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Having a Mary Spirit: Allowing God to Change Us from the Inside Out

4.27  ·  Rating details ·  2,279 ratings  ·  102 reviews
"Lord, Whatever It Takes, Make Me Like You!"

You long to serve God with grace and strength, to reflect Christ in every word and action. Yet you find yourself continually struggling to bring that vision to life in your daily walk.

At our very core, every one of us is a "twisted sister" within whom the flesh and spirit battle constantly for control. We are afflicted with spiri
Paperback, 278 pages
Published October 10th 2006 by Waterbrook Press (first published January 1st 2006)
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Selena I tend to be a "Martha", always trying to make it through a to-do list and getting stressed that others don't find it as important as me. This book…moreI tend to be a "Martha", always trying to make it through a to-do list and getting stressed that others don't find it as important as me. This book was so good for me! I need to be reminded what is really important and check my attitude, my priorities and my focus. Thank you Joanna, once again. What a great book!(less)

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May 16, 2009 rated it it was amazing
One of my favorite books of all time. I plan to re-read it many times and recommend it to just about every woman I know. Although it is geared more toward females, I found myself reading several passages to my husband because I loved the author's interpretations of verses and 'wake-up calls'. As my husband said, "There is a lot in there that we need to hear every day".
Feb 13, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: devotional
I learned how to (or how to try to) control the "FleshWoman" in me. This is by far the best book I've read about ME - ME the woman; not me the mom, me the wife, me the parent, me the (fill in the blank) but just about me the woman.
I did read it slowly to allow the chapters to digest before moving on. It's a deep, spiritual, biblical read. I loved it! It wasn't superficial, nor did I feel guilty or at fault for my failures as a woman (You know ladies - not doing it "all" so to speak)
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Mar 23, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: adult-books
To me this book was an ugly look at the inside of the heart which is a person's thoughts. Sometimes looking at this heart and realizing that change must happen to keep fellowship with God is difficult.I want to take care of my own problems,but God wants us to depend on him with our ability. I like this writer, Joanna Weaver, the way she writes to the reader, as if, she is having coffee in the living room with you.
Oct 31, 2013 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: women
Recommended to Jodi by: Jorene Ring
I think I would have given this book 5 stars if I had read it with a group of ladies together because discussing the ideas in the book with others would have made it more memorable in my mind. With that being said, this book was still a good reminder for addressing what I need to work on and how to keep growing in my faith. I do need to be better about know scripture so that these truths are in my heart in my deepest times of need. I liked the point to guard my heart against things that are not ...more
Feb 18, 2016 rated it it was amazing
My sister and I worked through this book together and learned a lot about ourselves and our place in the world as Christian women. What I love so much about this book is how down to earth the author is and how honest she is with her readers. She doesn't preach to us from the standpoint of a "perfect Christian woman," she is still finding her way just like we are- I love that! Each chapter is accompanied by questions and bible verses that help readers dig deeper as they work through topics from d ...more
Having a Mary Spirit is an excellent read for women (since it's aimed at women) who desire a closer walk with Christ. One of my prayers that I like to keep going - since it's the prayer God always answers, no matter what (!) - is for God to remove anything about me that He doesn't like. Believe me when I say that if you don't mean that, then absolutely do not pray for it; it's like the one prayer that 100% of the time God has always answered.

Anyway, there was one thing about this book that I str
Nov 09, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I hate to admit, I needed this book. I need the reminder that I am prone to sin, that He must increase that I might decrease. I don’t know that these things are always the easiest to hear, but I’m not going to refuse the medication the Lord portions out.
Mar 11, 2008 rated it really liked it
Things to watch out for:
a competitive spirit
a controlling spirit
a contentious spirit
a discontented spirit
p. 45

The baptism of love the New Testament church experienced after the Spirit's coming was unlike anything the world had ever seen. People set aside time daily just to be together, to eat and laugh and sing and worship God. When someone was in need, others sold their possessions - without being asked! - so the needy person could be helped. Slave or free, Jew or Gentile, or even a complete st
May 31, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: did-not-finish
This book had such good reviews but I sort of feel like I could have gotten the jest of the book by reading the very thorough and glowing reviews. This book might be good for a women's Bible study. I read about 85% of the book. I kept looking for some real practical how-to's. The ideas seemed, well, simplistic. I guess I was looking for something deeper. And I did not connect with her humor. But, as I mentioned, others loved the book and said one woman said it was her favorite of all time and th ...more
After having read Joanna's first book "Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World" {AMAZING!!} years ago, I couldn't wait to read her next book in her series. Our Martha desire to have a more Mary-like attitude and spirit instead of our react-first-think-later fleshly attitude that generally rules. Here Joanna Weaver takes you step by step teaching you how God can give you a holy makeover from the inside out. Joanna's devotional writing style gives practical insight and guidance for daily living and ...more
Missy Parker
Jul 05, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is an excellent book, that has really challenged me in several areas of my life. I really relate to the author as I am very much like her in my personality and challenges. The chapter on forgiveness was really excellent as well as the parts about fear. It has been a slow read for me as the Lord puts His finger on different areas in my life. I have realized that change is totally impossible apart from abiding in Christ--the change just happens as a result of that. I am experiencing victory a ...more
Jul 14, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Every woman should read!
Oct 03, 2013 rated it it was ok
Not sure what I was expecting, but it wasn't this. Gave up 50 pages in.
Oct 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
It is a book on self help to be more like Christ and less of me. I feel it has some revelatory concept and is excellent on the subject. This is a "rubber meets the road" kind of book for every Christian Believer that is serious about God.
It was a book timely for me as I was dealing with an area, that I needed God to change in me. And after reading it, coupled with the Lord's timing, I am changed from the inside out in this area of God's choosing to deal with in me.
I lead a group of about 5-8 w
Jun 07, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017-christina
I thought this book would be very similar to Joanna Weaver's first book "Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World" (after all, the title is almost the same). This one does start out with some basic Christian background, which is perfect for a new Christian. But it also has some more depth in the later chapters. My only problem in this book is the author uses one conflict in her life over and over again in numerous examples. It seemed a bit repetitive, but it was applicable several different ways.
Rachel Grepke
Dec 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
Every once in a while a book comes along that just spells it all out really well. This is one of those books. I loved the real life analogies she walks you through and her honest emotions that go with them. While quite a bit of the book involves quotes and references from other books and people, she does drop her own two cents in there. Overall, a great read, easy to follow and great food for the Christian!
Aug 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Having a Mary Spirit allows you to reflect on what it means to live the life that God has set out for us. Living this life is difficult, but it is essential that we are constantly reminded.
Feb 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing
One of the best bible studies I’ve done in a long time.
May 20, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is a excellent Book. I learned a lot about myself and my relationship with God. I am going to 're-read it. Lots of scripture reference.
Brenda Lanz
Nov 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Always a great reminder of what is important and simple truths to follow
Nov 13, 2018 rated it really liked it
Being changed from the inside out. Leaving behind the old and allowing ourselves to be transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit. This is a lifelong long process, but what am I waiting for?
May 06, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Life-changing book! Weaver walks you through the process of transforming from being burdened by your sin to true freedom in Christ.
Jul 29, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good book. Sometimes the wording to get a point across seemed a little over the top.
Donna Thomas
Mar 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
this book is excellent. It really opens your eyes to the flesh and gives scripture to change if you really want to. God is waiting to help bring us closer to him.
Nov 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Wonderful devotional book. It has been a long time since I've read a book that has captured me in this way. Would recommend it to others and will definitely be a book that I would read again. The author is honest about her walk with the Lord, the highs and lows of her faith, the refining of her character to be more like Christ. Some cheesy parts but for the most part just really honest and insightful.
Jun 25, 2008 rated it really liked it
I don't even know how long it's been since I finished a book!!! Two months, I suppose. I read another book by this author, "Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World," and it was very good and I wanted more of the same. A few of the chapters were not as interesting as the first book, maybe even a little too cliche like if there is such a phrase. The good chapters (totally subjective, of course) made up for it, however. Alot was said about Flesh Woman (the natural man's bride, I guess). We all battle ...more
Feb 22, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I found this book to be a challenging and very worthwhile read. This quote from the book cover well describes the struggle that I, the author, and I expect many others go through on a daily basis - "At our very core, every one of us is a "twisted sister" within whom the flesh and spirit battle constantly for control. We are afflicted with spiritual schizophrenia, the disconnect between our "good girl" desire to put Jesus first and our "bad girl" realities that crowd our thoughts and push him out ...more
Mar 03, 2014 rated it it was ok
The author does very well when sharing other writer's words and stories and there are break through moments here. That said, it's a depressing read in some ways- I can't relate to this woman very much and I don't especially like her advice. Being Godly doesn't mean stifling your nature but growing into who God wants you to be. Chapter 14 was troubling. A Woman who calls another stupid in the name of 'Speaking the truth in love' is not chastised but praised and there's a sense that love means tel ...more
Laura Beasley
Jan 28, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Recommended to Laura by: Book for Bible Study
I read this book for my Bible Study. It was the second book by this author we read. A great book and so many wonderful life lessons. The book really spoke to me . I learned more about turning away from " flesh woman" and trying to be the person God wants me to be, God wants to make me a new woman and this book gives you the stores and guidance to do this. It will not be easy and there will be mistakes and times I take steps backwards but God is forgiving and will continue to be there for me. Joa ...more
Carla Still
Jan 21, 2009 rated it it was amazing
A wonderfully written book! Better than "Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World." Joanna Weaver encourages and inspires us to experience the gradual transformation through daily living and obedience. Through daily obedience can God change us and get us from where we are to where He wants us to be. There is not one quote that sums up the book. The whole book is great. She supplements her writing with other great writers throughout time and sub-articles that enhance the content. This is another boo ...more
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Joanna Weaver is known the world over for her transparent and life-changing books, Having A Mary Heart in a Martha World, Having a Mary Spirit and Lazarus Awakening. These books have sold over a million copies. Joanna has appeared on a wide variety of nationally syndicated radio and television broadcasts. She loves sharing the heart of God for women at conferences around the country.
“Bitterness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” 27 likes
“I believe the ability to love people as we should only comes from the security of knowing we ourselves are loved. For you cannot share what you do not have. Which is another reason we need the Holy Spirit—for He bears witness with our hearts that we are God’s children, and dearly loved as well (Romans 8:15–16, 1 John 3:1).” 2 likes
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