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Undefiled: Redemption from Sexual Sin, Restoration for Broken Relationships
Amid the chaos of cybersex, impersonal sex, adultery, homosexuality, and sexual dissatisfaction in marriage, Undefiled calls readers toward a new kind of spiritual and sexual revolution. Sexual impurity creates a vicious circle, one that springs from misconceptions about Christ and further taints our understanding of Him. Yet another circle is available to men and women trapped in sexual sin, a circle of sexual redemption.
When practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draw us closer to Christ. Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.
There is hope. Real change is possible; true intimacy is available. To the person who has failed time and time again sexually, God’s message is You, too, can be undefiled.
When practiced as God intends, spirituality and sexuality both draw us closer to Christ. Spiritual maturity and sexual maturity go hand-in-hand, and together they hold out the promise of redemption and restoration needed by everyone who has been damaged by sexual sin.
There is hope. Real change is possible; true intimacy is available. To the person who has failed time and time again sexually, God’s message is You, too, can be undefiled.
224 pages, Paperback
First published August 25, 2009
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February 16, 2016
I am giving this book five stars because of how helpful was to me personally. Dr. Schaumburg walks through the process of sexual redemption or how redemption affects our sexual lives. What makes this book so helpful?
First is his experience. The number of cases and the variety of cases he has dealt with mean he is speaking from experience not theory.
Second, he brings hope by focusing on the work of Christ. Sexual sin feels like it cannot be defeated or overcome. Everywhere we turn there is more immorality, less restraint, more opportunities for different types of sexual sin, and more people who give in. As a pastor, I often tip towards despair in helping those who are struggling sexually. By pointing the reader to Christ Dr. Schaumburg immediately brings light. His years of experience are also encouraging because he knows that Christ can change people.
Third, he refuses to make excuses for sexual sin. He does not buy into the sexual sin is a disorder or disease. He does not allow our past to excuse us from our sins. Sin is given no quarter, though he does no assume easy answers either.
Fourth, he encourages repentance as the beginning of change and does not start with behavior modification. He does not give a list of ways to avoid porn or make your marriage affair proof. He starts with what is going on inside of us.
Fifth, he pulls no punches, but is not profane. In our culture this is not an easy line to hold. But he is bold enough so that we know what he is talking about with being too graphic.
Sixth, he makes our sexual life about bringing glory to God not about having great sex. Again behavior, i.e. having wonderful sex, is not the goal. Are we serving the Lord? Are we loving one another? He describes one couple who came for counseling who had a great sex life, but hated each other. Sex was a tool for them to get what they wanted. Great sex is not the goal.
Seventh, he doesn't buy into the men are not into relationships slogan. Men want relationships just as much as women do. This does not make them the same as women, but it does remove one of the myths about men.
Eighth, he does not just focus on the sinner, but also the one sinned against.
Finally, he has a good grasp of masculine and feminine roles.
The book was a bit a wandering at points and I wish he spent more time speaking to men who had been sinned against by women. The focus was on men who sinned sexually, though women are mentioned. This makes sense because men have been the main problem for years. But that is shifting. More and more women are into porn and other types of sexual sin.
Still an excellent book and for personally it cleared a lot of things up and gave me some good things to work on in my marriage.
First is his experience. The number of cases and the variety of cases he has dealt with mean he is speaking from experience not theory.
Second, he brings hope by focusing on the work of Christ. Sexual sin feels like it cannot be defeated or overcome. Everywhere we turn there is more immorality, less restraint, more opportunities for different types of sexual sin, and more people who give in. As a pastor, I often tip towards despair in helping those who are struggling sexually. By pointing the reader to Christ Dr. Schaumburg immediately brings light. His years of experience are also encouraging because he knows that Christ can change people.
Third, he refuses to make excuses for sexual sin. He does not buy into the sexual sin is a disorder or disease. He does not allow our past to excuse us from our sins. Sin is given no quarter, though he does no assume easy answers either.
Fourth, he encourages repentance as the beginning of change and does not start with behavior modification. He does not give a list of ways to avoid porn or make your marriage affair proof. He starts with what is going on inside of us.
Fifth, he pulls no punches, but is not profane. In our culture this is not an easy line to hold. But he is bold enough so that we know what he is talking about with being too graphic.
Sixth, he makes our sexual life about bringing glory to God not about having great sex. Again behavior, i.e. having wonderful sex, is not the goal. Are we serving the Lord? Are we loving one another? He describes one couple who came for counseling who had a great sex life, but hated each other. Sex was a tool for them to get what they wanted. Great sex is not the goal.
Seventh, he doesn't buy into the men are not into relationships slogan. Men want relationships just as much as women do. This does not make them the same as women, but it does remove one of the myths about men.
Eighth, he does not just focus on the sinner, but also the one sinned against.
Finally, he has a good grasp of masculine and feminine roles.
The book was a bit a wandering at points and I wish he spent more time speaking to men who had been sinned against by women. The focus was on men who sinned sexually, though women are mentioned. This makes sense because men have been the main problem for years. But that is shifting. More and more women are into porn and other types of sexual sin.
Still an excellent book and for personally it cleared a lot of things up and gave me some good things to work on in my marriage.
July 19, 2012
Dr. Harry is the foremost Christian expert on this subject. He is not to be confused with psychologists who are Christians who counsel, believe that! His approach is phenomenal, his practice is unequaled. One must know beyond a doubt they are saved and have a true salvation/testimony, not a "false conversion" to overcome this sin. Yes, I've gone through his intensive and speak from experience.
March 20, 2010
Amazing book. This might be just what every couple needs as a wedding gift! Straight talk...informative, leaving no room for excuses...but plenty of grace to lead toward change.
December 15, 2016
Biblically centered approach to sexual healing and health.
May 29, 2021
I'm struggling to finish this book. I find it very repetitive and theoretical. To me, it's more of a theology book on the subject of sexual sin than a practical guide for those who struggle with it!
May 4, 2020
The best book I have read on this subject. Schaumburg blends his clinical/counseling experience with biblical truth to provide practical, spiritual help.
November 10, 2018
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January 9, 2015
Real, clear, and incredibly accurate
This book is a deep look into the heart and underlying issues of marriage, relationship, sexual immorality and sexual redemption. Every man and woman seeking to glorify God should read this book.
This book is a deep look into the heart and underlying issues of marriage, relationship, sexual immorality and sexual redemption. Every man and woman seeking to glorify God should read this book.
October 1, 2010
Rigorous, thoughtful approach to a deadly topic.
April 25, 2011
Regardless of your marital status or sexual history, this book is for you!
December 29, 2014
Recommended read for all Christian couples, and non-Christian for that matter.
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