Be The Prize: How To Master The Art of Femininity Without Giving Too Much In Your Relationship

by Kim Postell

Be The Prize! Not because you're entitled or spoiled, but because you are a woman of substance, character, and grace. Your beauty, charm, & feminine essence captivate the man that truly desires to have you exclusively. Many have never been taught the power of femininity in relationships. Without this knowledge, women have found themselves in toxic relationships, or with a man that simply has no interest in marrying them after years of dating. By the time these women come to this realization, their best years have passed or they are left with regrets for investing too much into a relationship. ○ Quality women do not audition for marriage. ○ Quality women do not submit to a boyfriend. ○ Quality women have boundaries. ○ Quality women are nurturing, caring, and loving, but never "Give Too Much." Your femininity is what cultivates a deep emotional connection with a man, which leads to a mutually fulfilling relationship. This can be done without compromising morals, principles, & values. If you've ever felt that you give too much of yourself in a relationship, and you want to embrace the art of femininity and setting clear standards with men, this book is for you.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships

102 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 6, 2020

Reviews

[Zaira · Rating 2 out of 5]

While I do appreciate the author’s stance on embracing femininity and rising above the societal/cultural noise that brings women and femininity down, the book draws a lot from the bible and is structured largely on the Christian ideology of marriage. Not a bad thing if that’s what you’re looking for but for me it’s a bit biased and focuses too much on religion/the Christian definition of marriage rather than a woman’s personal journey on embracing her femininity. The book specifically focuses on marriage/finding a husband rather than generally attracting positive relationships, which makes sense for a Christian viewpoint but I was hoping for more general advice on how to be a better woman and less about how to get married and find a husband as soon as possible. While the author does give some good advice on how to be a better woman, live more femininely, respect yourself, have higher standards, attract high quality men, etc. I personally believe that some religious ideologies/bible verses hold women back from further personal development and have some fairly rigid viewpoints on how to be a woman, a man, and what marriage should look like. Aside from the religious structure the author has a lot of good things to say and I found it to be a helpful and easy read.

[Brandy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Advice

Must read this book. If you are already on the right track this will put everything in perspective and allow you to continue to grow

[M Mami G · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful reminder

I absolutely enjoy this book from beginning to end. It is a wonderful reminder of what we are what we should be focused on mainly on. This book should inspire every woman to keep their head held high until the right man Can straighten a crooked crown I really enjoy this book and I recommend it to every woman out there that doesn't quite understand what is happening with these men. Focus on you sisters and never forget to be the prize!

[Avigail Laing · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm not sure I needed this book, but I like that the author used a lot of Bible verses to back up her points. That made me happy. 😊

[Kamp Woods · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic read that desires to be reread and recommended. I really enjoyed the fact that the author came from a pov that encouraged readers to take self responsibility instead of using manipulation.

The book does reference religious quotes from the Christian Bible, but the information presented is useful to any woman who values relationships and is working towards building a family.

I’m glad that I found the book and I suggest sharing it with young women (15-20+) in order to mentally prepare and discover personal intentions when it comes to dating/marriage and overall reputation.

My favorite part of the book is how the author suggests the most important thing a wife can provide to her husband is not her looks or duties (cooking and cleaning) but her ability to support her husband and willingness to do so.
I also enjoy her emphasis on developing high self esteem and self worth with examples of what that looks like in real life.

[Liza · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Read

I would recommend this book to all ages of women in all areas of life who are truly looking to understand how we can better ourselves. I have been on my feminine journey and have been loving it. This author beautifully explains what and the importance of being a true woman is about

[Lydia Reed · Rating 5 out of 5]

A true page turner

I read this whole book in one setting. It was that good! I am on a mission to be a better version of myself and truly flourish in my femininity and this book has taught me so much already. If you’re on a mission to flourish in your femininity this is a great read.

[Adeng · Rating 5 out of 5]

How to live a feminine & set apart life

This book was great! Founded on biblical principles and gives such good insight on what it means to be a feminine woman of God. Will definitely be reading it over and over again.

[Lillianeje15gmail.Com · Rating 5 out of 5]

Enlightening!

This book brought home a lot of truths, and made it easy to understand. I am encouraged and challenged. Thank you

[Danielle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lovely Read

Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge and understanding of trusting God and healing to create the best relationship in marriage. I throughly enjoyed every page.

[Henry · Rating 5 out of 5]

First of all - obviously what the author wrote is correct. Most of her texts have a religious background. Something our society today has mostly moved away from en masse. While a debate could be garnered on if religion still has a place in today’s society, a more important debate, however, should be had which is what replaces yesterday’s religion. The book gives me a tremendous amount of sadness because what the author wrote was the brutal truth, which is that what replaces yesterday's religion is something much worse. The author wrote:

A significant shift is happening in the culture that is becoming more dominant. Young women are being led astray by the false narrative that "hoe culture" can somehow be classy and decent at the same time. This is a complete oxymoron and makes absolutely no sense. Young women have had their image tarnished by the entertainment industry, but top tier women must stop embracing this degenerate lifestyle. You are nobody's hoe or slut. You are a feminine woman that respects herself and others.

There’s a reason why religion has been around for a long time - because it works. Just because something is new, doesn’t mean it’s better - the feeling that delayed gratification and abstinence is the thing of the past simply because we have the pills or condoms (which I’d remind people that we still have STDs) simply means that even if people get married, they are ill prepared for marriage and the divorce would be a very likely outcome. The author wrote:

… traditional women are becoming a rarity. We still want chivalry and marriage, but the world is changing right before our eyes. Now is the time to be more feminine than ever because you will stand out. Women now embrace being strong and independent, but after a while, that takes a toll, especially as you get older.

The book dwelled on numerous aspects of female self development, renouncing many of the modern dating norms (such as relationship is something females ought to work for). On the topic of casual relationship, the author wrote:

If a man wants to date casually, you should just move on. If he wants to reconnect with you, he will. Giving complete dedication to a man that has not earned it is desperation, and opportunistic men will use it to their advantage.

On the topic of sensuality and femininity, the author wrote:

Many women cannot master or exude sensuality as a feminine woman. If the only place that you can be vulnerable and open with a man is in the bedroom—you are out of touch with true femininity. It is difficult to be feminine without having the ability to relax and bond on an emotional level. Femininity does not come from a place of weakness.

Lastly, the author wrote extensively on the importance of marrying a male with vision for the future. The author wrote:

A man with the qualities to become a good husband must have a vision for how he sees his life in the future. He should have goals that he is working towards daily.

And:

When a man embraces his purpose, he is clear and assured about where his life is heading. He will be confident and full of energy.

As well as:

When you get married, you share the same vision and goals. As a wife, it is my responsibility to encourage my husband to fulfill his purpose. I support my husband's vision for our life with my love and help.

In sum, I feel saddened that the idea of this book isn’t the societal norm but rather something a person has to write about - because the author is obviously right.

[Vita Anggraeni · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ini buku pertama untuk memahami apa sih energi feminine itu dan berujung pada saran yang secara esensial membicarakan perempuan yang mempersiapkan diri untuk pernikahan. Ada banyak channel relasi yang tidak perlu berujung pada pernikahan tetapi bagi yang mau maka bisa jadi rujukan. Beberapa hal penting yang menjadi kaca pada perjalanan diriku memahami diri sendiri dalam berelasi adalah bagaimana penulis menekankan untuk memahami diri - rekonstruksi identitas, sebelum terjun pada relasi yang serius. Memahami diri dulu dan keinginan yang serius untuk melangkah ke jenjang berikutnya (dalam hal ini pernikahan, bila diinginkan tapi tidak wajib). Kendati demikian, di luar pernikahan sendiri aku lebih menggaris bawahi soal bagaimana aku nggak perlu melakukan apapun dan membuktikan apapun pada siapapun dan di saat yang sama berupaya ingin menghargai laki-laki dan hidup berdampingan dengan laki-laki dan bukan berkompetisi dengan mereka. Via buku ini, secara nggak langsung aku jadi paham bagaimana gender role "laki-laki" menginginkan penghormatan, apresiasi dan penerimaan tanpa kritik, komplain. Sekalipun ada kritikan, maka sampaikan dengan cara yang tidak menyinggung "ego" karena laki-laki beroperasi dengan ego sedangkan perempuan beroperasi atas dasar "emosi". Ya bagi penganut gender normatif ini akan membantu dalam proses rekonstruksi femininitas perempuan dan bagaimana femininitas ini bisa dilihat juga jadi powerful sembari hidup berdampingan hidup dengan laki-laki.

[Catherine Flynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

An insightful book allowing and reminding women of God how precious we all are in God's eyes. However, this will now show until we see it in ourselves. The Bible verses are beautiful reminders. Women have to realize that the tradition of knowing men hasn't changed. A man has to pursue, and a woman is to receive. Despite what the world normalizes, we still have to keep what God intended us to follow. A real man, a Godly man, is worth waiting for. As the saying goes, "Never settle for anything less!"

[Dina · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wish more women followed this advice. Two points. Hold off on sex. Sex is important, and i understand we want this physical intimacy but so many women today just give themselves away for nothing. In nature the cost of sex and mating is very, very high. Well, humans made it very cheap. We basically devalued it. Second - have your own hobbies, principles and morals. Don't birth children right away before you vetted a person. And make sure the man you pick also have morals and principles otherwise his money or looks do not matter.

[Naomi Moore · Rating 5 out of 5]

OMG THIS BOOK

This book has taught me a not that I did not even know I was doing. This book made me reflect on my last relationship and I can honestly see what was wrong in the things I did myself.

This book gives you clarity l love this book!

Everyone should read this book ( all the females)

[Angel Boyce · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great read

This book was very thought-provoking.
I agreed with the majority of the ideas conveyed however I believe too much responsibility is placed on the institution of marriage and not on the individual partners themselves.

I like the concept of becoming a woman of high-value as well as creating the energy polarity difference between the masculine and feminine.

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I don’t really know how to rate this. I guess I read it because I was curious about what the content entailed. It is very religious based, with interesting thoughts on femininity. Some thoughts resonated, others were completely strait laced religious viewpoints. I don’t think I have the capacity to rate it.

[Aquiller E. Cole · Rating 5 out of 5]

Insightful

Easy read packed with good, wholesome advice and tips. This book isn’t about getting a man. It’s about understanding who you are as a woman so when you do meet your husband, you have a better understanding of who he is and how you complement each other.

[Heather Whitfield · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just what I needed!

I felt like this book was talking directly to me. I did exactly what she said not to do in a relationship and it made me see exactly where I went wrong. The question is, can I fix it?

[Simone Laroche · Rating 5 out of 5]

A beautifully written, consise (-100 pages) reminder of feminine energy, especially comforting and orienting when stepping back into dating 🩷 4.5 ⭐ rather than 5 due to the frequent biblical references, but overall a very enjoyable read

[fran · Rating 5 out of 5]

A slap back to my old "Reality! "

All those things I know,.. Knew but not been impliminting in my new life. A slab bk to reality. Yes!

[Kim · Rating 5 out of 5]

Straight to the point

With useful tips to actually put into action. Great read. I highlighted so many excerpts from this book. I now know where to start in my level up journey.

[Say · Rating 3 out of 5]

pretty good

At first I wasn’t sure if I was reading a book on femininity or the Bible. Took some good information though about it

[Althia Grant · Rating 5 out of 5]

MUST READ!!!!

I absolutely love this book. I think every woman should own a copy of this book. You won’t regret it. So much to learn in order to BE THE PRIZE.

[Charzetta Payden · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent Read!

This a great read for any woman trying to build her confidence and truly understand what it means to operate in her feminine energy.

[Shadaynnah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beyond amazing!!!

This read was short, direct and concise! Recommend to all women at any stage in their life and relationships!!!! Well done.

[Kate Rañola · Rating 5 out of 5]

Beautiful

[Charlene L · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative

Short and straight to the point. The author gives you biblical references, her experiences, and insightful ways to walk in your femininity.

[Lana Bos · Rating 5 out of 5]

Valuable!!

This is a must-read for single women longing for a mate (husband). Even men would enjoy this book, I'm sure. I wish it was longer

[Hannah Mena · Rating 5 out of 5]

Completely changed my outlook on life! Really brought out my divine feminine