Explains how an intense concern for others can leave one with a heavy burden of guilt--feelings of abandonment, disloyalty, love theft, and more--and describes Control Mastery Theory
A good book describing with simple examples how small things said in ones childhood by our parents and other family members can cause quilt as grownups and how people sabotage their own happiness with that illusionary quilt. And it made me realize something even deeper, but that knowledge you'll have to find out yourself. :)