O que ele deve ser... se quiser casar com minha filha

by Voddie T. Baucham Jr.

All parents want their daughters to marry godly young men. But which qualities, specifically, should they be looking for?

What will you say when that certain young man sits down in your living room, sweaty-palmed and tongue-tied, and asks your permission to marry your daughter? What criteria should he meet before the two of them join together for life? What He Must Be… If He Wants to Marry My Daughter outlines ten qualities parents should look for in a son-in-law, including trustworthiness, a willingness to lead his family, an understanding of his wife's role, and various spiritual leadership qualities.

Author Voddie Baucham follows up on his popular book Family Driven Faith with this compelling apologetic of biblical manhood. By studying the principles outlined in his book, parents who want their daughter to marry a godly man-as well as those who want their sons to become godly men-will be well equipped to help their children look for and develop these God-honoring qualities.

Genres: Christian, Parenting, Marriage, Nonfiction, Theology, Christianity, Relationships

278 pages, Paperback

First published January 30, 2009

About the author

Voddie Baucham wears many hats. He is a husband, father, pastor, author, professor, conference speaker and church planter. He currently serves as Pastor of Preaching at Grace Family Baptist Church in Spring, TX. He has served as an adjunct professor at the College of Biblical Studies in Houston, TX, and Union University in Jackson, TN. He has also lectured at Southern Seminary.

Voddie makes the Bible clear and demonstrates the relevance of God’s word to everyday life. However, he does so without compromising the centrality of Christ and the gospel. Those who hear him preach find themselves both challenged and encouraged.

Voddie’s area of emphasis is Cultural Apologetics. Whether teaching on classical apologetic issues like the validity and historicity of the Bible, or the resurrection of Christ; or teaching on biblical manhood/ womanhood, marriage and family, he helps ordinary people understand the significance of thinking and living biblically in every area of life.

It is impossible to understand Voddie’s approach to the Bible without first understanding the path he has walked. Raised in a non-Christian, single-parent home, Voddie did not hear the gospel until he was in college. His journey to faith was a very unusual and intellectual one. Consequently, he understands what it means to be a skeptic, and knows what it’s like to try to figure out the Christian life without relying on the traditions of men. As a result, he speaks to ‘outsiders’ in ways few Bible teachers can.

Voddie Baucham holds degrees from Houston Baptist University (BA in Christianity/BA in Sociology), Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (M.Div.), Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary (D.Min.), an honorary degree from Southern California Seminary (D.D.), and additional post-graduate study at the University of Oxford, England (Regent’s Park College).

Voddie and his wife, Bridget have been married since 1989. They have six children, Jasmine L. Holmes, Trey (Voddie, III), Elijah, Asher, Judah, and Micah. They are committed home educators.

Reviews

[Shaun · Rating 5 out of 5]

Ask Voddie Baucham how to best prepare for leadership and ministry and he may tell you to get married and have children. You may be wondering what that has to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. The answer is that it has everything to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. This book is directed at Christian parents, especially fathers. As followers of Christ it is the father’s duty to lead and minister in his own home first. If you aren’t sure what this looks like, you may want to consider for yourself the qualities Voddie suggests we should be looking for in our daughter’s future husband and instilling in our sons who will most likely be husbands themselves some day.

The first part of the book lays the groundwork for the vision and thought behind these counter-cultural ideas. Chapter one expresses the need for fathers to have a Christ-centered multigenerational vision that extends to the children, grandchildren and beyond. Chapter two describes marriage as a ministry, explaining how marriage is a fertile training ground for future church leaders as the Christian marriage illustrates the relationship of Christ and the church to a lost and hurting world. Chapter three explains a father’s role as he exercises gospel patriarchy.

Chapters four through eight lay out the qualities we should be looking for in our daughter's potential suitors and instilling in our own sons. They are as follows:

• He must be a follower of Christ (chapter 4)
• He must be prepared to lead (chapter 5)
• He must lead like Christ (chapter 6)
• He must be committed to children (chapter 7)
• He must be a protector (chapter 8)
o He must be a man of personal holiness
o He must be a man of true gentleness
o He must be a man of great resolve
o He must be a man of genuine compassion
o He must be a man of true bravery
• He must be a provider (chapter 8)
o He must have a job
o He must have a work ethic
o He must have a plan
• He must be a prophet / priest (chapter 8)
o A man must pray with and for his family
o A man must preach to his family

Chapter nine discusses the importance of protecting our daughter’s purity, heart, focus, future spouse, and hope. Chapter ten talks about the importance of raising our own sons to be Godly men and describes how our influence as fathers will influence our daughter’s choice of potential suitors. The conclusion offers some thoughts on the issue of ethnicity in relation to marriage and children.

If you’re a father, I strongly encourage you to pick up a copy of What He Must Be …if he wants to marry my daughter. At the very least, I hope it will show you that you don’t have to accept the cultural norms when it comes to preparing your daughters and sons for marriage. God has called us to something much larger and we should seize it and move forward with all our might.


Voddie Baucham Jr. is a pastor, conference speaker, and Bible teacher. He is a graduate of Southwestern and Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminaries and has also studied at the University of Oxford. Baucham is the author of The Ever-Loving Truth, the Telly Award-winning Ever-Loving Truth Bible study curriculum, and Family Driven Faith. He and his wife, Bridget have five children. Learn more about Voddie Baucham Jr. and his ministry at www.familydrivenfaith.org and www.voddiebaucham.org.

[Marina Sato · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just WOW. I'll be reading this book again and again to make sure I'm applying the biblical truths Voddie Baucham meticulously reminds us. It's definitely a must read.

[Patricia · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book deserves all five stars. Very thought-provoking, convicting, and challenging; definitely raises the bar to where it should be. I appreciate how Voddie Baucham explains everything so clearly and concisely. He bases everything on the Bible, without forcing anything or stretching anything. Then again, he doesn't need to because it's all the plain and simple truth. This was very helpful for getting the right focus and direction. I will definitely be reading this again.

[Lyle Reinholz · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was intended for fathers are looking for qualifications of what a young man must be to court his daughter through the biblical lense. Baucham does a wonderful job going through each of his points proving them through personal experience, reason, and scripture. This book was intended for fathers but it is also a good read for young men, looking to court or not, and also for women and what they need to be looking for in men.

[Logan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Every Christian, single/dating or married, needs to read this book. It is, hands down, the best book I have read on the topic.

[Lydia Bethay · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a great primer book for this topic as it gives you a lot of different topics to think about. Voddie does not give you a long list of things “he must be” in this book but gives the most important overarching characteristics of what a man must possess/follow. Voddie had a whole chapter of headship/ patriarchy and coined his view of patriarchy as gospel patriarchy which I found interesting. It seems like he was interweaving complementarianism and patriarchy together because he was citing Grudem and Piper’s book on biblical manhood and womanhood.

The second to last chapter on raising up godly men to be the honorable and virtuous man for our daughters was a beautiful vision. He challenged fathers to disciple and come along side young men in their churches to prepare them for marriage. He argued that if we want good men for young women we should raise godly men and train up young men in our churches. He even encouraged fathers to help a young man who is interested in his daughter, but is not quite mature enough, to become mature by having the young man come under intense discipleship with the father until the young man is ready. What a beautiful picture of what a father should be, his daughter’s protector, and also a beautiful picture of community in the church.

I’d encourage all fathers to read this book because at the end of the day, it is the Father’s role and responsibility to give their daughter to another man to look after her. Therefore, Fathers should care deeply about who this man is and who he is striving to be. I love how Voddie put it: you’d never let a 16 year old boy take your expensive sports car for a ride, so why would you let him take your daughter out on a date.. isn’t she more valuable than a piece of metal?

[Sam Montgomery · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredible book overall
Not necessarily in a bad way but there were 2 particular statements that I’m not quite convinced in either direction yet: good food for thought at the very least

[Megan Miller · Rating 3 out of 5]

Maybe 3.5 stars on personal enjoyment/usefulness? Didn't give me much information I didn't already have, really, and didn't raise my standards any higher than they already were. But it was a really good collection of thoughts and an admonition to keep those standards and not put my feelings first.
Also, I can see it being really convicting and helpful for someone coming from a different place than me. Or for dads, who it's technically aimed at. And I am not a dad. Haha
It was well-written, though, and definitely thought provoking. We should be committed to raising kids (and being people) who honor God, not "technically", but with their hearts and minds and souls and might.

[Michael Boling · Rating 5 out of 5]

Let’s be honest. The modern model of relationships is broken. Divorce is rampant, so-called couples live together and have children outside of wedlock, and our youth run from one relationship to another leaving a trail of broken hearts. Is this God’s design for male/female sexuality and relationships? Is the modern dating model and the go your own way Fleetwood Mac approach something rooted in Scripture? Have we as parents been neglecting our God given responsibility to instruct our children and to oversee their relationships? The evidence around us seems to shout a resounding affirmative that we have not been following God’s guidelines. Pastor and author Voddie Baucham, in his book What He Must Be…If He Wants to Marry My Daughter, urges the people of God to jettison the modern model in favor of a more biblical approach to the instruction of our children regarding relationships.

This is a book that will challenge you, especially if you have bought into the idea that an individual, in particular a teenager jumping from relationship to relationship is a positive way of finding a mate. Furthermore, this book will challenge those who think ideas of courtship or betrothal are old fashioned and unnecessary ways to help children move towards the marriage altar in a deliberate and god honoring way. Baucham rejects the modern dating model as a complete failure and he embraces the courtship model as firmly rooted in Scripture. I will submit I completely agree with Baucham’s position on this issue.

I have a daughter and my wife and I often joke about beginning the interview process for her future husband by sitting on the front porch polishing our rifle. We are only half kidding with the humorous part being that of sitting on the front porch with the rifle. My wife and I firmly believe it is absolutely vital for us to be involved in overseeing and having a great deal of input into who our daughter associates with, especially when it comes to boys. Moreover, it is vital that as parents, we instruct her in what to look for in a mate, ensuring through the course of that instruction, that we are involved in the “interview” process. While that may seem overbearing to some, as Baucham rightly notes, “as a father, it is my responsibility to teach my daughter what these requirements are, encourage her not to settle for less, and walk with her through the process of evaluating potential suitors.” Old fashioned? Perhaps, but it is biblically rooted.

Many tell their children to simply “follow your heart” when it comes to choosing a mate. When their daughter comes home and presents to them a young man the parents have never met, bubbling over about how much they are in love, most parents just smile, nod their head, and whip out the checkbook to start paying for the wedding. In far too many instances, there is no depth of conversation with this young man or his parents to ascertain his background, relationship with God, or future job plans. The approach of following your heart falls short of being valid. Baucham saliently comments “we need to reconsider our commitment to parental assistance in selecting a life partner in light of our biblical responsibility to protect our children’s purity, to protect their hearts, to protect their focus, and to protect their future spouse.”

Baucham calls this biblical approach gospel patriarchy, an approach rooted in the need to instruct our daughters and sons on what they should be looking for biblically speaking when it comes to choosing a mate. Fathers have a huge role in this process as they have the God given responsibility of protecting their daughters and providing that umbrella of security for them up until the point when they give their daughters hand in marriage to a man who will take on that baton of responsibility. Baucham avers there are four main requirements a young man must meet in order to be considered worthy of his daughter and I submit these biblically sound requirements will be used in my home as well. The future suitor must be a follower of Christ, be prepared to lead, lead like Christ, and must be committed to children.

The first three requirements should fall under the no-brainer category; however, the final requirement, that of being committed to children could give some pause. Baucham correctly notes that we live in a society that more often than not views children as a burden. Many wait until they have achieved a certain level of success in their career field before they even think about bringing children into the world. That pursuit of success seems to take longer and longer, thus resulting in many couples ultimately choosing to skip having children at all. Even adopting a child is rejected in the pursuit of career. Even those who have children often spend little time with their kids as they have to spend most of their day in the office earning enough money to pay for the “finer things in life.”

Baucham suggest something that might seem a bit radical in the minds of some and that is the need to take a look at whether this modern model is also broken. Has our pursuit of things impacted our ability to spend time with our children, discipling and instructing them in the way they should go? Each family will need to assess their own situation; however, Baucham does rightly suggest the merit of looking at ways to become a single-income family, or at least moving towards a place where a Titus 2 situation can become a reality at some point in the future. If anything, this is helpful food for thought that my wife and I will discuss and I think should be something discussed in many more households. This idea goes against the grain of society as it is viewed as nothing more than keeping the woman back forcing her to be barefoot and pregnant. Nothing could be further from the truth and what Baucham suggests and the input from many fine theologians and most importantly the many passages that speak to this issue must be prayerfully considered.

Perhaps the best part of this book was Baucham’s discussion of the need for a future suitor to practice the four P’s of being a protector, provider, prophet, and priest. If these qualities are not resident within a potential suitor for your daughter, that should give you as a father much pause as these are the qualities noted throughout Scripture that must be part of the individual who leads the home. I also appreciated that Baucham spent an entire chapter speaking to the reality that most young men know nothing of these biblical traits of manhood. Given that reality, godly men must spend time with their own sons as well as young men they come regularly in contact with in the circles their daughter resides, instructing those young men in the things of God. Baucham calls this building up the future crop of godly men for our daughters. This is a call to action, one I took to heart.

To all the fathers out there including myself, it is time to put your man pants on. Give Baucham’s book a read and consider the biblically rooted truths he presents. Stop thinking your daughter or son can go it alone in their search for a godly mate. Take an honest look at the modern dating model with its pitfalls and realize there is a better way, that of taking an active role in guiding your children to the altar so they can stand holy and pure next to a spouse they will spend the rest of their lives with. Go against the tide that declares hopping from relationship to relationship is just how it works. As Baucham notes, since “the bar has been set so low for so long in our culture, many of the qualities and characteristics seems strange, and perhaps a bit distant. But they are supposed to be.” All parents should pick up a copy of this book and take to heart the godly principles Baucham outlines. More than that, they should put into immediate practice the instruction and discipling of their children for the glory of God so that we may raise a future generation of youth who are committed to the sanctity of marriage and the need to remain pure physically, spiritually, and emotionally upon entering their vows of marriage.

[Lance · Rating 1 out of 5]

Answer: dead.

[Kristin Mitchell · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really such a different perspective on the concepts of dating in a biblical way. Raising our sons and daughters to expect something different from what is society's norm.

[Ryan Watkins · Rating 4 out of 5]

A helpful book for men who desire marriage. There are points I disagree with Dr Baucham but overall its worth reading.

[Kenzie Stinnett · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dad had me read this book and it was very insightful as I read about the characteristics a godly man must be

[Brandon Miller · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is not what you'd expect from the title. Could have more aptly been named "Voddie's Rants Concerning the Concerning State of the Family in Modern America." Still triggered some good discussion. (And hey, I read it with my girlfriend.)

[Jimmy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Among the many Christian books on family, courtship and fatherhood that I have read, I think this book has become one of my top five. While the book was intended to address fathers to encourage them to think biblically of what to look for in a man who wants to marry their daughter, nevertheless I think others can benefit from reading this book too such as single mothers evaluating those interested in their daughters, or the young man who want to become a godly husband in the future. A young woman who wants to understand her father’s responsibility in the area of courtship and Pastors who wishes to teach a biblical view of courtship to their church will also benefit from reading this work.
The author Voddie Bauchman is a big advocate of a biblical view of family and has previously authored Family Driven Faith. I find the emphasis in the book on the role of parents and especially that of fathers in the courtship of young Christian couples to be refreshing since it seems as if many contemporary Christian books on courtship hasn’t explain as clearly as this one did of the role of fathers in their child’s courtship. Bauchman packs many practical advice and exhortation in this book that is biblical and wise. As a father of two young daughters both of whom are under three years old at the of this review, this book made me realized that I can’t be too early in thinking about and preparing my daughter for marriage (let me add the caveat that preparing and training them for marriage now doesn’t mean I’m gong to have them marry at this moment! I do think we must do so in a way that is age appropriate). I appreciate the opening chapter on the multigenerational vision in the Bible that goes beyond the topic of courtship and about the family, church and society. Bauchman uses his own background of broken family in the book to point to us the importance of doing family God’s way rather than what our society says. I also appreciated how the author skillfully went through some of the passages from the Bible that I have not thought of in connection to fathers and daughter’s relationship and the broader topic of courtship—he even navigated exceptionally well through Old Testament passages in which he acknowledges the original recipients were Jews while maintaining that there are some wise principles to gain from looking at them even when the civil force of these laws are currently not enforced. I also appreciate how Bauchman is realistic to realize the pool of godly candidates to marry our daughters are probably small and in chapter ten he gives us instruction of how, by the grace of God, we can go “build” godly men ourselves in the local church. Here we see the importance of making disciples of younger men by older men does have some earthly blessing.
I won’t want to give away the whole book in this review. Looking at my book and seeing all the highlights reminds me there is many things I could have talked about. Go and get this book.

[Josh Quesenberry · Rating 5 out of 5]

A phenomenal read.

This book is very counterculture, but only because it is biblical. It is humbling and eye opening to have my culturally formed views of courtship and marriage rejected flatly by the Bible.

Even beyond courtship and marriage, Baucham outlines what the biblical man is called to be, and how our culture has been detrimental to true manhood.

I feel more equipped to court and marry properly and, if God wills it, be a father one day. I am very thankful for this resource by the Godly man of Voddie Baucham.

[Sal · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book contains many important reminders of what a man must be - largely in biblical terms - to be a good husband. I highly recommend it to any man looking to marry. I will also mandate it for any men looking to marry my daughter(s) one day.

[Hannah Weaver · Rating 2 out of 5]

An interesting read. I have a lot of thoughts that I can’t fit into a Goodreads review. Honestly, Bachman makes some very good points. I love his heart for his family. And I love how he is intentional about raising his family to be countercultural and gospel centered. Truly agreed with a large part of what he had to say.

Three star rating because the centerpoint of the book was that father’s need to be the one who is the primary decision-maker in his daughter‘s marriage. He sites a few Puritan authors and Old Testament passages and draws from them, I believe some false conclusions. The idea that a father should be the prophet priest and king of his home, puts the role of a father on a pedestal that only should be occupied by Christ. He also I believe is wrong in his view that marriage is a decision made by the father. He sites passages like the marriage of Tamar as proof that daughter should stay at home and marry upon the decision of their fathers. I could not disagree more with this. Old Testament culture does not necessarily mean that is the way our culture must look like now. Marriage cannot merely be a contractual arrangement that is overseen by a woman’s father. The father is not the one who is dating or marrying this man rather his daughter is. Yes I absolutely believe that parents should be involved in the dating decision process, but his point is an overstep. However, the beauty of marriage is that it reflects the love between Christ and his church. The man or future husband is to pursue and woo his bride. I think it puts fathers in a pedestal and severally insults the character of a godly women to say she cannot be in charge of this life changing decision. I don’t think it is biblical or even realistic to require young men to go to the father first before even speaking to a young woman. As a woman waiting for marriage myself, I would be insulted by that…..also weird! He must pursue me not my father. And yes, it is the father’s job to instill in his daughter, godly view of marriage and purity. But it is absolutely not his job to make the decision of marriage for me and vet and grill, my future husband to his satisfaction.

[Joe Vandal · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book gave me a new appreciation for the gravity of marriage and family life. The decisions we make today (or sometimes fail to make) have countless effects on the generations to come.

Highly convicting on the role of a man in courtship and marriage, Baucham challenges fathers and sons to be men of the Word, giving a list of prerequisite standards one must live up to, even if not necessarily master, such as being a protector, provider, prophet, and preacher in the home. This is a standard that is sorely lacking in today's world.

Respecting a high biblical view of marriage and how to determine a proper match for sons and daughters will allow a greater possibility of a strong and Christ-centered family for many generations.

[Meredith Hammer · Rating 4 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book much more than I thought I would.
The title may appear misleading, but this is definitely not a book on having unrealistic expectations, but rather what a man must be (the basic necessities) to be a husband and father.

I appreciated his commentary on fathers shepherding their daughters in courtship and wish I saw more of this.

4 stars because I did not agree with his interpretation of 1 Corinthians 6-7 (argued from this passage that marriage is the preferred state which I think is hard to argue with what Paul says…) and some of the content is opinion rather than bible exposition. However I think the content is really needed in our culture today. Worth the read!

[Ryan Starr · Rating 4 out of 5]

Countercultural book that has challenged my culturally informed views on marriage. I took away some things that will help me live out a marriage that more reflects the gospel than the disaster that is marriage today in America.

[Adam Moss · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you want to spend some time thinking deeply about marriage, your own spiritual responsibilities and headship in your home, this book will do that. It will reveal your hidden assumptions regarding these things and challenge you to think about what the Bible says about raising kids, guiding them in dating , and the role of the family in that process. You may not agree with all of the author’s conclusions, but it is time well spent.

[Michael Goldfuss · Rating 4 out of 5]

Re-read: This book is specifically directed to Christian fathers or young men looking to marry. Chapters four through eight outline the following qualities:

• He must be a follower of Christ (ch. 4)
• He must be prepared to lead (ch. 5)
• He must lead like Christ (ch. 6)
• He must be committed to children (ch. 7)
• He must be a protector (ch. 8.1)
- man of personal holiness
- man of true gentleness
- man of great resolve
- man of genuine compassion
- man of true bravery
• He must be a provider (ch. 8.2)
- must have a job
- must have a work ethic
- must have a plan
• **He must be a prophet (ch. 8.3)**
- must preach to his family
• **He must be a priest (ch. 8.4)**
- must pray with and for his family


These were a good reminder, but I had never heard or thought about the prophet/priest aspects found in chapter 8. Here is what Voddie further explains:

"A priest is an intercessor who represents his people before God. A prophet, quite simply, is one who instructs his people in God's truth. This is one of the cardinal roles of a husband. God has given husbands the responsibility of washing their wives in the water of the Word (Eph. 5:26), diligently teaching the Law to their children (Deu. 6:6-7), and bringing them up 'in the discipline and instruction of the Lord' (Eph. 6:4)." p.153

This cements the role of fathers/husbands in the covenant of marriage and highlights the responsibilities that they have. It is thought-provoking, convicting, and challenging; definitely raises the bar to where it should be in a culture that makes light of the role.

My only issue with the book which I caught on the re-read is how he instills courtship as the way that should work for Christian couples that want to live in purity.
He believes in courtship passionately because (like many others who preach courtship), he has seen hundreds of couples fail with purity. I understand where he is coming from, but I don't think it is right to emphasize courtship over dating. I would prefer he encourage rather than preach it. That is my fear. I fear that couples that practice courtship have a hard time getting if something is off because it is so heavily enforced and adds extra unnecessary strain. I have seen that couples that go into courtship normally do it to please elders instead of out of their own accord. Not always, but many times yes.
And that is not good. Many different couples have many different factors and circumstances that makes dating logistically and preferably easier. It would be better to emphasize prayer and a tenderness to God's leading in that specific relationship over how the relationship should be run.

That said,
Good Solid Read. Do Recommend.

[Valerie Romero · Rating 5 out of 5]

this is an excellent book. the title doesn't do it justice because it calls all men to be what God calls them to be... father or not a father yet... husbands... or husbands to be... even for us women to read to be better positioned to help, encourage, and pray for our husbands. for all parents with sons and daughters... there are both sides to consider regarding stewardship for raising our kiddos. oh if only i knew this sooner! trusting in the Sovereignty of God :)

[Jessica Romanowitz · Rating 1 out of 5]

As someone who put Voddie on a pedestal for more than 3/4 of my life, it's a relief to be able to step back and notice the little things like this whole book treats his grown daughter like something that needs to be controlled instead of empowering her to do and choose for herself. if he were truly confident in the so-called wonderful job he did parenting her, he would be confident in her ability to choose well.

[Mike · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book If you have a daughter, you should read this book. If you have a son, you should read this book. If you do any pre-marrital counseling, do any pastoral work, have any single friends, and/or if you do any counseling at all with folks who want to be married someday, you should read this book. Did I mention that its a really good book?

[Aurelie · Rating 1 out of 5]

One of the most sexist, degrading and simply insulting book I have ever written. Wouldn't even recommend this to men or women who desire an insight in Christians and religious men and women who live in the dark ages, or even just for a good laugh, this was a waste of time and only served to make me feel sick.

[Simon Van den broek · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good, with many challenges to young men and old men.
If you want to get married, are married or have daughters you should read it.
He must:
Love children,
Provide,
Protect,
Be a priest,
Be a prophet,
Lead like Christ

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

Baucham has high standards concerning marriage and family. His profound insight challenged my thinking and motivated me to carry out those same high standards should I ever have children. Highly recommended for parents.

[Rebecca · Rating 5 out of 5]

a great book!