufferer to neither dwell on the past nor the future, but to live day-to-day, moment-to-moment.
Martin addresses the daily emotional ups-and-downs sufferers undoubtedly experience; positive and negative emotions can fluctuate greatly on a daily basis, and negative emotions may lead to depression and a decline in overall health. Martin includes ways to combat negative emotions, such as techniques for managing different types of stress, exercise and breathing regimens, and therapies and other treatments to assist with depression. Engaging in new activities, making new friends, prayer, creating a gratitude journal, and even researching the latest techniques for help with your chronic illness can allay negative emotions.
“Finding Joy” also offers the reader a firsthand account about what to expect on your chronic illness journey with sage advice to help. From the initial moments when a person realizes they may have a medical issue, to selection of a healthcare provider and preparation for medical appointments, to the diagnostic process and when second or more opinions are necessary, to acceptance of your chronic illness and how your illness will impact relationships with family, spouses, friends and even employers, Martin’s experience will guide the reader to know what to expect and how to handle it. Martin also explores the importance of having an adequate support system, including the role of caregivers and how to transition from accepting your chronic illness to your “new normal.” Lastly, “Finding Joy” considers the role of alternative medicine and diet to improve overall health.
While Martin’s book is aimed at chronic illness sufferers, I found this book to be informative for all audiences as everyone faces challenges and illness in life. I would recommend this book to anyone as I believe everyone can benefit from reading it, whether you are healthy with no sign of illness, have a loved one who suffers, or are dealing with any type of symptoms and considering a visit to the doctor.
Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is a major life-changing event, but Martin teaches us that our illness does not define us; rather, our illness can be an opportunity to live our lives in ways we never imagined.
“Finding Joy” covers all aspects of what life is like living with a chronic illness, what to expect, how to deal with pitfalls, how to accept your illness, and how (utilizing psychology-based practices) to embrace and maximize the quality of your life in your “new normal.”
Martin, a nationally-certified school psychologist (NCSP) and author who suffers from multiple chronic illnesses since 1997, shares his initial diagnosis and self-discloses relevant tidbits from his subsequent journey. He emphasizes that, while being diagnosed with a chronic illness can (at first) be shocking and devastating to the sufferer, acceptance of the diagnosis is the first step to adopting your “new normal” and living a more positive, purpose-driven life.
“Finding Joy” acknowledges that coming to terms with your diagnosis and attempting to live a positive life is neither easy nor expected, but Martin’s psychology-based approach (and vast experience in dealing with his own chronic illnesses) will better help the reader take baby steps to ultimately achieve a higher level of happiness and contentment. Martin evokes his background in psychology to demonstrate how a chronic illness sufferer can establish and maintain a positive mindset and help to create a fulfilling life. He argues sufferers can find purpose in their suffering through a variety of psychology-based strategies, including utilizing positive self-talk, thinking about circumstances differently, as well as showing self-compassion and avoiding self-blame. Persevering to find joy also requires the sufferer to neither dwell on the past nor the future, but to live day-to-day, moment-to-moment.
Martin addresses the daily emotional ups-and-downs sufferers undoubtedly experience; positive and negative emotions can fluctuate greatly on a daily basis, and negative emotions may lead to depression and a decline in overall health. Martin includes ways to combat negative emotions, such as techniques for managing different types of stress, exercise and breathing regimens, and therapies and other treatments to assist with depression. Engaging in new activities, making new friends, prayer, creating a gratitude journal, and even researching the latest techniques for help with your chronic illness can allay negative emotions.
“Finding Joy” also offers the reader a firsthand account about what to expect on your chronic illness journey with sage advice to help. From the initial moments when a person realizes they may have a medical issue, to selection of a healthcare provider and preparation for medical appointments, to the diagnostic process and when second or more opinions are necessary, to acceptance of your chronic illness and how your illness will impact relationships with family, spouses, friends and even employers, Martin’s experience will guide the reader to know what to expect and how to handle it. Martin also explores the importance of having an adequate support system, including the role of caregivers and how to transition from accepting your chronic illness to your “new normal.” Lastly, “Finding Joy” considers the role of alternative medicine and diet to improve overall health.
While Martin’s book is aimed at chronic illness sufferers, I found this book to be informative for all audiences as everyone faces challenges and illness in life. I would recommend this book to anyone as I believe everyone can benefit from reading it, whether you are healthy with no sign of illness, have a loved one who suffers, or are dealing with any type of symptoms and considering a visit to the doctor.
Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is a major life-changing event, but Martin teaches us that our illness does not define us; rather, our illness can be an opportunity to live our lives in ways we never imagined.
February 1, 2022
Christopher Martin masterfully advises methods of coping with adversities that are under-appreciated by others in his" Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness". He presents a trove of uncommon common sense points of wisdom within a light, readily digestible text. He touches upon a limited set of illnesses directly (nobody could do otherwise), however most of his advice extends to numerous diseases.
I don't usually start a positive review with my most disparaging remarks, but in this instance I find it useful to do so. Contrary to his title, I did not draw much Finding Joy with from the text but rather wisdom for Overcoming the Adversities of. With respect to his subtitle, I saw ways of Recovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment rather than Discovering them. Although the title might also be misinterpreted to mean that an invisible problem might be used as a tool of sorts, the book does not really promote that notion either. Sub - optimum titles notwithstanding, readers will find Martin's book quite valuable.
Martin introduces the reader to such therapy topics for coping as Steven Hayes' ACT protocol to living in the moment with your values and sense of fulfillment intact. He also explains other schools of though for therapy that the invisibly ill can make use of. Different approaches holdout strengths and weaknesses to explore as well. One useful piece of advice which Martin gives is to ask a potential therapist what school of thought they work within the most and then use their reply in deciding their value to you. To this end, Martin's discourse on brands of therapy works well.
Other sections I appreciated include his thoughts on maintaining friendships, dating, relating to employers, and being helpful to your physician. Especially important are his suggestions on self-education vs. self-diagnosis. He points out that “no amount of internet research can replace the skills of an experienced provider.” Stress and depression receive a good amount of attention.
He meditates on a wide array of issues, but then he gives an unusual word of advice for an author to give. Don't try to harness everything which he has to say:
“It is best to focus your energy on one, two, or even three principles
or strategies in this book that you know you need to improve in your
life. If you try to put them all into practice immediately, you will set
yourself up for failure and become the “jack of all trades, master of
none.” We succeed where we focus. ”
I don't usually start a positive review with my most disparaging remarks, but in this instance I find it useful to do so. Contrary to his title, I did not draw much Finding Joy with from the text but rather wisdom for Overcoming the Adversities of. With respect to his subtitle, I saw ways of Recovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment rather than Discovering them. Although the title might also be misinterpreted to mean that an invisible problem might be used as a tool of sorts, the book does not really promote that notion either. Sub - optimum titles notwithstanding, readers will find Martin's book quite valuable.
Martin introduces the reader to such therapy topics for coping as Steven Hayes' ACT protocol to living in the moment with your values and sense of fulfillment intact. He also explains other schools of though for therapy that the invisibly ill can make use of. Different approaches holdout strengths and weaknesses to explore as well. One useful piece of advice which Martin gives is to ask a potential therapist what school of thought they work within the most and then use their reply in deciding their value to you. To this end, Martin's discourse on brands of therapy works well.
Other sections I appreciated include his thoughts on maintaining friendships, dating, relating to employers, and being helpful to your physician. Especially important are his suggestions on self-education vs. self-diagnosis. He points out that “no amount of internet research can replace the skills of an experienced provider.” Stress and depression receive a good amount of attention.
He meditates on a wide array of issues, but then he gives an unusual word of advice for an author to give. Don't try to harness everything which he has to say:
“It is best to focus your energy on one, two, or even three principles
or strategies in this book that you know you need to improve in your
life. If you try to put them all into practice immediately, you will set
yourself up for failure and become the “jack of all trades, master of
none.” We succeed where we focus. ”
December 10, 2021
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The Premise
The author integrates his personal and professional insights into a concise, actionable, evidence-based guidebook to help others to live their best lives despite having a chronic illness.
The Pros & Cons
This was an inspiring and useful book for those suffering with chronic illness.
The author notes the high prevalence of chronic medical conditions, and points out the poor quality of life for those who suffer. He highlights the importance of focusing on mental health alongside any other therapies or medications, stating that even when conditions are “invisible” they are still very real to the patient and require a multi-pronged approach.
Blending facts with useful resources, as well as sharing his own experience of struggling with an immune deficiency disorder, he promotes “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy”, which helps patients clarify their values and lead a more fulfilling life while improving psychological flexibility; as well as “positive psychology” which embraces optimism while understanding the merits of “defensive pessimism”.
He shares his religious faith, which has guided him through his challenges, and also advises that staying open to new experiences can be a healthy coping mechanism. Lifelong learning is important to keep your mind active and healthy; volunteering, in particular, is another strategy to help take the focus away from one’s pain and into more altruistic measures that can be of mutual benefit as it reduces your own stress.
There are self-reflective questions to guide the reader, as well as prompts such as: “Write a letter to someone you have never thanked before” and “Write one thing for which you are grateful for each day”. He also encourages practicing mindfulness, such as breathing exercises and various forms of exercise; and mentions supplements that can help chronic illnesses. There are also practical tips to help simplify your life, such as decluttering your home or having groceries delivered.
Dating advice is also included, as well as resources to access support groups, and tips about discussing your illness with your loved ones as well as with your employer. I also appreciated the section where he outlines things that someone should NOT tell someone with a chronic illness, for example it is insensitive and cruel to say: “You don’t look sick” or “It’s all in your head.”
Finally, he encourages others to not succumb to the negative emotions caused by their illnesses, but to instead consider how their conditions can benefit them. He states:
I have found incredible meaning and purpose from living with my invisible chronic illnesses. While my search for better health never ceases, I view this suffering as a part of life from which I can grow and learn.
Conclusion
Overall this was a very useful book with several aspects of guidance, and there is a lot here that can benefit multiple audiences. It is well researched and aptly presented, and it can be used by both those with chronic illness as well as those who are caregivers or loved ones of someone with such an illness. I would highly recommend this book to others, and look forward to future works from this author.
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January 7, 2022
“You are tough. You are a fighter. And there is always a silver lining in every battle you fight.”
What Problem Does This Book Attempt To Address?
Chronic illnesses can take a toll on emotional, mental, social, and physical wellbeing. It can severely impact quality of life and a person’s ability to function day-to-day. This book offers people who have chronic illnesses strategies for coping and improving their mental health amidst the struggles and limitations that comes with chronic illness.
Content
• Concept explanation: Very clear
• Related stories: Few
• Data references and studies: Adequate
• Charts and graphics: Few
• Practical application: Strong
This book undoubtedly fulfills its stated goal of providing the reader with strategies to improve happiness, meaning and fulfillment while living with chronic illness. The concepts are very clear and well-written. The information is useful and easily applicable. Where the book is lacking is only in attempting to get more buy-in from the reader in Chapter 1. Many people who could benefit the most from this book are probably used to having their lives run by their chronic illness. They may feel like a victim and they may believe that this illness, especially if it is severe, has taken their lives away. For readers who for instance can no longer work, engage in their favorite hobbies, socialize as they want, etc., and have been struggling with their chronic illness for a while, changing mindsets may not feel possible or justified. A reader who feels their illness has ruined their life may not be sold on reconstructing their entire mental framework without more of an emotional argument to persuade them. Jumping straight into the content in Chapter 1 seems like a big ask for the audience.
Other than that, I really found the book to have great content, easy to read, helpful and interesting. I loved the section on grief, I thought the explanations of the different types of therapy were excellent, and the section on stress had very interesting information, not just a repeat of what we always hear. I also liked that he added the section on well-spouses and caregivers. I think the needs of those who take care of people with chronic illnesses are easily and often overlooked and this was a very important topic that he raised awareness about. Overall this book is a compilation of a lot of great info presented in a very effective manner.
Writing Style & Presentation
• Tone: Informational
• Organization: Excellent
• Flow: Excellent
The organization of this book is well done. One reason it is easy to read is because it flows really well. The tone is straightforward, informational and feels professional.
Bring It all Together
1. One thing done really well: While many of the strategies presented in the book may be familiar to the reader, the author did a superb job of supplying additional information regarding these topics that is both interesting and not readily found in most self-help articles and books.
2. One thing that could be better: As stated previously, getting more audience buy-in on making very challenging mental shifts would make the book more effective.
3. One main thing I took away from this book was: You may never be able to improve your chronic illness, but you can still work on improving your mental well-being and lead a happier more fulfilled life despite your diagnoses.
Overall Recommendation
- Overall recommendation: 4.5/5
- Who I would recommend this book for: People who have a chronic illness and feel stuck or trapped because of it.
- Who I wouldn’t recommend this book for: For people struggling with moderate to severe depression due to a chronic illness, this book would not be an adequate replacement for therapy, nor is it intended to be.
What Problem Does This Book Attempt To Address?
Chronic illnesses can take a toll on emotional, mental, social, and physical wellbeing. It can severely impact quality of life and a person’s ability to function day-to-day. This book offers people who have chronic illnesses strategies for coping and improving their mental health amidst the struggles and limitations that comes with chronic illness.
Content
• Concept explanation: Very clear
• Related stories: Few
• Data references and studies: Adequate
• Charts and graphics: Few
• Practical application: Strong
This book undoubtedly fulfills its stated goal of providing the reader with strategies to improve happiness, meaning and fulfillment while living with chronic illness. The concepts are very clear and well-written. The information is useful and easily applicable. Where the book is lacking is only in attempting to get more buy-in from the reader in Chapter 1. Many people who could benefit the most from this book are probably used to having their lives run by their chronic illness. They may feel like a victim and they may believe that this illness, especially if it is severe, has taken their lives away. For readers who for instance can no longer work, engage in their favorite hobbies, socialize as they want, etc., and have been struggling with their chronic illness for a while, changing mindsets may not feel possible or justified. A reader who feels their illness has ruined their life may not be sold on reconstructing their entire mental framework without more of an emotional argument to persuade them. Jumping straight into the content in Chapter 1 seems like a big ask for the audience.
Other than that, I really found the book to have great content, easy to read, helpful and interesting. I loved the section on grief, I thought the explanations of the different types of therapy were excellent, and the section on stress had very interesting information, not just a repeat of what we always hear. I also liked that he added the section on well-spouses and caregivers. I think the needs of those who take care of people with chronic illnesses are easily and often overlooked and this was a very important topic that he raised awareness about. Overall this book is a compilation of a lot of great info presented in a very effective manner.
Writing Style & Presentation
• Tone: Informational
• Organization: Excellent
• Flow: Excellent
The organization of this book is well done. One reason it is easy to read is because it flows really well. The tone is straightforward, informational and feels professional.
Bring It all Together
1. One thing done really well: While many of the strategies presented in the book may be familiar to the reader, the author did a superb job of supplying additional information regarding these topics that is both interesting and not readily found in most self-help articles and books.
2. One thing that could be better: As stated previously, getting more audience buy-in on making very challenging mental shifts would make the book more effective.
3. One main thing I took away from this book was: You may never be able to improve your chronic illness, but you can still work on improving your mental well-being and lead a happier more fulfilled life despite your diagnoses.
Overall Recommendation
- Overall recommendation: 4.5/5
- Who I would recommend this book for: People who have a chronic illness and feel stuck or trapped because of it.
- Who I wouldn’t recommend this book for: For people struggling with moderate to severe depression due to a chronic illness, this book would not be an adequate replacement for therapy, nor is it intended to be.
January 2, 2022
The key word in the title of this book is INVISIBLE. Thankfully, I don’t suffer from any of the three conditions dealt with in depth, but I have experienced enough ill-health to understand where Christopher Martin is coming from. How do you take “you look well”? You appear to be fine, so why are being so lazy/such a bore/a nuisance? You look absolutely ghastly, but I’ll tell you differently to cheer you up? The person addressing you very likely meant “considering how you must feel, you are bravely putting on a cheerful face” but it isn’t the way you take it, depressed by constant pain and exhaustion.
So, what to do about it? LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF. Forgiving others is easy in comparison but take heart... trust Mr Martin to show you the way. If you share his Christian faith, trust if God. Your affliction is not your fault! There are many books, written by people of every faith, which promise that their deity can works miracles if you spend a few dollars, but this is not one of them.
The roots of this book lie in the author’s own suffering and how he tackled it. It is jam-packed with advice on how to get the treatment and support you need, both physical and emotional. He lists exactly what all the strangely titled (to the layman/woman) specialists do and what they can offer. When you know that, you can build a support team. YOUR support team, which it is your responsibility to ensure communicate with one another and with you. When you meet with any of them, there is a comprehensive list of test results to amass before your appointment, plus what to say, and what not to say. “YOU are in the Driver’s Seat,”
I promise it is possible. I would have found it easier had I read this book before I began my battle towards the optimum health my body can achieve, but I have done it. Never mind “take up your bed and walk”, the miracle of JOY in my life lies within this book, and that is my new goal.
So, what to do about it? LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF. Forgiving others is easy in comparison but take heart... trust Mr Martin to show you the way. If you share his Christian faith, trust if God. Your affliction is not your fault! There are many books, written by people of every faith, which promise that their deity can works miracles if you spend a few dollars, but this is not one of them.
The roots of this book lie in the author’s own suffering and how he tackled it. It is jam-packed with advice on how to get the treatment and support you need, both physical and emotional. He lists exactly what all the strangely titled (to the layman/woman) specialists do and what they can offer. When you know that, you can build a support team. YOUR support team, which it is your responsibility to ensure communicate with one another and with you. When you meet with any of them, there is a comprehensive list of test results to amass before your appointment, plus what to say, and what not to say. “YOU are in the Driver’s Seat,”
I promise it is possible. I would have found it easier had I read this book before I began my battle towards the optimum health my body can achieve, but I have done it. Never mind “take up your bed and walk”, the miracle of JOY in my life lies within this book, and that is my new goal.
December 23, 2021
This is a book everyone should own as we are all likely to be or know someone we care about with chronic illness. This book provides opportunities for healing for absolutely every perspective. Covering spirituality, psychology, and biomechanics this book has it all. Though written from a Christian perspective the book is still very accessible and useful to other religious beliefs. I will be recommending this book to my clients.
December 20, 2021
4.5 Stars! This is a great book and anyone with an invisible chronic illness should really read it. I’ve had an illness since age 14 and I still suffer from illness now. That’s why I wanted to read this book in the first place. The author has some great tips and tricks for dealing with illness, in general, and the mental health of someone with a chronic illness. A must read for anyone with an invisible chronic illness.
*I received this book at no charge & I voluntarily left this review.*
*I received this book at no charge & I voluntarily left this review.*
February 7, 2022
I was intrigued by the title of this book as other than having some health issues myself, I’m dealing with my husband who has invisible chronic illness. It’s a very useful tool not only for the sufferer but also for those living with someone or indeed anyone who knows someone with a chronic illness. Informative and helpful
July 5, 2022
This is such a useful, practical book! Christopher Martin's book is a virtual encyclopedia of coping strategies for dealing with chronic illness, with special attention to illnesses which aren't visible and thus can be easily misunderstood by others in your life. The book covers three major areas - psychological tools, interacting with others, and your physical care - in that order. I love this organization, because it is so easy to get overwhelmed with the physical aspects of your illness, but neglect the psycho-social aspects which are so vital to thriving during your treatment.
The first chapters, which focus on the mental health aspects of coping, offer many approaches for dealing with the stress, grief, and loss associated with chronic conditions: positive psychology, laughter, Christian faith, pacing, therapies, journaling, etc. I love the variety of choices, because there is bound to be a technique that feels like it might work for you. One of my favorite concepts from this section was that I should pace myself, but expect that I may need to deviate from my schedule because of interruptions. In fact, in some cases, "such as a tense encounter, a surprise bill, or a cumbersome, lengthy meeting, you might find that you will not be able to accomplish anything further that day." These kinds of concrete examples demonstrate the author's understanding of living daily with illness, and his encouragement for us to give ourselves compassion, and therein, freedom.
Moving into the middle chapters, Martin begins to focus on others in our lives. This is so valuable, because other people can be critical or they can be helpful and supportive. While we can never guarantee which camp people will fall into, Martin gives us concrete steps for how to approach our friends, employers, and loved ones to give our relationships the best chance of flourishing - in spite of the pressure brought to bear by the stress of long-term illness. One suggestion that particularly spoke to me for handling critical comments from others is that "it is okay to be quiet in the moment. You may wish to address this person at a later time when all is calm." Wise words for more than just chronic illness sufferers!
The final section of the book covers the physical aspects of illness: getting diagnosed, managing your ongoing health care, and feeding yourself a healthy diet. I appreciated the author's even-handed approach to both traditional and alternative medicine, discussing these two as complementary, while so many patients and providers treat them as competitive! The concrete tips in this section will help us to manage our team of care providers skillfully. Make sure to study Martin's introduction to the 5 types of power we can exert - so valuable when serious illness can make us feel so powerless!
Christopher wraps up this enlightening book with a chapter on embracing our new normal, and as both a trained psychologist and man who suffers from long-term
illness, he is both well-qualified and believable on these topics. The breadth of suggestions is impressive - you will feel as though you have all your options neatly summarized and organized for easy consumption. His writing is clear, practical, and always gracious.
Anyone who is experiencing long-term illness will be happy to have this book as a nuts-and-bolts companion during your treatment. You can certainly read the entire book, and take notes, as I did, but you can also use it as a reference, skipping to chapters where you feel the greatest need. This book can also be given to your loved ones to help them understand and support you - Chapter 7, How Loved Ones Can Support You, is written for that very purpose.
The first chapters, which focus on the mental health aspects of coping, offer many approaches for dealing with the stress, grief, and loss associated with chronic conditions: positive psychology, laughter, Christian faith, pacing, therapies, journaling, etc. I love the variety of choices, because there is bound to be a technique that feels like it might work for you. One of my favorite concepts from this section was that I should pace myself, but expect that I may need to deviate from my schedule because of interruptions. In fact, in some cases, "such as a tense encounter, a surprise bill, or a cumbersome, lengthy meeting, you might find that you will not be able to accomplish anything further that day." These kinds of concrete examples demonstrate the author's understanding of living daily with illness, and his encouragement for us to give ourselves compassion, and therein, freedom.
Moving into the middle chapters, Martin begins to focus on others in our lives. This is so valuable, because other people can be critical or they can be helpful and supportive. While we can never guarantee which camp people will fall into, Martin gives us concrete steps for how to approach our friends, employers, and loved ones to give our relationships the best chance of flourishing - in spite of the pressure brought to bear by the stress of long-term illness. One suggestion that particularly spoke to me for handling critical comments from others is that "it is okay to be quiet in the moment. You may wish to address this person at a later time when all is calm." Wise words for more than just chronic illness sufferers!
The final section of the book covers the physical aspects of illness: getting diagnosed, managing your ongoing health care, and feeding yourself a healthy diet. I appreciated the author's even-handed approach to both traditional and alternative medicine, discussing these two as complementary, while so many patients and providers treat them as competitive! The concrete tips in this section will help us to manage our team of care providers skillfully. Make sure to study Martin's introduction to the 5 types of power we can exert - so valuable when serious illness can make us feel so powerless!
Christopher wraps up this enlightening book with a chapter on embracing our new normal, and as both a trained psychologist and man who suffers from long-term
illness, he is both well-qualified and believable on these topics. The breadth of suggestions is impressive - you will feel as though you have all your options neatly summarized and organized for easy consumption. His writing is clear, practical, and always gracious.
Anyone who is experiencing long-term illness will be happy to have this book as a nuts-and-bolts companion during your treatment. You can certainly read the entire book, and take notes, as I did, but you can also use it as a reference, skipping to chapters where you feel the greatest need. This book can also be given to your loved ones to help them understand and support you - Chapter 7, How Loved Ones Can Support You, is written for that very purpose.
March 5, 2022
Anyone living with a chronic illness will attest to how greatly it impacts every part of your life. Apart from the physical limitations, the disease affects your mental health, relationships and work life. Sometimes the condition may be misdiagnosed or not really understood by the medical profession. The author, a school psychologist and committed Christian who has multiple invisible chronic illnesses, suggests ways to take control of your life, and put an end to negative thoughts and emotions. People who live with chronic illness, he says, can become more resilient and not worry about the small stuff. He believes that acceptance, self-compassion, gratitude and positivity will lead to progress in overcoming feelings of guilt, and reduce stress. There was a lot of repetition in this book, saying the same thing in different ways, but perhaps that was a trope used to reinforce the message. Any book that sets out to help people is worth reading and promoting.
January 28, 2025
I enjoyed this book, it’s packed with practical, easy-to-understand advice—perfect for those who struggle with fatigue. Martin offers great strategies for navigating medical care, balancing natural and traditional medicine, and managing the mental challenges of chronic illness.
That said, since the author is North American, some tips—especially on healthcare and finding support—are tailored to that audience. If you live in North America, you’ll likely benefit from the recommended tests, websites, and resources.
My favorite parts? Learning how to communicate effectively with doctors and create a balanced approach to treatment. This book is well worth reading, and if you prefer audiobooks, I’d suggest taking it in slowly over a few weeks to fully absorb the insights.
That said, since the author is North American, some tips—especially on healthcare and finding support—are tailored to that audience. If you live in North America, you’ll likely benefit from the recommended tests, websites, and resources.
My favorite parts? Learning how to communicate effectively with doctors and create a balanced approach to treatment. This book is well worth reading, and if you prefer audiobooks, I’d suggest taking it in slowly over a few weeks to fully absorb the insights.
March 10, 2022
I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It was very well put together and an enjoyable read. For one who has digestive issues, this book offers smart and practical tips to live with the awkwardness and often embarrassing signs of of tricky stomachs. I liked the empathy and sensitivity this book is written with.
It reflects a Christian viewpoint without pushing religion, which I liked.
Finding Joy is a very good read and I look forward to reading it again. I find it hopeful and it gave me a different insight to my problem.
It reflects a Christian viewpoint without pushing religion, which I liked.
Finding Joy is a very good read and I look forward to reading it again. I find it hopeful and it gave me a different insight to my problem.
November 23, 2024
I have read many helpful books on living with chronic illness, but this one was insulting. “Think positively” and “drink water” are two cliches chronic illness sufferers get tired of hearing. It felt like the author was talking down to the reader by overexplaining the most simple of concepts. He also went into way too much detail about his own illness. I now know way too much about nasal rinses. I am literally trashing this book because I don’t want others to read it. It was just upsetting. Evidence: the last line of the book is literally “look for the silver lining.” Just no.
February 14, 2022
Thanks to NetGalley for providing me with an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest opinion.
I'm not sure what I was expecting from this book, but whatever I read, this wasn't it. There were some aspects of this book that really didn't sit well with me.
The first thing that I noticed was the heavy emphasis on Christianity. Not a single chapter goes by without the author discussing his own personal beliefs and quoting the Bible. I started rolling my eyes when I saw "As a Christian" for the third time, and found myself completely skipping over those sections. I am not Christian, and while I can appreciate the importance of spirituality for many people, the author seems to completely fail to recognize that not everyone shares his beliefs, and that they don't need to be inserted so frequently in a book like this one. If I had known that there were SO MANY Christian overtones in this book, I wouldn't have bothered. In addition, I can't help but wonder if the author, who is a school counselor, does the same thing at his job.
In addition, the author provided a ton of subject matter pertaining to his own diagnoses. Instead of generalizing and discussing symptoms that pertain to a wider range of invisible chronic illnesses, I was left with an overabundance of information pertaining to saline nasal washes and antibiotics and CPAP machines.
The other thing that really bothered me about this book is that it mentions unproven holistic treatments, many of which aren't covered by the majority of insurance plans. As a person with invisible chronic illnesses that make it impossible for me to work, so many of these options aren't available to me, since I don't have a trust fund or huge amounts of savings. One of the most upsetting sections (for me) pertained to a person with Ankylosing Spondylitis, which is one of my diagnoses, recovering completely from this progressive and incurable disease, by ... LAUGHING AND TAKING LARGE AMOUNTS OF VITAMIN C. WOW! IF ONLY I HAD TRIED THAT. Instead, I have to take multiple medications just to get through the day. It makes me wonder if the person referenced was misdiagnosed, since he was able to fully recover.
A lot of this book is focused on psychological principles of changing perspective and pattenrs of though. I'm instructed to change my thoughts from "'Chronic illness makes me feel so exhausted.' TO 'Chronic illness grants me that much needed vacation.'" I'm pretty sure I'm not just speaking for myself when I saw that there is nothing about chronic illness that provides a "much needed vacation." Even when I'm resting, I can't sleep. I can't escape my pain. Comparing rough days to a vacation is not only laughable, it's incredibly insulting. Exercise can be a helpful tool ... if you're actually able to do this. When your invisible illness comes with mobility and flexibility issues, exercise is a one-way ticket to worse symptoms and absolutely no improvement.
Some of the claims seems to be somewhat questionable, and while I think that some of the principles in the book can be extremely helpful for people with depression or anxiety, they aren't very helpful at managing other types of illnesses. No amount of looking at my pain or diagnoses as a vacation, or thinking positively is going to help it go away. Laughing isn't going to cure my symptoms, like it did for that one guy. When the author continued to talk about his religious beliefs, and then discussed electromagnetic radiation harming our bodies (without any concrete evidence of this), I found myself significantly less interested in what this book had to offer. Since in my own experience after many years with invisible chronic illnesses, there was absolutely nothing helpful in this book. Implying that I can feel better by changing my thoughts is dangerously close to saying that people with chronic illnesses are at fault for their own diseases, and clearly don't want to get better because they just don't think more positively.
Reading this book was two hours of my life that I'll never get back, and contributed absolutely nothing relevant or interesting. Instead of feeling joyful, happy, fulfilled, and hopeful at the end of this book, I felt even more frustrated than before. Do yourself a favor and skip this one.
I'm not sure what I was expecting from this book, but whatever I read, this wasn't it. There were some aspects of this book that really didn't sit well with me.
The first thing that I noticed was the heavy emphasis on Christianity. Not a single chapter goes by without the author discussing his own personal beliefs and quoting the Bible. I started rolling my eyes when I saw "As a Christian" for the third time, and found myself completely skipping over those sections. I am not Christian, and while I can appreciate the importance of spirituality for many people, the author seems to completely fail to recognize that not everyone shares his beliefs, and that they don't need to be inserted so frequently in a book like this one. If I had known that there were SO MANY Christian overtones in this book, I wouldn't have bothered. In addition, I can't help but wonder if the author, who is a school counselor, does the same thing at his job.
In addition, the author provided a ton of subject matter pertaining to his own diagnoses. Instead of generalizing and discussing symptoms that pertain to a wider range of invisible chronic illnesses, I was left with an overabundance of information pertaining to saline nasal washes and antibiotics and CPAP machines.
The other thing that really bothered me about this book is that it mentions unproven holistic treatments, many of which aren't covered by the majority of insurance plans. As a person with invisible chronic illnesses that make it impossible for me to work, so many of these options aren't available to me, since I don't have a trust fund or huge amounts of savings. One of the most upsetting sections (for me) pertained to a person with Ankylosing Spondylitis, which is one of my diagnoses, recovering completely from this progressive and incurable disease, by ... LAUGHING AND TAKING LARGE AMOUNTS OF VITAMIN C. WOW! IF ONLY I HAD TRIED THAT. Instead, I have to take multiple medications just to get through the day. It makes me wonder if the person referenced was misdiagnosed, since he was able to fully recover.
A lot of this book is focused on psychological principles of changing perspective and pattenrs of though. I'm instructed to change my thoughts from "'Chronic illness makes me feel so exhausted.' TO 'Chronic illness grants me that much needed vacation.'" I'm pretty sure I'm not just speaking for myself when I saw that there is nothing about chronic illness that provides a "much needed vacation." Even when I'm resting, I can't sleep. I can't escape my pain. Comparing rough days to a vacation is not only laughable, it's incredibly insulting. Exercise can be a helpful tool ... if you're actually able to do this. When your invisible illness comes with mobility and flexibility issues, exercise is a one-way ticket to worse symptoms and absolutely no improvement.
Some of the claims seems to be somewhat questionable, and while I think that some of the principles in the book can be extremely helpful for people with depression or anxiety, they aren't very helpful at managing other types of illnesses. No amount of looking at my pain or diagnoses as a vacation, or thinking positively is going to help it go away. Laughing isn't going to cure my symptoms, like it did for that one guy. When the author continued to talk about his religious beliefs, and then discussed electromagnetic radiation harming our bodies (without any concrete evidence of this), I found myself significantly less interested in what this book had to offer. Since in my own experience after many years with invisible chronic illnesses, there was absolutely nothing helpful in this book. Implying that I can feel better by changing my thoughts is dangerously close to saying that people with chronic illnesses are at fault for their own diseases, and clearly don't want to get better because they just don't think more positively.
Reading this book was two hours of my life that I'll never get back, and contributed absolutely nothing relevant or interesting. Instead of feeling joyful, happy, fulfilled, and hopeful at the end of this book, I felt even more frustrated than before. Do yourself a favor and skip this one.
March 7, 2022
I was offered this book as an ARC by NetGalley and found it to be a good book particularly for those who are newly diagnosed with any chronic illness. There are a few things to note, firstly the author is based in the US so for readers living in other countries, your health system may be significantly different. Having said that the basic advice for getting the best out of appointments is probably universal. The second is that the author is very upfront about being a Christian and there are references to his faith. Personally, I am not religious but didn't find this off putting as I accept that faith is an important part of many people's lives.
You can tell that Christopher Martin has chronic illnesses himself as early on he mentions many of the common things that people say to you such as "But you look good" - yes you can even get these comments from your own specialists! It was good to see a section aimed at close family as they can often end up in carer roles and it can be a very difficult adjustment for family members too.
There is an excellent section with a variety of strategies to help maintain as positive an attitude as possible whilst acknowledging that a positive mental attitude is not a cure or even possible to maintain constantly.
I was surprised to see Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) used as an example, something that raises the awareness of a complex and rare condition. If, like me, you have been diagnosed with this condition please note that in a much later section there is a slight mistake (from a UK sense). EDS is generally diagnosed and managed by a rheumatologist as it is a connective tissue disorder rather than a pain specialist as stated in the book. Pain management is an important component of the team of specialists that will be involved in your care and I would encourage you to engage with these specialists but is not usually your primary specialist.
Many complementary therapies are mentioned including treatments such as trigger point therapy, massage and acupuncture which have shown potential in scientific literature. The only one that I struggled to find an evidence base for was craniosacral therapy but then again if it works for you then I will not criticise.
One other error that I should point out is that Martin mentions 'adrenal fatigue' which he admits is not an accepted medical diagnosis. However, he writes that it is 'also described as adrenal insufficiency' which is factually incorrect. Adrenal insufficiency is a medically diagnosable condition where your body does not produce enough/any cortisol and it MUST be replaced with medication such as hydrocortisone. There are three different types and primary adrenal insufficiency is also known as Addison's Disease.
Despite the couple of errors I spotted, I still think that this book is a good place for someone to start if they have just been diagnosed as it can be entirely overwhelming.
You can tell that Christopher Martin has chronic illnesses himself as early on he mentions many of the common things that people say to you such as "But you look good" - yes you can even get these comments from your own specialists! It was good to see a section aimed at close family as they can often end up in carer roles and it can be a very difficult adjustment for family members too.
There is an excellent section with a variety of strategies to help maintain as positive an attitude as possible whilst acknowledging that a positive mental attitude is not a cure or even possible to maintain constantly.
I was surprised to see Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS) used as an example, something that raises the awareness of a complex and rare condition. If, like me, you have been diagnosed with this condition please note that in a much later section there is a slight mistake (from a UK sense). EDS is generally diagnosed and managed by a rheumatologist as it is a connective tissue disorder rather than a pain specialist as stated in the book. Pain management is an important component of the team of specialists that will be involved in your care and I would encourage you to engage with these specialists but is not usually your primary specialist.
Many complementary therapies are mentioned including treatments such as trigger point therapy, massage and acupuncture which have shown potential in scientific literature. The only one that I struggled to find an evidence base for was craniosacral therapy but then again if it works for you then I will not criticise.
One other error that I should point out is that Martin mentions 'adrenal fatigue' which he admits is not an accepted medical diagnosis. However, he writes that it is 'also described as adrenal insufficiency' which is factually incorrect. Adrenal insufficiency is a medically diagnosable condition where your body does not produce enough/any cortisol and it MUST be replaced with medication such as hydrocortisone. There are three different types and primary adrenal insufficiency is also known as Addison's Disease.
Despite the couple of errors I spotted, I still think that this book is a good place for someone to start if they have just been diagnosed as it can be entirely overwhelming.
July 14, 2025
I appreciate many of the thoughtful reviews here. Knowing that my words benefit others makes me realize this labor of love was well worth it. One such review even influenced me to update the Introduction in January, making it more user-friendly. In turn, I would like to offer a few “biased” review thoughts myself ;0)
I understand that a small minority of readers believe a psychology self-help book should refrain from discussing religion or spirituality. As I advocate for a holistic approach, I thought it was important to include a spiritual component, as leaning into my faith has benefited me in my chronic illness journey as it has for countless others. Plus, research shows the benefits of faith to good health. Yet because I strive to tackle numerous factors impacting chronic illness and aim to inspire ALL chronic illness sufferers - contrary to what you may have read here - only a small percentage of the book’s contents addresses the religious/spiritual aspect and almost all of this is in the first two (of eleven) chapters.
In designing this book – and incorporating the feedback from chronic illness sufferers - I emphasize research-based strategies that are easily accessible. Most strategies are free, inexpensive, and/or covered by insurance. And even the more alternative stress reduction strategies with less research backing still reduce stress – which will only be of benefit.
Lastly, consider using the workbook by Oak Tree Reading on Amazon for an enhanced reading experience: https://www.amazon.com/Workbook-Chris.... This could be useful for personal application or in a support group or book club.
I understand that a small minority of readers believe a psychology self-help book should refrain from discussing religion or spirituality. As I advocate for a holistic approach, I thought it was important to include a spiritual component, as leaning into my faith has benefited me in my chronic illness journey as it has for countless others. Plus, research shows the benefits of faith to good health. Yet because I strive to tackle numerous factors impacting chronic illness and aim to inspire ALL chronic illness sufferers - contrary to what you may have read here - only a small percentage of the book’s contents addresses the religious/spiritual aspect and almost all of this is in the first two (of eleven) chapters.
In designing this book – and incorporating the feedback from chronic illness sufferers - I emphasize research-based strategies that are easily accessible. Most strategies are free, inexpensive, and/or covered by insurance. And even the more alternative stress reduction strategies with less research backing still reduce stress – which will only be of benefit.
Lastly, consider using the workbook by Oak Tree Reading on Amazon for an enhanced reading experience: https://www.amazon.com/Workbook-Chris.... This could be useful for personal application or in a support group or book club.
December 27, 2024
“Finding Joy with an invisible chronic illness” is a helpful and informative book for the adult who suffers from an invisible illness or their caregiver. I read this book as a mother of a child with an invisible illness (heart disease). While some of the information provided helped me to get a glimpse of what my son may face as an adult, I felt the author didn’t really address people who have a chronic invisible illness at birth. Most of the emphasis was on someone who finds out later in life that they have a chronic illness. However, I did not fault the author for this but offer as a suggestion to consider this audience for future editions (or books).
From a mother’s perspective, I could relate to the chapter on grief. I had to mourn the life I envisioned for my child and I also have learned to help my son focus on the things he CAN do rather than dwell on the things he cannot. I also could relate to Chapter 3 “Manage Stress” as I was diagnosed with PTSD and acute stress after my son went into heart failure at 4 weeks old. Many of the techniques offered to alleviate stress were things that I had done and that helped me during that stressful time.
As a caregiver of a child with chronic invisible illness, I profoundly agree with the recommendations in Chapter 7 “How Loved Ones Can Support You”. Many of the “what not to say” statements ring true for things NOT to say to a parent of a child with a chronic illness as well. So often people say these things and don’t mean to be hurtful but come across as insensitive. Chapter 9 has great tips on how to prepare for doctor appointments to ensure a successful and effective use of your and your providers time. I’ve learned many of these things through my years caring for my son and agree they are great advice.
This book is a useful reference guide. The author does a great job in his Introduction spelling out which chapters to go to based on the reader’s specific needs. I found this to be an easy read with lots of references to support strategies in the book and also references for additional reading.
From a mother’s perspective, I could relate to the chapter on grief. I had to mourn the life I envisioned for my child and I also have learned to help my son focus on the things he CAN do rather than dwell on the things he cannot. I also could relate to Chapter 3 “Manage Stress” as I was diagnosed with PTSD and acute stress after my son went into heart failure at 4 weeks old. Many of the techniques offered to alleviate stress were things that I had done and that helped me during that stressful time.
As a caregiver of a child with chronic invisible illness, I profoundly agree with the recommendations in Chapter 7 “How Loved Ones Can Support You”. Many of the “what not to say” statements ring true for things NOT to say to a parent of a child with a chronic illness as well. So often people say these things and don’t mean to be hurtful but come across as insensitive. Chapter 9 has great tips on how to prepare for doctor appointments to ensure a successful and effective use of your and your providers time. I’ve learned many of these things through my years caring for my son and agree they are great advice.
This book is a useful reference guide. The author does a great job in his Introduction spelling out which chapters to go to based on the reader’s specific needs. I found this to be an easy read with lots of references to support strategies in the book and also references for additional reading.
April 29, 2022
I got this book as a gift and I read it at an important time in my recovery from a ruptured brain aneurysm. Though I have done extensive rehab and am once again able to walk, talk and care for myself I often find it difficult to answer folks who ask how I am doing. Since I know my outcome could have been so different if I didn't have the huge support and hours of prayer from many family and friends, I still continue to have "issues" that impact my daily life. And I feel guilty if I speak of these issues when someone asks about my health because "you sound just like yourself" or "you look great!" are the frequent comments I hear.
Many of the ideas presented in this book are already things I know are an important part of life (I am an RN back in my working days) but sometimes one just needs to be reminded so as to keep on the right track in life. I was also happy to read that Chris has faith in the Lord as this is what sustains me on a daily basis. The book is not "preachy" if this is something that concerns you and I believe it can help anyone who needs to get back to living regardless of the type of illness they have.
Many of the ideas presented in this book are already things I know are an important part of life (I am an RN back in my working days) but sometimes one just needs to be reminded so as to keep on the right track in life. I was also happy to read that Chris has faith in the Lord as this is what sustains me on a daily basis. The book is not "preachy" if this is something that concerns you and I believe it can help anyone who needs to get back to living regardless of the type of illness they have.
July 3, 2022
This is an excellent book and I found it so interesting to read. I learn so much from reading this book. It really helped deal better with my own chronic illness fibromyalgia. It made me more aware of the the fact even after a number of years you still might have not full accept your condition. It has many useful information on this subject. It also helps you understand that others just won't understand and how to deal with them. What I loved the most about this book is the author has his own chronic illness so all methods are tried and tested.
I really like the way this book was wrote as it didn't feel like any other self help book I have ever read it felt more relaxed. You knew that the author understood you and his manner made me take more in. This book is tailored for those who are in countries that have to pay or have insurance. However I found it so useful and I'm from the UK. So great for everyone.
Many thanks to the author and publishers for producing this fantastic and very useful resource.
I really like the way this book was wrote as it didn't feel like any other self help book I have ever read it felt more relaxed. You knew that the author understood you and his manner made me take more in. This book is tailored for those who are in countries that have to pay or have insurance. However I found it so useful and I'm from the UK. So great for everyone.
Many thanks to the author and publishers for producing this fantastic and very useful resource.
March 16, 2022
The title, “Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness” by Christopher Martin caught my attention, as I also suffer from an invisible chronic illness. I’ll say right up front that I expected to find more examples of “joy,” and felt the title was somewhat misleading. However, I found the content very comprehensive and useful. I especially liked “The Diagnostic Journey” and “Access and Maintain Quality Healthcare chapters.” I’m sure this book will help many people live happier and more productive lives while suffering from chronic illness.
April 4, 2022
Definitely a book written from the inside out perspective with plently of insights and day to day advice as to how to manage a difficult medical condition. Many avenues are explored which offer a useful guide to the way forward. The book is thoughtfully written, often sighting other establised medical research to support the advice and suggestions. The book would suit both those with a similar condition but also offers insights for the family/friends or carers who are closely involved with the patient. Overall, a well thought out and structured guide book.
March 31, 2022
I did find this book very useful. An interesting read, with practical advice & good instructions on what can be done & how to implement it into your life. Easy to read & understand, so I do think this book would be a useful, practical tool in helping to manage life for those with a wide variety of chronic illnesses. I will continue to use this & am hoping for excellent results!
March 22, 2023
While I am extremely blessed not to suffer from a chronic illness, I have many friends who struggle daily with pain. I really appreciated the chapter in Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness by Christopher Martin helpful directed to family and friends of those who struggle daily with their hidden illnesses.
This particular chapter focuses on how to help the victim of the illness and specific questions to ask as well as what not to say to your friends and loved ones.
Martin shares his own experience with a chronic illness as well as research on some of the treatments. The one thing that bothered me a tad was some of the methods of treatment mentioned in the book are often (usually) not covered by insurance and can be expensive, so not everyone is in a place to seek these possible solutions to their health issues.
This book gives a good overview of areas where a person might find some relief, but the outcome is most likely as variety as the many people who fight pain, fatigue, and other symptoms of chronic illness on a daily basis.
Disclosure statement: I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book and was not required to write a positive or negative review. All opinions are my own.
This particular chapter focuses on how to help the victim of the illness and specific questions to ask as well as what not to say to your friends and loved ones.
Martin shares his own experience with a chronic illness as well as research on some of the treatments. The one thing that bothered me a tad was some of the methods of treatment mentioned in the book are often (usually) not covered by insurance and can be expensive, so not everyone is in a place to seek these possible solutions to their health issues.
This book gives a good overview of areas where a person might find some relief, but the outcome is most likely as variety as the many people who fight pain, fatigue, and other symptoms of chronic illness on a daily basis.
Disclosure statement: I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book and was not required to write a positive or negative review. All opinions are my own.
April 27, 2022
SO many chronic illness books are written by doctors without any personal experience actually having a chronic illness, so it's refreshing to read one by an author with both personal and professional experience. This is especially important when learning about using positive psychology for chronic illness- you want to hear from someone who really knows the ups and downs of managing an illness and can speak from a place of understanding how hard it is to suggest joy in the face of lifelong pain and discomfort. You can really tell that the author cares about people managing lifelong chronic illnesses and that he truly believes in his methods for managing pain through positivity.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.
November 6, 2022
This book is helpful for people with disabilities who are having trouble adjusting to their disability. I believe it will help everyone with disabilities enjoy their life more, not just people with invisible disabilities. Those of us with invisible disabilities are often harassed by people who think that you are not disabled unless you are in a wheelchair. This book has tips on finding joy no matter what.
March 24, 2023
My entire life I have been plagued by a chronic illness. I was diagnosed with psoriasis when I was five years old, something that was unheard-of at the time. Years later I would be diagnosed with eight other chronic illnesses that has led to the life I once knew being over at the ripe age of 29. I know there are many out there that suffer like me, but for a long time I was alone in my silent battle, so I’ve grown to try to ignore it the best I can, pull up my boot straps, and do what I can to live each day with as much vigor as I can possibly muster. This is incredibly hard when all of my ailments have pretty much disabled me.
Because I am a suppressor by nature I normally do not read self-help books about dealing with chronic illnesses because I know when I do I will have to face my situation. Even though I’ve dealt with debilitating pain for years, it continues to be a truth I struggle to comprehend and it’s a constant fight for me to not be bitter that others can lead seemingly normal lives while I suffer in silence. But as I grow older I am realizing this is very unhealthy and, after reading Finding Joy, I am wondering just how harmful I’ve been to myself with years of negative self-talk.
There is definitely not a one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with chronic illnesses, but I still found comfort in the fact that I do not suffer alone. There were times I was reading and it felt like I could’ve written it myself, the truth resonated that deep. This book is outlined in an easy to read format that allows you to pick and choose what you want to read, and I personally took copious notes from chapter three, Managing Stress, and went through chapter seven with my husband, which is specifically for caregivers of those with chronic illness. My husband isn’t always the most sympathetic when it comes to my illness, because nothing seems to change no matter what new treatment I try or what surgery or procedure I endure. Reading through the chapter with him gave us both insight to one another’s thoughts and feelings and opened up the lines of communication, something which I am very thankful for.
Though this is a fount of information on its own, the author also cites many resources for further study that was extremely helpful, and something I plan on pursuing in the future. “Chronic illness can ruin your life,” and in a lot of ways I feel like it’s practically ruined mine. After years and years of debilitating pain, multiple surgeries and procedures, and no end in sight I do not know who I am anymore, but after reading Finding Joy I am feeling more hopeful, something I haven’t felt in a really long time. No, I might not be able to change my situation, but I can change my mindset, and choose to see my situation from a different perspective. It doesn’t have to be a burden, it could a blessing.
*I have voluntarily reviewed a copy of this book which I received from the author/publisher through JustRead Tours. All views and opinions expressed are completely honest, and my own.
Because I am a suppressor by nature I normally do not read self-help books about dealing with chronic illnesses because I know when I do I will have to face my situation. Even though I’ve dealt with debilitating pain for years, it continues to be a truth I struggle to comprehend and it’s a constant fight for me to not be bitter that others can lead seemingly normal lives while I suffer in silence. But as I grow older I am realizing this is very unhealthy and, after reading Finding Joy, I am wondering just how harmful I’ve been to myself with years of negative self-talk.
There is definitely not a one-size-fits-all approach to dealing with chronic illnesses, but I still found comfort in the fact that I do not suffer alone. There were times I was reading and it felt like I could’ve written it myself, the truth resonated that deep. This book is outlined in an easy to read format that allows you to pick and choose what you want to read, and I personally took copious notes from chapter three, Managing Stress, and went through chapter seven with my husband, which is specifically for caregivers of those with chronic illness. My husband isn’t always the most sympathetic when it comes to my illness, because nothing seems to change no matter what new treatment I try or what surgery or procedure I endure. Reading through the chapter with him gave us both insight to one another’s thoughts and feelings and opened up the lines of communication, something which I am very thankful for.
Though this is a fount of information on its own, the author also cites many resources for further study that was extremely helpful, and something I plan on pursuing in the future. “Chronic illness can ruin your life,” and in a lot of ways I feel like it’s practically ruined mine. After years and years of debilitating pain, multiple surgeries and procedures, and no end in sight I do not know who I am anymore, but after reading Finding Joy I am feeling more hopeful, something I haven’t felt in a really long time. No, I might not be able to change my situation, but I can change my mindset, and choose to see my situation from a different perspective. It doesn’t have to be a burden, it could a blessing.
*I have voluntarily reviewed a copy of this book which I received from the author/publisher through JustRead Tours. All views and opinions expressed are completely honest, and my own.
March 30, 2023
Christopher Martin has written the most amazing handbook for those who suffer from an invisible (or visible, for that matter) chronic illness--but who'd also like to have joy in the process. So many things can fight against that, that sufferers aren't prepared for: managing the physical symptoms; learning how much they can accomplish in a day on the regular (or not); the grief over how different life has become, and how much they miss their "old" life; and the emotional or mental anguish over all of these.
Martin himself has an invisible chronic illness, so he has lived with the painful challenges that life can bring. But he is also a psychologist. In Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness: Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment, he combines his own experiences with his knowledge and practice of psychological health to provide meaningful, practical helps (lots of them!) for living a hopeful, paced, and emotionally healthy life while dealing with illness. I particularly loved the portions he wrote about planning and pacing our days and weeks; about having self-compassion towards ourselves; about self-talk; and so much more.
Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness: Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment is a book which offers readers incredible hope along with useful helps for daily life. I wholehearted recommend this!
I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from the author. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
Martin himself has an invisible chronic illness, so he has lived with the painful challenges that life can bring. But he is also a psychologist. In Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness: Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment, he combines his own experiences with his knowledge and practice of psychological health to provide meaningful, practical helps (lots of them!) for living a hopeful, paced, and emotionally healthy life while dealing with illness. I particularly loved the portions he wrote about planning and pacing our days and weeks; about having self-compassion towards ourselves; about self-talk; and so much more.
Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness: Proven Strategies for Discovering Happiness, Meaning, and Fulfillment is a book which offers readers incredible hope along with useful helps for daily life. I wholehearted recommend this!
I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from the author. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
March 22, 2023
As someone who lives with an invisible chronic illness, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, I am always interested in reading books about living with chronic illness. While author Christopher Martin does not live with the same chronic illness I do - I can apply most of the book to my life. I will say I do not necessarily agree with all of his points - each person has to find what works for him/her as there is not a “one-size-fits-all” answer to living with chronic illness.
One thing I really appreciated about this book is that you do not have to read from start to finish. If you need help managing stress - go to chapter 3. If you are suffering with a sense of grief and loss - chapter 4 will help you address those feelings. Wonder how you should tell others about your illness - chapter 6 has some tips. Need help communicating with the medical community - chapter 8 and 9 can give you some guidelines. Are you a caregiver, family member, or friend of someone with an invisible illness - chapter 7 can give you some dos and don’ts. I didn’t mention all the chapters but they all contain information that will be useful at some point on your chronic illness journey.
Throughout the book, Martin recommends other resources. I plan on checking out many of them. There is also a workbook available on Amazon which I will probably be checking out as this is a book I will probably refer to again.
If you or a loved one live with an invisible chronic illness, I think you will find some help to find joy as you read this book. It would also be a good book for a chronic illness support group.
I received a complimentary copy of Finding Joy. This is my honest review.
One thing I really appreciated about this book is that you do not have to read from start to finish. If you need help managing stress - go to chapter 3. If you are suffering with a sense of grief and loss - chapter 4 will help you address those feelings. Wonder how you should tell others about your illness - chapter 6 has some tips. Need help communicating with the medical community - chapter 8 and 9 can give you some guidelines. Are you a caregiver, family member, or friend of someone with an invisible illness - chapter 7 can give you some dos and don’ts. I didn’t mention all the chapters but they all contain information that will be useful at some point on your chronic illness journey.
Throughout the book, Martin recommends other resources. I plan on checking out many of them. There is also a workbook available on Amazon which I will probably be checking out as this is a book I will probably refer to again.
If you or a loved one live with an invisible chronic illness, I think you will find some help to find joy as you read this book. It would also be a good book for a chronic illness support group.
I received a complimentary copy of Finding Joy. This is my honest review.
March 21, 2023
Self-Help/Non-Fiction books are a favorite genre of mine. I feel that I learn some valuable info from them. Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness by Christopher Martin is the latest book in this genre that I have read.
Chronic Illness is unfortunately very common in the world today. Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness is a guidebook that helps you and your family navigate the world of Chronic Illness. The book is filled with Professional and Personal experiences with Chronic Illness and how to live life to the fullest with Chronic Illness. Christopher Martin also gives Spiritual and Biblical references throughout the book. Mr. Martin shows how to have a life of Joy even when Chronic Illness can bring you down.
I truly enjoyed this book and all the information that I gained from it. Christopher Martin has been living with Chronic Illness for many YEARS and he has learned to be joyful and live life to the fullest through his illness. I found the book to be very encouraging for those who suffer from illness and for caretakers. I LOVE how Mr. Martin has fought hard to overcome the obstacles that many with Chronic Illness have experienced. Chronic Illness can take years to pinpoint and diagnosis, but he encourages everyone not to give up! I HIGHLY encourage those with Chronic Illness or Caretakers of Chronic Illness patients to read this book! WONDERFUL BOOK!
Chronic Illness is unfortunately very common in the world today. Finding Joy with an Invisible Chronic Illness is a guidebook that helps you and your family navigate the world of Chronic Illness. The book is filled with Professional and Personal experiences with Chronic Illness and how to live life to the fullest with Chronic Illness. Christopher Martin also gives Spiritual and Biblical references throughout the book. Mr. Martin shows how to have a life of Joy even when Chronic Illness can bring you down.
I truly enjoyed this book and all the information that I gained from it. Christopher Martin has been living with Chronic Illness for many YEARS and he has learned to be joyful and live life to the fullest through his illness. I found the book to be very encouraging for those who suffer from illness and for caretakers. I LOVE how Mr. Martin has fought hard to overcome the obstacles that many with Chronic Illness have experienced. Chronic Illness can take years to pinpoint and diagnosis, but he encourages everyone not to give up! I HIGHLY encourage those with Chronic Illness or Caretakers of Chronic Illness patients to read this book! WONDERFUL BOOK!
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