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When Children Invite Child Abuse: A Search for Answers When Love Is Not Enough
Book by Gold, Svea J.
276 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 1986
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February 2, 2010
It's not bad enough that this book is so horribly out of date but what really makes it so deliciously awful is that it appears to be written by a circa 1940's child-molester (although it was in fact written by a middle age woman in the late 80's.) Now she's no doctor, or in anyway educated and judging by this book she's barely literate but that doesn't stop her from writing a book about child abuse based on half-remembered anecdotes and articles she read in the paper a few years back. The author is convinced that all child abuse boils down to "children have undiagnosed allergies that make them crabby and then adults beat them." To call this pseudo-science is an insult to hard working phone astrologers and new age healers everywhere.
Factors that increase "propensity of children to get themselves abused" (children are constantly "getting themselves abused" according to the author.)
-Hypoglycemia
-Ticklishness (which eventually leads to "suicide or pulling a knife")
-Deformities
-Blue eyes and blond hair
-Green eye and red hair
-Left-handedness
-"starey eyes"
-Milk
Other fun random claims include:
Juvenile delinquents drink vast amounts of milk
Jailed offended have ALL been abused children
Increases in child molestation are due to: unemployment and the fact that "children seem to mature earlier and in their early teen years are breathtakingly beautiful"
Fat women are more likely to abuse their children
Dyslexia can be cured by rolling around on the floor.
Some abusive parents in England have described their offspring as "eminently bashable."
One smell which arouses violent anger is the smell of urine.
In Germany the common folk-name for what is called peepee in this country is "ein kleiner Wunsch"- a small wish.
Even today in our enlightened society a six-year old boy was tied naked to the toilet and left there for days.
Letting your six year old sleep in your bed may cause them to become a pyromaniac
Normal six year old behavior includes playing hospital and "taking rectal temperatures"
Almost any form of sex education given by the member of the opposite sex parent will have some seductive quality to it.
"We live in a world where milk and love are synonymous and "the good stuff, beautiful milk" is pushed on all children"
"My father is in jail" and "a goat ate my dress" seem to make an urgent impression on a child to whom these experiences had been very traumatic.
My favorite quotes:
"Abraham was quite willing to sacrifice his son to God, and the fact that god sent him a ram to sacrifice instead was a step towards a new understanding."
"A young mother threw her year-old baby off a freeway overpass in front of oncoming traffic. She did this just hours before children's services was to come and take the baby away from her. Was she protecting the baby from strangers who were about to take him to a frightening, uncertain future? Was she really an abusive mother? Some animals destroy their babies when there is danger to the nest."
"Fortunately, we hear less and less of nurses at hospitals tying a mother's legs together to keep the baby from being born before the doctor arrives."
"The newspaper reported that a comatose infant was brought to the hospital by a young couple, and both father and mother were arrested for endangering the life of their child. When they could not stop the infant from crying, they fed him an opium ball to call him down and nearly killed the 6-moth-old. The paper never once mentioned why the child had been crying so hard."
(maybe thay had a good reason to give the baby opium)
"Jimmy, who is a good boy three weeks out of the month, is hypersensitive to smell.When the teachers body odor changes because she is menstruating, he finds the smell so obnoxious that he will pull any kind of maneuver to get away from the odor."
"Uncle Jimmy taught Johnny how to masturbate him. Now Johnny is doing it in school, the same way he would show off that he learned to ride a bike."
"Are some children more likely to get sexually abused than others? Probably. The soft, the gentle, the hungry for touch."
(officer I assure you I didn't mean to molest that kid, he was 'soft and hungry for touch' that's all)
"Dr Lawrence Cheldelin reports that if a younger child masturbates excessively, taking him on your lap twice a day and rocking him for 10 minutes will stop the practice within about three weeks. . . When I was single, I used to think that if I ever had any boys, I would teach them all about the techniques of making women happy."
"Since I was aware that my son would go through such a phase, I carefully selected some very beautiful books and magazines which portray sex as something warm and honest and visually beautiful. I kept them in somewhat out of the way shelves and closets hoping he would come across them."
(Thanks for the porn mom!)
"I realized that my son must have seen his father in the nude! The penis must have looked like a small, round thing surrounded by dark hair! When I asked the child what scared him about the "ground hoggy" he only answered "something scares him"! So, without going further into the fear, I stated talking about Daddy's peepee and how big it was and that someday when my son was big, he too would have a big one like that."
"A friend of mine had a new baby and since she didn't want her four-year old to feel neglected, she permitted the little girl to hit the baby . . . When the mother told a psychiatrist friend, he advised her to forbid the child to hit the baby."
(Note to Self: DON'T punch babies)
Factors that increase "propensity of children to get themselves abused" (children are constantly "getting themselves abused" according to the author.)
-Hypoglycemia
-Ticklishness (which eventually leads to "suicide or pulling a knife")
-Deformities
-Blue eyes and blond hair
-Green eye and red hair
-Left-handedness
-"starey eyes"
-Milk
Other fun random claims include:
Juvenile delinquents drink vast amounts of milk
Jailed offended have ALL been abused children
Increases in child molestation are due to: unemployment and the fact that "children seem to mature earlier and in their early teen years are breathtakingly beautiful"
Fat women are more likely to abuse their children
Dyslexia can be cured by rolling around on the floor.
Some abusive parents in England have described their offspring as "eminently bashable."
One smell which arouses violent anger is the smell of urine.
In Germany the common folk-name for what is called peepee in this country is "ein kleiner Wunsch"- a small wish.
Even today in our enlightened society a six-year old boy was tied naked to the toilet and left there for days.
Letting your six year old sleep in your bed may cause them to become a pyromaniac
Normal six year old behavior includes playing hospital and "taking rectal temperatures"
Almost any form of sex education given by the member of the opposite sex parent will have some seductive quality to it.
"We live in a world where milk and love are synonymous and "the good stuff, beautiful milk" is pushed on all children"
"My father is in jail" and "a goat ate my dress" seem to make an urgent impression on a child to whom these experiences had been very traumatic.
My favorite quotes:
"Abraham was quite willing to sacrifice his son to God, and the fact that god sent him a ram to sacrifice instead was a step towards a new understanding."
"A young mother threw her year-old baby off a freeway overpass in front of oncoming traffic. She did this just hours before children's services was to come and take the baby away from her. Was she protecting the baby from strangers who were about to take him to a frightening, uncertain future? Was she really an abusive mother? Some animals destroy their babies when there is danger to the nest."
"Fortunately, we hear less and less of nurses at hospitals tying a mother's legs together to keep the baby from being born before the doctor arrives."
"The newspaper reported that a comatose infant was brought to the hospital by a young couple, and both father and mother were arrested for endangering the life of their child. When they could not stop the infant from crying, they fed him an opium ball to call him down and nearly killed the 6-moth-old. The paper never once mentioned why the child had been crying so hard."
(maybe thay had a good reason to give the baby opium)
"Jimmy, who is a good boy three weeks out of the month, is hypersensitive to smell.When the teachers body odor changes because she is menstruating, he finds the smell so obnoxious that he will pull any kind of maneuver to get away from the odor."
"Uncle Jimmy taught Johnny how to masturbate him. Now Johnny is doing it in school, the same way he would show off that he learned to ride a bike."
"Are some children more likely to get sexually abused than others? Probably. The soft, the gentle, the hungry for touch."
(officer I assure you I didn't mean to molest that kid, he was 'soft and hungry for touch' that's all)
"Dr Lawrence Cheldelin reports that if a younger child masturbates excessively, taking him on your lap twice a day and rocking him for 10 minutes will stop the practice within about three weeks. . . When I was single, I used to think that if I ever had any boys, I would teach them all about the techniques of making women happy."
"Since I was aware that my son would go through such a phase, I carefully selected some very beautiful books and magazines which portray sex as something warm and honest and visually beautiful. I kept them in somewhat out of the way shelves and closets hoping he would come across them."
(Thanks for the porn mom!)
"I realized that my son must have seen his father in the nude! The penis must have looked like a small, round thing surrounded by dark hair! When I asked the child what scared him about the "ground hoggy" he only answered "something scares him"! So, without going further into the fear, I stated talking about Daddy's peepee and how big it was and that someday when my son was big, he too would have a big one like that."
"A friend of mine had a new baby and since she didn't want her four-year old to feel neglected, she permitted the little girl to hit the baby . . . When the mother told a psychiatrist friend, he advised her to forbid the child to hit the baby."
(Note to Self: DON'T punch babies)
January 15, 2017
Can't make my mind whether I want to not touch thic book with a mile-long pole or if I want to read it as an example of the bizarro style literature. I'll have to think about it.
Probably. Maybe. Hope not.
I was really impressed with this Review & Quotes from this book: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
Aand this is 'RECOMMENDED READING' is some places:
1. http://www.upforlearning.net/recommen...
2. http://www.deltakappagamma.org/MI/Cha...
That's, like, really misguided.
I do realise that this probably was considered science at some point and am really happy never having lived in such socieety where this was possible.
Probably. Maybe. Hope not.
I was really impressed with this Review & Quotes from this book: https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
Aand this is 'RECOMMENDED READING' is some places:
1. http://www.upforlearning.net/recommen...
2. http://www.deltakappagamma.org/MI/Cha...
That's, like, really misguided.
I do realise that this probably was considered science at some point and am really happy never having lived in such socieety where this was possible.
unread-forever
March 28, 2015today's sign of the apocalypse, fresh-frozen and free of charge!
here, just read this: http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/...
here, just read this: http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/...
nope-nope-nope
May 23, 2014So, this book was published nearly 30 years ago, but my question is how does shit like this get published at all?! How does this shit get inflicted on the public? Look at that title. Look at it. You're telling me some agent/editor/publisher actually thought this was a good idea?
/facepalm
/facepalm
not-interested
August 25, 2014This book sounds really awful. The title alone is horrific, implying that a child would be responsible for child abuse. But my biggest concerns come after reading other reviews of the book, particularly this one.
Guess how fond I am of this claim?: Fat women are more likely to abuse their children.
According to the review above, these are quotes from the book:
I think I'm going to be ill.
Guess how fond I am of this claim?: Fat women are more likely to abuse their children.
According to the review above, these are quotes from the book:
"Are some children more likely to get sexually abused than others? Probably. The soft, the gentle, the hungry for touch."
"Dr Lawrence Cheldelin reports that if a younger child masturbates excessively, taking him on your lap twice a day and rocking him for 10 minutes will stop the practice within about three weeks. . . When I was single, I used to think that if I ever had any boys, I would teach them all about the techniques of making women happy."
"A young mother threw her year-old baby off a freeway overpass in front of oncoming traffic. She did this just hours before children's services was to come and take the baby away from her. Was she protecting the baby from strangers who were about to take him to a frightening, uncertain future? Was she really an abusive mother? Some animals destroy their babies when there is danger to the nest."
I think I'm going to be ill.
August 15, 2024
DNF...with this title, i believe i understood enough. seriously?! i would "invite" the author (and editor, and publishing house) to reconsider this book.
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