Yes! I Said No! How to Set Healthy Boundaries and Increase Your Self-Esteem

by Barbra E. Russell

Is it hard to find time for yourself? Do you often ignore what you want, and focus instead on what others want? Do you find it difficult to speak up for yourself? Yes! I Said No! gives you specific tools to set healthy boundaries and re-take control of your life. You will learn how to do what YOU want to do. Without Drama. Without Anger. Without Fear. A series of simple-to-follow examples and clearly stated tools will help you invest in yourself, will help you say YES when you want to and say NO when you need to. You will learn how * say no without blowing up, wimping out or running away * stop being a people pleaser * care for people without carrying them * restore healthy relationships Barbra Russell’s expertise in helping others take charge of their lives stems from a long successful career as a Licensed Professional Counselor. Her fresh and engaging style of communication and unique step-by-step process has helped thousands of people step up, move forward and be who they’re meant to be. Whether from negative family patterns or a mistaken belief that pleasing others is a spiritual gift, this easy-to-read guide will free you of Approval Addiction. You will re-claim your life and enjoy the freedom that comes with declaring Yes! I said No!

Genres: Self Help

98 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 12, 2016

Reviews

[El · Rating 5 out of 5]

I whole heartily recommend Barbra Russells book, Yes, I Said No. It has opened my eyes to many of my own inconsistencies, and how I can have much better relationships if I am just willing to exert myself beyond my comfort zones. I have also become so aware of how often I lie to people. "Oh it's ok" (when it is not) "Yes, I will try to plan that into my week" (when I know I won't)

I strongly recommend following her on social media and taking her boundaries class based on Yes, I Said No. , I have learned to say "No, that won't work for me". And "you must speak respectfully to me", and best of all, I've actually managed to say "Yes, I said No". That one always gives me an inner thrill. I am becoming addicted to the peaceful feeling of honesty. I had done much work on being self-aware and having boundaries before I took this class, but I still floundered. I am no longer floundering, and my life is much more stress-free.

I am also able to help my husband in his business relationships with my new knowledge. It was exciting yesterday when he told me how he handled a sticky work situation by making boundaries and explaining to his employee that this issue in question will no longer be tolerated because it forces the whole crew to carry a burden that is not theirs to carry. This may be easy for some, but for us it was not.

I would highly recommend this book to everyone. I have told many people about Yes, I Said No, and a few of the selling points are always that it is an easy read, devoid of fluffy, filler language. It's not a thick book, therefore it's condensed knowledge that changes you from the inside out.

The more I learn from her, the more I have been telling people that they can absolutely be free of victimhood. They can be powerful, unstoppable, advocates for others as they learn to give from a place of abundance, instead of being in such a deficit from carrying everyone else burdens as well as their own. It made me far more compassionate since I have learned how to care without carrying.

Do buy Yes, I Said No, by Barbra Russell. And do buy the accompanying workbook. The workbook takes you much deeper into the reasons behind not being able to have healthy boundaries, helping to untangle your inner thoughts as you grow.

[Charles Ray · Rating 5 out of 5]

For the individual who feels overwhelmed by life, who finds things spiraling out of control, the cure is simple; learn to say NO. Yes! I Said No! by Barbra E. Russell is a very short book—as short, in fact, as the word ‘no,’ that can help you learn to set appropriate boundaries and increase your sense of self-worth and self-esteem. The author, a licensed professional counselor, outlines a series of simple steps that can be followed that will allow you to regain control of your own life, without necessarily alienating those around you.
Unlike many books on the subject of self-improvement and time management, there are no complicated procedures or exercises here. Instead, the author offers a few simple exercises that involve self-exploration, and learning how to say ‘no’ without being unnecessarily negative.
You can finish this book in under an hour, and it will be an hour well spent. I received a free paperback copy of the book, and highly recommend it.

[Doranne Long · Rating 5 out of 5]

Learn to say No, so you can say Yes! Say yes, to taking better care of ourselves, physically,
mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Counselor Barbra Russell, with this easy-to-use
book, helps us recognize when we are Approval Addicts, or People Pleasers. She gives us
tools, and encouragement, to guide us to forward. As a physical therapist, and author of
Your Body Book Guide to Better Body Motion with Less Pain, I am acutely aware, both
personally, and professionally, it takes many small steps to change a pattern, but it is do-able!

[Stephanie M. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Simple, practical read that is easily implemented into everyday life. Nothing too fancy, a few nuggets of wisdom peppered throughout.

Recommended for the people who are starting at ground zero with developing boundaries. Otherwise it’s a refresher course.

Sometimes you need a little repetition to make things stick, and this is definitely a book that will fill that need.

Coming from a counselor gave it a more intimate feel, as if you’re sitting on the therapy couch having your weekly appointment.

Received a free ARC in exchange for an honest review

[Jan B · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is an excellent book in helping you set boundaries. I recommend it to all!

[Jenni Lynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommend!