Dale Carnegie was an American writer and teacher of courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking, and interpersonal skills. Born into poverty on a farm in Missouri, he was the author of How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936), a bestseller that remains popular today. He also wrote How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (1948), Lincoln the Unknown (1932), and several other books. One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's behavior towards them.
Es una lectura rápida que contiene consejos prácticos y útiles a fin de que puedas comunicarte e interactuar adecuadamente con las demás personas, es una lectura recomendable si estás buscando buenos consejos para conseguir objetivos al relacionarse con los demás.
Muchos líderes y empresarios se recomiendan este libro para obtener éxito profesional.
¿Por qué?
Porque sus reglas valen oro. En verdad no hay nada que no sepamos, pero recordarlo, y darle el valor que se le merece, marcará una gran diferencia en nuestras relaciones con los demás.
Al ser seres sociales nos sirve a todos, no solamente es funcional en el ámbito profesional.
Estoy segura de que a muchos de vosotros os suena el libro de "Como ganar amigos e influir sobre las personas" de Dale Carnegie. No es nuevo. De hecho la primera vez que fue escrito y editado fue en el año 1976. Y hoy en día se sigue editando y recomendando.
Este libro ofrece reglas para tratar mejor con los demás, ser amigables, aconsejar sin ofender y dirigir de manera indirecta.
¡Ojo! No son trucos, ya que a nadie le gusta ser adulado por educación, sino de una manera sincera.
Este libro recuerda qué es lo que más anhela el ser humano: ser reconocido y ser aceptado por los demás. Por eso mismo, desde la sinceridad y la humildad, las reglas de oro deben practicarse con honestidad o no conseguiremos nada.
PD. El otro día fui a un doctor que tenía la máxima puntuación en Internet y entendí el motivo. Practicaba todas y cada una de las reglas. No solamente conmigo, sino también con un hombre que entró muy malhumorado y sonrió nada más ver al Doctor por cómo éste reaccionó al verlo.
Increíble.
Hay mucho que aprender. Mejor dicho, hay mucho que poner en practica.
FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING PEOPLE 1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain - Criticism always return home, and the person who we are going to correct or condemn will probably justify itself and condemn us in return - Wrongdoers blame anybody but themselves 2 Give honest and sincere appreciation. - The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want -List of most desired things: Health and the preservation of life Food Sleep Money Life in hereafter Sexual gratification Well-being of your children Feeling of importance 3. Arouse in the other person an eager need or want. - When fishing bait the hook with worms not chocolate, even we rather the second one the fish prefer the first
WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU 1. Become genuinely interested in other people. - You make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you 2. Smile. - You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you - Nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give! 3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. - Name as many people by first name as you can, they will feel important to you and will be more pleased by you 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. - Listen intently 5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. - Meet the subject your visitor most likes before meeting with him 6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely. - Make a person go home walking on air - Ask yourself, what is there about him I can honestly admire
HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU INSTANTLY 1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. - Keep the disagreement from becoming an argument 2. Show respect for other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.” - If you are going to prove anything don’t let anybody know it, do it subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it. 3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4. Begin in a friendly way. - A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall 5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately. - begin by emphasizing the things on which you agree keep your oponent from saying ‘NO’ 6. Let the other person do a a great deal of the talking. - Ask them questions, let them tell you a few things - Don’t interrupt even if disagree 7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. - We prefer to chose than to be commanded - Make suggestions and let the other person think out the conclusion - We have much more faith in ideas that we discover for ourselves 8. Try honestly to see things from the other persons point of view. - Be wise, tolerant and exceptional, and try to understand - Try honestly to put yourself in his shoes 9. By synthetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. - Apologize and sympathize with the other point of view and they will do so with you - I don’t blame you one iota for feelings as you do. If I where you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do. 10. Appeal to the other nobler motives. - Listen to the story they have to tell and then adjust yours to match theirs 11. Dramatize your ideas. - Exaggerate and sometimes add or keep the gossip around 12. Throw down a challenge. - The way to get things done is to stimulate competition
BE A LEADER: HOW TO CHANGE PEOPE WITHOUT GIVING OFFENSE OR AROUING RESENTMENT 1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. - Is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points. 2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. - The way you say it will make the difference - In changing people without giving offers or arousing resentment 3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. - It isn’t nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults the person critizising begins by humbly admitting that he is far from impeccable. 4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. - Make orders palatable - Stimulate their creativity 5. Let the other person save face. - “Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime” 6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your appreciation and lavish in your praise.” 7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. - Give a dog a good name 8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. - Be liberal with your encouragement - Let the other person know that you have fait in his ability to do it 9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. - Making people glad to do what you want + Be sincere + Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do + Be empathetic + Consider the benefits to the others person’s wants + When you make a request put it in a form that will convey to the other person idea that he personally will benefit. (Carnegie, 1937)
· Personal opinion about content. He puts too many examples of American Presidents and Vice-presidents like Lincoln, Roosevelt or Rockefeller, which for my taste is too repetitive and now I don’t want to know anything from Lincoln for at least the next three years. Some stories are very long and don’t go straight to the point, and I want to skip them but I have to keep on an eye not to miss the important information.
· Knowledge gained. My favorite principle is SMILE, and now I keep it more present in my head To not interrupt when you disagree, which I sometimes tend to do. To tell people by first name, I always had trouble to remember someones name at first but once I interiorized I tend to never forget.
· Book complementation - Dialoge by William Isaacs - I Ain’t Much, Baby-But I’m All I Got by Jess Lair - How To Turn People Into Gold by Kenneth M. Goode - Getting Through To People by Dr Gerald S. Niremberg
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
El libro se centra en el relaciones y que debemos tener en cuenta para hacerlo bien , no criticar, escucha activa, interesarse por el otro son detalles que muchas veces omitimos por el afán que nos supone la vida y empleo. Es bueno en general
FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES IN HANDLING PEOPLE 1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain - Criticism always return home, and the person who we are going to correct or condemn will probably justify itself and condemn us in return - Wrongdoers blame anybody but themselves 2 Give honest and sincere appreciation. - The only way I can get you to do anything is by giving you what you want -List of most desired things: Health and the preservation of life Food Sleep Money Life in hereafter Sexual gratification Well-being of your children Feeling of importance 3. Arouse in the other person an eager need or want. - When fishing bait the hook with worms not chocolate, even we rather the second one the fish prefer the first
WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU 1. Become genuinely interested in other people. - You make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you 2. Smile. - You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you - Nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give! 3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. - Name as many people by first name as you can, they will feel important to you and will be more pleased by you 4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. - Listen intently 5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. - Meet the subject your visitor most likes before meeting with him 6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely. - Make a person go home walking on air - Ask yourself, what is there about him I can honestly admire
HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU INSTANTLY 1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. - Keep the disagreement from becoming an argument 2. Show respect for other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.” - If you are going to prove anything don’t let anybody know it, do it subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it. 3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. 4. Begin in a friendly way. - A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall 5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately. - begin by emphasizing the things on which you agree keep your oponent from saying ‘NO’ 6. Let the other person do a a great deal of the talking. - Ask them questions, let them tell you a few things - Don’t interrupt even if disagree 7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers. - We prefer to chose than to be commanded - Make suggestions and let the other person think out the conclusion - We have much more faith in ideas that we discover for ourselves 8. Try honestly to see things from the other persons point of view. - Be wise, tolerant and exceptional, and try to understand - Try honestly to put yourself in his shoes 9. By synthetic with the other person’s ideas and desires. - Apologize and sympathize with the other point of view and they will do so with you - I don’t blame you one iota for feelings as you do. If I where you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do. 10. Appeal to the other nobler motives. - Listen to the story they have to tell and then adjust yours to match theirs 11. Dramatize your ideas. - Exaggerate and sometimes add or keep the gossip around 12. Throw down a challenge. - The way to get things done is to stimulate competition
BE A LEADER: HOW TO CHANGE PEOPE WITHOUT GIVING OFFENSE OR AROUING RESENTMENT 1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation. - Is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points. 2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly. - The way you say it will make the difference - In changing people without giving offers or arousing resentment 3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person. - It isn’t nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults the person critizising begins by humbly admitting that he is far from impeccable. 4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders. - Make orders palatable - Stimulate their creativity 5. Let the other person save face. - “Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime” 6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your appreciation and lavish in your praise.” 7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to. - Give a dog a good name 8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct. - Be liberal with your encouragement - Let the other person know that you have fait in his ability to do it 9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest. - Making people glad to do what you want + Be sincere + Know exactly what it is you want the other person to do + Be empathetic + Consider the benefits to the others person’s wants + When you make a request put it in a form that will convey to the other person idea that he personally will benefit. (Carnegie, 1937)
· Personal opinion about content. He puts too many examples of American Presidents and Vice-presidents like Lincoln, Roosevelt or Rockefeller, which for my taste is too repetitive and now I don’t want to know anything from Lincoln for at least the next three years. Some stories are very long and don’t go straight to the point, and I want to skip them but I have to keep on an eye not to miss the important information.
· Knowledge gained. My favorite principle is SMILE, and now I keep it more present in my head To not interrupt when you disagree, which I sometimes tend to do. To tell people by first name, I always had trouble to remember someones name at first but once I interiorized I tend to never forget.
· Book complementation - Dialoge by William Isaacs - I Ain’t Much, Baby-But I’m All I Got by Jess Lair - How To Turn People Into Gold by Kenneth M. Goode - Getting Through To People by Dr Gerald S. Niremberg
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
Publicado por primera vez en 1936, “Cómo ganar amigos e influir sobre las personas” es una obra clásica de desarrollo personal que ha transformado las habilidades de comunicación y las relaciones humanas de millones de lectores. Dale Carnegie presenta principios prácticos para mejorar las interacciones con los demás, ganar su confianza y crear relaciones significativas, tanto en el ámbito personal como profesional. 9/10. Una lectura esencial para quienes buscan conectar mejor con las personas y construir relaciones sólidas.
Excelente lectura, rápida y directa. llega a mi justo cuando mas necesito ponerla en práctica y aprender a convivir mejor con las personas a mi alrededor. Te hace reflexionar sobre tus propias acciones y cuestionarte tu manera de actuar y tratar a los demás, te incita a tener empatía e inteligencia emocional. “3/4 partes de las personas que verás mañana tienen necesidad de simpatía, déselos cordialmente”
Me lo trajo mi papá el año pasado. No le presté mucha atención hasta que este año escuché por ahí que este libro había sido censurado. Entonces gané interés. Esta es una versión resumida. Es bueno, sólo que siento que hay mucho que ya sabía y aplicaba en todo caso. Aprendí otras cositas igual.
Un libro realmente práctico y sencillo de comprender, con consejos que puedes aplicar en cualquier ámbito de la vida, especialmente útil en el mundo de los negocios.
Una reseña estupenda de tiempos pasados que tranquilamente se aplica en estos tiempos donde el mundo digitalizado ha dejado de lado la importancia de las relaciones humanas
Un libro con mucha relevancia y mucho de lo que plantea sigue siendo fundamental en la comunicación interpersonal, aunque es interesante notar las diferencias de épocas
Increíble libro sobre relaciones interpersonales. Es un clásico y es un libro que recomiendan los entrenadores de potencial humano para empezar a conocer de este tema.
Lo recomiendo, ya que tiene historias reales, tiene consejos, reglas y teorías bastante fácil de aplicar a la cotidianidad.
Por cierto, de nada sirve leer y no aplicar lo aprendido.
This is apparently based on the original book, not on any rewrites. Maybe it's for men in a business world of men. I found it sexist.
I've never read the original--just the Digital Age version--but I didnt notice any glaring ommissions.
I have to question whether Carnegie's methods and principles would really elicit the desires outcome.
The advice for trying to get your wife to put better meals on the table is more likely to result in you sleeping on a couch or to fuel her descent down a depression spiral to handle perfectionism.
His advice to criticize yourself comes across as manipulative, and seems likely to backfire. It will annoy people who think you're fishing for compliments. It won't deter bullies. And It may be very unhealthy for those who already tend toward poor self-image and low sense of self-worth.
Much of the advice is about how to make friends of selfish, self-centered, unfriendly people. I'm starting to ask myself why I want to do that.
I found the anti-argument stance hard to swallow and somewhat depressing.
On the whole, for someone like me who is very different from what Carnegie preaches, this condensed book doesn't have any room for making a compelling argument. It provoked some thought as to why my life is not where I want it, but offered no hope for improvement.
This book is a a guideline for how to be genuine and how to utilize kindness and sincerity to serve yourself and others. This is the Art of War for life and business in that explains the root actions and feelings necessary for doing exactly what the title says, and a billion dollar industry has arisen from other authors taking these same principles and specializing them for a particular field of facet of life.
This is a sound book with timeless advice, although some may find the examples to be rather outdated.
Listened to this audiobook as a refresher before a book talk this week. Captures the basic points. Reading was acceptable but not amazing. Sounds like a Bucks Co PA accent.
Es maravilloso todo lo que puede aprender en una pocas páginas. Que bueno que pude escucharte esto, siento que era el momento preciso para aprender sobre esto.