On Being a Pastor: Understanding Our Calling and Work

by Derek J. Prime, Alistair Begg

Now in paperback, On Being a Pastor is an essential tool to help pastors fulfill their calling. A pastor's responsibilities are unique, demanding that he nurture his own spiritual life as well as that of the people in his care. Derek Prime and Alistair Begg provide practical advice for both the spiritual and practical aspects of pastoral ministry. Topics include prayer, devotional habits, preaching, and specific ministry duties.

Genres: Christian, Leadership, Theology, Nonfiction, Church, Ecclesiology, Christianity

320 pages, Paperback

First published March 2, 1989

About the author

After serving churches in the UK as a pastor for thirty years, first at Lansdowne Evangelical Free Church, West Norwood, in London; and then at Charlotte Chapel in Edinburgh, Derek Prime has devoted himself since 1987 to an itinerant ministry and to writing.

Reviews

[David J. Harris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative and even more edifying. Saturated with pastoralness. This should not be a rare quality for ministry books, but unhappily they often don’t always come across as being punched out when the writers were accessing the pastoral part of their brain. This book feels more like sitting across the table from two wise pastors after having asked them the very best kinds of questions, and having several hours to watch them work through their responses.

[Peter Jones · Rating 4 out of 5]

I almost gave this five stars. It is one of the best introductions to ministry in the 21st Century that I have read. Several things set this book apart from others.

First, you have two men from two different eras giving practical advice on shepherding. You get a lot of "I did it this way." Followed by the other man saying, "But I did this way." By setting the book up this way the reader gets a lot of specifics, but none of them are presented as "this is the way it has to be done." The reader is thus left to sift, sort, and apply what he can to his own situation. Tons of practical suggestions without setting down a ton of laws.

Second, they cover a lot of ground. There are your typical chapters on preaching and prayer. But there are also chapters on leadership, delegation, family, two chapters on pastoral care, and a wonderful closing chapter on the perils of ministry. The delegation chapter was one of the most practical in the book with a lot of food for thought on a subject commonly ignored in books on ministry.

Third, the entire book focuses on the holiness of the minister. From how to handle interaction with women to mistakes to Bible reading to prayer to visitation the reader is reminded that pastors must be holy.

The only weak chapter was the one on worship. The best chapter was the one on prayer.

I would highly recommend this book for all ministers, elders, and ministers in training.

[Daniel Ligon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommended for anyone in pastoral ministry! Some of my favorite quotes from the last chapter:

“Our very endeavor to achieve balance, and to hold people together, may at times mean that few people are pleased with us, because we refuse to take sides. We may be misunderstood and maligned, especially by those who do not appreciate the adherence we give to God's will through obedience to the Scriptures rather than to any labeled position or tradition.”
277

“When it seems that Christians are unwilling to face up to necessary change, we must be prepared to be patient with them, and to teach the new generation of Christians we see established to test everything by Scripture, rather than by practice, tradition, or custom. A major benefit of longer rather than shorter ministries is that they provide the opportunity for the exercise of patience, and in particular the patient sowing of God’s Word, to bring about the change and progress He purposes.”
279-280

"We find ourselves aware of the stars only when we cannot see the sun; we are preoccupied with men only when our minds are turned away from God."
288

"Success in spiritual work is not synonymous with being in the public eye or even being regarded by God's people as successful. Success is finishing the work God has given us, and no one else, to do."
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[Zachary Martin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Having read extensively on the topic of pastoral ministry and theology, this book is one of the best I have read. It is theologically sound, practically helpful, and the authors implement practical examples of the topics they discuss throughout the book, sometimes with differing approaches. I would highly recommend this book to any man who is seeking the pastoral ministry.

[Ryan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a great read! I really appreciated the practicality these two men fostered in this important conversation about pastoral ministry. It elevated the ministry and reminded its readers that whoever aspires to the task of an overseer desires a noble task. Pastoral ministry was simultaneously characterized as a vocation associated with exceeding difficulty, yet also as a vocation associated with exceeding joy. Reading about how pastors structure their days, organize visitations, and take care of their own wives and families was deeply encouraging. One of my favorite parts was where the authors differentiated between teaching and preaching, and spoke of the necessity of doing both in sermons. This book was a beautiful reminder for anyone aspiring towards pastoral ministry. These men are wise, humble, and faithful servants of God!

[John Pawlik · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of the more helpful and encouraging books on pastoral ministry I’ve read! I enjoyed that you get two perspectives at once while considering different issues. There are a few things that make our cultural context different for ministry, but this was an encouraging and personally challenging book!

[Patrick Hamblin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Strongly recommend this book not only for new/young pastors but also any potential elders in the church. This book strongly emphasizes the correct priorities of those serving the church.

The most beneficial chapters are the ones on delegation and on prayer.

This would be a great book to read as an elder team, a church staff, or in future leadership training.

[Benjamin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good.

[Ryan Hawkins · Rating 3 out of 5]

To begin, it should be made clear that this book is written by Derek Prime. Only later did they add Alistair Begg’s name to the title, and had him write a few side-note paragraphs every 4 pages or so (and changed the first person to the third person it seems). This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it’s not mainly be Begg.

Overall, the book was okay. My biggest critiques are 1) it is out of date in many ways, 2) it’s very long-winded (classic pastor!), 3) some parts are less Bible-based and more just opinion. On the latter point, of course in any book there will be opinion, even pastoral books, but the issue here is that Prime (and Begg?) took some stances that to me had no necessary biblical support, but it was more just classical pastoral understanding—such as the pastoral calling being of such that you couldn’t do anything else; an interesting idea, but not biblical per se.

The good parts were 1) the chapter on prayer (a compelling chapter), and 2) random paragraphs scattered throughout—usually concerning both Prime’s and Begg’s personal experiences. For this prayer chapter and these random paragraphs, I’m glad I read the book. But it wasn’t enjoyable to read. It rather more so dragged on, and then every once and a while there would be a semi-helpful paragraph.

So I’ll keep in on my shelf for pastoral references, especially since the chapters are easily organized into different categories. But I wouldn’t necessarily recommend anyone to read this book when there’s so many other options.

[Lumuli Mwakasungula · Rating 5 out of 5]

This has been one of the most challenging books I have read in terms of practical lessons for ministry. Its depth made the struggle worthwhile, and knowing the faithful men who wrote it gave weight to every chapter.

What became clear to me is this: Christ alone sustains the pastor in the work He calls him to. Ministry is not carried by personality, giftedness, or effort, but by the grace of God. As Paul writes, 'Not that we are sufficient of ourselves… but our sufficiency is from God' (2 Corinthians 3:5). When weakness becomes evident, it does not disqualify the servant of God; it presses him into deeper dependence, for the Lord says, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness' (2 Corinthians 12:9,).

This book pressed me to remember that shepherding is service under the Chief Shepherd, who will one day call His servants to account and reward faithfulness (1 Peter 5:2-4). I am grateful for the correction, clarity, and encouragement it provides.

May the Lord help me walk humbly, watching my life and doctrine carefully, as I seek to serve Him in His church (1 Timothy 4:16)

[Christian Barrett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Prime and Begg bring real life stories to this book that make it practical and helpful in all things pastoral ministry related. This book goes beyond just shepherding and touches on the every day life interactions that happen from family matters to leisure time. This is an encouraging book that provides helpful tips for pastors on how to walk more biblically in the role that God has called them to. I would definitely recommend this book for anyone in ministry as it is applicable to many different roles seen in the church.

[Thomas Duell · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was intensely practical. Chock full of anecdotes and examples from their own ministry, Derek and Alistair give a behind the scenes look at the day to day of their working lives. Not a one sized fits all book for sure, some will disagree with some of their methods but very helpful nonetheless.

[Michael Goforth · Rating 4 out of 5]

A great overview of pastoral ministry covering everything from discerning the initial call to caring for your wife and children. As my professor in seminary said, “Think of this book like sitting down with two seasoned pastors and learning what it means to be a pastor.” Really good book. Highly recommend.

[Matthew Glaze · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a reread for me from my seminary days. A great book filled to the brim with practical advice on each area of the pastor’s duties. Highly recommend both for pastors and those who wish to know how to better understand pastoral ministry and its peculiar difficulties.

[Nathan Pettit · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very practical. I appreciate the real examples they would give concerning their own pastoral practices.

[Brenden Wentworth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent! A must read. Both digestible and comprehensive about the work of a pastor and one I’ll probably return to regularly

[Taylor Bradbury · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great introduction to pastoral ministry. I found myself deeply encouraged by not only the content of the book, but also the personal stories and practices of Prime and Begg.

[Rex Blackburn · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very practical. I foresee myself revisiting this book if ever God allows me to be a pastor. I was especially encouraged by the chapters on Prayer, Study, and Family.

[Andrew Meredith · Rating 1 out of 5]

"If I profess with loudest voice and clearest exposition every portion of the truth of God except that little point which the world and the Devil are at that moment attacking, I am not confessing Christ, however boldly I may be professing Christ. Where the battle rages, there the loyalty of the soldier is proved, and to be steady on all the battlefield besides, is mere flight and disgrace if he flinches at that point." - Martin Luther

[Josh Miller · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this to be a very solid book concerning the pastorate. I would encourage any one either considering the ministry or currently serving in the ministry to read this book.

I enjoyed the chapter on delegation and its importance for the pastor, the church, and the church members if a church is ever to grow. There were also many warnings about the danger of pride and its perils in the ministry.

Scriptural, practical, and insightful.

[Yula · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book encouraged me upon the path of righteousness.It's definately one to own.

[Cory McArtor · Rating 5 out of 5]

The authors balanced biblical teaching and practical suggestions for carrying out that teaching.

[Cale Fauver · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practical. Full of pastoral wisdom. Much is replicable for normal pastors. Savor the last John Flavel quote.

[Dustin Walters · Rating 4 out of 5]

Prime and Begg provide pastors with a Biblical foundation for pastoral ministry. Years of experience and devotion to scripture alone qualify the writers to write a work like this. Derek prime offers insight from his British experience, while Begg draws upon his experience in Scotland and in the United States.

One feature I appreciated was that at the end of each chapter, the respective authors provided a response. Alistair Begg often expressed that he wished to attain the heights of Prime but had not done so. I appreciated this due to my respect for Begg. I look to him as a model and his humility in his responses garner even greater respect for this living and powerful preacher.

Although it took me a while to complete the book, it was not because it was difficult to read. The book can be finished in one or two settings yet I chose to read the book slowly so that I could absorb more of the content.

Seminary students and those starting out in pastoral ministry will come to appreciate this work. Long tenured pastors will find encouragement for their souls in the pages of this book. Laypersons will even benefit from the chapters on the pastor's life, leisure, and family.

I have chosen to give this book four stars for the following reasons:
1. I appreciate the deep commitment to the Bible as the guide for faith and practice.
2. The writers employ simple writing techniques and keep their readers engaged throughout.
3. The book does not claim to be a how-to guide. Even so, a more practical application in certain chapters would have been appreciated.
4. Readers would also appreciate footnotes rather than endnotes in the book. We want to know who has influenced the writer without having to turn to the end of the book.

[Levi Porter · Rating 3 out of 5]

There's a good deal that's helpful in here. However, Derek Prime does far too much and much of his advice is based on a different context and, frankly, an understanding of ministry work that crushes our humanity rather than gives life. One day off a week with only one night off a week is how he lives his life. All I can think of is his poor kids, his body's health, and if he has flourishing friendships.
This book needs to be read with an asterisk advising you not to begin to try to be like Derek, for you were not made to work that much, even in the service of our Lord. His shepherds are human and must remember they are so. You can hear how defeating Derek's high efficiency is when you read Alistair's comments. Many of his comments are him saying he strives to be like Derek but falls short. You can tell he says it with the burden to strive to do more. But that's a false burden. Not a good book to recommend to someone to read upon entering the ministry, except for them to read of the dangers of being in an unhealthy church context.
There's good advice and good cautions, but I'd much rather read a book on pastoring from someone not within the English/Puritan tradition for they have an unhealthy view of the calling, though, if I were to pick between the two errors of extremes, their's is the better than the one with too low a view of the calling. I'd rather learn from Jared Wilson and others who are striving to build human ministries, not walk within inhuman ones.
One thing he does get right is he takes a whole month long holiday every year. That is something our American context could learn from!

[Julian Seibel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ein hilfreiches Buch, für solche, die Älteste/Pastoren im Reich Gottes sind oder werden wollen. Mehrere Dinge heben dieses Buch von anderen ab.
Erstens haben zwei Männer (Prime und Begg) die praktischen Ratschläge zum Hirtenamt gegeben. Man bekommt eine Menge "Ich habe es so gemacht". Gefolgt von der Aussage des anderen Mannes: "Aber ich habe es so gemacht." Dadurch, dass das Buch auf diese Weise aufgebaut ist, erhält der Leser viele Einzelheiten, aber keine davon wird als "so muss man es machen" präsentiert. So bleibt es dem Leser überlassen, zu sichten, zu sortieren und das, was er kann, auf seine eigene Situation anzuwenden. Eine Menge praktischer Vorschläge, ohne eine Menge von Gesetzen aufzustellen.
Zweitens decken sie ein großes Gebiet ab. Es gibt die typischen Kapitel über Predigt und Gebet. Aber es gibt auch Kapitel über Leitung, Delegation, Familie, zwei Kapitel über Seelsorge und ein wunderbares Schlusskapitel über die Gefahren des Dienstes. Das Kapitel über die Delegation von Aufgaben war eines der praktischsten in diesem Buch und gab viele Denkanstöße zu einem Thema, das in Büchern über den Dienst häufig vernachlässigt wird.
Drittens konzentriert sich das gesamte Buch auf die Heiligkeit des Pfarrers. Vom Umgang mit Frauen bis hin zu Fehlern, vom Bibellesen bis zum Gebet und zur Visitation wird der Leser daran erinnert, dass Pastoren heilig sein müssen.
Ich würde dieses Buch allen Pastoren, Ältesten und Pastoren in der Ausbildung sehr empfehlen.

[Randy Corn · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book that I was given at the Moody Pastor’s Conference in 2004, the first of the conferences I attended. I read through the book back then and thoroughly enjoyed it. I decided to reread it in connection with the conference this year and while I had intended to have it reread by the time of the conference, I seriously missed that goal. I did take it with me and had Alistair Begg sign it after one of the services.

This book covers all the ground that the standard pastoral theology does with some additional insights from the personal experience of the authors. One of its best points is the inclusion of a number of historical quotations where some of the great pastors of the past weigh in on the pastoral challenge. I suppose one of the best of these is where the authors quote A. W. Tozer on the pastoral life. I thought it was tremendously motivational.

While I am sure that I will recommend this book to younger pastors, I fear that it is not the sort of book that will ever be immensely popular. Far too many of the brethren are looking for a much more concise treatment or a simpler “how-to” sort of book. Personally, I like the fact that this volume deals with some of the underlying principles of the pastoral life. I am sure that I will read it again.

[Jack Darida · Rating 3 out of 5]

When I picked up this book, I was hoping for more than a textbook on pastoral ministry. While there is nothing wrong with the content, it all seems formulaic. It could have been written in any decade. I know the book was published 20 years ago, but it mentions the use of a computer once, to my recollection. (Begg's secretary was converting his illustration file to the computer.) There is a chapter about writing letters to the congregation with no mention of email, text messaging, or social media. Prime and Begg fall into a pattern where Prime describes his system of organization, followed by Begg responding with a regret for not keeping up to Prime's standards, or admitting that Prime's methods wouldn't translate to his context. I suppose I wanted to hear more from their hearts and their experience than from their professional opinion. Eye rolls for advice like... Keeping a glass of water on the pulpit... Requiring the pastoral staff to wear ties to work and forbidding them from growing facial hair. It all seems so 1950.

The redeeming factor is the use of Scripture throughout. Each point is undergirded by Scripture references and Biblical examples. For that, my rating jumps from 3 to 3.5 stars.

[Nate · Rating 4 out of 5]

Derek Prime is a minister in Scotland. He originally wrote this book for ministers in the UK. Alistair Begg came along to help update the work and provide personal commentary on each of the sections. Most of the work still feels tailored for the UK but Begg's contributions are helpful. There is a lot of good application of scripture to the work of the pastor. There is much practical insight into the personal methodologies of these two pastors. Begg seems more laid back while Prime is the magisterial reformed counterpart.

It's a good read overall. Helpful for me as a ministerial student to get a picture of the day to day work of a pastor.

[Jack Barber · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really helpful guide. I enjoyed hearing from the different experiences and approaches of DP and AB, as well as how they'd worked together and learned from each other over the years. Plenty of useful advice across all aspects of church leadership, written in a very relatable way with much theological insight. I found the section on leading worship immediately helpful and applicable as well as the section on pastoral care. Recommended to all who are considering or have recently become elders/pastors as well as those who have been serving the church in this way for a longer period and want refreshing and encouraging.