Girl Meets Girl: A Dating Survival Guide

by Diana Cage

The only girl-on-girl dating guide you’ll ever need!Indispensable for any woman who dates women€”or wants to€”with lively and irreverent advice about meeting girls, making the first move, who picks up the tab, flirting, and surviving bad dates. Plus sex tips for beginners and advanced players.

Genres: Nonfiction, Lesbian, Queer

180 pages, Paperback

First published February 1, 2007

Reviews

[Sarah · Rating 4 out of 5]

A fun little beginner's guide, surprisingly light and humor-filled, but with some genuine tips: i.e. what to do on that first date. The biggest problem with the book is that it assumes we're all pretty good-looking and pretty kinky, with the author going so far as to admit she's intentionally overlooking vanilla sex! Still, the definitions of "queerspeak," handkerchief color code, gender vs sex, what drinks to order and how to avoid sabotaging your date can be helpful. Just don't expect this to be the end-all of preparatory reading; it's more of a basic, if pleasant, primer.

[Jess · Rating 4 out of 5]

So I am currently reading this book to review it for work... Funny it showed up now as I'm newly single. Most of the stuff in here I already have a good amount of knowledge about, but I can't say that most queer grrls and bois would be able to say the same. Cage points out all the basics of dyke dating: where to meet 'em, date fashion, breaking-up, gender awareness, sex tips, etc. She even has a section with recipes for an "at home" date. This is a great little dating manual for dykes, easy and fun to read and packed with info to help you get laid...

[Willow]

I'm completely expecting to find all of the answers and become a dating genious after reading this book. hopefully it won't disappoint.

Hah! Apparently I was feeling rather sarcastic a few months ago. I'm putting this away until I feel the need to start dating again. Kind of irrelevant to my life right now, but it's been amusing so far and seems to have a decent amount of relevant info for the modern young Lesbian.

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book to be a nice companion to "He's Just Not That Into You" if you happen to be a bisexual like me and read both male and female dating guides. It has some clear cut tips like advising girls to actually ask women on dates rather than suggesting to "hang out." It also contains a fabulous list of pick up lines for everywhere from the bar to the grocery store ("do you have any idea how to cook eggplant?") and useful dating/sex tips.

[Alisha Bell · Rating 5 out of 5]

read my review here

[Angie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Do I have to raise my leg at the good night kiss, ala the cover?

Thanks for the gift Trisha. I'll let ya know if it works.

[Kate Vassar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Funny and awesome!

[Karleen · Rating 3 out of 5]

very enjoyable!

[{erika} · Rating 4 out of 5]

As expected when I picked it up, has a fair amount of into about sex vs. gender (or as the author calls it, what is in going on between your legs vs. what is going on in your head.) Def learned some more about queer culture and the queer community. It is awesome to see, again as expected, how even though this book is from 2007 it is pretty "woke" and body positive, sex positive, and pretty accurate with the language, labels, and information about pronouns.

[Kalina Campbell · Rating 4 out of 5]

It was good, and I can see myself reading it again

[Ginny · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good: trans-friendly, takes on the pervasiveness of butch/femme stereotyping and how it affects relationship dynamics without forcing the reader to fit into said stereotypes, has lots of first-hand accounts about dating girls. Shorter than Girl Sex 101.

Meh: out of date, even after 9 years (though the book would have been written in 2004/5 in order to be published in 2007). This is inevitable when dating is so technologically dependent now but things change quickly. The vocabulary choices might have made sense given the time the book was written, the author's group of friends, and the city she was in, but how much the word choices are acceptable in the reader's environment may vary. I feel like polyamory is more of a thing in current girl/girl dating and the book only very briefly mentions it.

Good for a quick summary of butch/femme/boi signalling and how to navigate sex with a genderqueer and/or trans partner, and for some scripts about asking girls out, but I found Girl Sex 101 to be more thorough and likely more evergreen.