When You're The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know

by Tammy Nelson

When You’re the One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need to Know is a book for anyone having an affair or indiscretion of any kind and who is confused, unsure and looking for answers. When you’re the one who cheats, it can feel like you have no options. This book can help.

Genres: Nonfiction

173 pages, Kindle Edition

Published February 11, 2019

About the author

Tammy Nelson, PhD, is a world-renowned expert in relationships, a psychotherapist in private practice, and the author of The New Monogamy. In addition, Nelson is a popular lecturer around the world on sexuality and human relationships and global relational change. She is a board-certified sexologist, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, a licensed professional counselor, and a certified Imago relationship therapist. She resides in the New York City area, where she works in her private practice treating couples who are looking to restore passion to their relationships, recover from infidelity, and create their new monogamy, one agreement at a time.

Reviews

[Suad Shamma · Rating 5 out of 5]

What an interesting book!
Even though it doesn’t necessarily apply to me, and addresses a more Western audience and demographic, but I still found it quite interesting and also…well, entertaining.

It’s always nice to read different aspects, angles, perspectives and stories of marriage across the many milestones. Some things will hit home, others will feel scandalous, and then there are things that just sound made up lol

Definitely a good read though, and I love how the author managed to stay completely objective.

[Steve · Rating 4 out of 5]

Interesting and thorough examination of cheating in marriage

The reality is that many get divorced and many of either fantasized about cheating or gone out and done it. What’s next - confession? Divorce? Update your marriage contract?

Open relationship? Can all your needs be met by one person?

Whatever it is - having an affair seems far too complicated to do so I won’t even dream of it.

[Stephen Amaguin · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is in your face and to the point for the one who cheated. If you're a decent human being, you've probably already done some of the steps in the book prior to reading it and end up being like "Ok, I must be decent and not an overall bad person/idiot."

Overall, very well written and to the point. You'll take away some insights from here that will broaden your perspective about your marriage, if you're working it out.

[L · Rating 2 out of 5]

Boring most of the time
Limited self input and research
Did attempt to start accounts on Ashley Madison bu no conclusive remarks
Limited mention of open relationship

Overrated