Ich will bleiben. Aber wie?: Neuanfang für Paare

by Mira Kirshenbaum

What turns a happy, healthy relationship into a pairing full of boredom or even anger and hostility? Couples therapist Kirshenbaum, author of the bestselling Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay, has identified 10 "love killers" that cause people to lose the good feelings that brought them together in the first place. "Think of a love killer as the equivalent of a ... condition like pneumonia," she writes. "If properly treated, it can easily and reliably be cured." Among the most common diseases threatening romantic happiness: letting your relationship slide as life pressures sap your time and energy, excessive criticism, not opening up emotionally, or the feeling by one or both partners that the other isn't meeting his or her needs. Because relationship problems often aren't what they seem, the book provides questionnaires for determining where the trouble is coming from, as well as a variety of prescriptions for working things out. Don't be fooled by the overly cute chapter headings, each of which is taken from a popular song title--this is an informative, very usable book that is sure to save more than a few relationships from slipping away without either person knowing just what went wrong. --Ben Kallen, Personal Growth editor

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction

Paperback

First published January 1, 1998

Reviews

[Micke Sandlin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Mira Kirshenbaum är helt klart min favoritförfattare inom relationer. Den här är inte lika bra som hennes "Too good to leave, too bad to stay" men är ändå en bok av toppklass.

[Princess · Rating 4 out of 5]

I love how this book is set up! The chapter titles are fun and the information is very helpful. I've already passed the book around to several friends. Every relationship goes through ups and downs. The key is to work on the downs before they get too far gone. Kirshenbaum has you ask yourself diagnostic questions to determine if your relationship is dying from a "love killer." When you find your love killer, there is a prescription to follow. This book is an incredibly helpful tool.

[Cara]

Read as reference for building relationship workshop.

[Nita]

From the same author as "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" but not nearly as compelling.