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Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing CLEAR Boundaries

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Start Setting Effective Limits — Now!
Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuating between permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or no success? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is. Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful, and instru
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Paperback, Revised, Expanded, Second Edition, 384 pages
Published March 11th 1998 by Harmony (first published 1992)
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Kronik kronik
Mar 24, 2010 rated it really liked it
TR / Türkçe / Turkish:

Aşağıda kitabı okuduktan sonra çıkardığım kısa bir özet var. Sürekli hatırlamak için güzel bir yol oldu benim için...

KURALLARI UYGULAMA
- Keyfi / Değişken / Kararsız / Tutarsız olmamalı
- Yaptırımsız / Aşırı ceza kullanarak uygulanmamalı
- Sorumluluk verme (sonuçlardan çocuk sorumlu)
- Sınırları net, eksiksiz, sonuçlarıyla birlikte verme
- Davranışsal destek (rol model oluşturma)

DANS
- Ana-baba – çocuk arasında çözümsüzlüğe götüren gereksiz söz ve hareketler
- Vakit kaybı
- Öfke, s
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Beyza
Oct 11, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Kitap Adı: Çocuğunuza Sınır Koyma
Öncelikle kitabın adını bu şekilde uyarlayanlara selam ederim. Son kelimeye bir –k ekleseydiniz de en azından verilmek istenen anlam ilk okunuşta biraz daha anlaşılabilseydi.

Yazar: Robert J. Mackenzi
“Bir aile terapisti ve eğitimsel psikologdur. Otuz yılı aşkın bir süredir edindiği deneyimlerle çocukların öğrenim ve davranış sorunlarının düzeltilmesi üzerine ailelere ve öğretmenlere yardım etmektedir.”

Kitap türü biraz daha kişisel gelişime kaydığı için insan yazar
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Fearless
Mar 25, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Mola surecinin isleyisini anladığımı sanarken bu kitap gerçekten ufkumu acti.

Mola surecini yönetmekten, cocuklara yapabilecekleri alanda yardimci olmaya ve bunlarin sonuclarini katlanmayi ogretmek adina super orneklerle doluydu. Belki yanlis ama baslangictaki birkac bolumden sonra ayni sekilde davranmaya basladim ogluma ve bende artik okul saatinden yarim saat once hazir olan bir cocuk goruyorum.

En cok dikkatimi cekende secenek sunmaya devam etmeyi sakinlesmeyi kendi basarabikdikten sonra artik
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Özlem
Dec 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Her şey net ve kararlı olmakla ilgili!
Bunu birçoğumuz biliyoruz fakat eyleme dökmek her zaman kolay olmuyor. Kendi adıma konuşayım; çocuk yetiştirmekle ilgili ne bulursam okuyorum ve ister istemez bazı konularda fikirlerim var. Yine de öyle bir endişe hali ki bu, bir türlü emin olamıyor insan ve şöyle yaparsam böyle hisseder mi, öyle dersem bu olur mu diye kendine sorular sorup duruyor. İşte bu noktada bu kitabın, neler yapılması gerektiğine ilişkin her şeyi örneklerle anlattığını belirtmeliyim
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Nicole
Dec 15, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Common sense approach to discipline w/o spanking, natural & logical consequences & respect on both sides. ...more
Frank
Nov 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This fantastic book changed the way my wife and I parent our kids. For the first two or three years of our children’s lives we were doing the best art we could but with results we did not want and I told my wife one day that we are failing our children, that failure is absolutely not an option and we must do better. It’s a short book and it does have its issues, for example: Mackenzie gives quick solutions that alway yield the perfect results which is not connected to the real world.
I extremely
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Michelle
Mar 28, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
Every family gets into unhealthy communication patterns, or dances, as MacKenzie calls them. This book is a great reminder that age-appropriate expectations are essential for your child's development and the back and forth negotiations, reminders, and threats parents can get baited into are not good for anyone. With scripts, MacKenzie gives readers the tools for clear, concise, and firm communication with your children. Despite being some 20 years old, this book is still resonant effective today ...more
Diorella
Feb 24, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Bir çocuk gelişim uzmanı olarak, önerebileceğim nadir kitaplardan biri de budur
Elif
Jul 01, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Bol örnekli bir ebeveyn kitabı. Cezacılığa ve aşırı serbestliğe alternatif sınır koyma yöntemlerini anlatıyor. Özellikle dikkat eksikliği olan çocuklarla ilgili bölüm benim için ufuk açıcıydı; ADDli bir çocuğun uyaran dolu bir sınıf ortamında ne kadar zorlandığını anlamamı sağladı. MacKenzie ADD konusunda ebeveyn ve öğretmen davranışında değişiklikler ve gerekirse ilacı içeren kombine çözümler öneriyor. Yalnız kitap o kadar davranış odaklı ki, ebeveynlik sadece istediklerimizi yaptırmak mıdır, h ...more
mmart
May 03, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Cezaci veya Uzmasmaci tavirdan ziyade kesin ifadelerle cocuk yetistirmeyi anlatiyor. Her ebeveyn edinmeli...
Sebastian Bobrowski
Jan 30, 2017 rated it it was amazing
very usefull books for parents. I understood how to communicate with my daughter.
Icteolan
Feb 25, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Başta annelik babalık yolunda katkı sağlayacağını düşündüğüm bu kitabı aynı zamanda öğretmenlere, çocuk bakıcılarına, çocuk bakımını üstlenen diğer herkese tavsiye ederim.Çocuklarımıza sınır koymak konusunda bol vaka örnekleri içerdiği için okunması kolay fakat akılda tutulması zor bir kitap. Notlar alarak okunmasını öneririm.
Brenda Brown
Jan 25, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Read this book after a particularly difficult week with the 6-yo. Started implementing strategies immediately and really noticed a difference. I think the important part (for me) was recognizing how I contribute to the "dance" we get into of bargaining, negotiating, being annoyed, arguing, punishments. Stopping the steps of the dance and moving to action steps that are clear and focused without being angry has really helped -- both me and my son. We've not had a homework argument or a get-ready- ...more
Holly
Jan 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This is one of the best parenting books I have read. The author isn't shamelessly self-promoting like the "Love & Logic" or "Screamfree Parenting" authors are, and it reads easier than "The Power of Positive Parenting." His approach makes sense and fits well with my set of values. It allows the parents to be in charge while still respecting, not purely manipulating, their children. I would recommend to anyone with kids. ...more
Kim
Apr 09, 2009 rated it really liked it
Relatively neutral parenting advice, offering suggestions for those on either end of the permissive/punitive spectrum. Life with a toddler, even a good toddler, can be unpleasant at times--the ideas in this book help diminish that unpleasantness. Pairs well with Supernanny's time-out ideas (the book's are a little harder to follow/swallow for me).
Bethany
Jul 21, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This book completely changed the way our son responds to us. It helped both my husband and I so much in dealing with two-year-old drama and tantrums. It's also made a huge difference with my sister and her four kids.
Fustero
Jan 04, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Un libro muy recomendable para padres con hijos de cualquier edad. Te enseña a poner unos límites claros y sencillos y a darte cuenta de los errores que puedes estar cometiendo. Te aporta otra visión sobre las normas o sobre los castigos muy clarificadora.
Carol Muleta
Don't say it if you don't mean it -- It's that simple. This book helps parents, teachers, and caregivers consider what matters and what doesn't before taking the next step toward establishing and enforcing limits.
madziar
Apr 08, 2014 rated it liked it
"Kiedy pozwolić, kiedy zabronić". Ciekawa książka, ale nieco męcząca w odbiorze przez zbyt dużą liczbę przykładów i częste powtórzenia Wyczerpać temat można by w zasadzie już w 100 stronach - wtedy byłaby bardzo dobra.
Natxo Cruz
Deixant de banda algunes qüestions menors, com ara la traducció o un format de manual de secundària, aquest llibre és una excel·lent ajuda als qui tenim fills quan ens arriba el moment d'exercir d'educadors per primera vegada.
Erica
Jan 29, 2010 rated it liked it
Alas, I'm reviewing parenting books. But this was very practical, and really spoke to me. I could identify myself and my child in Mackenzie's examples, and I'm anxious to start using his techniques.
Kathleen O'Mara
Apr 17, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Clearly, this book should be read before one has children. but if you've already blown that time table, read this book anyway.

Alyssa Brigandi
I like this book. It gives your child limits but helps them make thr right choices; so that they feel included and have some kind of control. It's an on-going read, reference.
Rachel
Sep 11, 2010 rated it it was amazing
I am enjoying this book because it is giving me some good ideas to reduce the frustration and yelling at my house.
Jersc
Jul 12, 2011 rated it liked it
okay
Shelley
May 25, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
A great parenting book that cuts out all the unpleasantness of bargaining and pleading with kids, using a clear command followed by a logical consequence.
Brenda
Dec 06, 2012 rated it really liked it
Lots of good information. I just need to apply it!
Funda Uncu
Jan 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Çocuk yetiştirmek için çok faydalı bir kitap. Kitabı okudukça uyguladım ve faydasını gördüm. Çocuğu olanlara tavsiye ederim.
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