How to Create a Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life

by Ariel Kane

A heartfelt masterpiece for making your relationship last--from the internationally renowned speakers, workshop leaders, and lifelong soul mates An instant classic in the field of love and relationships, this deeply profound book by self-help gurus Ariel and Shya Kane teaches you and your partner how to have a successful relationship in three simple steps. By learning how to let go, let be, and fully commit to the happiness that can only be found within you and each other, you will rediscover the passion that first brought you together and the magic to keep you as a couple. “10 stars . . . outstanding.”
-- Dr. Maryel McKinley, Awareness magazine “A masterpiece . . . unprecedented by any other relationship genre book this reviewer has ever come across.”
-- Wisdom magazine

Genres: Relationships, Self Help

216 pages, Paperback

First published September 1, 2006

Reviews

[Andrea · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book talks a lot about "transformation" instead of "change". On page 20, the book says that "Tranformation is simply a word we use to describe what happens when you discover how to live in the moment." The authors talk about how to be aware, or to see non-judgementally, to understand how you are as a person. There area 3 Princples of Transformation that the authors come back to a lot. I won't list what they are, because I don't want to give the book away, but they make sense.

I found this book to be okay. I feel that it was more a book to become aware of yourself rather than really a book on relationships. Honestly, through a lot of the book I was going "huh?". There was one part of the book that talked about looking at your views of the opposite sex and noticing all of the times that you talk negatively about them. But I think that some of the examples were too strict. Sometimes things are just said teasingly and just in fun. Not everything in life should be so serious! I did really like the part about trying to live in the moment. If there was one thing that I will definitely take away from this book, its just trying to stay in the present. I always worry too much and look into the past or the future, but I need to learn just to live in the now!

[Leah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is an amazing book and its simple but profound approach has affected my life in so many ways. A few years ago I never thought that a magical relationship was actually possible, at least not for me. Now my relationship with my husband (and with myself) is more incredible than I could have imagined, and it just keeps getting better! In their book, the Kanes talk about the importance of listening and how true listening means setting down what you have to say and really listening to the other person from their point of view. In the past, I was threatened by this idea, always defending my point of view and needing to be right. Maybe I was afraid that I would lose my independence if I listened and fully surrendered, especially to a man. What I discovered, though, is that listening actually allows you to be more yourself, it allows you to gain new insights and possibilities. Best of all, it is the key to experiencing intimacy and self-expression. It's awesome. That's just one of the gems that this book contains. There are many, many more. I can't recommend it enough.

[Louisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

very pragmatic , good book!

[Islin Munisteri · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would recommend "Working on yourself doesn't work" more than their more recent book. It sounds like it has been revised to fit the editors voice.

[Private Account · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book wouldn't be good for everyone, but it has key messages that are good reminders for me! (Not new information but good reminders). Worth rereading!

[Anju Pruthi · Rating 5 out of 5]

A pragmatic book , where the authors take a 'hands in the soil' approach to understanding human relationships, including the romantic ones.

The importance of having a healthy relationship with oneself , is brought to the fore, so that one can look ( objectively and in a non- judgmental way ), at the automatic, mechanical and often undesirable ways one comes forth in one's relationships.

Agendas, prejudices, stereotypes, cultural biases - as factors which contribute to the gender war , are all explored; as well as the relation enablers; disengaging from one's story, surrendering (Vs. succumbing ). REAL life examples from the lives of their workshop participants, are elaborated on to provide clarity.

The authors place a lot of importance, on the art of truly listening, to hear what is being said from the point of view of the speaker.

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Found the section on relationship splitters, fascinating. The ease with the authors state their point, without resorting to the complex and confusing concepts of psychoanalysis, is refreshing and thoroughly readable.

The authors conclude, with the section on when to get out of a relationship, if and when it does not afford any possibility of turning into a magical one .

A MUST read for anyone, desirous of creating magical relationships.

[Theresa · Rating 1 out of 5]

I'm rather embarrassed to say this with all these other glowing reviews, but I had difficulty grasping a lot of the concepts in this book. The principles the Kanes laid out were interesting and unique, but I found their examples unclear and seemingly irrelevant, and they offered no suggestions on implementing these principles into your life. I may eventually give this another try--perhaps it's something that must be read more than once to understand fully--but at this point I don't recommend this book. I recommend instead Don Miguel Ruiz's The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship --Toltec Wisdom Book and The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom or Marci Shimoff's Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out, which were all easy to understand yet deep and have had a profound impact on my life.