Boyfriend 101: A Gay Guy's Guide to Dating, Romance, and Finding True Love

by Jim Sullivan

You’ve done the bar thing. You’ve let your best friend set you up. You’ve even logged on to a gay dating website. But the man of your dreams is still out there, just waiting for you to find him. What’s a gay guy to do? Look no further than this book.

Whether you’re new to the dating scene or just wanting a refresher course, in Boyfriend 101 you’ll find an abundance of practical tips for meeting the right man (and avoiding the wrong ones) and keeping him (and you) interested for the long term. Topics

•Deciding what you need versus what you want in a boyfriend
•Icebreakers that actually work
•Expanding your social network
•The best places to meet men
•Writing a hot personal ad or online profile
•First-date protocols (or, Waiting until after the third date to have sex)
•Discussing HIV and negotiating safe sex
•Maintaining a healthy body image
•Overcoming fear of abandonment
•Creating healthy lines of communication with your boyfriend

Genres: Nonfiction, Queer, LGBT, Gay, Relationships

288 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2003

Reviews

[Dennis · Rating 1 out of 5]

So outdated and a little bit stereotypical.

[Kealii Ballao · Rating 1 out of 5]

I'm still single.

[Douglas Lord · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Dating is not rocket science,” writes first-time author Sullivan, a serf-described dating and relationship coach, “[but] a skill that can be taught.” This encouraging, goal-oriented guidebook to interpersonal interactions will help men take advantage of their strengths, find suitable (and cute) mates, have safer sex, and achieve diversity. Sullivan combines practical advice–“Be conscious and careful of whom you have sex with, and of the emotional consequences”–with upbeat encouragement–“God gave you a brain: use it!” Readers will appreciate straightforward, by-the-numbers material (e.g., sample personal ads) that leaves room for creativity and personal flair. Much like Neil Kaminsky’s Affirmative Gay Relationships, this is solid, instructive, and reasonably priced, though at times overly dependent on anecdotes to demonstrate points and provide advice. Either book is fine for most.

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[Criss · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book is a great guide for those guys that aren't sure, secure of what they want to get or gain from a relationship. It has a few intering facts.

[Richard · Rating 4 out of 5]

Surprisingly insightful and wise. Based on the title, I was expecting something schlocky, but Sullivan has actually penned a thoughtful and thought-provoking guide to gay relationships.

[Erhan Keskin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent