مولف در این کتاب روشهایی برای رویارویی موثر با افراد ناسازگار، مطرح میسازد. شرح این روشها به همراه توصیههایی در چگونگی به کارگیری مهارتهای لازم فراهم آمده است .مطالب کتاب در ده بخش، به این شرح سامان یافته است" :افراد به اخلاق و عصبانی"، "افردا بدگمان"، "افراد بدبین"، "افراد منفی"، "افراد ساکت و نجوش"، "افراد خودشیفته"، "افراط در رقابت جویی"، "افراد سلطهجو و مستبد"، "افراد چاپلوس و متملق "و "نحوه برخورد با رفتارهای نامطلوب ." چاپ ۱۳۷۹
Working with Difficult People is somewhat of a short introduction for what might drive a difficult person's thinking and their actions. The book opens with a self-examination of whether or not you might be the difficult person causing the disruptions you dislike in the workplace. All scenarios focus on the workplace but could be translated into any situation. Overall the book is short given the complexity of the subject. A reader who prior to reading this book has not embarked on a learning journey of attempting to understand human behavior and its relevance to interpersonal dynamics should realize that this book doesn't even scratch the surface what there is to learn and seek out other sources to learn more. Overall, this book does not do the subject justice.
The difficult people brought forward in this book as causal-factors by customers who approach a consultant for aid are recognizable enough (over-controlling, sycophant, ..) . The ways of handling them is unfortunately non breakthrough for me, it equates to the advise of taking an umbrella when it rains: true but not revalatory and too limited vs desired outcome, I don't want to cope, I want change.
Learning how to handle difficult people and disruptive behaviour is a critical career skill in today's high stress workplace.
This book deals with nine different types of difficult people, and outline a system for resolving differences, opening lines of communication, and avoiding office headaches.
The book deals with 1. Mean and Angry boss 2. Suspicious Manager 3. Pessimist peer 4. Cynic Manager 5. Shy and quiet supervisor 6. Narcissist subordinate 7. Extremely competetive peer 8. Overcontrolling peer 9. Toady subordinate(feeling of toadiness).
Other kinds of difficult people can be a combination of the above as follows.
Unresponsive 5, 3 and 2 Negative 2 and 3 Know-it-all 1, 6, 7 and 8 Indecisive 2, 3 and 4 Complainer 1, 2, 4 and 7 Sneak 1, 2, 7 and 8 Whiner 2, 3 and 4 Politician 1, 4, 6, 7 and 8 Manipulator 1, 4, 6, 7, 8 and 9 Procrastinator 2, 3 and 4 Staller 2, 4 and 9 Exploder 1, 7 and 8 Sniper 1, 2, 7, 8 and 9 Sarcastic 1, 4, 6, 7 and 8 Thin skinned 2, 5 and 9
Well written and organized-it will help you deal with all the nut bags in your cube farm-from co workers, peers, and managers. I believe Lundin is a therapist so this has a very strong bias but lots of it are spot on-I saw so many of the freaks in my zoo on these pages. It hasn't really helped me figure out what to do with them but it does give you a framework to assess things by. The big take away is that's its not really about you-none of us are that important!
Okay , I kept noticing this book on my boss' shelf for a long while now . It is positioned on the shelf just perfectly so that her office mate can see it at all times ! I had to pick it up and check it out ;-)
I think this book did a really good job of breaking down the kind of difficult people you might come in contact with at work and different strategies on how to handle them.