Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less

by Nancy Slotnick

"I was trying to get a cab one day near my apartment in Manhattan, and wasn't having any luck. In New York City, you know when a cabbie is looking for a fare because his light is on, so I didn't even bother raising my hand for all the unavailable, unlit cabs going by. But then it occurred to me: What if one of them had a broken light and the driver didn't know it? He'd be driving all over the city looking for someone to hail him, but no one would. Why? Because he was sending the wrong signal, inadvertently. Could it be that your own light is off?" --Nancy Slotnick

Have you tried every dating gimmick and almost (but not quite) given up hope? Nancy Slotnick is a professional dating coach whose program has helped hundreds of her private clients find love in six months or less. If you’re skeptical, you should be. There are no guarantees in life, but if you believe it can happen to you, and you’re ready to try something different, this is the book for you.

Nancy knows you don't need rules or endless theories--you need a strategy that works. With Nancy's Program, you will spend 15 hours a week on a targeted search for Mr. Right. If that sounds like a lot of time, consider the time you will want to spend with this person, once you meet him. Why not put in the time to find him? If you’ve wasted hours on internet searches that went nowhere, or if you’ve been hanging around, waiting for someone to notice how great you are, get ready to try a completely new approach. Nancy will show you how to truly and confidently put yourself out there and how to get men to notice you.

In Turn Your Cablight On, you’ll find Nancy’s expert tips, proven strategy, and invaluable advice on the male perspective. Nancy's husband Daniel Aferiat, a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Manhattan, also gives his take on common dating situations and emotions in every chapter. If you’ve ever asked yourself why you’re still single when you have so much to offer, you’re about to find out how hundreds of women have made their own luck in love—and how you can, too.

Advanced Quotes:
"TURN YOUR CABLIGHT ON is an intelligent Program for finding out what you really want in a man, and then settling for nothing less. Nancy's advice is for women who are ready to take a few risks to end up in a great relationship, instead of sitting at home and waiting for it to happen."
--Alex Michel, the original “Bachelor”

"Nancy teaches women how to take control of the dating process without controlling the men. One thing we always hear from single men is that women don't see their point of view. Nancy really understands and translates the male perspective, and her instincts about them are right on."
--Adele Testani and Ken Deckinger, co-founders of HurryDate

"With her highbrow credentials, Nancy Slotnick, Harvard '89, lends an air of legitimacy to the oft-embarassing arena of forced fix-ups."
--The New York Post

"A great guide for those fabulous women out there who can't seem to find Mr. Right. Slotnick offers concrete advice for getting past the emotional and logistical barriers that unwittingly keep women from the relationships they seek."
--Laura Berman, PhD, Director of the Berman Center, Chicago and author of Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman: 10 Keys to Unlocking Ultimate Pleasure

"A businesslike, philosophical yenta, who used her professional skills to help people navigate the New York dating scene."
--Joanna Weiss, The Boston Globe

Genres: Nonfiction

240 pages, Hardcover

First published December 29, 2005

Reviews

[Amanda · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think that Nancy provides some helpful tips, I really enjoy her writing style. I do not agree with her chapter on encouragement of having premarital sex and the occasional one night stand and also her take on porn being healthy in relationships, but she is entitled to her own opinions. I really felt empowered overall with her messages and ideas and have some new “flirting” and being noticed techniques to try out. I currently am working full time and in grad school so I do not have spare 15 hours a week to dedicate to dating but the idea of setting time for finding dates is important and I am carving out more time.

[Michele · Rating 2 out of 5]

Yes, I really do have my dream man and I am NOT looking for another one. Why this book? Well, the YW of our ward asked me how you meet a guy and if you do, what do you say to him? I thought I would brush up on meeting men skills and then impart what I had learned to them. I didn't agree with everything she said, especially sex before marriage, but I did think she had some good points on meeting men. How to keep yourself fun and flirty w/o being too dependant or needy. I'll work up a workshop for the Y Women and we'll have fun learning more about this topic. This book is for adults only.

[Amy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book had excellent advice and insight on dating -- I've only been putting it into practice for a short while, but so far I've had success. Even if you don't follow the "program," it's helpful for figuring out why certain things work and others don't.

[Kendra · Rating 3 out of 5]

Sometimes Self Help books are silly... This book actually has some good suggestions. :-)