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God, the rod, and your child's bod: The art of loving correction for Christian parents
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124 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1982
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January 30, 2013
A perfect recipe for abusing children and gaslighting them into thinking it's "loving." Read for research purposes.
May 19, 2024
Lazy, excuse to abuse, disturbing how much thought and time was put into how to “correctly” beat a child. The whole idea is very disturbing. And doing it in God’s name? What I learned of God was pure Agape Love. Never this ~ it’s horrific. I guess I expected much better from a man of God. I guess I thought the title was a metaphor. It will take awhile to get over this.
I raised 5 children and NEVER once hit any of them. Neither did their father. We didn’t emotionally or verbally abuse them either. And we don’t believe In bending a child’s will. We also don’t believe in spoiling. Your number one task is to prepare them for independence ~ while still assured you’ll always be their Mama or Dad, no matter how old they get. First and foremost we taught by example with love and respect for each other and for them.
I don’t mind admitting I got quite frustrated at times, and yes, angry. Those were times I used time-outs ~ for them and for me. It requires a lot more patience than resorting to spanking, but is so worth it. Especially with your first child, but give yourself some slack. You are after all still in on-the-job training. Helicopter parenting is also very tempting ~ everything is so scary. But you will learn to let go, little by little at the right time.
Some children, like those with ADHD, high energy or a greater need for stimulation can be a challenge. But they’re also commonly intelligent, creative and gifted. What is required is to redirect their energy and wear them out with physical action. The trick is finding an activity, sport or creative bent that will hold their interest ~ and even find their gift. Even very strong willed children have a positive side to that trait. It’s your job to find it. Always with patience, creative and positive thinking and with love. My husband is an engineer and good with his hands. So I had quite a bit of expertise and skilled building help.
We lived for a time deep in Appalachia in West Virginia and Kentucky. I worked as a Psychologist and administrator with the states’ School Boards. In an area where I’m delighted to say I was instrumental in outlawing corporal punishment in public schools. But, unfortunately, only after multiple serious injuries ~ including two broken coccyges and one death. In my experience with thousands of children, it was consistently the ones who were the most harshly physically punished that were the worst behavior cases. And inevitably many became violent and got into trouble with the law. And worst, many were deeply troubled and estranged from their parents.
I’m proud to say my children still come to me for advice, to have fun and just to talk ~ about anything and everything.
If you’re just starting out and new to parenthood, please don’t follow these ideas. It will cause deep wounds and dissension between your children and you will regret forever.
At one time, when the mother was the only full-time caretaker and disciplinarian, on top of running the household, cooking from scratch, etc, a shortcut to behavioral problems may have been more practical, quicker and easier. But times are different ~ and we know better. And It simply comes to this. Someone so fixated with the thought of beating a child as to write a book on the subject has disturbing issues. And anyone who can’t teach a child discipline and self control without beating them needs to accept help to change ~ or shouldn’t be raising children at all.
I raised 5 children and NEVER once hit any of them. Neither did their father. We didn’t emotionally or verbally abuse them either. And we don’t believe In bending a child’s will. We also don’t believe in spoiling. Your number one task is to prepare them for independence ~ while still assured you’ll always be their Mama or Dad, no matter how old they get. First and foremost we taught by example with love and respect for each other and for them.
I don’t mind admitting I got quite frustrated at times, and yes, angry. Those were times I used time-outs ~ for them and for me. It requires a lot more patience than resorting to spanking, but is so worth it. Especially with your first child, but give yourself some slack. You are after all still in on-the-job training. Helicopter parenting is also very tempting ~ everything is so scary. But you will learn to let go, little by little at the right time.
Some children, like those with ADHD, high energy or a greater need for stimulation can be a challenge. But they’re also commonly intelligent, creative and gifted. What is required is to redirect their energy and wear them out with physical action. The trick is finding an activity, sport or creative bent that will hold their interest ~ and even find their gift. Even very strong willed children have a positive side to that trait. It’s your job to find it. Always with patience, creative and positive thinking and with love. My husband is an engineer and good with his hands. So I had quite a bit of expertise and skilled building help.
We lived for a time deep in Appalachia in West Virginia and Kentucky. I worked as a Psychologist and administrator with the states’ School Boards. In an area where I’m delighted to say I was instrumental in outlawing corporal punishment in public schools. But, unfortunately, only after multiple serious injuries ~ including two broken coccyges and one death. In my experience with thousands of children, it was consistently the ones who were the most harshly physically punished that were the worst behavior cases. And inevitably many became violent and got into trouble with the law. And worst, many were deeply troubled and estranged from their parents.
I’m proud to say my children still come to me for advice, to have fun and just to talk ~ about anything and everything.
If you’re just starting out and new to parenthood, please don’t follow these ideas. It will cause deep wounds and dissension between your children and you will regret forever.
At one time, when the mother was the only full-time caretaker and disciplinarian, on top of running the household, cooking from scratch, etc, a shortcut to behavioral problems may have been more practical, quicker and easier. But times are different ~ and we know better. And It simply comes to this. Someone so fixated with the thought of beating a child as to write a book on the subject has disturbing issues. And anyone who can’t teach a child discipline and self control without beating them needs to accept help to change ~ or shouldn’t be raising children at all.
June 17, 2009
On the back of the book the author writes that, "love that neglects 'the rod' isn't real love at all." How true. How true.
This book answers prickly questions, such as, "And what if I 'blow it'; administer a spanking and later discover the child was sick or teething." (p.48)
Until I read that I thought you weren't supposed to beat a baby.
Tomczak answers, "Simply ask the child's forgiveness and be assured that children are not as fragile as many of us think. They're flexible. They're tough. Plus, they forget quickly!"
Another questions, "Where is the rod administered?"
"God, in His wisdom, prepared a strategic place on our child's anatomy which has enough cushiony, fatty tissue and sensitive nerve endings to respond to Spirit-led stimulation. This area is the base of the back, above the thighs, located directly on the backside of every child. All children come equipped with one!"
Praise Jesus!
"Clarity, Obedience, Right Attitudes, Restoration, Explanation, Consistency, Thoroughness, Immediately, Out-of-Sight, Neutral Object."
What's that spell? C-O-R-R-E-C-T-I-O-N!
I think this book was ghost written by Delbert Grady.
This book answers prickly questions, such as, "And what if I 'blow it'; administer a spanking and later discover the child was sick or teething." (p.48)
Until I read that I thought you weren't supposed to beat a baby.
Tomczak answers, "Simply ask the child's forgiveness and be assured that children are not as fragile as many of us think. They're flexible. They're tough. Plus, they forget quickly!"
Another questions, "Where is the rod administered?"
"God, in His wisdom, prepared a strategic place on our child's anatomy which has enough cushiony, fatty tissue and sensitive nerve endings to respond to Spirit-led stimulation. This area is the base of the back, above the thighs, located directly on the backside of every child. All children come equipped with one!"
Praise Jesus!
"Clarity, Obedience, Right Attitudes, Restoration, Explanation, Consistency, Thoroughness, Immediately, Out-of-Sight, Neutral Object."
What's that spell? C-O-R-R-E-C-T-I-O-N!
I think this book was ghost written by Delbert Grady.
January 27, 2021
- old school and I loved it (read for the second time)
- amazing how much it holds true today despite being written 40 years ago
- lots of scripture used, counter-cultural perspective
- amazing how much it holds true today despite being written 40 years ago
- lots of scripture used, counter-cultural perspective
April 26, 2016
5/5 bring prayer back to schools
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