B*tch don't kill my vibe

by Reese Owen

Are you tired of being held back by the negative voice inside your head?Tired of being a worrywart? A negative Nancy? A complaining Cathy? We’ve all been there—well, most of us at least. Some people seem to just be naturally positive and optimistic. Everything works out for them, and everywhere they go, they’re constantly followed by sunshine and rainbows and cupcakes with sprinkles. Screw them, right? No, you can become them. Minus the muttering mantras under your breath and flowers in your hair.If you’re like most people, you’re probably constantly harassed by a negative voice in your head, always telling you that you’re not good enough, fast enough, smart enough, skinny enough, anything enough, and that your life will never be better than it is right now. You’re constantly worried that the sky is falling. You’re so stressed out that you can’t seem to get anything done. Or maybe you’re held back by fear, and can’t seem to get your life together. Or maybe you’re lucky enough to have a cocktail of all four—negativity, worry, stress, and fear—ruining your life by keeping you stuck in rut and holding you back from being your best self.It’s not your fault. We’re literally wired for negativity. But you can change it.In this book, you will ★ Why you’re biologically wired to mentally screw yourself over and what you can do about it

★ The most important thing you need to eliminate from your life to be more positive

★ The weird relaxation technique that may make you catch the side eye from onlookers, but will decrease stress and distract you from the chaos inside your head

★ The lie you’re telling yourself daily that’s not getting you any closer to not being a total stressball

★ The quick one-minute method you can do anytime, anywhere to ease your stress and get you out of your head

★ What you can do every night in bed to eliminate worry (no, not that)

★ The one tool you can get for $1 that you can use every day and take with you everywhere to ease your worry, stress, and anxiety

★ What babies can teach us about managing stress

★ Three things you need to do every day to become a more positive person

This is not your grandmother’s self-help book. Unless you have one badass grandmother.If you’re tired of the same hippie mumbo jumbo advice from the same dry, boring self-help books, and you don’t want to have to completely turn your life upside down in order to…well, turn your life upside down, then this book is for you. It’s full of simple, easy to use tips that can be easily integrated into your everyday life. You can transform your life without ending up being one of those people you always side eye--well, except for that one weird trick I mentioned above.And instead of making you feel like you’re in an intervention led by some geriatric tightwad with a clipboard and a pencil behind his ear, this sometimes blunt, sarcastic, in-your-face book proves that self-help can be fun and entertaining.Stop letting your finances, relationships, career, and life suffer because of your constant cycles of worry, fear, and negativity.

Genres: Personal Development, Self Help

172 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 8, 2018

About the author

Who the heck am I?

In short…

I’m just an average girl with slightly above average issues, who figured out without a PhD that when you can’t get your ish together, life can suck. And when I figure out ways to make it suck a little less, I write a book about it.

In long...

I used to be just like you--unhappy, unfulfilled, and un-optimized--and if that’s not you, my bad, that was presumptuous and a little insulting. But to be fair, there has to be a reason you’re on the page of an author of self help books. (That’s still crazy to me to call myself an author).

But the truth is, there’s no shame in trying to improve yourself. But even knowing this fact, I didn’t want to be caught dead in the self help section of Barnes & Noble (that was a bookstore back in the day for all you young folks).

But as a former big ol’ bundle of couch potato who hated everything about myself, my life, and my bank account, I knew that I wanted (and desperately needed) help for my self, but I didn’t want self help.

I didn’t want to go gluten free, vegan, grow my hair to my butt and wear flower crowns, sell all my belongings save for what can fit in a personal item that would be accepted on Spirit Airlines without a fee, tattoo motivational quotes to my forehead, and snort incense. And I didn’t want to feel like I had to become Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk and work 268 hour weeks without coming up for air...or food, or social interaction, or smiles.

I just wanted to be me, but better.

I write self help books for those people. People like me.

When I was trying to get my ish together, I didn’t care about degrees, I cared about results. If you have a PhD in life badassery, yet you’re still miserable and your life still sucks, I don’t want your advice and I don’t want to read your book. And most of all, I didn’t want to take advice from someone who was not at all like me. That’s when I gained the confidence to start writing myself.

“Self help with a little sass” I like to call it. A little language, a little tough love, a lot of sarcasm, and a dose of humor. Because when the ish really hits the fan, we have to laugh to keep from crying.

I write books so I can help other people get their ish together in every area of their lives so I can spare them the same anxiety I felt of having to change the subject to some sports team I don’t care about in order to avoid the feelings of shame that come along with having to provide a life update to friends and family at dinner when you have nothing of note to report.

Admittedly, I’m still not perfect. I’m a little rough around the edges, I cuss a little, I whine a little (ok, a lot), I can’t take anything too seriously, I like bacon bits in my ice cream, and I watch way too much reality TV.

But I’ve finally graduated from wearing socks with sandals and working a minimum wage job, and I’ve created a life where I actually wake up happy and excited every morning. Inch by inch, little by little, I’ve made improvements in every part of my life, and every day, I learn more, discover more, implement more, benefit more, and share more so other people can benefit too.

When I’m not writing, I like to paint (badly), play with my Frenchie (dog, not a man unfortunately--still working on that one) and do...ahem, don’t tell anyone--yoga...in the back of the class, close to the exit with sunglasses on so no one can recognize me, and close to the exit just in case someone does.

Reviews

[Courtney Olivero · Rating 3 out of 5]

Had some good ideas and pointers to better grasp your anxiety .

[Bailey · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really wanted a book on changing my inner voice to stop making me feel miserable always and to make me a more pleasant person to talk to. This book has such helpful tips in a tone that makes me laugh and feel less rigid along the way.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is not a sugar coat it kind of read. It is also realistic and put into layman's terms. Enjoyed how the writing was as well as how to the point but not in so overwhelming added in words that are fillers. Clear and very helpful!

[Renotta Williams · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great motivation!

This book is realistic, relatable and a easy read. I will be looking for more to read from the Author.

[Ellen · Rating 1 out of 5]

Could not get into this book. It seemed more like an opinion with no real science or research to back it up. Did not find it engaging or well-written. Couldn’t finish it. Do not recommend.

[Beth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Lots of science, but told in an easy to understand way. Narrator was very good.

[Alissa · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not as good as Just Do the D*mn Thing

[Talena Rowe · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good start..

Drifted off towards the very end. 4.5 stars. The scientific foundation of each element and tactic was especially intriguing and helpful.

[Caroline Côté · Rating 3 out of 5]

Ce livre était correct, je ne l’ai pas détesté et je ne l’ai pas adoré. J’ai appris quelques nouveaux trucs, mais sans plus.

[Kristen Pugh · Rating 4.5 out of 5]

This book was blunt, insightful, and fast-paced. Easy, quick motivational read!

[Cece · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good strong points

It’s good book starts off strong. Lots of interventions to try. Starts to dwindle toward the end. Still an easy quick read.