31 Days of Single on Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

by John Kim

Written in John Kim's unique "advice-in-a-shot glass" style, a month-long program that applies the tenets of his bestseller Single on Purpose, packed with daily tips for self-reflection, growth, and adventure.

As John Kim revealed in Single on Purpose, your single years are the most crucial for having big life experiences, discovering who you are, and investing in yourself, body and soul. But what if you're newly single or stuck in a rut? How do you start living your single years with intention and meaning? How do you make new friends, find out what you enjoy without a significant other, gain confidence, try things that scare you, get out of your shell, forgive yourself for past mistakes, and look at life like the adventure it is?

Whether you've embraced the advice in Single on Purpose or are just discovering Kim's ideas, 31 Days of Single on Purpose can help you transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth filled with memories, deep work, play, forgiveness, and freedom.

Each day is framed in classic John Kim style, and features:

No-bullsh*t ways to confront your past--what you've settled for before and what you're changing todayKick-in-the-butt prompts for getting out in the world--starting a new pastime, and meeting new peopleJournal questions that don't feel like "journaling," focusing on brief, direct, and honest answers to help you know yourselfTips that help you understand where you are emotionally--Do you feel fulfilled? Stuck? Lonely? Overwhelmed? Sad?Daily mantras for meditation and visual manifestationSuggestions for sweating, lifting, walking, hiking, and moving your body31 Days of Single on Purpose includes stories, helpful diagrams and charts as well as plenty of blank pages for reflection. This is an interactive workbook meant to be used. Whether you're just getting started or a single king or queen looking to level up, 31 Days of Single on Purpose will help you find fulfilment, direction, and an understanding of who you are and what you truly want.

Genres: Self Help, Love

144 pages, ebook

Published May 9, 2023

About the author

John Kim LMFT (The Angry Therapist) pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago, after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. He pulled the curtain back and showed himself by practicing transparency and sharing his story something therapists are taught not to do. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box by seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, in a CrossFit box. He built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people help people and change the way we change. He lives in Los Angeles.

Reviews

[G D · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a entry level worker who hasn't been in many relationships, this book is a pleasing requirement for defining the state of being single.

Prior, I haven't put much thought into being "single," I used to believe it didn't mean anything. This book will educate you that there is so much more to it.

If you want to learn how to explore yourself while not being in a relationship, I highly recommend this book. The author uses very relevant Millenial language and speaks very casually. So it truly does feel like there is a connection as he has experienced what younger people have been through.

[CARLA · Rating 3 out of 5]

First thoughts are that it took me a really fucking long time to read this book. I think it’s because he put so much information into each chapter. I needed to stop and process it and try to absorb it; before I moving on to the next one. Honestly the first half of the book seemed a bit negative to me. But I wanted to push through so about halfway through the book it got a lot better. It started giving real practical advice, like how to get out on your own, doing things alone, feelings, real examples with his clients. Those kinds of things, but it took halfway through the book to get there. Some of the things that I found to be very very helpful. We’re really in the last quarter of the book and I wrote a lot of them down because these are things that I could use in my everyday life. Some of them are: Your body has four pistons, and if you’re not moving your pistons daily, then you’re stalling out which is a nice analogy. The four are 1. moving your body 2. liking yourself 3. scrapping shame, and 4. sexual need. Those are some that I wrote down. Then we have things to ask yourself. Meaning, is what you’re doing in your life truly meaningful to you? Joy, how are you producing joy in your life today? Engaging, what does engaging mean to you? You decide what it means and then there were some other random questions I felt were necessary. What does love look like? What does success look like? What does dating look like what does self-care look like? What does singlehood look like? These are all things that people should be asking themselves. I feel like but it’s hard to know where to start so I feel like the book was handy in that aspect and helped me to grow even though I already go to therapy and other self-care things. There was some quotes that I really liked and here’s a couple of them.

"I am not perfect, but I like myself enough to invest in me."
"Worth is not something you believe, worth is something you build."

Would I recommend this book to every single person? I don’t know, it’s really depends on where you are at in your journey. I started this book when I first became single. I grabbed it because the title kind of stuck out to me. But here I am almost almost 2 years later, finishing it finally. I would recommend reading it because honestly you never really regret learning new things right?

[Mike Tomasello · Rating 2 out of 5]

I really wanted to like this book. It's a workbook made to be written in so I definitely recommend not getting the ebook.

Even getting the paperback, 2 stars is all I could muster. The extra star was the authors heart is in the right place by providing exercises to help those improve their future romantic relationships by learning to enjoy being single...to love your life. To be single on purpose.

I pro a ly should have realized that an author that calls himself the "Angry Therapist" would be way too negative for me. He was.

He had a "Daily Mantra" for each days lesson but mantras are usually made to be sayings that you repeat over and over again to have positive beliefs.

The problem was at least half of the mantras were negative. They might have been important lessons but most of them were lessons to be learnt and moved on from quickly.

Again, I gave it 2 stars, not 1. I do think there is value in here for you if you've never done work on your relationship with yourself and or you have had issues in your relationships.

However, I'd recommend looking to see if something else out there exists that might be better for you.

[aira lee · Rating 2 out of 5]

i listened to the audiobook. it has a structure of a workbook but it wasn’t compelling enough or different than other books i’ve read with similar genre and tbh it focuses so much on past relationship and what not to be/ repeat based off past relationships/ experiences that it felt like it ran off it’s title, it just my opinion, but im glad i read it.

[Shalini · Rating 4 out of 5]

This workbook , along with "The New Rules of Attachment" , helped me understand that my romantic relationships are only one part of my life . Fostering a relationship with myself is far more important .

[Hannah Schwefel · Rating 2 out of 5]

I think maybe it's supposed to accompany another book. There were some things that made me think but I didn't find it overly insightful or moving. Maybe it's best for someone who is newly single and struggling to be single.

[Helen · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a workbook for singles wanting to feel comfortable without a partner. It had a lot of good ideas, but I disliked the foul language.

[Nayna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Purchased this book when I realized I can't stay sad over my breakup. This book helped me to do one thing day by day and motivate me to get over the sadness!

[Lulu · Rating 1 out of 5]

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[bookaholic22 !:) · Rating 4 out of 5]

I recommend it. I found it helpful, engaging and thought-provoking. Each page and goal is different which makes you anticipate every new day. However, I do suggest to use other tools if you’re interested in going through a post-break up/self development process instead of only relying on this book. The pages don’t have long or a lot of information on navigating day-to-day anxieties, relationships and interpersonal conflicts. Nonetheless, I found it well written and it allows the reader space to do their own writing and shares prompts at times.

[Wilme ("Vilmie") Steenekamp · Rating 1 out of 5]

The author appears to be trying too hard to be cool, which comes across as inauthentic to be. And it adds to, to me, it doesn't feel like thoughtful, wise advice.
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