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When Children Invite Child Abuse by Svea J. Gold
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Nov 14, 2009

did not like it
bookshelves: bizarre, trash, funny
Recommended for: People who hate children

It's not bad enough that this book is so horribly out of date but what really makes it so deliciously awful is that it appears to be written by a circa 1940's child-molester (although it was in fact written by a middle age woman in the late 80's.) Now she's no doctor, or in anyway educated and judging by this book she's barely literate but that doesn't stop her from writing a book about child abuse based on half-remembered anecdotes and articles she read in the paper a few years back. The author is convinced that all child abuse boils down to "children have undiagnosed allergies that make them crabby and then adults beat them." To call this pseudo-science is an insult to hard working phone astrologers and new age healers everywhere.

Factors that increase "propensity of children to get themselves abused" (children are constantly "getting themselves abused" according to the author.)
-Ticklishness (which eventually leads to "suicide or pulling a knife")
-Blue eyes and blond hair
-Green eye and red hair
-"starey eyes"

Other fun random claims include:

Juvenile delinquents drink vast amounts of milk

Jailed offended have ALL been abused children

Increases in child molestation are due to: unemployment and the fact that "children seem to mature earlier and in their early teen years are breathtakingly beautiful"

Fat women are more likely to abuse their children

Dyslexia can be cured by rolling around on the floor.

Some abusive parents in England have described their offspring as "eminently bashable."

One smell which arouses violent anger is the smell of urine.

In Germany the common folk-name for what is called peepee in this country is "ein kleiner Wunsch"- a small wish.

Even today in our enlightened society a six-year old boy was tied naked to the toilet and left there for days.

Letting your six year old sleep in your bed may cause them to become a pyromaniac

Normal six year old behavior includes playing hospital and "taking rectal temperatures"

Almost any form of sex education given by the member of the opposite sex parent will have some seductive quality to it.

"We live in a world where milk and love are synonymous and "the good stuff, beautiful milk" is pushed on all children"

"My father is in jail" and "a goat ate my dress" seem to make an urgent impression on a child to whom these experiences had been very traumatic.

My favorite quotes:

"Abraham was quite willing to sacrifice his son to God, and the fact that god sent him a ram to sacrifice instead was a step towards a new understanding."

"A young mother threw her year-old baby off a freeway overpass in front of oncoming traffic. She did this just hours before children's services was to come and take the baby away from her. Was she protecting the baby from strangers who were about to take him to a frightening, uncertain future? Was she really an abusive mother? Some animals destroy their babies when there is danger to the nest."

"Fortunately, we hear less and less of nurses at hospitals tying a mother's legs together to keep the baby from being born before the doctor arrives."

"The newspaper reported that a comatose infant was brought to the hospital by a young couple, and both father and mother were arrested for endangering the life of their child. When they could not stop the infant from crying, they fed him an opium ball to call him down and nearly killed the 6-moth-old. The paper never once mentioned why the child had been crying so hard."
(maybe thay had a good reason to give the baby opium)

"Jimmy, who is a good boy three weeks out of the month, is hypersensitive to smell.When the teachers body odor changes because she is menstruating, he finds the smell so obnoxious that he will pull any kind of maneuver to get away from the odor."

"Uncle Jimmy taught Johnny how to masturbate him. Now Johnny is doing it in school, the same way he would show off that he learned to ride a bike."

"Are some children more likely to get sexually abused than others? Probably. The soft, the gentle, the hungry for touch."
(officer I assure you I didn't mean to molest that kid, he was 'soft and hungry for touch' that's all)

"Dr Lawrence Cheldelin reports that if a younger child masturbates excessively, taking him on your lap twice a day and rocking him for 10 minutes will stop the practice within about three weeks. . . When I was single, I used to think that if I ever had any boys, I would teach them all about the techniques of making women happy."

"Since I was aware that my son would go through such a phase, I carefully selected some very beautiful books and magazines which portray sex as something warm and honest and visually beautiful. I kept them in somewhat out of the way shelves and closets hoping he would come across them."
(Thanks for the porn mom!)

"I realized that my son must have seen his father in the nude! The penis must have looked like a small, round thing surrounded by dark hair! When I asked the child what scared him about the "ground hoggy" he only answered "something scares him"! So, without going further into the fear, I stated talking about Daddy's peepee and how big it was and that someday when my son was big, he too would have a big one like that."

"A friend of mine had a new baby and since she didn't want her four-year old to feel neglected, she permitted the little girl to hit the baby . . . When the mother told a psychiatrist friend, he advised her to forbid the child to hit the baby."
(Note to Self: DON'T punch babies)
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Reading Progress

12/10/2009 "I forgot all about this one. I realize leaving this on my currently-reading list for weeks at a time makes me look like a weird-O. Oops"
07/29/2016 marked as: read

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message 1: by Blake (new)

Blake *snort* lol

message 2: by Blake (new)

Blake O_O

message 3: by Max (new)

Max Maxwell What... is... this?!
Why were you reading such a book?

message 4: by Hollis (last edited Feb 02, 2010 05:46AM) (new)

Hollis Heh. Got a few laughs out of that.

''Juvenile delinquents drink vast amounts of milk''

I remember going round a friend's house about five years ago. We'd just been playing football and needed a drink, so we went back to his house. He pulled out a bottle of milk, poured out a pint and downed the entire thing as if it was water. I grew up, being taught to conserve milk (it doesn't come out of a tap, after all) so I was really amazed by this.

A strange gleam came into his eye. 'I like milk' he said. 'We all like milk in this family', he added. His sister came in, opened another fridge (which must have had about twenty pints of milk in it), poured out a pint and drained it in one go. Then, I kid you not, his dad came in, filled the biggest jug you've ever seen right to the top and downed the entire thing like some kind of psychopath. It was scary. I'm sure it can't be good for you to drink so much milk.

message 5: by Kristen (last edited Feb 03, 2010 06:02PM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Kristen Max wrote: "What... is... this?!
Why were you reading such a book?"

Just for laughs.

I planned on just briefly skimming it, but it was so delightfully awful that I read the entire thing!

For my next bizarre book I'm debating between:
Vans: The Personality Vehicles or
How to Make ESP Work for You

Hollis wrote: "Heh. Got a few laughs out of that.

''Juvenile delinquents drink vast amounts of milk''

I remember going round a friend's house about five years ago. We'd just been playing football and ne..."

According to the author, you friend is undoubtedly in prison now. The best argument she makes for her 'milk conspiracy' is to recall a scenes from Rebel Without a Cause where James Dean drinks a big glass of milk after a rough day.
Now you can't get more scientific than that!

Really, the author's not all bad, she hates James Dobson (Focus on the Family) even more than I do and holds his book Dare to Discipline responsible for the beating death of at least one baby.

message 6: by Kristen (last edited Feb 05, 2010 02:00PM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Kristen I don't think you can really appreciate this book without the cover.

Normally the librarians never even glance at the books I check out, but with this one she looks at the book . . . then at me . . . then back at the book . . .and then at me again.
So I thought maybe I should explain myself and tell her it's just for fun. Perhaps If I make that same tasteful date rape joke I made earlier on this review it would lighten the mood (who doesn't like a good date rape joke, right?) but then I thought better of it and just took my book and walked away feeling rather ashamed.

message 7: by Jason (new)

Jason No self service computer at your library?

message 8: by Hollis (new)

Hollis ''According to the author, you friend is undoubtedly in prison now.''

Well, I haven't seen him since school, so that's a possibility.

For ''weird look from a librarian'', I remember when I took out a horror comic book at the library (it was ordered in from another library, so I couldn't use self-service). The front cover was basically a grinning zombie with blood coming out of its mouth. The young lady gave me an extremely worried look as she handed it over.

Kristen Jason wrote: "No self service computer at your library?"

I had to request it from storage.
Hopefully I won't get such looks when I pick up Vans The Personality Vehicles (Superwheels Series) by Paul R. Dexler,which I have decided to read next.

message 10: by Michael (new)

Michael Fuuuuck.

Oh my shitting god, you found the mother of all WTF? reads.

message 11: by Brad (new)

Brad Crazy! I have got to find a copy and save it to give to my Dad on his death bed.

message 12: by Kristen (last edited Oct 02, 2010 02:52AM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Kristen It's like what I would write if I ever wrote a book . . . half remembered gossip presented as fact in an extremely creepy way.

message 13: by Esteban (new)

Esteban del Mal Man. If only Dad would've taken me in his arms and rocked me back and forth in his lap when I was excessively masturbating as a kid, I wouldn't hang out in bus station restrooms with a gently used ball gag.

message 14: by Hollis (new)

Hollis Lol....

message 15: by Tatiana (new)

Tatiana WTH? @.@

message 16: by Kat Kennedy (new)

Kat Kennedy Wh... I'm absolutely flabbergasted at this book. I mean really. It's almost as traumatising as reading Esteban's comments!

Spider the Doof Warrior WTF?!?!?!?!

Sounds as horrible as to train up a child! URGS!

message 18: by Kristen (last edited Mar 13, 2011 01:11AM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Kristen Well now I must defend Svea Gold, she's very much against child beating and this book seeks to illuminate it's underlining cause: Food Allergies. All child abuse can be blamed on dairy products.

To Train Up A Child on the other hand advocates whipping 6 month old babies with 'a switch'. A number of parents have beat their young children to death follow these instructions. Shit, I hate children and even I'm appalled. And 192 people on goodreads have read it

Spider the Doof Warrior what horrifies me is so many people LIKE to train up a child.

Plus they call it xtain. I don't think Jesus would actually whip a baby. He'd probably hold one and sing to it or something like that.

message 20: by Miriam (new)

Miriam There was this one corner store by my ex's place in Chicago... the only thing we ever bought there was whole milk, 40s, and condoms. The owner probably thought we were delinquents.

message 21: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Vegan Wow! This must be one of the worst books ever published. Sad that it's still available to read.

Kristen What kind of person drinks whole milk? No wonder that man thought you were up to no good!

message 23: by Rebecca (new) - added it

Rebecca Huston My god, this is horrible! Not the review, which is excellent, but the pathetic list of 'excuses' for pedophiles to justify their actions. I'm not an advocate of destroying books, but this one deserves to be removed out of the market permanently. (Yeah, I'm pretty inflexible where molesters and abusers are concerned.)

message 24: by Dawn (& Ron) (new)

Dawn (& Ron) Numb from the cruel absurdity.

message 25: by David (new)

David Dyslexia can be cured by rolling around on the floor.

Of all the many absurdities listed in this review, this one (for some reason) amused me the most.

message 26: by Miriam (new)

Miriam Well, the letters and numbers are mixed up, so if you roll around they might get shaken loose. Then you could rearrange them correctly. That seems scientifically sound to me.

Kristen That's really close!

Apparently dyslexia is caused because your brain failed to make some neuron connection when you were learning to crawl, but don't worry you can give it another go. If you just spend a few weeks rolling on the floor, working up to crawling that will totally clear your dyslexia right up, some how.

Although, doesn't it seem like someone should break your legs for that to work? Now she didn't bring that up but I don't think you should half-ass it.

message 28: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Vegan Miriam wrote: "Well, the letters and numbers are mixed up, so if you roll around they might get shaken loose. Then you could rearrange them correctly. That seems scientifically sound to me."

Ha! Very funny.

message 29: by Michael (new)

Michael Wait a minute. We are all in agreement, though, that sometimes kids are just asking for it, right? Occasional throttlings promote flexibility and obedience, both of which are good things, yes?

Kristen Today's kids aren't getting beat enough!

message 31: by Anna (new)

Anna Kļaviņa This book won the Delta Kappa Gamma Society International Educator’s Award in 1987

message 32: by Everybodhi (new)

Everybodhi You need to copy this review on Amazon, there is only one review of this book and he gave it 5 stars.

Misericordia ❣ That's some craziest stuff I have ever read. How do people even come up with things like that, I wonder?

message 34: by Misericordia (last edited Jan 15, 2017 01:41PM) (new) - rated it 1 star

Misericordia ❣ Anna wrote: "This book won the Delta Kappa Gamma Society International Educator’s Award in 1987"

Now, that's one delightlful society none of us definitely want to cross paths with, if we decide to judge them on their reading material. :)

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